Emotional Bank Account…

Wednesday May 9, 2012

Many authors talk about something akin to the emotional bank account. None have made it more popular than Stephen Covey in the classic book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. (p. 188). The concept is that our actions toward others will make deposits or withdrawals from an emotional/relational account. As with a personal bank account a large balance builds security and a low balance creates concern, while a deficit is stressful. Continued overdrafts can lead to bankruptcy. The same is true relationally/emotionally. We all make withdrawals, intentional or unintentional. Good relationships require a positive flow. Deposits are made through kindness, consideration, appreciation and respect.

Action: Ask yourself a couple of questions. How is the emotional balance in your marriage? What ways can you make a deposit this today? This week? On a regular basis?

Book: The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People - Stephen Covey