Lynette Hoy NCC, LCPC
Lynette Hoy, NCC, LCPC, is a Marriage and Family Counselor and National Certified Counselor, author and speaker. She is the Executive Chair of the Chicagoland CBWC: Connecting Business Women to Christ organization. Lynette is co-founder of CounselCare Connection, P.C. providing online & office counseling for individuals, couples and families. Lynette regularly presents marriage, assertiveness, grief and divorce recovery, anger and stress management seminars. See her web sites: www.counselcareconnection.org, www.cbwc.net. Lynette's newly released book, What's Good About Anger? can be ordered at: www.amazon.com or www.counselcareconnection.org.
Does Forgiveness = No Consequences?
I am struggling with forgiveness. I know that forgiving someone who hurt me is part of my recovery process, but does forgiving someone mean that I need to be willing to treat that person as well as I would treat those I consider my closest friends? (Assuming that it’s appropriate to interact with the person [...] Read More >
Domestic Abuse
My husband is possessive about his parents and brothers. He beat and pushed me because I could not control my anger and said bad stuff about them. Now my right hand is fractured. He acts different when his folks are around and always wants to give them money, while ignoring me and the kids in front of them. I don’t [...] Read More >
Facing Fear with Courage
We live in a world filled with change and crisis. War, terrorist threats, natural disasters, death, human suffering and abductions are in the news 24/7. How do these events impact people? What effects have you experienced when you’ve watched images of the Twin Towers go up in flames, US troops engaged in battle in Iraq, suicide [...] Read More >
Four Questions to Stop the Guilt-Trip
How often do you find yourself dealing with guilt? Do you wonder whether you said something hurtful? Let someone down? Left a job unfinished or failed at achieving a goal? Do you lay awake at night ruminating over feelings of shame or thoughts of not measuring up? Cindy had a falling out with a friend when [...] Read More >
Four Questions to Stop the Guilt-Trip
How often do you find yourself dealing with guilt? Do you wonder whether you said something hurtful? Let someone down? Left a job unfinished or failed at achieving a goal? Do you lay awake at night ruminating over feelings of shame or thoughts of not measuring up? Cindy had a falling out with a friend when [...] Read More >
Getting Over the Holiday Blues
This is supposed to be a season of joy and happiness, but many people don’t feel it. Many people suffer from bouts of depression or the blues at different times during the year. During the holiday season people encounter memories of loved ones they have lost through death or divorce or friends who have moved away. People experience [...] Read More >
Givers vs. Takers
Many marriages and relationships are not violent, but they are not healthy or happy and far from the ideal of great. Why? Often, it’s because one person in the relationship becomes a giver, and the other a taker. Here’s an example of such a relationship described by a young woman who wrote to me for counsel. Q: This [...] Read More >
Going Deeper
Since you first put your faith in Christ, you’ve seen some significant changes in your life. You may feel you no longer need: to binge to drink to compete to control to take drugs to gain others’ approval to be perfect to lie to cheat to resent to go to porn sites to be promiscuous… In order to fill up the void inside, to decrease the loneliness, the pain, the stress, [...] Read More >
Hesitating at the Altar
My fiancé/boyfriend and I are having problems. We both have faced problems in the past, but I feel we are on the right track now. We are engaged, but now he is saying that he just wants to be friends because of complications from a previous relationship. I just can’t understand this. His [...] Read More >
How can I help my depressed and paranoid brother?
I am the older sister of a 17-year-old depressed and very paranoid brother. He lives by himself in his own flat in a very nice area. Yet he has boarded up all his windows from the inside because he thinks his neighbours are watching his every move. He doesn’t like to go out as he thinks [...] Read More >
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