I love Carolyn’s story. She describes a time in her life when her neighbors were actually knocking on her door and asking, “How can I have a relationship with God?” Thankfully, Carolyn knew exactly what to do next. She invited her neighbor in and used a gospel tool to share Christ with her. Not long after, her neighbor was ready to accept Jesus! Watch the video
That neighbor’s journey to Jesus wasn’t as quick as it sounds. When people become Christians, they tend to move through five predictable stages or spiritual thresholds. Some people move through each stage very quickly, others get stuck at one threshold for a long time. The five stages go like this:
Why does it help to know these five thresholds?
Because knowing where your non-Christian friends are on their spiritual journey will help you know what to do next.
Maybe you just met someone new. Your first goal is to make sure that person knows you’re someone who can be trusted (whatever they may have heard about Christians). Spend time together! Show your friend that you’re just like her.
When your new friend starts to become curious about what you believe, you can be ready to answer those questions. Better yet, you can get the conversation going by asking them lots of questions about what they believe and listening to the answers with interest and respect. (Watch Crave: The Documentary to see how this is done.)
The next threshold your friend needs to cross is opening up to change in her own life. This is where you can share honestly with your friend about how Jesus makes a difference to you. (Watch Patrick’s story to see how one person did this.) Hopefully, she will begin to ask herself whether there’s something missing, and whether Jesus might be who she needs.
When your friend decides it’s time to stop wandering around spiritually and begin to seek God, you can be ready to answer her questions about the gospel, and what it means to be a Christian.
Next you can guide and support your friend as she chooses to invite Jesus into her life. Offer to pray with her. Then celebrate with her!
- Write down the names of three non-Christians in your life, then try to figure out what spiritual threshold they may be at.
- Pray that God will guide you in helping your friends to move one step closer to Jesus. Ask Him what you should do next with each of those three friends!
- If you’re feeling stuck, email one of our online coaches to ask for advice.