Love can be dangerous
Do you crave intimacy? Has love betrayed you? Often, our lives begin with a need for love, and our life stories consist of searching for it.
Love can be dangerous. One reason is that it’s volatile. A passionless relationship may not have much excitement, but neither does it have much capacity for failure. When you aim low, for mere companionship, you don’t have far to fall. But searching for love is trickier: When you aim high, and love lets you down, you have much farther to fall.
In this video (part 1 of 2), author Erwin McManus explores some of the ideas found in his book, Soul Cravings. Here he focuses on why it is that our quest for intimacy so often painful, and why it’s so important to continue searching and not give up. We encourage you to watch, and explore our Soul Cravings website if you’re interested in learning more.
>> Click here to watch part 2 of the video
Do you identify with longing for intimacy? Have you experienced disappointment in love, and now wonder if finding real intimacy is even possible? Feel free to contact us by email or comment below if you’d like to share your thoughts.
Go deeper: Explore what this video means to you through our “Soul Cravings” interactive online study series.
Where can I see Parts 2 & 3 of this video on this website?
Hi Gertrude,
We’ll be posting more Soul Cravings videos, a new one will be added on a weekly basis. I just posted the follow up (part 2 of 2) to this video here:
http://powertochange.com/blogposts/2010/01/05/do-you-crave-intimacy-part-2/
Please let us know what you think and check out the Soul Cravings site to explore more of this sort of content.
Women have a different idea about emotional support than men. If you want to get your ex girlfriend back, you need to figure out what she’s looking for in terms of emotional support. She needs more than simply verbal affirmations, so buy her something nice to show her that you care about her. This is a great way to get the ball rolling when you want to get your ex girlfriend back.
One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is thinking that if I do a+b+c = d and then like a magic the relationship is back on track. Ultimately if we first pray fully consider does God want us to be together and if so what is it that we can do to honor the relationship so it is God centered and not I centered. We as human being often mistakenly thing think that this he person for us when in fact it may not be the person. If God wishes the relationship to occur then we also need to have the option of the relationship not moving forward and replace the ” I want” with Christs will then God will bless us in other areas.
I agree with your coments, Brian & Andrew. However, there is something I’d like to add: In his book “The 5 Love Languages” Gary Chapman says that people often do not know their spouces (or girl friend’s) love language. These are: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Find out what pleases her and learn that language; then you will both know that you are loved! Secondly, there is a beautiful true story of Courtship by Christ’s leading in which 2 people are active in the church’s Young People’s Group. They get to know each other Spiritually, socially and intellectually. They even go on an inner-city crusade together. He says to her, “You should be spending this much time with the person you will someday marry, not with me.” To both their surprise, she answers, “Yes, I think you should talk to my dad about that.” He mentioned it to her dad, the Pastor, who said, “If your relationship were not pure, the Lord would have told me.” Soon after that they got to know each other emotionally, that is, they fell in love! After the wedding they got to know each other physically! What a beautiful sequence of events, as the Lord prepared them for each other!
Now I say: “How sad, that in todays world people often have this sequence of events in reverse order!”
Also, sometimes a girl will give sex, hoping to find love. Yes, let’s first ask for God’s leading, and then be at ease, knowing that HE’s working on it!
x
Love should be keenly approached. Do not rash to it, it is very perilous if love lets you down. Love can make even the smartest and the most brilliant person you ever know act stupid and idiot. It can be your worst enemy you will ever face. When love do not go your way and you think that you love someone more than they love you, this can result into serious stress, depression and even lunacy. Approach love cautiosly, do not fall into it easily because once you fall, it is almost impossible to get up
It sounds like you have some experience with love ACElite. Have you given up on love? What do you think about what Erwin says about life without intimacy? Would you agree with him?
Have you had a chance to watch part 2 of this? You can find it at http://powertochange.com/blogposts/2010/01/05/do-you-crave-intimacy-part-2. I think if we just leave things with what Erwin says in this video about the danger of love we miss out on the full truth about love. Yes, human love is imperfect and dangerous because humans are imperfect beings. But love from God is perfect because He is perfect. When we find our primary love in God through Jesus Christ it transforms the way that we love other people and how we receive love from others. I encourage you to watch part 2!
First, Love thy Self!
Then all else shall be added on to you!
Barking up the wrong tree if you try to find love out there. No wonder searching for love is perilous and full of downfalls. Our society has it ALL WRONG… not just the sex part!
Peace, Blessings and Grace
All Ways and Always!
That is an interesting twist on the words of Jesus D-One. I think Jesus said, “Make the kingdom of God your first priority in life and all these things shall be added unto you.” (Matthew 6:33) What does that mean to first love thyself and then all else shall be added on to you?
Thank you Jamie for posting that scripture. I am going through a difficult time in every way and I find that whenever I try to just make friends- love interests come along. I need to stay focus on my main goal heaven. Nothing else matters. If I focus on God he will give me what I need. We humans are selfish and when we take our eyes off the creator, everything goes wrong.
Thank You!
It is a great promise isn’t it Thank You. Let me point out that Jesus is not just talking about heaven here; the Kingdom of God is present here on Earth as well. As we focus our attention on God’s plans for us right now, looking for His leading in every moment of life we can be sure that He will lead us into the best places and to respond in the best way to all circumstances. “We are God’s masterpiece, created in Christ Jesus to do good things which God has prepared in advance for us to do.” (Ephesians 2:10)
Exactly Jamie! I posted that scripture on my wall and It makes perfect sense to me. God will never leave us confused or alone he has everything planned out for us and all we need to do is seek him. Once we turn or deviate from his guidance, things go array. I am so prone to distractions but I’m tired of living this way and putting my foot down and firmly into the roots of his word seems like the perfect option compared to chasing frivolous romance. God will provide!
I have found that I need some physical reminders so that I don’t get distracted. I have used a hourly chime on my watch as a reminder that the Spirit of God is leading me. I have also used notes pasted in strategic places that help remind me of God’s promises and instructions. If all else fails, a string tied on my finger can be a great way to focus my mind on God’s kingdom every moment of every day.
Great Ideas Jamie. I usually post up scripture on my wall but I don’t have much surface to work with. I also live in a house with an unbelieving parent so posting scripture on the fridge might not help. =( However, I really like your idea of a chime. I can remember a particular sound just by hearing it once- most of the time. Or maybe an alarm clock that plays a Christian/gospel song.
I believe God is moving in my life again as I have fallen off track some. I was pointed to this site that confirmed exactly what I had in the back of my this whole time. We may come to love People or things that God has not willed for us to have and they in time become distractions. This is happening to me again and this time I have all intention to rely on what I know about scripture. How can I glorify God when I am so caught up in loving someone that does not know Christ? So I decided to cast down those feelings and focus on Christ. My feelings may still be there but I do not have to act on it and eventually God will remove them. That’s the hope I cling to. That God will never leave me stranded and that he will never cause me to sin. Whatever God has planned for me, I freely accept. All wisdom comes from God.
True Love is not dangerous. Everything outside of God is lust. Lust is selfish. Lust doesn’t always have to be sexual either.
God Bless.