Has God Ever Disappointed You?

Written by Karen Schenk

soulcravingsletdown To love is to risk.  I set up expectations of people I love whether I mean to or not. The more I love, the more expectations I have.  I sense it when those expectations are not met and I feel like I’ve been let down.  It’s something that annoys me about myself. I want to love without expectation.  I want to love freely and not let people down or feel like they let me down.

I love God, I pray, I come to him with the things that weigh on my heart.  When he doesn’t answer the way I think he should that can make me feel like he let me down.  I don’t understand why God chooses to not do things that seem obviously right to me.   But I know that he can see more than I can and that he can give me the strength I need to go through those tough times.  I know that my risk is higher if I don’t love because then I am truly all alone.  Has God ever let you down?

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79 Responses to “Has God Ever Disappointed You?”

  • Alfred says:

    : Hi Lost Soul, You might be surprized at how far you’ve already come! Just stopping to talk to others about the negatives in your life is a step in the right direction. It is amazing how our words can be self-fulfilling! The next step is to “watch one’s self-talk”. God has created us “in His image” and there is a lot of good in each of us! As we find something every day to thank God for, we feel the positives overtaking the negatives, and we soon find ourselves living in a new world! The trouble, of course, is that the devil is out to spoil everything that he can. We are able, however, to resist him and in many ways even stop him. That is where God comes in. As we put our trust in Jesus Christ, we can be at ease, in that He takes care of us. That sounds just too easy. Well, He will most often not protect us from the difficulties, but will help us through them.
    Dear Heavenly Father, we come to you in the name of Jesus, thanking you for giving us the help we need to beat the enemy and to survive triumphantly. Help everyone here who has experienced such difficulties as to be very discouraged. We come to you for new hope, encouragement, and the will to continue with a positive attitude. Bless us, we pray. Amen.

  • Lost Soul says:

    Chris, Delta , Aldo- Thank you all for you very kind words and precious time. I have decided to be silent. No more sharing of my feelings/emotions. This is due to the fact that, I have realized my situations are unique to me and expecting anyone else to understand them is not realistic. So let God deal with my situation if and when He likes. Even if He decides to leave me as I am now- what could I do- just go on. :-((. Thanks again for the concern and time . I really appreciate your time. :-))

  • Aldo says:

    Lost Soul, God is not targeting you for any sin you have committed, “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). What that means is that sin separates you from God, but He loves you, as He loves us all, and wants you to come into a “relationship” with Him (not religion)through committing your life to His Son Jesus Christ, who died on Calvary’s cross for your sins and the sins of all mankind.

    That seems so simple and easy to do, but our human nature is so prideful that it keeps many from doing just that. But, when one humbles himself, and comes to the foot of the cross of Christ, and humbly asks forgiveness, God the Holy Spirit does a regenerating work in the heart of that person, and he knows that he has been “born again.”

    Lost Soul, if you would like to confess Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord right now, please repeat this prayer sincerely from your heart:

    “Dear God, I admit I am a sinner and need Your forgiveness; I believe that Jesus Christ died in my place, paying the penalty for my sins. I am willing right now to turn from my sin and accept Him as my personal Savior and Lord. I commit myself to You, and ask You to send the Holy Spirit into my life, to fill me and take control, and to help me become the kind of person You want me to be. Thank You Father for loving me, forgiving my sins, and giving me everlasting life, in Jesus name, Amen.”

    I pray that the Spirit of God draw you to the place of receiving Christ.

  • Delta says:

    @Lost Soul. Have you received Jesus as your saviour?

    I can relate to what you’re going through.
    sometimes the things that happened in our lives happened due to cause and effect of wrong decisions. I received all the effects of wrong decisions that I made/ wrong decisions that my parents made.

    The bible says wisdom saves us from disaster.

    Sometimes certain situations happened due to unjust treatment by others.

    In the case of Joseph. Most of the things that happened to him were caused by others.

    Don’t give up! Bring your family to a good church. We all need emotional support when we go through this kind of situation.

    I don’t know how God will do it but He said “All things come together for good to those who love God” I will just decide to believe on His word despite the circumstance.

  • Chris says:

    lost soul…i am sorry to hear you are struggling however John 10.10 is clear that jesus has come to give us an abundant life but satan is the one who comes to steal, kill and destroy, not jesus. as you give your heart to jesus and ask forgiveness for any sin, join yourself with others of like precious faith and let christs words in the bible come to life for you, you will begin to experience his faithfulness but you must enter into covenant with jesus to experience the blessings and provisions of jesus. for more information on doing just that log onto knowingjesuspersonally.com or click talk to a mentor above. may you begin enjoying life today as you receive he who is life, jesus christ…John 14.6. blessings!

  • Lost Soul says:

    Everyday I face situations and events that repeatedly proves that God hates me and has a unique way of hurting me and destroying my future. I really wonder what is the Sin I have committed to deserve such a punishment. I see drug traffickers, people who employ small children, murderers and white collar criminals and politicians are getting away with what they do. But for I have been targeted by God for some sin , I have committed ( definitely not murder or drug trafficking or any of that kind) ..Strange but yet true….huh

  • Lost Soul says:

    Hi Sampaon,

    Delayed justice and Denied Justice- similarly delayed action by God is also denied actions. :-((((

  • Sampaon says:

    Hi guys,I understand your points and your frustrations, but remember, no matter how you describe this Great God, He still loves you. Think about the life that you have, now. Yesterday, this morning, someone like you and me is dead. But you are alive, it is because He is still loves you. Your case is being worked on and will soon receive answers to your prayers. It is well. He cannot and will not lie. God bless you all.

  • Lost Soul says:

    Delta : Many thanks for taking the time to respond.. :-)

  • Chris says:

    delta…i regret to hear of your struggles. the good thing is as believers in christ, that jesus will always lead us to greener pastures as we wait upon him in obedience. we can encourage ourselves with the lives of Joseph and David that jeremiah 29.11 to 13 was literally fulfilled in their lives and will be in anyone who stays with Gods Word despite adversity and negative circumstances. be sure you are in a powerful Christian church where you can receive ministry through annointed vessels. jesus will not fail any one of his promises that he has made but there are conditions. we need to be sure we resist all temptations to complain and murmur so as not to permit satan the upper hand. John 15.30. i pray jesus strengthen your faith today and his promise of 1 corinthians 10.13 amen!

  • Delta says:

    @lost soul. All that I can say is don’t give up! As god to open doors! Sometimes i would purposely turn on the song of Horatio Spafford in which he wrote when he had lost all 3 children on a colided ship.

    Praying for you and your family. Get in to local conservative church.

  • Lost Soul says:

    I really feel God does not love me any more. I feel He is so biased , biased towards certain race, colour and group of people. Those He likes He favours, others He does not care. I am lot hope completely and disappointed with Him. I do not know what to do , the future terrifies me – I have no hope. Just surviving day to day for the kids. I have no proper job, my wife lost her job. We survive on odd jobs. Oops God abandoned me when I needed him the most……

  • Delta says:

    Life Sucks! Period!

    My husband hasn’t had a job for seven years. I have become a bread winner for seven years. I have gone to stages where I cursed my husband -to me humbling myself and embracing my husband-to changing my attitude and let God do His way in my life-to blessing my husband.

    It’s hard! Lives hard! And unfair!

    I was born and raised by a very abusive mother. The bible says that an unwise woman destroys her own home while the wise builds them up!

    When I was a teenager I cried to God why He let unwise parents God married and grant them the power to create children and make a family.

    When I found my husband despite of the disapproval of my mother I eloped!

    The greatest gifts in my life are none other than my two boys.

    All my life I had seen also that my dad always had a money problem / issue. Partly to lack of wisdom and counselors, partly due to bad people doing this to him, partly due to him letting my mom making her decision on money.

    I had my own shares in my family financial problem and that is giving too much money to tele evangelist within the scope of more than ten years.

    My atheist husband has tried to talked me out of it but he can’t. We are now paying the price of stupidity some seven years later…

    Life sucks! Really is…Life is hard!

    Sometimes I would just tune in to Rick Warren’s sermon in order to “Survive”. One thing for sure, you cannot go through long tunnel like this on your own! Surround yourself with a good, solid, conservative , God fearing Christian friends!

    Sometime we don’t know why it takes so long for God to answer our prayers. Sometimes we also don’t get why things happened as it had happened.

    Why a family losts all three children due to a car accident?, why a child commit suicide?, why God let you get cheated at work?, why you are politically crushed in your business?on and on…

    I can’t go through this on my own…

    Get connected to solid Christians! That’s how you’d survive.

  • Delta says:

    Life sucks period! We live in a broken world.
    I have been a breadwinner for seven years since my husband losts his job. In that time period also I found out he had an affair. We have no savings. We are thriving. Not exactly living . Just thriving. The best thing that I have in my life are my two boys. Which I treasure.

    I am a product of an abusive mom! My biological mother never say anything good about me! Physical and emotional abuse was part of my live when I was young. I have terror and no peace. Its ironic when your parents brings you to church but treated you this way at home.

    When I was a teenager I asked God why He let unwise people get married and raised a family.

    My dad has had financial trouble all his life. Partly because of stupid decision. Partly because of

  • Susan says:

    Trish,

    True. God is holy and He hates sin. If we ask anything according to His will He will answer it. John 15:7 says…If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. First we have check ourselves, whether we are living according to His standard or not…This truth I have realized quite late. I used to why God was not answering. Then, used to check my life, if there is any hidden sin and I used to ask God forgiveness. Still answer was not coming. Then, this word taught me. What I was asking for my selfish motive..that would not have glorified God’s name. Praise God. Now, I know what to ask God. Our God is such an awesome God.

  • Susan says:

    Terri,

    God loves you. I know it is very easy for me to say but my past experience taught me that He is good and His ways are perfect. The same way, I used to think,..Lord, where are you? Are you not bothered about me etc..but I have realized one thing..He is God and not man to lie. His timings are perfect. Just hang on, trust Him with all your heart. Keep meditating His words. Totally depend on Him.

    Let’s pray:

    Father God,

    Commit Terri in Your hand. Lord, strengthen her, reveal her Your ways and guide Your child. Meet all her needs. Thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

  • Susan says:

    Geraldine,

    So wonderful know at last you have realized it. See Geraldine, He still loves you. His love is beyond our imagination. His ways are not our ways but He does everything in a beautiful way. If He can create this universe in such a perfect way, then He knows what is best for us. We just have to humble and listen to His words only.

  • Terri says:

    Gerald,
    I understand where you are coming from! I am going through the same thing. This is Love??? I wish I could talk to you as I don’t really think I could talk to anyone about this! Its more than anyone can bear I am existing that’s it. Is that what God wanted for me to mearly exist??? I actually feel like I am being mocked over and over again!

  • Elkay Elkay says:

    Trish, thank you for that and allow me to add a word of caution, in this case to husbands who pray. 1 Peter 3:7 warns us husbands to treat our wives with understanding and honor as being equal children of God “so that your prayers may not be hindered.” So fellows, if you want your prayers to be heard and answered, look carefully at how you treat your wives!!

  • Trish Hicks says:

    This is subject right up my alley. There have been many pryers i have prayed where the Lord has not come through.However it is never God’s doing.Unfortunately there are certain conditions to where God can only work to answer a prayer. That is there can be no unforgiveness in our hearts.Nor can there be any habitual sins.If we have an aught against someone.It also the petitions you put forth must be his will. They can not be for selfish gain..and last but not least by any stretch we must have the faith that he God will grant what we ask. Now believe me with all this conditions it is quite hard. But anytime i have found that God had not come through it had always something to do with me. For again i say it is never god,it’s always you have to take a look at ourselves.For God is faithful, God is Good.He would never let us down nor forsake us. But yes for the most part those conditions need to be in perfect place, For him to be able to answer. That is like with Jesus if there isn’t faith or enough he can not work .
    Luke8:50-[50] Hearing this, Jesus said to Jairus, “Don’t be afraid; just believe, and she will be healed.”

    [51] When he arrived at the house of Jairus, he did not let anyone go in with him except Peter, John and James, and the child’s father and mother. [52] Meanwhile, all the people were wailing and mourning for her. “Stop wailing,” Jesus said. “She is not dead but asleep.”

    [53] They laughed at him, knowing that she was dead. [54] But he took her by the hand and said, “My child, get up!” [55] Her spirit returned, and at once she stood up. Then Jesus told them to give her something to eat. [56] Her parents were astonished, but he ordered them not to tell anyone what had happened.

    the others were sent out because they did not believe. He can only work if we believe without doubts. That is also where we must examine ourselves if a prayer is not answered.

    I hope and pray someone is able to get some info out of this little excerpt.

    may God bless
    Trish

  • Geraldine says:

    I just want to make a public apology to all on this site and to God. And I feel terrible for being so angry at Him. End of the day I know that God is and that He exist. No matter how many times I felt He let me down or how many times I felt He was indifferent to my pain and my anguish and suffering. The only truth that I do know is this. God is the hand that feeds men and He is not a liar. I feel embarrassed before God and all of you. And I know that since the beginning of time we are not the only ones who felt this way to God. David and Job are great examples. And yet God still relieved them and redeemed them. I do know this though that God is more interested in spiritually maturing us, purifying us and healing us before He can bestow His blessings and His promises upon us. They are already ours because through Christ we have begotten all these things according to all His riches and glory. Forgive me God I vented and raged at You not knowing the outcome of my life when You alone knows what’s best for all of us. Forgive me for saying that I don’t need You knowing that I do each step of the way. Forgive me for calling You a fraud and being untrue and never answering my prayers. Forgive me for calling You a bully and slave driver, forgive me for my rage and anger towards You. I love You and I need You each and every step of the way for I know that You are only doing what’s good for my soul for this is Your greatest interest for all of us. For what good is it for man to gain the world and loose His soul. Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul. As angry and let down as I feel by You, I will continue to trust You and have faith in You. Because You are my Father and You really never left me nor have You ever forsaken me. I understand that You are trying to build me up the same way as Christ our Lord. Thank You Father for Your forgiveness and Your Grace, Your mercy and Your everlasting loving kindness toward me. Not my will O Lord but Yours. And I know that it is Your will to bless me. To redeem me and bring me to Your Salvation. Thank You Father for Your amazing Grace. Your loving daughter — G.

  • Geraldine says:

    Hear hear.

    I have been through the exact same frustrations with God and for the last five years. I have been praying petitioningfasted and God knows what more we are reminded in Isaiah 43:26 to bring God to remembrance of His promises to us so that we may be aquitted. I have not been acquitted for five years. Jesus encourages us to never give up in the parables with the unjust and unrighteous judge who finally gave in. But my righteous and just God has not given me the desires of my heart, even when I delighted in Him. Then Jesus tells us about having faith of a mustard seed and we can speak unto our mountains. Then there was the guy who bothered his friend late at night for a loaf of bread and his friend didn’t want to open the door but he eventually did because he knew that the friend would not leave him alone. All these examples are there in the word of God but no matter what I have tried, believed for and had faith for had come to pass as God says He would for the five pass years. It started in 2009 and it’s the beginning of 2015. And everyone will always tell you something that they think they know God works. I don’t I don’t know anymore but besides all the trials and tribulations I have had in five years. And it was really and truly ugly ones. I lost a lot I had train wreck after train wreck, never felt more disliked by God and inspite of the parables that teaches us to never give up : I’m really starting to question this God. He is not the one who helps us we are the ones who does everything end of the day because His promises are just words I have come to learn. I just had a revelation as I was busy writing. He wants to develop us into Christ like creatures because Christ was obedient to Him to the point of death. So I have everything taken away from me so that I may be forced to become a certain way out of force otherwise my prayers won’t be heard, is this love? I’m mad as a hatter

  • Andrew says:

    Gerald, man I read your posts and I was shocked because your questions and frustrations are exactly the same as mine. You have no idea! If you happen to read this, shoot me an email [it is our policy not to publish personal contact information]
    I don’t have any answers for you, but my faith is on thin ice right now, and maybe we could commiserate.

  • Sharon says:

    to Elkay– thank you for your comment also Jeremiah 29.11 comes to mind I know the plans I have for you plans not to harm but to give you a hope and a future thank you from Sharon

  • Elkay Elkay says:

    A number of posts indicate that prayer is viewed as a way to get God to do what I want Him to do or arrange and if this does not happen, then quit. But listen to Jesus’ words, “Not what I will but what You Father will” so the objective is to focus on doing God’s will not on getting what I want.

    And God’s will for us is plain: we are to love God and love neighbor. We love God by living in obedience to His commands, by hearing Jesus’ words and doing them (Matt 7:24). We love our neighbors by sacrificially helping them meet their needs (John 15:13). There is a strong implication at John 14:23-24 that when we focus on these activities and not on ourselves and what we want, our relationship with God will be greatly improved and our prayers will be more effective and fervent (James 5:16).

  • Gerald says:

    @kah,
    Same here. Nothing ever, ever, ever changes. Now that it’s 2015, looking back I feel like I wasted an ENTIRE YEAR looking to the sky crying for help only to get rained on. All this while people that care nothing about god get anything and everything they want. Love, success, good breaks…a strong family…and for all my praying and believing and faith I get nothing but disappointment and heartache. I’m done trying. Forget it.

  • kah says:

    What’s the point? I prayed thousand of times and nothing works, in fact it got worst.

  • Shelley says:

    The let down is part of human nature.
    Looking to out Lord is dealing with the spiritual part of our lives, that Jesus so graciously has given to us. He will never let us down, as He lives inside of us all day long for the believer. Lord God! I pray that you will bless Gerald, as he has problems with You, as You will never leave him or forsake him, in the life that You have given to him. In Jesus name Amen

  • Gerald says:

    @Jaimie,
    But what exactly does “trusting in God” mean? For a lot of us, those expectations you were speaking of, have more to do with believing God will do as His word says rather than just granting some explicitly selfish petition. When we put our faith in a person and we are let down, we can rationalize the fact that they are human and not perfect. But isn’t god supposed to be? When we put our faith in Him, AND TRUST He will do for us as He said he will, what then are we supposed to think, say or believe when everything is ignored or never comes to pass??? How do we keep putting our faith in something that never comes through??? It doesn’t make any sense anymore. Sometimes I feel like not believing ANYTHING after carrying around false hope from a God that keeps letting the very things I love vanish or be destroyed (after praising Him for blessing me with them/it no less) and throwing my Bibles in the garbage. It ends up feeling like I’ve been duped by a God that’s either not real or doesn’t care!!! It’s maddeningly frustrating to go on like that with nothing ever changing and when it does, being very, very short lived. Like, why give me someone to love only to have them turn on me or take them away? Why bless me satisfying employment to only lose it due to no fault of my own? Why ask us to pray and believe and trust when all we are is let down???

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