Comments on: Think Before You Buy

By: Doris

Wed, 14 Dec 2011 18:13:08 +0000

Rachel it sounds like you have both figured out the perfect gifts….and you are enjoying them already which is awesome!! My husband and I often do that and I think that is perfect because we both get what we really want and all we have under the tree is a nice card to one another.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 22:31:37 +0000

I can’t think of a good surprise present for my husband, and I don’t have a wish list of reasonably priced items for me. If he buys me expensive gifts (that I don’t need) then that is money from our joint budget. I think we should be moving away from an expectation of getting presents just because it is Christmas. I have a confession – I have been playing with this iPad since October but it is really my Christmas present. My husband has been having fun with an expensive camera he bought himself back then. There won’t be much under the tree for us but we have agreed it and that suits me.

By: Sara

Sara — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 14:37:55 +0000

My husband handed me an envelope for Christmas. When I opened it it was a lovely poem he had written to me. He had not written a poem for me before this Christmas. The poem was to let me know that I could pick out a new dishwasher…Yes, an appliance. He told me he loved me so much and knew that washing dishes by hand was hard on my hands and he wanted my hands to remain soft and beautiful but dry and damaged from water & chemicals. It was so sweet and loving.

By: Leah

Wed, 15 Dec 2010 21:30:59 +0000

Dear TD

This article was written in an humours way. You are correct that the gift should be the though not just the item. I know from my experience, my husband takes joy in listening to me throughout the year and picking a present that he thinks I will love. The fact that he wants to give me something he knows I would love just makes me love it even more. Its about giving from the heart.

By: T D

T D — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 05:33:22 +0000

Before I started taking my submission to my husband seriously, I would have agreed with the comments and advice.

Since I have started to focus more on pleasing him and less on myself, I look for the blessings in what he does give me. Those cookbooks, vacuums, tools, etc. are gifts recognizing what I do for him. The are an effort to make my life easier. What a wonderful show of love.
The tickets to a monster truck rally are an invitation to be a part of his life. Tires are for keeping someone he treasures safe.
The clothes he gives me are the ones that he thinks I look most beautiful in. He’s the one I really want to impress when I dress, after all.

Accepting my husband and all he does for me has made my life so much more peaceful. I am happier than I have ever been because I am not always looking to change and improve him. He is happier and more willing to change and grow because he knows that I accept him right where he is.

When I started to respect my husband again and to see the good in what he does, I fell in love with him all over again. I hope women will turn away from the messages the media gives and remember to think of others before themselves and they will learn to be content with what they have.
I struggle with all of this still, but have be so blessed by the results of submitting to my husband and learning to be content that I never want to go back to fighting for myself all of the time. The passion we celebrate is so incredible that I want everyone to find what I have found.

It is a little sad to me that a list should be published telling our husband what not to get us. Don’t we want them to choose what they think would be a good gift. So what if it isn’t exactly what we would have put on a wish list. The purpose of a gift is for the giver to show their love. It really shouldn’t be about the gift at all. It should be about the thought behind the gift.

MEN: You are capable to choosing the perfect present for your wife. You know her better than anyone else. Trust your instincts. Tell her why you thought your gift was just what she needed. If you are really giving a gift of love she WILL know it.

By: Tracey M

Tracey M — Wed, 08 Dec 2010 13:00:33 +0000

I am sending the link to this to my husband. He bought me not one…but two vacuum cleaners back to back on Christmas. 3 Years ago he bought me the roomba – self vacuum cleaner…ask me how many times I have used it. Then the next year he bought me the dyson – one we had been discussing for 2 years ! I have told him several times…any gift that involves cooking or cleaning for you, is NOT a gift for me ! This article made me chuckle because it is so true. Guys…think about the statement your gift makes. We women tend to buy gifts with thought. We shop and dig through stores looking for something to represent what we know “he will absolutely love this” while you tend to pick “something, I have to get her something”. If you are paying attention, she will drop hints. Ask for a list of the 10 most wanted things – her wish list. My husband does that now. Yes it takes the surprise out of it for the most part but in the end it helps him to be a more creative shopper.

By: geschenkideen maenner

geschenkideen maenner — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 12:22:55 +0000

For find the right christmas present for my girlfriend is really hard. I thought I will start eary this year. In your blog I found a few good ideas I have to check out. Thx for the advice.