The bonding of sex is not only physical, but also spiritual, emotional and mental which includes the chemical and hormonal bonding that happens. Although we’d like to believe that breaking up and moving on severs that bond, in truth, only God can sever the ‘one flesh’ bond He’s created through sex. 1.  Ask God to bring [...]

The things that draw us together when dating and getting to know each other are often the very things that cause conflicts a few years into marriage.  How do we embrace our differences? How can we love each other through the strengths and weaknesses our differences create? In our twenty plus years of marriage, finances [...]

I don’t usually hide in bathroom stalls texting friends in order to avoid social situations. But sometimes, it’s the only option.   My husband Varun is Indian and I am not.  Our differences add a richness to our marriage that I’ve come to treasure, but every now and then they also highlight the importance of [...]

Only in romantic fantasy does everything go smoothly without attention, care and change.

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How long does it take to heal from a painful sexual past?

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What steps do I need to take to find healing from my past sexual experiences?

There’s another way your abuse could be impacting you and that’s in your enjoyment and desire for sex with your spouse. In addition to the ways sexual abuse damages our bodies, spirits and emotions, sexual abuse also damages our view of sex. When we’ve been used for others’ sexual pleasure the experience becomes associated with [...]

Because many of us feel responsible for the loss, we often don’t feel we deserve to grieve. But the truth is, we do deserve to grieve, even more, we need to grieve. In fact God grieves right along with us.  For many years I believed that God was the one who was heaping shame on me. I [...]

I’ve heard every possible story. In addition to hearing the stories of the women who come into our bible study for sexual healing, people email me from all over the world. Just when I think I couldn’t possibly hear anything worse, someone shares the unimaginable with me. The evil that people do to one another [...]

When we’ve been used or abused with sex, it damages our view of sex, ourselves, others and God. Part of the healing process will be seeing ourselves and sex from God’s perspective. God made sex. And He made it good, pure and pleasurable. But when sex has been a source of pain and wounding, it’s [...]