Comments on: An Unreasonable Joy

By: Doris

Wed, 02 May 2012 21:53:50 +0000

You are so right Christy in saying that it’s not our place to figure out God’s plan because we don’t have the whole picture! But it is a challenge when we are so sure that God is going to answer a certain way and then when He doesn’t we feel disappointed. A really good book that I read during that time was Trusting God by Jerry Bridges…..excellent. I’ve learned lots about what it does and doesn’t mean to trust God over these past years, and He continues to teach me more about Himself day by day. I’m glad He never tires of my questions! Blessings to you and do come back and let me know how everything works out for you. I would love to hear.

By: Christy

Christy — Wed, 02 May 2012 13:52:22 +0000

Your support to your daughter is invaluable. For me it’s such a comfort to know that I can call my mom whenever I need to talk. Even though she may not understand she will always support me and that’s huge. I know what you mean about praying and having faith that everything will be fine and then to have things turn out differently. We all did the same thing with my nephew before he was born because the doctors had multiple concerns about his health but I just KNEW he would be fine. He had to be. Then he was born with some completely different problems and we were all shocked. I felt a lot of guilt because my daughter born just 13 days before was just fine. It seemed so random and I felt very undeserving and had to come to terms with the fact that things that happen in this life are not a direct result of what we have or haven’t done. Sometimes bad things happen and it’s not God’s way of punishing, and the blessings we receive are not usually deserved. All life circumstances and events can and will be used according to his perfect plan and I sometimes daily have to remind myself that it’s not my place to figure out that plan. It’s certainly way beyond my comprehension level anyway. :)

If you ever find yourself with extra time (good luck with that because I know how much my mom LOVES spending her free time being a grandma!) I think you could write an amazing book drawing from your life experience. I looked high and low for a book to read during my pregnancy to help calm my fears and focus on faith, but the few I found were either too fact-based about the pregnancy stages or were written only for people who were going to have perfect pregnancies (except for a couple pages at the end for “when things go wrong”). Even if it’s not something geared directly toward pregnancy, I have a feeling that whatever God would lead you to write would be a huge blessing to so many. Your family certainly needs the first round of your free time though! :)

By: Doris

Tue, 01 May 2012 22:07:06 +0000

You are too kind Christy! My husband and I certainly tried to be a support to my daughter and her husband because we understood loss, not because we were strong. In fact it triggered a dark night of the soul in my own life because I was so sure that God would answer our prayers and spare the lives of the girls, but He chose otherwise. What I did learn though was that even in the darkest night, God is still there…..

Your parents must be so excited about all the new grandbabies. We have twice had two born in one year and it is so much fun watching the cousins grow up together like that. We now have 7 five years old and under!

Thanks too for the encouragement to write a book. You aren’t the first person that has suggested it but I still work full time so there just aren’t enough hours in the day!

By: Christy

Christy — Tue, 01 May 2012 20:48:17 +0000

I’m so sorry to hear of your twin grandbabies. I’m sure you were a huge support to your daughter during that time but the grief you have is not only for her but yourself as well. You must be a very strong person (I always hate it when people say that to me because I don’t feel strong, just that I’m surviving sometimes, but I always know that Jesus is being strong for me when I can’t be!). My parents have 4 grandkids now and we are expecting 4 more to arrive this fall. Mine, my brother and his wife are getting one in July, and my sister (the one with the little boy with a few problems) is expecting twins shortly after my baby is due. I know they are daily prayer warriors for us and already have a huge love for each little one.

I truly appreciate your words and encouragement. I feel the truth in everything you wrote (really, you should write a book or at least consider a blog!) The people in your life are so blessed to have you because if you can touch my heart and give me comfort through this website then you are undoubtedly impacting countless lives around you. Again, thank you!

By: Doris

Tue, 01 May 2012 20:24:21 +0000

Thanks for taking the time to leave your comments Christy! I am so glad that my story was in some small way an encouragement to you. It is so hard to take our thoughts captive once we let our minds start down that path of fear and worry. You are so right, it can be crippling! But the reality is that God is trustworthy so when you start to worry, remind yourself of some of the promises that He gives and say them outloud if you have to….His grace is sufficient….He will never, no never leave you nor forsake you….every day of this child’s life is numbered and God has ordained each one…..

My ‘miracle baby’ will be 35 years old this year! and now I am a grandma who still has to trust God for each baby that is added to our family. Our daughter lost a set of identical twin girls at 20 weeks so I have had really had to put this to practice in my own life over and over again. We now have 7 grands here on earth and 2 more in heaven.

By: Christy

Christy — Tue, 01 May 2012 18:23:13 +0000

Thank you for writing this. I have two healthy children and am pregnant with #3. Although my pregnancies were both pretty normal, I have so much anxiety about this one because I’m 35 and my sister had a baby the same time as I had my second and her son has some random birth defects. Although his problems were not genetic, I’m still terrified that something will be wrong with my baby. I wish you would write a book because there’s not much out there that’s written by someone who understands what it’s like to be consumed by worry (regardless of where that worry stems from, it can be crippling all the same). Your story of continued faith is inspiring and I appreciate that you shared it. It helps me to know I’m not the only one who has experienced that struggle between anxiety and trusting God through all things.

By: Doris

Thu, 05 Jan 2012 22:21:39 +0000

Thanks for stopping by Hope. I’m glad that my story has given you a boost. Trusting God is a day by day process in each and every pregnancy, especially when you have had multiple issues like you have. Be encouraged, and keep trusting.

By: Hope

Hope — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 21:16:33 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I had a very prem baby in 2009 who survived and a still birth at 32 weeks in 2011 both due to blood clotting problems. I am now pregnant again – 5 weeks – and am facing bed rest from 28 weeks. I’m terrified and struggling to have faith but your story has really given me a boost tonight. Thank you x

By: Doris

Wed, 29 Jun 2011 17:29:52 +0000

I am so glad that you were encouraged by my story oziem. God’s faithfulness is wonderful even in our darkest moments.

By: ozlem Peters

ozlem Peters — Wed, 29 Jun 2011 05:35:55 +0000

Thank you so much for what you wrote. I was so nervous about my situation. After I read this it was all needed. Thank you.Praise God. I am now pregnant after having a M/C and was so anxious. After reading your story my heart was fill ed with peace. God bless you and your family. TY again.