Wednesday August 8, 2012
Have you ever heard the statement, “Attitude is everything!”?
In the book Creating an Intimate Marriage, Jim Burns suggests five attitude adjustments that create a more positive and satisfying relationship:
Stop Complaining. Criticism shuts down intimacy. No one wants to be naked with someone who is critical!
Show Gratitude. It is amazing what a simple “thank you” will do in a relationship.
Practice the Golden Rule. “Do to others what you would have them do to you.” –Jesus. However, many couples today adhere to the rule that says: “Do to others what they do to you.” This is a “tit-for-tat” mentality that only contributes to resentment and spite.
Control the “If Only’s...” “If only my spouse would do this, I would be happy”: Happiness is internal. No external action or person can fill another’s void or desire for happiness.
Choose Fun and Optimism. Be intentional. Think of one fun thing to add to your marriage. What did you do for fun when you were dating?
ACTION Review the list. Pick only one area to work on and start to apply it to your relationship today.
SUGGESTED RESOURCE: Creating an Intimate Marriage by Jim Burns