Tips for Christian Husbands-to-Be
I am not married. Which made writing this post with helpful tips for husbands-to-be a somewhat daunting prospect. “Who am I,” I thought, “to be telling engaged men about married life when I’m not even married?”
Therefore, I did what I usually do when I need to write about a topic that’s out of my depth. I found wise, knowledgeable people, and had them do most of the work for me! Last week I emailed some married friends to ask them for their advice for soon-to-be husbands. (Thanks guys!)
One friend relayed some memorable words he once heard spoken from the pulpit:
Preaching on a park bench is not difficult. Suffering persecution for your faith is not difficult. Doing missions is not difficult. Being a godly and sacrificial husband to your wife every single day that you are alive – now that is difficult.
What came through clearly in my friend’s responses was that marriage is difficult. But not one even hinted that they regretted getting married. Clearly marriage is worth the effort.
One friend noted the paradox of intimacy. As wonderful as it is to be in an intimate relationship with your wife (“one flesh”, as it were, Genesis 2:24) this daily closeness will also reveal faults and annoyances that weren’t as apparent before. “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them” can be a difficult command. (Colossians 3:19) Through this difficulty though, God helps us to learn to love unconditionally. He helps us to see and acknowledge our own faults and failures, drawing us nearer to Him as we lean on Him for support as husbands attempt to minister and care for their wives.
A husband must be willing to even die for his wife, as Christ was willing to die for His bride, the church. (Ephesians 5:25-33) Being willing to sacrifice everything for your family can be a humbling experience because it takes the focus off yourself. Sometimes that sacrifice can be as simple as cleaning up the house or doing the dishes but even these simple gestures can be profound.
Do you have any tips for Christian husbands-to-be? Please share with us in the comments!
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This is great! Thank you for writing this. :) I just recently got married and my husband is wonderful. A tip that I could give is, learn to constructively disagree…which sounds like and oxymoron…but it’s not! The husband and wife together should learn not to give critical statements, become defensive, or contemptful. All patience should be present when disagreeing. :) It helps so much!