How often do you think about your marriage?

Written by Gail Rodgers

Do you ever consciously think about how you can safeguard your marriage?

Every year thousands of couples walk down the aisle and make that step of lifelong commitment to each other. No one plans for a marriage to fail. Many are surprised when theirs does. Yet safeguards can be put in place much the same way as a well – planned boundary keeps a flower garden intact and blossoming.

One boundary my husband and I choose years ago was that “lunch for two is me and you”. Oh, it’s raised eyebrows a few times and gotten some comments like, “So, don’t you trust each other?”

But it’s not that at all. We simply treasure our relationship deeply and want a boundary in place that keeps what we treasure secure and intact for us to continue to enjoy. Footsteps through a flower garden that has no boundaries quickly becomes a pathway where the habit causes the flowers to get trampled…usually unintentionally.

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How do you safeguard your relationship?