Love can be dangerous
Do you crave intimacy? Has love betrayed you? Often, our lives begin with a need for love, and our life stories consist of searching for it.
Love can be dangerous. One reason is that it’s volatile. A passionless relationship may not have much excitement, but neither does it have much capacity for failure. When you aim low, for mere companionship, you don’t have far to fall. But searching for love is trickier: When you aim high, and love lets you down, you have much farther to fall.
In this video (part 1 of 2), author Erwin McManus explores some of the ideas found in his book, Soul Cravings. Here he focuses on why it is that our quest for intimacy so often painful, and why it’s so important to continue searching and not give up. We encourage you to watch, and explore our Soul Cravings website if you’re interested in learning more.
>> Click here to watch part 2 of the video
Do you identify with longing for intimacy? Have you experienced disappointment in love, and now wonder if finding real intimacy is even possible? Feel free to contact us by email or comment below if you’d like to share your thoughts.
Go deeper: Explore what this video means to you through our “Soul Cravings” interactive online study series.
That is an interesting twist on the words of Jesus D-One. I think Jesus said, “Make the kingdom of God your first priority in life and all these things shall be added unto you.” (Matthew 6:33) What does that mean to first love thyself and then all else shall be added on to you?
First, Love thy Self!
Then all else shall be added on to you!
Barking up the wrong tree if you try to find love out there. No wonder searching for love is perilous and full of downfalls. Our society has it ALL WRONG… not just the sex part!
Peace, Blessings and Grace
All Ways and Always!
It sounds like you have some experience with love ACElite. Have you given up on love? What do you think about what Erwin says about life without intimacy? Would you agree with him?
Have you had a chance to watch part 2 of this? You can find it at http://powertochange.com/blogposts/2010/01/05/do-you-crave-intimacy-part-2. I think if we just leave things with what Erwin says in this video about the danger of love we miss out on the full truth about love. Yes, human love is imperfect and dangerous because humans are imperfect beings. But love from God is perfect because He is perfect. When we find our primary love in God through Jesus Christ it transforms the way that we love other people and how we receive love from others. I encourage you to watch part 2!
Love should be keenly approached. Do not rash to it, it is very perilous if love lets you down. Love can make even the smartest and the most brilliant person you ever know act stupid and idiot. It can be your worst enemy you will ever face. When love do not go your way and you think that you love someone more than they love you, this can result into serious stress, depression and even lunacy. Approach love cautiosly, do not fall into it easily because once you fall, it is almost impossible to get up
I agree with your coments, Brian & Andrew. However, there is something I’d like to add: In his book “The 5 Love Languages” Gary Chapman says that people often do not know their spouces (or girl friend’s) love language. These are: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Find out what pleases her and learn that language; then you will both know that you are loved! Secondly, there is a beautiful true story of Courtship by Christ’s leading in which 2 people are active in the church’s Young People’s Group. They get to know each other Spiritually, socially and intellectually. They even go on an inner-city crusade together. He says to her, “You should be spending this much time with the person you will someday marry, not with me.” To both their surprise, she answers, “Yes, I think you should talk to my dad about that.” He mentioned it to her dad, the Pastor, who said, “If your relationship were not pure, the Lord would have told me.” Soon after that they got to know each other emotionally, that is, they fell in love! After the wedding they got to know each other physically! What a beautiful sequence of events, as the Lord prepared them for each other!
Now I say: “How sad, that in todays world people often have this sequence of events in reverse order!”
Also, sometimes a girl will give sex, hoping to find love. Yes, let’s first ask for God’s leading, and then be at ease, knowing that HE’s working on it!
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One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is thinking that if I do a+b+c = d and then like a magic the relationship is back on track. Ultimately if we first pray fully consider does God want us to be together and if so what is it that we can do to honor the relationship so it is God centered and not I centered. We as human being often mistakenly thing think that this he person for us when in fact it may not be the person. If God wishes the relationship to occur then we also need to have the option of the relationship not moving forward and replace the ” I want” with Christs will then God will bless us in other areas.
Women have a different idea about emotional support than men. If you want to get your ex girlfriend back, you need to figure out what she’s looking for in terms of emotional support. She needs more than simply verbal affirmations, so buy her something nice to show her that you care about her. This is a great way to get the ball rolling when you want to get your ex girlfriend back.
Hi Gertrude,
We’ll be posting more Soul Cravings videos, a new one will be added on a weekly basis. I just posted the follow up (part 2 of 2) to this video here:
http://powertochange.com/blogposts/2010/01/05/do-you-crave-intimacy-part-2/
Please let us know what you think and check out the Soul Cravings site to explore more of this sort of content.
Where can I see Parts 2 & 3 of this video on this website?