Why do we stay?
Newspaper columnists are already speculating that, this time, Mel Gibson’s movie career is over. With five damning tapes released so far filled with profanity and racist rants, it may be too much for even this perennial film star to gloss over. The legal and publicity fallout from Gibson’s rants is ongoing, and so is media attention. That’s why we’re writing about it here: It’s what people are talking about.
What I don’t recall hearing anyone talking about amidst all of the commentary is why people so often stay in terrible circumstances. If you’ve read about the kind of verbal (and allegedly physical) abuse that Gibson’s former girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva had to endure, we may wonder, why continue to stay with someone like that? We could speculate in Ms Grigorieva’s case, but without knowing the details of their relationship such speculation wouldn’t be productive or fair to her, so instead let’s hope and pray that everyone involved, Gibson, Grigorieva, and her children, all receive the help and support that they need.
Another consequence of the news attention has been that people living in such circumstances may realize that they are not alone and seek help. On our own website, we have stories of people who are recovering from abusive relationships, as well as video addressing the subject “How can I persuade my husband to seek help for his anger and emotionally abusive behaviour?“.
If you feel like you are trapped in a situation (such as a relationship) and can’t seem to get out, it can help to talk to someone privately about it. Contact a mentor today to talk confidentially about it.