Has God Ever Disappointed You?

Written by Karen Schenk

soulcravingsletdown To love is to risk.  I set up expectations of people I love whether I mean to or not. The more I love, the more expectations I have.  I sense it when those expectations are not met and I feel like I’ve been let down.  It’s something that annoys me about myself. I want to love without expectation.  I want to love freely and not let people down or feel like they let me down.

I love God, I pray, I come to him with the things that weigh on my heart.  When he doesn’t answer the way I think he should that can make me feel like he let me down.  I don’t understand why God chooses to not do things that seem obviously right to me.   But I know that he can see more than I can and that he can give me the strength I need to go through those tough times.  I know that my risk is higher if I don’t love because then I am truly all alone.  Has God ever let you down?

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44 Responses to “Has God Ever Disappointed You?”

  • Elkay Elkay says:

    Anonymous, Jesus says abiding in Him is the key to successful praying. “If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you.” (John 15:5) In other words, if you are abiding in Christ — if your life is totally yielded to Him and His Word is abiding in you so that you know His will — you can ask for what you desire because His will has become your desire.

    Christ used the illustration of the branch and the vine to explain that abiding in Him means to be united to Jesus (connection), to rely on Jesus (dependence), and to remain in Jesus (continuance) all of which mean being obedient to Him, allowing His Word to fill our minds, direct our wills, and transform our desires.

    God is good . . . we know this in our heart of hearts. God loves us . . . we know this in our heart of hearts but sometimes circumstances let us doubt this.

    Anonymous, whatever you may think about what I’ve said, don’t stop thanking God for His goodness and praying because your prolonged prayers show God that you believe in Him and in His sovereignty and in His goodness . . . especially when we don’t understand what He is doing or not doing.

    Father, I thank You that in Your perfect love, You give and take exactly what Anonymous needs for joy, growth and holiness. Please help Anonymous to walk by faith, not by sight; faith that You are not holding out but are exceedingly generous in every way. Help Anonymous to trust You in the face of paralyzing disappointment and discontent. Amen

  • Anonymous says:

    Sigh, All my life, I felt like I trusted so much in God until now. I had a midterm last week and recently found out that I didn’t do so well. I am on scholarships and by failing these midterm exams could really affect me loosing them. Weeks before my midterm, I prayed my heart out to God begging him to help me do well in them. I read my bible daily and I really took to heart James 1 : 5-9. I prayed to God to help me but I ended up not doing to well. He didn’t come through. I am really scared and don’t know what to do. I needed God to pull me through this, but he didn’t. He wasn’t there for me. I feel so hurt and angry.I trusted in Him and I felt as if He let me down. I believed in HIM, with all my heart. How can I trust him again, knowing that this happened? I know this may not seem as such a big deal but I don’t know what to do. If with situations like these I don’t feel secure in God, then what happens when much more serious things come along. How can I trust Christ again when my hopes have been up and shattered to the ground?

  • Elkay Elkay says:

    We would really love to have a non-theological and very short answer about our “unanswered prayers” . . . but we don’t. We can tell you that you are not alone in being mystified by God’s seeming silent response to what we see as good, rational prayers that deserve what we think are good, rational answers.

    My wife and I have “unanswered prayers” dealing with our daughter’s lifestyle, and a son’s divorce involving three grandchildren. . . we have learned that sometimes we needed to “step back and get out of the way” so that God could bring about the changes He wanted in their lives (or in ours) in His all-knowing and perfectly timed ways.

    There is a Youtube video of a little boy in a Darth Vader costume waving his sword at the family dog, but the dog sleeps on. The little boy finds that his “prayers” (his super powers) don’t work and he’s discouraged. He tries again on the family car and it starts up (father is in background with a remote)!

    Sometimes we feel like that. We pray and pray and the dog sleeps and nothing happens and we doubt. And then the car starts, what we’ve asked for actually happens, out of the blue, and we’re shocked. Next we try to capture what we did that made the car start (was it my honesty this week, was it me, was it my helping that little old lady across the street, was it the words I used?) and next prayer gets nothing!

    Yet behind it all is our Father who is in control, who watches us, who answers every prayer that is within His will. Our Father who wants us as His partner, who, when He sees us not seeking to start a car for our own benefit, but instead sees us seeking to pray something good beyond ourselves into existence, now He’s got us where He wants us and uses us.

    While we are in the “desert of unanswered prayer”, Oswald Chambers advises us to wait upon the Lord while He God prepares us for His prayer answers and stresses that we continue to pray and trust God during these periods. Anything other than God’s plan carried out God’s way and in God’s timing will result in less than God’s best. We are to depend on His Spirit when deciding how to proceed since any other course of action may lead to serious and lasting repercussions.

    So we may not know why a prayer is not granted in the manner we have requested, but we can be assured that God is still in control and He is always good, even though His timetable is not the same as ours. God’s answers to our prayer do not include just “yes” and “no”; they may also include “not yet” and “yes, but not in quite the way we were expecting”.

  • Anonymous says:

    I feel the same way too. I was praying to God to give my husband the grace to study and excel in his exams. He studied for months and then he took the exam and failed. It had me questioning my belief. Where does God’s grace and favor come in then. I sowed seed of faith with belief but I feel totally let down. I kept assuring my husband that he would pass because I trust God would perfect all that concerns him but now I feel so horrible. I feel so horrible. People that are not Christians and are not even as smart as my husband are moving forward in life and practicing as physicians but my husband is a doctor and he is working in a group home making $9 an hour with a truck load of loans. Yes I am disappointed. What was the basis for the faith? fasting and prayers? the seeds I sowed?

  • Elkay Elkay says:

    Lord,someone You care about deeply is hurting. I pray that You will draw Yomi close to You. Give Yomi’s heart a big, heavenly hug. Fill their mind with the peace that only You can give. Bless Yomi’s life with a joy that comes from deep inside. Give Yomi strength for this day and hope for tomorrow. And most of all, may Yomi know that they are never, ever alone, from this day and forever . . . in Jesus’ precious and powerful name we pray . . .

  • Yomi says:

    Sincerely Speaking Am Really So Disappointed & Dejected Because My Hope In God Is Now Seriously Dashed.
    I Prayed & I Looked-Unto Him For His Divine Intervention In My Life But It Seems Its Null & Void.
    Please Somebody Out-There Should Pray For Me So That I Won’t Sell My Soul To The Devil.
    In fact, I Wish He (God) Should Come Down Right Now To Be Of Help Because I Am Totally Depressed & Empty.

  • Elkay Elkay says:

    I am sorry to hear about your unemployment situation but it is wonderful that you seek prayerful support as that speaks strongly about your faith in Christ’s work and words. In particular, Hebrews 13:5 says “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you” and this is God’s promise to stand with you during these trying times. I encourage you to believe and trust Him with all your heart, mind and soul.

    Not being employed can be very challenging to overcome and many times the solution does not come quickly nor is there always a single step to a permanent job. And sometimes it seems as if some of the trials that come with unemployment never really end and this can be draining and discouraging. Yet God is always good. This may be a difficult truth to accept right now but it’s one you need to cling to if you want to make it through. Read Hosea 2:19-20 over and over and over . . .

    Here’s the issue . . . if your “faith in God is shaken and questionable”, to Whom else can you turn? At a time when some of Jesus’ disciples turned away, Peter said, “Lord, to Whom shall we go?” As hard as it is to accept, it is better to live with disappointment as one of Christ’s followers than it is to live on your own strength.

    So we pray, Father, out of Your honorable and glorious riches, strengthen this follower of Yours. Fill him soul with the power of Your Spirit so that through faith Christ will reside strongly in his heart. Give him the wisdom to take the right steps at the right time to find the job You have for him. Please do this in a way that shows him that the love of Christ is infinitely long, wide, high, and deep, surpassing everything anyone previously experienced. We bring You this prayer in Jesus’ Name. Amen.

  • anonymous says:

    @Chris Landwerlen
    Since its a public forum, I didn’t specify what is going on. Example; I was laid off two years ago and ever since I haven’t got a job. I am still praying but nothing has changed. I apply and attend interviews but nothing. This is where I am questioning the goodness of God. Its not just this area of my life, a lot of unanswered prayers over a long period of time. Question is; how do you serve and trust God when being continuously disappointed by Him and unhappy? I am at a point where my faith in God is shaken and questionable.

  • Elkay Elkay says:

    I would really love to give a non-theological and very practical answer about “unanswered prayers” . . . but if you’ve been a Christian for long, you know I can’t. I can tell you that you are not alone though in being mystified by God’s seeming silent response to what we see as good, rational prayers that “deserve” what we think are good, rational answers.

    There are some “reasons” prayers are not answered (selfish, impure motives; un-forgiveness; un-repentance; against the revealed will of God); but also sometimes it is to grow us in ways that we never could without going through this “desert time”.
    While we may not know why a prayer is not granted in the manner that we have requested, we can be assured that God is still in control and He is always good, even though His timetable is not the same as ours. God’s answers to our prayer do not include just “yes” and “no”; they may also include “not yet” and “yes, but not in quite the way we were expecting”.
    I have had long “unanswered prayers” dealing with our daughter’s lifestyle, and a son’s divorce where three of our grandchildren are involved . . . what we have learned in all of this is that sometimes we have had to “step back and get out of the way” so that God can bring about the changes He wants in their lives (or in us) and in His all-knowing and perfect timing ways. This has been a very difficult thing to do but one of the ways we do this is by telling Him each morning that we trust what He is doing in their lives and thanking Him . . . based on His Word, we know that He loves them even more than we do.
    As far as “answered prayers”, Jesus says abiding is the key to successful praying. “If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you.” (John 15:5) In other words, if you are abiding in Christ — if your life is totally yielded to Him and His Word is abiding in you so that you know His will — you can ask anything you want because what your will is His will.

    Christ used the illustration of the branch and the vine to explain what it meant to abide, to remain in Him. The branch has no life in itself; it draws its life from the vine. The branch is nourished and sustained by the life of the vine. As long as there is an uninterrupted flow of life from the vine into the branch, the branch is capable of bearing fruit. The moment the branch is severed from the life of the vine, it is rendered incapable of bearing fruit. So to abide in the vine means to be united to Jesus (connection), to rely on Jesus (dependence), and to remain in Jesus (continuance) all of which mean being obedient to Him, allowing His Word to fill our minds, direct our wills, and transform our affections.

    We also have the promise of 1 John 5:14, 15, “We are sure of this: that He will listen to us whenever we ask Him for anything in line with His will. And if we really know He is listening when we talk to Him and make our requests, then we can be sure that He will answer us.”
    So we can pray for our loved ones and ourselves with confidence that He will hear us and answer our prayers as He promised . . . but only if we are focused on abiding in Him.

    So God is good . . . we know this in our heart of hearts. And God loves us . . . we know this in our heart of hearts but sometimes circumstances let us doubt this. And if we abide in Jesus, we know we will want His will to be and become our will.

    Whatever you may think about what I’ve said, don’t stop thanking God and praying because your prolonged prayers show God that you believe in Him and in His sovereignty and in His goodness . . . and we are here to worship Him and so we do . . . especially when we don’t understand what He is doing or not doing. So keep on keeping on . . . in faith.

  • Kyle says:

    Disappointment is all I have felt from God for decades. I’ve never had a prayer answered, all the while suffering unending misery and torment in my life. I’ve been told it is because I am not a real Christian, or I have some unconfessed sin, or I do not pray “correctly.” The Bible says God asks us to faithfully serve him, but it also says he gives good things to those who do. We don’t serve God in order to get something, but should we not expect that he will do exactly what is promised?

    I always remember seeing the same people in church getting up to announce the latest prayer God answered for them and thinking to myself, “why always them and not someone else here?” Most of these people were the self righteous, self proclaimed “perfect” Christians who God spoke to all the time, always answered their prayers, and they might as well be getting ready to sit next to him in heaven. At that church, we had a couple with their daughter who was around my age. She had suffered a traumatic brain injury during birth, and would never have more than the mental capacity of a small child. One time, being still a kid myself, I asked one of the special people why don’t they pray for God to heal this poor girl since they always speak in front of the church about getting prayers answered. She dodged the question pretty quick and walked away without answering.

    I don’t think it is wrong to ask for something, especially if they are not vain, selfish, or for things God would not approve of. Praying for healing, for someone to find a job, or someone to be saved/come back to God, are all good things. I’ve prayed for members of my family, sometimes for a decades, to be healed of a terminal disease, and in the end each one suffered a horrible death. Two, a brother and sister, were only in their teens and suffered from Niemann–Pick disease. You do not want to see someone go through that. I’ve asked God for one thing for myself, and I’d rather would have gotten silence instead of the continual misery that I did whenever I thought my prayer just might be answered.

    I will not walk away from God, but it does get very hard at times when I am left in misery, pleading and begging for just a crumb or scrap.

  • Chris Chris Landwerlen says:

    anonymous….jesus has the answers you need but you must speak in specific terms so that we can find a specific solution to your specific situation. please post the details of your life that need attending to. blessings!

  • anonymous says:

    I would say God has and is still disappointing me. I have served him, paid tithes but stopped, fasted and prayed but to no avail. I gave my life to God served him without any reservations. Where is God when I need him the most? Does it make it any sense to even read the bible or utter a prayer knowing its not going to be answered. When I read the bible a lot of questions arise because its in complete contrast with what he is doing in my life. If God really love us, why allow us to suffer beyond all we can think of? I feel very betrayed to have have allowed myself to trust in him.

  • Carol says:

    Supra, you are correct. Life is a journey and we are put here to learn lessons. when you think you might die, it really puts things into perspective. I believe we are here not to judge but to love one another. If they dont love us back that is ok, we have done our part and they will have to learn their lessons and go on their journey to find out that love is the most important thing on earth.I am 50 and I think I have bladder cancer. I am scared and feel like I need and want 40 more years to experience life. Dont waste your time trying to figure things out. They will eventually work themselves out…in the mean time find things and people that are positive and make you happy. And help those that are not. Love your family members and try to teach them by example that if you try to love others, then you will have been a success on this earth. Please pray for me…I have three children and a husband and I want to see my great-grandchildren.I wasted too much time worrying and trying to fix things. Have faith that things will work out and try to enjoy your life more and accept God is always teaching us what he wants us to know. He is always shaping and molding us. No experience is wasted. I am looking at life differently now and things that mattered before dont anymore. I’m scared, please pray for my healing and health and my mom’s too so that we can keep living and learning and keep going on our journey.Thank-you <3

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    to supra– i like your comments thank you for your good comment

  • Supra says:

    Yes, i actually for the first time i think i felt disappointment. I’m 35. It might seem weird, but i never had this feeling before. My current gf said she couldn’t meet me yesterday because she didn’t want to drive far to meet me. I found out the next day i found out she drove 3x as far to be hang out with friends. Now there is more to this, but i’ve dated her for 3 months. I’m really amazed by this feeling. This journey through life is very interesting.

    To Love is to Risk. I do not believe God lets us down. I think it’s a gift to experience life.

  • Tia Glenn-Cooke Tia Glenn-Cooke says:

    Hi Carol, I’m an admin on this site: I just deleted the part of your comment that you didn’t mean to paste. Have a good day! :)

  • Carol says:

    Dont give up and become bitter…this too shall pass and there will be something better for you on down the road. You are pining for the break up of your marriage. But it sounds like that woman wasnt the right one for you, especially if she make you kiss her boots. I’ve known others to be devastated by divorce, with kids, and now they are all very happy with new loves in their life. The second time around they knew what to look for in a spouse because of their past experience.
    lease, please please dont ever look at your kids a burden or a reminder of your ex wife. Children are a blessing and a gift from God. They will bring you more joy than you will ever know…it will be worth all the trouble and hard times with them. They need you more than ever now and somehow you need to focus on yourself and them and stop pining for a relationship that is gone.Dont base your self esteem and self worth on your marriage and how another person treated you…base it on what a good father you are and a good person you are. Be the soft place your kids need to land when they fall, be their role model and mentor. Love them with all your heart. If you don’t they will be messed up when they get older and never be happy either. They dont deserve that and you will have treated them as bad as your wife treated you. That’s terrible.your kids can give you more love than a woman ever could in 10 lifetimes. And when you have your life together I’m sure a wonderful woman will fall in love with you because you are a nice person and a great father!!! And you will feel great about yourself too :))

  • Carol says:

    I feel that way sometimes too…but you need to stop looking at their lives and focus on yours. ask God/Jesus to help you, believe that he can and he will. It might take longer than you want it to but be patient. The people that dont follow his word and try to be Christians will end up falling eventually.

    Remember that you are doing this for God and yourself, not anyone else.You cant control others and can only control yourself. Try to remember that if they treat other badly, it is a reflection of how they really feel inside. If your family is really messed up, limit your time with them and seek out other healthy relationship outside your family. Our families are not always going to give us what we need unfortunately. It will get better, just be patient :)

  • the blacksheep says:

    God has let me down my whol life. It started with the destruction of my family when i was a kid and continues to this day. I get so tired of hearinghow much he loves me and how im supposed to be a person of morals when no one else has to be. Broken,lonely and frustration seems to be his “plan” for my life

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    dear renee–i am sorry for your disappointment prayer–father God i do pray that this job will contact renee and she will gt this job she is longing for to have i pray for your loving arms around her at this time.God you are disppointed with her God i do pray for your continued provision over her and i do pray for this job and if not there will be a beter for her that a job wiull fall into her lap that is maybe better for her i pray all of this in JESUS name amen i pray for a miracle for renee show her that you love her and are with her at this time. i am praying for you i feel for you, tough love sharon

  • Renee says:

    I feel like God has dissapointed me and i blame him,there is this job i was really longing for,i got a chance to go for interview,i filled the employers form and i got a letter for the job,after two weeks i was told i will be contacted..i waited till today they have never contacted me.

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    to anonomous– my heart hurts for you i am sorry you are hurting, i am glad you said something here my husband was shy when i met him but he is out of it now after about27 years of marriage and about three years of dating when i wasn’t happoy my mom would ask me if i was happy and i would lie too and say yes when i wsn’t. prayer–father God i do pray for anonomous for you to draw him to you closer to you and i pray for a miracle for this year for happiness for him and bring other christians along his path to encourage him be with him at this time i pray for his lonliness for your healing hand over his emotions i pray all of this in JESUS name amen i am praying for you

  • Anonomous says:

    I feel like God is not letting me be happy. I am 16 years of age. Every time something in my life happens for the better, something or someone else finds a way to ruin it. I just got my license and a nice new car, i got into a wreck within a week because of someone driving recklessly and now i am car less. I am uncomfortable with my body. I feel like there is a hole in my life restricting me from being happy. I would like to know where I am going wrong. I am only 16 and i don’t want to live the rest of my life unhappy. In the 16 years ive been here, i have never had a relationship. every time i get close someone else steps in. i feel like every turn i take in life something is there to stop me from achieving happiness. Sometimes i wish i could fall asleep and never wake up again. I have not discussed my problems with any before this. The reason being im afraid what they will think, or say. I am also a pretty shy person who does not talk a lot. My best friends and family have no idea how i feel. Every time i am asked if im happy i lie and say yes. All that i would like is to find out what is this thing restricting me from happiness, i turned to god before begging and praying. I received nothing, not even a sign of some sorts. I feel alone in this world. Does anybody feel what i feel and go through these things?

  • Ray says:

    Well what is the reason why he gave so many other men a love life that many of us innocent men can’t have?

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    dear anonymous– i am sorry you got betrayed by the christians we should rejoice with you for meeting JESUS our lord God is real keep leaning on HIM HE loves you i apologize on behalf of the christians for your bitterness and rejecting you and not befriending you i can cry for you

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    dear kathryn– my sympathy for God dissappointing you, i have had God disappoint me too not like your life i am wanting something for do to do and it is not happening God does talk to you i’ve have heard his voice talk to me and not just in my head, i am praying for you i am sorry you are having a rough time of it

  • Kathryn says:

    Absolutely God has dissapointed me ! Quite a bit actually
    Im stil single at 38 , why ? It’s not done me any good
    What really dissapoints me is the idea that God has called me to be single to serve him instead
    No God doesn’t talk to me directly some foolish person told me that

    I can’t have kids
    I’m also asexual

    God dissapointed me for making me this way

    God dissapointed me by allowing toxic people in my life to do nothing but manipulate me

    Jesus is my savior but enough with the husband talk
    That too dissapoints me . I want to marry another person as of most other people do

    I’m dissapointed in God for not bringing a spouse into my life

    Please keep you opinions of God yourself

    Don’t tell me what God may be doing
    As speculation is a clear sign one doesn’t know anything !

  • Michael Jantzen Michael Jantzen says:

    Hi Daley, your comment stuck out to me because I’m also a musician and I have also been praying for God to lead me on a journey of seeing my music touch more lives. Of course we’ve never met and I’ve never heard your music. So, I would just say a few things:

    First, when you say you have a gift for music, I’m assuming that this has been confirmed by people outside of your family who can give honest feedback, and I’m assuming your skills are such that you are ready for public performances.

    Second, I would encourage you to keep on praying, practicing and to not give up. Also, it’s good to search your heart for what motivates you. If you’re like me, it feels pretty good to perform in front of people and that can boost our ego, but if we want our music to be a powerful instrument of the Holy Spirit, then our main motivation must be to ‘make God look good’ and to ‘make Him known.’ Have you given God a blank check with your music or are you holding on to a vision of what you think it should be? I don’t know you personally, so I’m just asking you this because it’s something I had to examine in my own heart.

    Third, if you haven’t already, I would encourage you to take risks by putting yourself out there in the local music scene, whether that means church, open mics, or such. As you step out into the community, trusting God to direct you, I believe he will show you where your music is supposed to go.

    Last year I did very little musically and was quite discouraged and wondered what God was up to. At first I thought I was supposed to use my music at church, but we had just started attending a church that was blessed to have a lot of musicians and didn’t really need my help. It took a while, but I finally realized that God was challenging me to take my music out of the Christian bubble and to use it as way to connect with not-yet-Christians. So I started going to the open mics in town. What I’ve discovered is that God has been leading me very clearly every step of the way, making it easy to build relationships. I even have an amazing guitarist friend (twice my age, but that doesn’t seem to matter) who is working out accompaniment to some of the songs I hope to record into an EP. I’ve seen my songs bring joy to people who don’t yet know God, and that is very exciting.

    All that is to say that God loves taking his children (like you and me) on adventures of faith, but sometimes it takes a while for us to be ready to be released, to truly give him a blank check and to trust Him to fulfill the desires of our hearts in a better way than we could ever imagine.

    Take care, I’ll be praying for you.

  • Daley Radford says:

    Yes I have and am now.ive been praying for musicians to come in my life for along!!! Time and I’ve seen no fruit of friendship or musicians in my life.i am 20 years old and adventurous.i feel left out and I feel like God is just leaving me out.i have a gift but want to share it but know one wants apart of it
    .it sucks being single and it sucks having a passion in which you care about.And I agree with Gerald about gods promises the desire of my heart is to see life’s changed by the music I play and relationships to come in but I’ve been praying standing and believing but,……..nothing…..

  • Gerald says:

    I feel extremely let down and disappointed by God. For the last 9 months I have been praying, believing, hoping and wishing that the mother of my children would come back to me and have a heart that wants to be married and officially solidify our family. I’ve been believing God for this for all this time to minister to her spirit to show her how important it is for her to be saved and how much she means to me and how much this is all affecting our kids. All to no avail, as not much has changed except the date on the calendar. So much time I feel like I’ve wasted. All the promises of the Bible feel like some kind of joke. I’m hurt and devastated and frustrated. Nothing has any sweetness anymore. Sometimes I even find myself looking at the kids like an annoyance because when I see them I think of their mother and the boot she always gives me to kiss. I feel mad at the world in general and love songs and wedding commercials make me want to throw a brick at the TV. The world took a serious poop on my dreams, and crying out to God, seeking his kingdom first, praising his name and letting him mold me did nothing but fill me with false hope. The “desires of my heart” clearly have not been given unto me. I just feel suckered.

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Dear Floyd, thank you for opening up and sharing your heart with us. May you know that God loves you unconditionally no matter how you feel about yourself or what others may have spoken against you. I would like to give you a link to the “Father’s Love Letter” that will help you to realize how much God cares about you personally.


    Also, it sounds like you are really down and could greatly benefit by connecting with one of our Mentors that can encourage you through this season of sadness. Here is a link for you to be able to connect with one of them via email: http://powertochange.com/experience/talk-to-a-mentor/

    Floyd, God does not want you to be feeling down, sad, and depressed. He has wonderful plans for your future. I hope and pray that you will feel moved to reach out for additional help and encouragement. Are you a believer in the Lord? Do you attend church?

  • Floyd says:

    i feel god doesn’t love me. I wish I’d never been born. I’m obese, depressed, stupid, and wish I’d never been born

  • B. Miller Brenda Miller says:

    Carol, I am so sorry for your pain, as you clearly have the desire to reach out to others with a very giving heart. Truly, I understand the hurt you feel with your parents, and the sense that they have chosen your sister over you. For years I actually felt the same way with my mother until I learned that she felt that I was available to her any time, but she had to be open to my siblings whenever they were available to her. That gave me a different understanding and it took the feelings of rejection away that I would experience whenever she would choose their invitations and offers given to her by me and my husband.

    Something else I have come to understand after much suffering is that I would often plan things in my life, desiring to bless others, but it was not what God wanted me to be doing. What I was failing to do was to turn to Him in prayer BEFORE I made decisions to ask for God’s plans for my days and future, so that I could walk in His will for my life, rather me choosing what I wanted Him to bless. He knows much better than I what is best for, not only today, but for the longterm.

    Carol, I pray that you can find peace in seeking God’s will for your life day-by-day and in serving the beautiful children He has given you, as well as in loving your husband and being the best help-meet to him you possibly can be as you look forward to his return home to you. May the Lord Jesus richly bless your marriage and your family in every way, and may He draw you ever closer to Himself as you seek His will for you daily. In Jesus’ holy and mighty Name, I pray. Amen.

  • Carol says:

    I seem to be constantly disappointed by people in my life.With friends, I would be the first to help in a crisis…to do what I could.I tried to call them to do get togethers, and they would give me huge gratitude and sing my praises, and tell me what a great time we would have together. Then I would find out they have been doing things with mutual friends and not included me. When I could have used comfort and help, they all said they felt bad and I should call on them if I needed it, but it was fake. They never called to see how I was or really offered to do anything. Others, I have been best friend phone confidents…but then they would ask others over to their house…never me to be social with. I am always feeling excluded and that they can’t come through for me. These are long time friends that have lots of friends & family around. I have no family around. I tried to please my in-laws for 27 years only to have them never to speak to me or my 3 kids again because I am good friends with my sister-in-law who asked my mother-in-law to treat her nicer and not make such nasty comments to her. It started “WWIII” and I was hated by pure association.They tried to break up our marriages bad mouthing us to our husbands and blaming us for all the family problems. It almost cause 2 divorces and our kids have gone through hell listening to many fights about the in-laws. I tried for 10 years to move home close to my sister(14 years younger than i am) and my parents. I finally did with my 3 children(2,3 and 7 at the time) and my parents moved to Florida permanently. My sister and new husband followed moving within 2 hour distance of my parents. My parents picked up and moved closer to her. My sister then moved 8 hours away because of her husband’s job.I have put my 3 kids in the car and drove 2-3 times a year to Florida to visit my parents & sister.My sister only visited me 2 times, both for less than 1/2 day and mainly to see other people in town. I have a very close relationship with my mother and speak with her on the phone every single day.We have both said for 14 years we wished my dad would agree to sell the house and at least have a condo near me for part of the year, and near my sister for part of the year.My parents health has been declining. My sister knew I wanted my parents near me so I could help with their needs…my kids are all almost out of high school so it’s easier for me. She has 4 little kids now.I went back to school to be a nurse planning to help my parents as my mother has cancer for a 4th time and my father has Parkinson’s. Apparently my sister wrote my father a letter asking him to move near her so they could help them and she could help them too. My parents visited them and my brother in law convinced them to move right near them.Even picked out a house. My mother,told me in a text message. My father FINALLY agreed to sell the house but instead of getting a condo near both of us so we could share in responsibility of our parents and both have them in our lives, I was completely left out of the discussions and decisions. All I wanted was to spend real daily time with my parents before they die. I don’t want to be the “visitor” on Christmas for a week.I want to be part of their daily lives and now my sister will get that and so will her kids. I am not so jealous, but so hurt that my parents have once again chosen her over me and act like I’m ruining everything and being selfish because I am so upset. My husband lost his job and the only position the company could offer him was in China. So he is there for at least 1/2 year and I am on my own with friends that don’t think to even ask how I’m doing, much less ask me to do social things with them. And No family around. I am just always feeling left out and that I always give more than I ever give back with people I really care about & love. All I wanted to do was spend time with my parents…be able to run to their house to help them with something or invite my mom over for coffee or go shopping with her. And even help with nursing care when they need it. My whole life I grew up without family around. My father moved from Canada so I only saw one gradparent at Christmas once a year. I never had any extended family and I didn’t want that for my kids.I don’t understand why things like this happen to me.I would do anything for anyone, but it is never reciprocated and I always feel so hurt. Why can’t I have the best friend and why can’t my family ever make me a priority and why do my in-laws hate me and why did I have to endure such fighting/unrest from my husband and why do 2 of my kids have difficult disabilities and why do we always struggle for money and why can’t i be a part of my life with my parents before they die and why doesn’t my sister want a close relationship with me and choose my parents over me?? I know others have it worse, but I am not asking to be a millionaire and have diamonds & furs. I just want to be able to love my parents and be there for them and it hurts me that they choose my sister.Why do others have their families around them…they don’t need close friendships with me because they have their siblings & parents close by. I try so hard to follow God’s path for me but I can’t see any. I question every decision I make. Nothing seems to work out.I feel like my life has no purpose, not even in my own family.I just can’t be happy. NOTHING is how I want it to be. Not even one thing.I feel powerless.I try trusting God, Jesus and praying to him. But nothing happens that makes me happy.I try making decisions and going back to school, finding another job, but nothing feels right or works out.I put my whole life into my kids and my family and I feel I disappointed my kids and I feel disappointed by my family.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    I can understand that you would be disappointed with God right now Rolex. That kind of financial crisis is so hard to live through and when there doesn’t seem to be any help from God even when you pray has got to shake your confidence in Him and His ability or willingness to help you.

    When you say your family is in danger is that just because of the lack of money or is there something else threatening you and your family?

    So tell me, what was your relationship with God like before your dad lost his job? Did you feel that you and God could talk and He would listen and help you out? Were there things that God said to you?

  • rolex says:

    I also felt disappointment with God for almost a year now. My life is going downhill, my father lost his job and we are almost reduced to poverty by now. And every night before I go to sleep I would ask, why God was so unfair, so cruel. I go to church every week, I go ro confession, and all the things like that. But nothing seemed to inprove, and now my family’s unstable life is in danger.

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Dear Anonymous,

    So sorry to hear that you feel that God has disappointed you and that you do not trust or believe that God is good, loving, caring, etc.. Sounds like you have been let down and disappointed in many areas of your life…does this include people close to you as well such as parents, siblings, close friends, etc? Sometimes people develop a poor image and view of God based upon how other people has treated them.

    One of the first steps in having a wonderful relationship with God is to acknowledge and accept Jesus, God’s Son, into your heart and life making Him your personal Lord and Savior. Have you taken this critical step in asking Jesus into your heart and life?

  • Anonymous says:

    Yes I do feel that God has disappointed me in pretty much every area of my life. I do not trust or believe that God is good, loving, caring, kind, trustworthy and all the other things that people say he is supposedly is based on my experiences with God in my life.

  • Cathy says:

    The enemy is strong…and sometimes our heart can be decetful. He says He will never leave you nor forsake you..I have trouble with Trusting in the Lord also. My heart aches for this world and those that are close to me that are not save.Greater is He that is in you than He that is in the world…sounds like you need rest from the battle for awhile????

  • Andrew Andrew says:

    @ Anonymous

    I understand the pain of being rejected by others as I myself was rejected and always had difficulty making friends. My parents, and siblings accepted me however as our culture was different years ago my parents were powerless to protect me from my outside family and from my peers in school. I like you accepted Christ when I was very young and I knew that he did love me but was unable to understand why God would not protect me. We finally moved from the situation that I was in to thousand miles away and the little devil that was tormenting me lost his power. However part of the problem was that I never fully surrendered to Christ and as I felt accepted being rejected. I married someone who was abusive and my marriage ended seven years later. She informed me I was too nice to her and was unable to handle this so she walked out of my life and I have not seen her since.

    I thought God would send me someone else but to date he has not done so as God wanted me to surrender fully him. During my divorce I lost everything I had and ended alone, and seriously debated if I should leave my family and walk the streets like the homeless do as I came pretty close to walking this road. God LOVED me too much for this to happen. I moved into an apartment downtown that were full of drug dealers, strippers, and not exactly the cream of society lived at this place.

    During my time alone from the world when I shut everyone out I was so alone that I would often talk to woman who were strangers thinking they would not wish to talk with me but for some reason woman were attracted to me. I would walk the streets and begin conversations with woman in the park as I enjoy talking to strangers. I was very surprised that they wanted me to take them to my place for sex even though it would have been very easy to walk down that road I knew that it would only make the hurt of rejection deeper. Even though I felt let down by God for some very strange reason I sensed God was protecting me from becoming involved with the strangers. I guess deep down I knew I would feel extremely guilty if I took I walked down that road so God protected me from becoming involved with the wrong kind of love.

    I decided to allow God to heal me and accepted the love of my family and Christians around me. I prayed that the Holy Spirit would help me forgive others who hurt me and heal my severely wounded troubled soul. He did but it took me a journey that took a long time. Your mistake is to believe that Christians SHOULD accept you however often they don’t and what I have learned to do is show my love to the unloved. The biggest issue that you face is the rejection that you feel and it is a mistake to blame God for this and blaming God for letting you down. It was not God that let you down it was the human being who let you down. The most important aspect that I have learned in all of my life’s bitter disappointment is that it does not matter if I have a million dollars or if I don’t have friends or if friends leave me or if I am totally rejected. When I understood that my blueprint for my life is different than God’s blueprint and I accepted God’s blueprint then I understood that even though I thought I was walking down a pathway that led to the top of a mountain. I was walking down a path that led to a cliff and if I fell into the abyss I would never be able to escape.

    In Romans 15: 13 I pray that God the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit.

    I had extreme bitterness and if I didn’t forgive then no one will want to be around me. It is very easy to think WOE is me no one loves me and give up and feel bitterness however if I LOVE others then an amazing occurrence happens I begin to accept myself. If others don’t love me I have learned to not care if they don’t because it is their loss I will show love to others who need love. Christians are not perfect and many don’t live the spirit filled life however when I pray that Jesus Christ will give me joy through the Holy Spirit then I am joyful and how do I become joyful? I am most joyful when I use the gifts that the Holy Spirit has given me to serve and love others then I feel completed.

    YOU may have thought that God let you down but he never has let you down as the bitterness inside of you is preventing you from receiving his blessings. When you forgive and get rid of bitterness you will be able to share the joy of Christ. I have learned to never look for love from others as they will not love me but I know that God loves me and that he will give me joy, peace and others will look at me and see Christs love. It does not matter what others do to you it only matters what you do for others which is show Christ love.

    You were born into a Buddhist family and Christ revealed himself to you in a dream and you accepted him. YOU have no idea how fortunate you are as God does not show himself through Christ in a dream to anyone. Christ does not reveal himself in a dream to anyone as he must have a very special purpose for your life. Christ wants you to show his love to the Buddhists which is why he revealed himself to you. To show Buddhists his love as imagine a church that is planted with fellow Buddhists what this effect would have? When you crawl in a hole and feel rejected because Christians don’t accept you then show the love of Christ to reach the Buddhists. You will be amazed as to what the Christians response will be when you follow Christs purpose for your life to reach the Buddhists. The same Christians whom you believe reject you now will will see that your bitterness is gone and that you show love towards others.

    My dear dear friend DON’T allow the devil to poison your mind with bitterness as when we submit totally to the Holy Spirit then God will do supernatural things that will be beyond your comprehension. I am a Christian and I ACCEPT you so will many others. Love to hear your response and on behalf of all the Christians who reject you I am sorry on their behalf please forgive them and allow the Holy Spirit to do amazing works in your life. I am sorry for the very long reply as I try to keep my response short. God LOVES you and so do I. God Bless!

  • Anonymous says:

    Yes he did.

    I was born buddhist and in the age of 5 i enrolled to christian elementary student. At the same age i went to chapel for the first time and i felt like “i miss you” in my heart. That night i had a dream and Jesus came, asking me if i want to follow Him or not, i replied yes.

    Sixteen years had passed and my life is like hell. I’ve never been really good at making friends ever since kindergarden, i don’t know why but senior high is hell to me. I live in social oblivion in senior high, people always look down and despise me. I am what you guys call ‘nerds’. At eighteen, when i’m in third grade of senior high i converted into christianism and gave myself to babtism. I always attended prayer meetings whenever possible, eventhough it can last to four hours and held three times a week. But in the end, the others in that prayer group was just all the same. They look down on me, despise me, humiliated me, and in the end i got expelled from that same group.

    I am what you call pantheist, or believe in God. Yes He exists. He truly exists and there’s so much between me and God that i can not put it all. But thing is, why is my life is so full of bitterness?

    And if you are a Christian and you say that i let myself full of bitterness than im going to ask you in return, have you ever considered what it is like to be rejected by Christians? Mahatma Gandhi once wanted to convert into Christianism, astonished by Jesus but christians rejected him because he is an indian. And when he asked “what is the greatest wall to christianism in india” he answered “christians”.

    Stop judging me christians, ive met Jesus your God and He is love. But you christians, are nothing but bitterness in my life. Period.

  • Doris Beck Doris says:

    Mika, my heart goes out to you and in all honesty I have to say that I do understand that feeling of God ‘disappointing’ us. I have felt that in my life too and it took me a long time to realize that God wasn’t the one doing the disappointing but that it was sin in this world that causes such incredible heartache. In fact He was there right beside me through the entire trial. If you would like one of our mentors to contact you Mika just fill out the form here and someone will email you privately. http://powertochange.com/discover/talk-to-a-mentor/

    Sarah, you said it so very well, that time does heal and that it gives you a different perspective on things.

  • Sarah says:

    The human part of me sometimes feels alone and let down, but when I stop rolling in my sorrow and look back at the situation I can see that it wasn’t God who let me down. I made my own choices and can even remember when that nagging feeling I had to change my mind at times. Time heals everything and to look back you sometimes have a different perspective on things. Sometimes you can even see why it didn’t work out “our” way. Most situations that I have blamed God for have been caused by myself or part of a greater plan. And to think that being a christian meant that life would be a cake walk is really silly of me. I am So grateful that he doesn’t close the door on me everytime I disappoint him, or I wouldn’t make it past a single day. I praise my Lord for his Mercy and forgiveness and require it on a daily basis.

  • Mika says:

    I feeel like God is disappointing. I have some restrictions when it comes to him Because a few years ago God disappointed me. I feel like he let me down. I made the choice of choosing to live for God and God alone then all hell broke loose on me. I couldn’t understand. I didn’t understand why would God do this to me? I choose to live for him. Then I started question my beliefs and my relationship with God and Jesus. I know God has been trying to bring my back to Him but I just can’t see myself committing myself to him again. I know I need too but I can’t find it in my heart to trust him and love him again. I feel like I can’t let me guard down with him

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