Has God Ever Disappointed You?
To love is to risk. I set up expectations of people I love whether I mean to or not. The more I love, the more expectations I have. I sense it when those expectations are not met and I feel like I’ve been let down. It’s something that annoys me about myself. I want to love without expectation. I want to love freely and not let people down or feel like they let me down.
I love God, I pray, I come to him with the things that weigh on my heart. When he doesn’t answer the way I think he should that can make me feel like he let me down. I don’t understand why God chooses to not do things that seem obviously right to me. But I know that he can see more than I can and that he can give me the strength I need to go through those tough times. I know that my risk is higher if I don’t love because then I am truly all alone. Has God ever let you down?
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I understand the pain of being rejected by others as I myself was rejected and always had difficulty making friends. My parents, and siblings accepted me however as our culture was different years ago my parents were powerless to protect me from my outside family and from my peers in school. I like you accepted Christ when I was very young and I knew that he did love me but was unable to understand why God would not protect me. We finally moved from the situation that I was in to thousand miles away and the little devil that was tormenting me lost his power. However part of the problem was that I never fully surrendered to Christ and as I felt accepted being rejected. I married someone who was abusive and my marriage ended seven years later. She informed me I was too nice to her and was unable to handle this so she walked out of my life and I have not seen her since.
I thought God would send me someone else but to date he has not done so as God wanted me to surrender fully him. During my divorce I lost everything I had and ended alone, and seriously debated if I should leave my family and walk the streets like the homeless do as I came pretty close to walking this road. God LOVED me too much for this to happen. I moved into an apartment downtown that were full of drug dealers, strippers, and not exactly the cream of society lived at this place.
During my time alone from the world when I shut everyone out I was so alone that I would often talk to woman who were strangers thinking they would not wish to talk with me but for some reason woman were attracted to me. I would walk the streets and begin conversations with woman in the park as I enjoy talking to strangers. I was very surprised that they wanted me to take them to my place for sex even though it would have been very easy to walk down that road I knew that it would only make the hurt of rejection deeper. Even though I felt let down by God for some very strange reason I sensed God was protecting me from becoming involved with the strangers. I guess deep down I knew I would feel extremely guilty if I took I walked down that road so God protected me from becoming involved with the wrong kind of love.
I decided to allow God to heal me and accepted the love of my family and Christians around me. I prayed that the Holy Spirit would help me forgive others who hurt me and heal my severely wounded troubled soul. He did but it took me a journey that took a long time. Your mistake is to believe that Christians SHOULD accept you however often they don’t and what I have learned to do is show my love to the unloved. The biggest issue that you face is the rejection that you feel and it is a mistake to blame God for this and blaming God for letting you down. It was not God that let you down it was the human being who let you down. The most important aspect that I have learned in all of my life’s bitter disappointment is that it does not matter if I have a million dollars or if I don’t have friends or if friends leave me or if I am totally rejected. When I understood that my blueprint for my life is different than God’s blueprint and I accepted God’s blueprint then I understood that even though I thought I was walking down a pathway that led to the top of a mountain. I was walking down a path that led to a cliff and if I fell into the abyss I would never be able to escape.
In Romans 15: 13 I pray that God the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit.
I had extreme bitterness and if I didn’t forgive then no one will want to be around me. It is very easy to think WOE is me no one loves me and give up and feel bitterness however if I LOVE others then an amazing occurrence happens I begin to accept myself. If others don’t love me I have learned to not care if they don’t because it is their loss I will show love to others who need love. Christians are not perfect and many don’t live the spirit filled life however when I pray that Jesus Christ will give me joy through the Holy Spirit then I am joyful and how do I become joyful? I am most joyful when I use the gifts that the Holy Spirit has given me to serve and love others then I feel completed.
YOU may have thought that God let you down but he never has let you down as the bitterness inside of you is preventing you from receiving his blessings. When you forgive and get rid of bitterness you will be able to share the joy of Christ. I have learned to never look for love from others as they will not love me but I know that God loves me and that he will give me joy, peace and others will look at me and see Christs love. It does not matter what others do to you it only matters what you do for others which is show Christ love.
You were born into a Buddhist family and Christ revealed himself to you in a dream and you accepted him. YOU have no idea how fortunate you are as God does not show himself through Christ in a dream to anyone. Christ does not reveal himself in a dream to anyone as he must have a very special purpose for your life. Christ wants you to show his love to the Buddhists which is why he revealed himself to you. To show Buddhists his love as imagine a church that is planted with fellow Buddhists what this effect would have? When you crawl in a hole and feel rejected because Christians don’t accept you then show the love of Christ to reach the Buddhists. You will be amazed as to what the Christians response will be when you follow Christs purpose for your life to reach the Buddhists. The same Christians whom you believe reject you now will will see that your bitterness is gone and that you show love towards others.
My dear dear friend DON’T allow the devil to poison your mind with bitterness as when we submit totally to the Holy Spirit then God will do supernatural things that will be beyond your comprehension. I am a Christian and I ACCEPT you so will many others. Love to hear your response and on behalf of all the Christians who reject you I am sorry on their behalf please forgive them and allow the Holy Spirit to do amazing works in your life. I am sorry for the very long reply as I try to keep my response short. God LOVES you and so do I. God Bless!
Yes he did.
I was born buddhist and in the age of 5 i enrolled to christian elementary student. At the same age i went to chapel for the first time and i felt like “i miss you” in my heart. That night i had a dream and Jesus came, asking me if i want to follow Him or not, i replied yes.
Sixteen years had passed and my life is like hell. I’ve never been really good at making friends ever since kindergarden, i don’t know why but senior high is hell to me. I live in social oblivion in senior high, people always look down and despise me. I am what you guys call ‘nerds’. At eighteen, when i’m in third grade of senior high i converted into christianism and gave myself to babtism. I always attended prayer meetings whenever possible, eventhough it can last to four hours and held three times a week. But in the end, the others in that prayer group was just all the same. They look down on me, despise me, humiliated me, and in the end i got expelled from that same group.
I am what you call pantheist, or believe in God. Yes He exists. He truly exists and there’s so much between me and God that i can not put it all. But thing is, why is my life is so full of bitterness?
And if you are a Christian and you say that i let myself full of bitterness than im going to ask you in return, have you ever considered what it is like to be rejected by Christians? Mahatma Gandhi once wanted to convert into Christianism, astonished by Jesus but christians rejected him because he is an indian. And when he asked “what is the greatest wall to christianism in india” he answered “christians”.
Stop judging me christians, ive met Jesus your God and He is love. But you christians, are nothing but bitterness in my life. Period.
Mika, my heart goes out to you and in all honesty I have to say that I do understand that feeling of God ‘disappointing’ us. I have felt that in my life too and it took me a long time to realize that God wasn’t the one doing the disappointing but that it was sin in this world that causes such incredible heartache. In fact He was there right beside me through the entire trial. If you would like one of our mentors to contact you Mika just fill out the form here and someone will email you privately. http://powertochange.com/discover/talk-to-a-mentor/
Sarah, you said it so very well, that time does heal and that it gives you a different perspective on things.
The human part of me sometimes feels alone and let down, but when I stop rolling in my sorrow and look back at the situation I can see that it wasn’t God who let me down. I made my own choices and can even remember when that nagging feeling I had to change my mind at times. Time heals everything and to look back you sometimes have a different perspective on things. Sometimes you can even see why it didn’t work out “our” way. Most situations that I have blamed God for have been caused by myself or part of a greater plan. And to think that being a christian meant that life would be a cake walk is really silly of me. I am So grateful that he doesn’t close the door on me everytime I disappoint him, or I wouldn’t make it past a single day. I praise my Lord for his Mercy and forgiveness and require it on a daily basis.
I feeel like God is disappointing. I have some restrictions when it comes to him Because a few years ago God disappointed me. I feel like he let me down. I made the choice of choosing to live for God and God alone then all hell broke loose on me. I couldn’t understand. I didn’t understand why would God do this to me? I choose to live for him. Then I started question my beliefs and my relationship with God and Jesus. I know God has been trying to bring my back to Him but I just can’t see myself committing myself to him again. I know I need too but I can’t find it in my heart to trust him and love him again. I feel like I can’t let me guard down with him