The bonding of sex is not only physical, but also spiritual, emotional and mental which includes the chemical and hormonal bonding that happens. Although we’d like to believe that breaking up and moving on severs that bond, in truth, only God can sever the ‘one flesh’ bond He’s created through sex. 1.  Ask God to bring [...]

A Desire To Serve

When Jamie and James took some students from Toronto into their home in Montreal, they were encouraged by the students’ positive reactions. In particular, a student named Vanessa was touched by the needs in Montreal and committed to serving for one year there. If God has placed in your heart a desire to serve, there [...]

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Listening with Desire

How do you feel when your spouse tells you “we need to talk”? Do you get excited? Or do feel a surge of dread, anticipating an unpleasant conversation about what may have gone wrong? Most marriage experts would affirm that communication is key in marriage — but  just how can spouses do so effectively? Neal Black, the former [...]

Desire To Share God

Ivy had taken the SeaBus (a 400-person ferry in Vancouver) many times before, but this time something was different. She felt convicted that there were hundreds of people around her that don’t know God. She knew that she needed to do her part to do something about it. Have you ever felt similarly convicted but [...]

There’s another way your abuse could be impacting you and that’s in your enjoyment and desire for sex with your spouse. In addition to the ways sexual abuse damages our bodies, spirits and emotions, sexual abuse also damages our view of sex. When we’ve been used for others’ sexual pleasure the experience becomes associated with [...]

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How long does it take to heal from a painful sexual past?

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What steps do I need to take to find healing from my past sexual experiences?

I’ve heard every possible story. In addition to hearing the stories of the women who come into our bible study for sexual healing, people email me from all over the world. Just when I think I couldn’t possibly hear anything worse, someone shares the unimaginable with me. The evil that people do to one another [...]

Because many of us feel responsible for the loss, we often don’t feel we deserve to grieve. But the truth is, we do deserve to grieve, even more, we need to grieve. In fact God grieves right along with us.  For many years I believed that God was the one who was heaping shame on me. I [...]

When we’ve been used or abused with sex, it damages our view of sex, ourselves, others and God. Part of the healing process will be seeing ourselves and sex from God’s perspective. God made sex. And He made it good, pure and pleasurable. But when sex has been a source of pain and wounding, it’s [...]