http://powertochange.com Sun, 12 Feb 2012 03:04:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://powertochange.com/discover/faith/betrayal/comment-page-1/#comment-88088 marriagelost Mon, 13 Dec 2010 13:16:20 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=10218#comment-88088 seeks=weeks seeks=weeks

]]> http://powertochange.com/discover/faith/betrayal/comment-page-1/#comment-88087 marriagelost Mon, 13 Dec 2010 13:15:06 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=10218#comment-88087 This makes me very bitter, as I have no choice because my spouse of 20 years IS the one doing the cheating that precipitated the divorce, and my spouse requested it. My teenage children are suffering pain as well, which is unbearable, because I know in my heart I was part of the failed marriage. I avoided problems and progressively slept more on the couch than not over the past few years, although we still made love (and yes, to me it was that). My psychologist (I sought after learning of the betrayal) told me "even the Marines know when to retreat" and told me we had a "rescuer" relationship where I needed to save my spouse from mistrust and abandonment issues from childhood. Sadly, as much as I tried to gain that trust, it always eluded me. Now, with only seeks separating the move out, I feel relief, but the sadness at failing as a partner (and in part, parent), is something I wonder if I will ever lose. This makes me very bitter, as I have no choice because my spouse of 20 years IS the one doing the cheating that precipitated the divorce, and my spouse requested it. My teenage children are suffering pain as well, which is unbearable, because I know in my heart I was part of the failed marriage. I avoided problems and progressively slept more on the couch than not over the past few years, although we still made love (and yes, to me it was that). My psychologist (I sought after learning of the betrayal) told me “even the Marines know when to retreat” and told me we had a “rescuer” relationship where I needed to save my spouse from mistrust and abandonment issues from childhood. Sadly, as much as I tried to gain that trust, it always eluded me. Now, with only seeks separating the move out, I feel relief, but the sadness at failing as a partner (and in part, parent), is something I wonder if I will ever lose.

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