Sexual Healing – Breaking sexual bonds exercise
The bonding of sex is not only physical, but also spiritual, emotional and mental which includes the chemical and hormonal bonding that happens. Although we’d like to believe that breaking up and moving on severs that bond, in truth, only God can sever the ‘one flesh’ bond He’s created through sex.
1. Ask God to bring to mind everyone that you’ve created a sexual bond with—voluntarily or involuntarily. Wait quietly, allowing God to bring names to memory.
2. Write down on a piece of paper the name of every person. If you don’t know it, write a description of the person or event.
3. Ask God to show you His perspective of each bond. If the bond was created through your own choice, ask God to show you why you participated, and the part you played. If the bond was created through someone else’s choice forced on you, ask God to show you how that event affected you.
4. Pray that your heart will be humbled and your spirit contrite (Psalm 51:17) so that you will experience true repentance.Please note: If you’re praying for someone who’s sexually abused or raped you, you do not need to ask forgiveness for your violation of that person, because he or she violated you. However, you still need to ask God to sever the negative bond that has been created with this person.
5. Pray the following prayer with each name or incident:
“Lord, I ask forgiveness for sinning against you and against my own body. In the name of Jesus, I sever and renounce the bonds I created with _____. I release my heart tie with this person physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I choose by faith to forgive _______ for their violation against me. Please forgive me of my violation against _______. Please remove the negative emotional baggage I’ve been carrying around with me. Restore to me a virgin heart—as though I’d never been with this person, and heal me completely of the damage this sin has caused me and my marriage. Thank you for your forgiveness. I accept it fully. Amen.”
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Lord God I thank You for the way that You forgive us. It is an amazing promise that Jesus’ death paid the penalty for all of our sin completely. I thank You that this includes Ana’s sexual sin. Lord I pray for healing in her heart now to deal with the consequences of those sins. I ask that You would set her free from the hurt of broken relationships, from allowing the lives of her unborn babies to be cut short through abortions, and from the emotional distance that comes from multiple sexual partners. Would You restore her heart so that she can love deeply and truly as You created her to do. In Jesus’ name, amen.
That I remember and asking the Lord to help with my memory I need sexual healing for at least 30 people (men and women) I got in sexual sin with…I had at least 5 abortions and can remember just 1 man who got me pregnant..the others I don’t remember who were the fathers of my baby. I was very promiscous indeed huge baggages. May the Lord restore to me a virgin heart too.
@ Steven
Christ does break the bond however often we cling to the guilt as Psalm 51: 2
Wash me clean from my guilt, purify me from my sin. Lord Jesus I ask that Steven will allow you to remove the guilt that he feels as Lord you forgive our sins and forget them but we have a hard time letting go of the guilt. Lord Satan wants us to be ineffective by crippling us with guilt but this is not what you wish for us. As your word says in Psalm 37: 24 Though, they stumble, they will never fall, for the Lord holds them by the hand. I claim this verse for him and Lord Jesus I pray that his former girlfriend will come to know you and that you will bring people into AMTK path who will be a witness to her.
In Jesus Name,
Amen
God Bless
Thank you for this article and the prayer it contains. A little over a year ago I stupidly chose to have a relationship with a girl I had met, and when I saw it becoming sexual, I didn’t back out even though I knew I should. Instead I chose to participate in it against God’s command, and I have been carrying around the guilt and shame for a long time, for over a year, because of my disobedience and the bonds that were created as a result of the acts. Although I do not hold any hard feelings for her, I pray that she would also find peace and rest in Christ, as she does not know Him on a personal level. If it isn’t too much trouble, please would you pray for me? And also for this girl, whom you can call “AMTK” (her initials). I don’t have contact with her anymore, but she needs the Lord, as we all do. Thank you again, and God bless you all.
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Thank you so much for your prayer Jamie…
Isn’t it good to know that God not only heals our sins against others but also the sins that others have committed against us? All the hurts and baggage that comes along with the hurt, God takes it all and uses it for our benefit and his glory (Romans 8:28)
Lord God I pray for Meilka as she works through with Your Holy Spirit how to break the lasting impact of the sexual abuse that she has experienced. I pray that You would work miraculously in her heart so that those wounds are healed and she is able to freely love those that You bring into her life. I thank You for the freedom that we experience in Christ Jesus who set the perfect example for us of what it means to forgive. Be the strength Meilka needs in order to see Christ do that through her. Thank You for Your trustworthiness and Your goodness to us all. Amen.
I never realized that the sexual abuse that I had experienced carried bonds…thank you for letting me know how to deal with those bonds… Jesus bless us…