Lynette Hoy NCC, LCPC
Lynette Hoy, NCC, LCPC, is a Marriage and Family Counselor and National Certified Counselor, author and speaker. She is the Executive Chair of the Chicagoland CBWC: Connecting Business Women to Christ organization. Lynette is co-founder of CounselCare Connection, P.C. providing online & office counseling for individuals, couples and families. Lynette regularly presents marriage, assertiveness, grief and divorce recovery, anger and stress management seminars.
See her web sites: www.counselcareconnection.org, www.cbwc.net. Lynette's newly released book, What's Good About Anger? can be ordered at: Amazon or www.counselcareconnection.org.
7 Discussions to Have Before You Get Married
I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost 10 months now. We are thinking about getting married. What issues are important to discuss before marriage? I know we all tend to have secrets or past experiences that we wish to take to our grave. Should every detail be shared or only those that we think could affect [...] Read More >
Advice: The End of a Relationship
About a year ago, I began a dating relationship with a wonderful Christian man whom I’d been friends with for four years. We had what we thought to be the perfect relationship because we are best friends who fell in love, both Christians. He has always been attentive and loving, anxiously making plans for our [...] Read More >
Are you an Emotional Eater?
How do you deal with feelings of anger, frustration, fear, stress, loneliness, conflict, depression or disappointment? Do you find comfort in food? Are you constantly on a diet but, never losing weight? When you feel frustrated or disappointed with events or people – is the answer to eat something salty or sweet? If you answered [...] Read More >
Assert Yourself!
Most people tend to be fairly indirect about expressing their feelings and needs. As a group we are afraid to be direct, fearing people will be put off or that we will run into conflict. Many of us equate assertiveness with bossiness. Inability to be direct in a kind but firm way robs us of [...] Read More >
Dealing with an Angry Son
My son is fifteen years old turning sixteen. He has always been an easy-going, easily adaptable, pleasant child. The last two weeks I noticed, especially on weekends, that he seems a little agitated. When I questioned him, he said that he is feeling frustrated and just feels like breaking something or just putting his fist [...] Read More >
Dealing with PMS
I have struggled with horrible PMS for years, only to have it lifted at menses. I feel guilty about not being able to keep my raging hormones out of my personal life. Advice: Hormone fluctuations definitely play on our emotions because when estrogen levels decrease – serotonin levels decrease as well. Serotonin helps us feel [...] Read More >
Dealing with the Problem of Sin and Guilt
It is not unusual for Christians to feel guilty because of sin in their lives, and to have problems dealing with that guilt and sin. We think that once we have become Christians, we will no longer have a struggle with sin, and that through Christ we will have power to overcome it. Actually, Paul [...] Read More >
Depression: Antidepressants and the Spiritual Dimension
When are antidepressants appropriate for treating depression? In my opinion, antidepressants can and should be tried as an intervention for depression when people are suffering some of the following symptoms for over two weeks which hinder their functioning and ability to live a normal life: Poor concentration Difficulty sleeping and eating Loss of weight Poor [...] Read More >
Disagreements about Discipline
My husband and I were brought up very differently and it is effecting the way we raise our 2 year-old son. He tells me I spoil him and I tell him he’s too strict. There are things I let our son do that my husband disagrees with. I just think he’s a kid and he [...] Read More >
Does Forgiveness = No Consequences?
I am struggling with forgiveness. I know that forgiving someone who hurt me is part of my recovery process, but does forgiving someone mean that I need to be willing to treat that person as well as I would treat those I consider my closest friends? (Assuming that it’s appropriate to interact with the person [...] Read More >