Crying Out for Help
People are generally encouraged, and expected, to be strong. Driven to succeed by cultural pressure (and even family pressure) the means to become a success is understood to become strong. And being strong sometimes leaves little room for needing help.
According to stats from the Atlanta Journal Constitution, women cry approximately 5.3 per month, which is over 4x more often than men, who cry an average of 1.4 times per month. I don’t remember ever seeing my dad cry. Even after my grandfather passed away (his father, whom he had been close to) there were no tears shed. Often crying, seen as a form of weakness, is subtly or not so subtly discouraged.
Sometimes we cry over trivial matters, like watching a sad movie. Sometimes we cry tears of joy (the statistics in the Atlanta Journal don’t specify the source of the tears).
But in many cases, these tears will be brought on by all-too-real life circumstances, trying to be strong, and holding in our anxieties until a person finally cries out for help.
Sometimes it’s difficult to talk with our friends and family about the issues that are nagging at us. I know that I find it difficult. I feel like I don’t want to burden others with my problems. Even moreso, I am concerned about how they might react. And I don’t like feeling weak, given that we are culturally expected to be strong.
That’s why it can sometimes help to talk things over with a patient, caring third party. If you are going through difficult times right now, and need someone to talk to, you can try contacting an online mentor. This is a confidential service; it begins a private email conversation between you and a volunteer mentor who is familiar with your concerns. You’re free to continue the conversation or stop at any time. If you’ve been crying out for help, or feel like you’ve been getting there, please consider contacting a mentor today.