I want to believe in God but I don’t know how.

Sometimes the idea of God makes a lot of sense but all of the ramifications of believing in God are hard to swallow. If you find yourself wishing you could believe, you’re not alone. Consider praying a prayer like this:

God, I don’t know if you’re out there. I’m not sure how I feel about you if you are. But if you do exist I’d like to know more about you. Reveal yourself to me. Help me to find you.

It says very clearly in the Bible that those who seek God will find him. Ask God to reveal himself to you. Be honest about your reservations. God is not offended by questions or doubts.

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612 Responses to “I want to believe in God but I don’t know how.”

  • Richard says:

    @Christopher Pillin – Thank you for you words .. I feel that I need to share something with you. Broken, and searching for a life line I happened to stumble upon this site … and then to be faced with your written word….Please understand that words, to those who are desperate, irrespective of faith or belief, have extreme power … watch your closely .. because they speak death. You posses a volatile, immature soul whose need for ego edification 100% outweighs the purpose of bringing comfort to those in need. If you have nothing of worth to contribute, besides your mere opinion, think outside of yourself for a minute and of the damage your words potentially have on others.

  • Tom Tom says:

    Christopher Pillin–
    To answer your only question, I would rather follow one who tells the truth.

    As to the rest of your statements, without giving any rational reasons for your opinions, the statements are merely your opinions and therefore need not be believed by the rationally thinking person.

  • Christopher Pillin says:

    Actually to believe in God is to believe in raping, male dominance, criminal activities, and evil. To believe in God is to believe in something truly against life. On the other hand if one believes in Lucifer, they believe that raping is wrong, male dominance is not right, criminal activity goes justified. To believe in Lucifer is to believe in good and something that promotes life and helped man-kind evolve into what we are today. Minus the fact that most ignore the truths of Lucifer and follow the lies of God. So, I ask you. Would you rather follow one that lies or one that is honest.

  • Tom Tom says:

    Miguel Lahunken–

    That’s all very dazzling, but how do you know that any of it is true? What is your basis for believing it?

    Since the heading of this blog is “I want to believe in God but I don’t know how”, are you seeking the truth about God?

    What do you think about the Bible, since it gives much information and detail about God, where we came from, why we’re here, and where we’re going?

  • There are two things in the universe: energy, and information; and, information is the conformation of energy. That conformation must be in differentiated closed circuitry, that there be something to move out of the way and fill in behind in the one substance, energy. Enough differentiation causes consciousness so that, in turn, the matrix of energy is thereby differentiated and therefore conscious.
    It was found that in outer space there are automatic differentiations wherever there is enough nothingness, for, the infinitesimal point nothingness, . , is rastered by time into space, U , which exerts its oneness in one direction, /, stirring closed circuitry, O, that all going the same way, vO^XvO^, repels, X, forcing confluency, =, back into undifferentiation.
    The force of stirring, /, is different on either side of a circuit in this process due to the value of pi going from zero to higher values, and thereby there is a different amount of force on either side of the circuit thereby allowing the circuit to circulate.
    The friction is caused by the Planck’s volumes. Nothing can be smaller than Planck’s volume. The infinitesimal point nothingness is absolute nothingness, nothing. As said “nothing” can be smaller than Planck’s volume.
    This process is eternal, therefore, energy is eternally conscious, and has been called God.

  • Chris says:

    Believe….having faith in God starts with receiving jesus as ones lord and savior….if you havent you can today by logging onto knowingjesuspersonally.com or clicking talk to a mentor above!

  • Believe says:

    I also want to believe in God more!

  • Tom Tom says:

    PS: If you’re really jealous of how others seems to hear from the Lord, keep in mind that it’s probably because they spend a lot more time “listening” for his voice.

    May the Lord bless you as you strive to follow him.

  • Tom Tom says:

    The blessings you experience in this life are in no small part a result of the desire you have to be a disciple of Christ. One can be saved without being a disciple. Many people never grow beyond being a baby in Christ. But remember–Jesus said, ““Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” (Matthew 6:19-21). The things of earth are temporal and for a short time. The things of heaven are eternal. You can work and you can play soccer and do both for the glory of God. “Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve.” (Colossians 3:23-24). Just put him first and you’ll discover the plans he has for you.

  • Lexie says:

    Sharon and Tom,

    Thanks so much for all of the information you both have given me. Now I just have to try to start implementing those things into my daily life. I play soccer for a university and work part time so it may be hard but it will all be worth it in the end :)

  • Tom Tom says:

    While some people who are saved initially get “warm, fuzzy feelings,” that’s not what salvation is about. To be saved is to believe in the Lord Jesus Christ–who he is and what he has done–and to trust him alone for salvation. The same faith that brings you to Christ is the faith that allows you to believe the promises of God in the Bible that believing and trusting will result in salvation, and that the Holy Spirit of God indwells you. For some, the result is subtle. For others, dramatic. Once you’ve made that profession of faith in Christ, it’s important to follow him in believer’s baptism–baptism by immersion. After that, you should strive to be his disciple by attending a Bible-believing/teaching church, reading the Bible each day and obeying what it says, and telling others about Jesus. Those are things we do out of obedience and love for what Jesus did for us. After I was saved, I grew a lot by asking mature Christians to help me understand my new faith. Of course, you can also ask questions right here.

  • Sharon says:

    to Lexi prayer-father God I do pray for Lexi she has a desire to know you I pray for Christians to come along her path to encourage her. have you ever given your life to God if you have good if you haven’t say this LORD GOD I NOW COMMITT MY LIFE TO YOU AND I REPENT OF ALL OF MY SINS COME INTO MY LIFE NOW AMEN. and also if you don’t have a bible get one from a good bible store or if you attend a church ask someone there if you can have one. pray and if you need help ask someone from the church to mentor you in prayer and attend a good church if you have one good otherwise find a good church to attend this Mennonite church sounds good and if you want to talk one on one here there is a link of talk to a mentor and someone will talk to you one on one I am praying for you. I know sometimes prayer don’t get answered keep praying. in the bible in the new testament from Matthew to revelation is the new testament and from genesis to Malachi is the old testament well in the new testament JESSU tells of a woman going to a unjust judge for justice for her and her sons the moral of this story is keep praying also the answers of God is yes, no or not yet its not my timing for you yet. I am praying for you sharon

  • Lexie says:

    My names Lexie, I am 20 years old and I grew up in a Mennonite family, so we went to church every Sunday pretty much from when I was born until I got into fifth grade. I always went but never really cared what anybody was talking about in Sunday school. It just felt like something I had to endure because my parents wanted me to go. As I’ve gotten older I have always been jealous of people who had deep and meaningful relationships with God. It’s something I’ve always really wanted to have and understand but I just never really knew how to go about it. I only really remember one lesson vividly from Sunday school and that was the day we talked about when God comes back to take all who believe in him to live an eternal life. I remember because it scared me, to think that anybody, especially a loved one or myself included could be left behind and spend their eternal life in hell. After fifth grade I started to really turn away from God, we stopped going to church because of all our busy schedules and I got more involved in soccer. My life started to revolve around soccer and school more than it did God or my family. I remember praying every night before bed, but I’d use prayer as a sort of telephone so that I could talk to my great-grandpa or my dog and my great-grandparents that I never got to meet. I never really talked to God about my relationship with him. I never tried to expand our relationship. I used to go to bible camp every summer as well, until my parents couldn’t really afford it anymore. The very last year that I got to go, I asked Jesus to come into my heart hoping that he would reveal himself to me. I remember feeling so happy that I had let him come into my heart and telling my whole family when I got home from camp but he never did reveal himself to me. I understand that he shows himself in subtle ways but I just have a hard time believing when I have not seen or felt any of these. I want to believe so badly. I honestly don’t know why I have such a hard time. I just recently started watching people’s testimonies on YouTube, hoping that they would inspire or empower me to truly believe. If I’m being honest, I still get jealous of how he has shown himself to all of these people but I still haven’t gotten to feel his presence. I guess why I’m trying to say throughout all of this rambling is how do I grown my relationship with God and prove to him that I want to believe. I want him to be there for me and I want to live for him. I have said these things in prayers before but I just never really feel like I’m being answered..

    Thanks for reading this really rambly question/testimon type thing!

  • Tom Tom says:

    The fact you’re concerned about such things is evidence that God’s Holy Spirit is working in your heart to draw you to himself.

    If you would please, describe what sort of spiritual beliefs you have and/or what your background is as far as God, Jesus, and the Bible is?

  • Chantel says:

    I was sitting here thinking of how I do not want to go to hell and what hell is like, whether it is burning or suffering. And I was thinking maybe their is no hell or heaven, but then I thought how did I get here? How did we all get here? I just want to know how can I believe in god, I want to. I just don’t know how to make myself. I know we all got here someway but how? Help please

  • Sharon says:

    good article and good comments on this thread thank you to all who post on this thread and God bless you all– sharon

  • HLM says:

    I never believed in God until I hired a certified Christian hypnotist to help me be open to, at first, the idea of God (at that point even the idea of God didn’t make sense to me). It took some time and a lot of focused relaxation but, after MANY sessions, I learned to easily associate God with the upward path and love. This path led to Jesus who finally helped me to know His presence. I then started to develop the habit of prayer and Bible reading, to the point where I felt that I HAD to do these things which enabled me to understand God with each prayer and each reading.

    In reading the Bible I also realized the importance of Jesus’s Church and, after many months, I grew to where I’d be praying either by word or silently almost all the time. My Bible reading got to the point where I was able to forgoe all my previous pleasures which were major time wasters (TV, the Internet, etc.) and, instead, develop my faith through Church Mass, Devotions, and prayer. By this time I stopped going to my hypnotist as I felt I fully understood, even more, felt and knew His presence of love.

    Pray to be open to belief, know that being open will allow the Holy Spirit to enter you and allow you the grace of God. Read the Bible and meditate on its meaning to you. Develop faith habits (prayer, Bible reading, Church, listening to Christian music and more) and make sure you repent of your sins for which you need to be always aware.

    I know that hiring a hypnotist if frowned upon but I tried everything else and only a hypnotist helped me to open the door.

  • Chris says:

    suan….praying to jesus now on your behalf that he opens the right doors for you according to his promise in revelation 3.7 to 8 and you through listening to his instructions, can find green pastures to rest…psalm 23!

  • Chris says:

    osazee….to be able to walk in victory over sin and sickness we need to receive jesus christ as our personal lord and savior, then be a part of a strong christian church, do some fasting as we can, seek jesus in the bible each morning in prayer and base our faith on his promises…exodus 15.26, deuteronomy 7.15, psalm 103, matthew 8, mark 16, james 5.15. we need to be in a strong christian church where we can be prayed for by others who are strong in their faith in jesus. if you have never received jesus christ as your lord and savior, then log onto knowingjesuspersonally.com or click talk to a mentor above. praying jesus save, heal and bless you!!

  • Tom Tom says:

    Suan and Osazee–

    Since it would seem you are both looking for a personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ, and since you may not have much background in the Bible, let me post a brief overview: (The numbers are references to the scriptures shown at the end.)

    In a world of sin and suffering, we each desperately need God’s Good News. But before we can understand the Gospel, the Good News of Jesus Christ,we must understand the bad news.

    In the beginning God created everything very good.(1) The Lord placed man in a garden paradise.(2) However man was given a free will and a choice.(3) Though mankind lived in a perfect environment, he chose to rebel against His Creator.(4) As God warned Adam, sin resulted in suffering and death. The curse described in Genesis affected all creation, and today we see the horrible results.(5)

    Scripture also explains that, like Adam, we have all “sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”(6) To see if this applies to you, please review God’s Ten Commandments.(7)  Have you ever told a lie? One lie makes us a liar in God’s eyes. Jesus explained that lust was equivalent to adultery.(8) Have you ever had lustful thoughts? Scripture explains, “Whoever hates his brother is a murderer.”(9) Have you ever despised another person? The Lord even warned: “But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment.”(10) Have you ever gossiped or spoken foolishly?

    Whether our sin is envy, greed, pride (which was Lucifer’s sin),(11) or using God’s name lightly – we must admit that we are all guilty of sinning against our Creator. The Bible explains that the penalty for any sin is death – both physical death and spiritual death – which is eternal separation from God.(12) The final destiny for those who spurn their Creator is the lake of fire, which is the second death: “But the cowardly, unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.”(13)
    However, there is Good News! Before time began God had a plan to rescue mankind.(14) Because the penalty for sin is death, the Creator came to earth as a man,(15) lived a sinless life,(16) and died to pay the penalty for our sins.(17) He then rose from the dead – defeating death – and offers forgiveness and eternal life to all who will trust Him.(18)

    Scripture states that God is love.(19) And He demonstrated His own love toward us by stepping down from heaven to offer His life so that we might be reconciled to Him forever! (20) Jesus Christ is the Creator.(21) On the cross He bore our sins and then rose for our justification.(22) The Lord now offers everlasting life to all who will believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and trust in Him personally.(23)

    By placing your faith in Jesus Christ you can enter into a relationship with the Creator of the universe that will last forever! This is His free gift and His desire for you.(24)

    God our Savior “desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth.”(25) But remember, because God is completely just and holy,(26) every sin will meet with a just punishment.(27) Therefore, only Jesus – who alone is perfect and righteous, who alone died for our sins, who alone rose from the dead – can save you.(28)

    If you neglect God’s great salvation, the consequences are eternal. Scripture warns “It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.”(29) God will pour out His “indignation and wrath, tribulation and anguish, on every soul of man who does evil.”(30)

    Therefore, “Today, if you will hear His voice, do not harden your hearts.” (31) Instead, “Repent and believe in the gospel.”(32) If you do, you will live in Heaven with our awesome Creator forever!

    Scripture verses as noted:
    1. Genesis 1
    2. Genesis 2
    3. Genesis 2:16-17
    4. Genesis 3
    5. Genesis 3:17; Romans 8:20-22. In fact only the Bible explains the origin of Creation, sin, death, suffering, conscience, and a host of other fundamental truths.
    6. Romans 3:23
    7. Exodus 20
    8. Matthew 5:27-28
    9. 1 John 3:15
    10. Matthew 12:36
    11. Isaiah 14:12-15; 1 Timothy 3:6
    12. Ezekiel 18:20; Romans 6:23
    13. Revelation 21:8
    14. 1 Peter 1:20
    15. Matthew 1:23
    16. 2 Corinthians 5:21; 1 John 3:5
    17. 1 Corinthians 15:3; Romans 6:10; Hebrews 10:10
    18. Matthew 28:6-7; 1 Corinthians 15:4; Romans 10:9
    19. 1 John 4:8
    20. Romans 5:8
    21. John 1; Colossians 1; Hebrews 1
    22. Isaiah 53; Romans 4:25
    23. John 3:36
    24. Romans 5:15-18
    25. 1 Timothy 2:3-4
    26. Leviticus 19:2; Psalm 37:28
    27. Matthew 10:26; Revelation 20:12
    28. John 14:6; Acts 4:12; 2 Corinthians 5:21
    29. Hebrews 10:31
    30. Romans 2:8-9
    31. Hebrews 3:15
    32. Mark 1:15

    Trusting in the Lord Jesus Christ won’t necessarily solve all your problems here on earth. But he will work in your life to help you through even the most difficult situations.

  • Suan says:

    I’m trying to find and seek out to God but I don’t know how. I didn’t grow up in a religious family. I have recently lost everything I owned and was sent to a shelter I have to have a job in order to stay and I have only 8 days left to find one. I want to have faith that god will see me through and help me but given my situation it’s so hard. If anyone out there can or will please pray for me to find my direction to our Lord Jesus Christ please.

  • Osazee says:

    How can some one have faith in God becuse what I am passing truth is two much for me I am cofuse if God really with me sin 5year I am been down not working with my leg but I keep on having faith in God but thing is not going batte in my life pls some help me how to have big faith in God

  • Tom Tom says:

    May I add my prayer for you with the others that are being said even now:
    “Father, as you’re well aware, Charles has cancer. Even the word usually caused us to fear. But we know that nothing takes you by surprise and that long before Charles was even conceived, you knew that at this time he would be suffering physically. I ask that you give him your peace, wisdom, and encouragement as he and the doctors battle this disease, and that he will be a testimony of faith through it all. Help Charles to be a good patient, remind him of the ways you have always provided for him, and whatever the outcome, may he bring glory to your Name. My prayer would be that you touch and heal him, or that he will know that your grace is sufficient one way or the other. In Jesus’ name, amen.”

    Charles, even more important than your battle with cancer is whether you have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Are you trusting in him alone for salvation and eternal life?

  • charlesisaac says:

    i am having a leg cancer and doctors are giving me all sort of result but am looking for GOD healing hand and i want your prayer please u all to pray on my behalf for mercies

  • Tom Tom says:

    Hi Harry–

    Did you know that in one way or another every human being wants to know more about their creator? That’s because God has built that into people.

    How about telling us a little about where you are on your spiritual journey. What is your background? Are there specific things you would like to know about God?

  • Harry says:

    I want to know more about my creator.

  • Aldo says:

    Danny G, Amen, Amen, and Amen!!!

  • Danny G says:

    How to believe?
    The Bible tells us who God is
    ->Reading the Bible will give someone: hope in God, awareness from God and understanding of God.
    ->Thinking about what you have read in the Bible and meditating on it, day and night, will give someone: faith in God, revelation from God and a mind set of God.

    When you follow those two steps,(reading the Bible and thinking about what you have read day and night), then you will find yourself a different person by Jesus Christ.

  • Aldo says:

    Alan, thank you for your encouraging comments to Yogibear, and for your testimony to the Lord.

    Jesus is the answer to all our problems, whether they be big or small, financial or habitual, domestic or physical. He wants to be our redeemer, our healer, and our deliverer. If we turn our lives over to Him, He will bring about what He knows is best for us.

  • Alan Langstone says:

    Hi Yogibear,
    I can’t understand your feelings, the thought of losing a child is more than I can comprehend.
    I am in sort of the same position, or at least I was. I was a no believer a year ago. I would verbally argue against the existence of God. Anyway, about a year ago, my wife asked me if we could do Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University because we were more than struggling financially. My reply was “what is God and Dave Ramsey going to do? Our problem is easy, we don’t earn enough”.
    So, OK I was wrong. God says we must be good stewards. We weren’t good stewards of the resources we had and therefore God didn’t entrust us with more. We are not out of the woods yet, but we are far better off now and things have certainly improved since we started to do things His way.
    Ok the point of this story is that I am a very practixal person, I learn and understand best by doing. I had been waiting for some magical sign and life to be good and to win the lottery because I said a prayer. That’s not how it works apparently.
    The signs are subtle, more being pushed in a direction rather than being shown the way.
    I do firmly believe that although there is no sense to your situation now, there is a reason in your future that you and your son suffered now. My uncle died from a slow bone cancer and he was involved in an invention that has saved 1000’s upon 1000’s of lives. Makes no sense, right! Well maybe it’s my feelings of how this was not much of a reward for him, that spurred me into asking questions of God.
    Talk to him, he’s listening.
    It is difficult to believe, especially from where you are currently but from one convert to another (yes you are a concert, because you are here discussing) you just need to calm the self doubt. That’s were I’m currently at, believing.

  • Kate says:

    Hi Yogibear,

    I have not read through the whole discussion, so forgive me if I do not speak exactly to your situation, but I want to say you are not different than everyone else. You are not excluded from hearing God or seeing His goodness in your life with ears and eyes of faith. Faith is not a feeling, it’s hopeful assurance that God is good and He will make all things work together for good, regardless of how we feel.

    Maybe this site would be interesting to you: http://thelife.com/challenges/where-is-your-faith


  • yogibear says:

    Hi Jamie, To answer your question I meant both. The love I have for my son is unmeasurable. A bond like no other. He was a part of my soul and took part of me with him when he died. I would have given anything to still have him here. I also do not hear God either. Maybe I am just different than everyone else?? I believe what I believe but to a certain extent as I have not truly seen anything to make it real.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Yogibear, I agree it is a very emotional video. I can’t imagine what it would be like to go through that. Can I clarify what you disagree with? Do you disagree that God loves your son more than you? Or do you disagree with God speaking clearly like that to you?

    God speaks to people in different ways. I have never heard God speak to me in an audible voice, whereas my wife has had a number of times where she heard God speak directly to her. I have a friend who has had Jesus come visit him in dreams. Even though I haven’t had experiences like that I still know that God speaks to me: a lot of times I hear God through reading the Bible, or when someone else is talking about things from the Bible. Ultimately, everything we hear from God needs to measure up to what we find in the Bible. We have all heard of those people who say God told them to shoot everyone at the post office. Obviously, that is inconsistent with God’s nature so you can know that was not God. If what we think we have heard God say doesn’t measure up with what God has revealed in the Bible, we can ignore it because we know that God doesn’t change.

    What Matt Hallmark said he heard from God does match what we read in the Bible. The famous verse, John 3:16, begins to explain the depth of God’s love for us, “God loved the world so much, that He gave His unique Son; who ever believes in Him will not perish but have a life that never ends.” (John 3:16) That gets intensified by Jesus when He said, “If you love those who love you, what benefit is it to you?…But love your enemies and do good…and you will be sons of the Most High, for He is kind to the ungrateful and the evil.” (Luke 6:32,35) Paul expanded on that when he described God’s love, “God shows His love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ dies for us.” (Romans 5:8) God’s love is perfect. I know my love for my kids is less than perfect, because I am less than perfect. I often act selfishly. God never does. God’s love is also more perfect because there isn’t any limits to what He knows about me. I know a lot about my kids, but there are limits to what I can know; I have often wondered what they are thinking, but for God there is nothing hidden. Jesus said that God knows even the most insignificant thing about us like the number of hairs on our head. So even though I know and love my children more than anything, I know that God’s love for them is more perfect than mine.

  • yogibear says:

    Hi Jamie,

    Thank you for the link. I did watch it and very emotional as it touches on some of the things we endured. Dylan was born with CF and so un predictable. CF can be mild, moderate to severe and with different ailments you never know what it will affect. Unfortunately with Dylan it affected everything he also became insulin diabetic by age 16. Anyway, I was watching where the father explained how dare you ask why as God answered him crystal clear. God has more love for him than he. As a mom I disagree, just my opinion and know it was trying to comfort us by saying that. That is truly what he believes and that comforts him. I do not hear God talking to me to make things clear. I don’t feel I should make anything up either. This is where I feel I cannot let go of the fact that I need to see smack in my face. I am not one to make things up to try and make my self believe. Do you understand that at all?? Kinda confusing. Just because it is said by others does not make it true. Oh Jamie, not sure if you are a he/she but appreciate you caring enough to stick with me and try to help me. Really, from the bottom of my heart, Thank you!

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Sorry Yogi, the link I shared was to the short trailer. The full 45 minute version of this is http://www.iamsecond.com/ethan/

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Don’t be sorry Yogibear, your questions and emotions are absolutely understandable given the circumstances. It is always a comfort to me to know that our emotions are a reflection of the Image of God in us. Jesus wept for the loss of his friend Lazarus even though He knew that he would be raised from the dead shortly (John 11:1-35) So our emotions are not evil or wrong, but they can lead us away from God if we let them.

    I can understand why you would question how you can trust God when He allowed your son to suffer so horribly. God does love us and God does protect us, but that does not always mean that He removes suffering from our lives. Jesus said, “In this world you will have trouble” (John 16:33) The world translated trouble is thlipsin which means pressure, oppression, affliction, tribulation or distress. The context of this statement is Jesus warning the disciples that He is going to be crucified and all that kind of death entailed. But His hope in that was, “I am not alone because my Father is with me.” (John 16:32) Jesus was able to face the pain and suffering of torture and death because He would be strengthened by God. You notice He didn’t say that God would rescue Him from that. And that is His promise to His followers: “In this world you will have trouble; but take heart, I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33) Just as the Father was with Jesus during His suffering, so we can know that Jesus is with us in ours. He will strengthen and support us. He will guide us into the best way to respond to the pain that we feel. He will lead us to overcome the evil that is the cause of our suffering as well. And ultimately, for those who follow Him, He will welcome them into His presence to be free of pain and sorrow for all of eternity.

    Who else, or what else can you trust in? Medical science can deal with many of the infirmities of life, but we know they have limitations. Family can be an important support but they also let us down. Governments can do much to help order our lives but they are also often corrupt and take advantage of us. God is the only perfect one. God is the one who knows us better than we can even know ourselves. God is the One who made us and who loves us perfectly. We may not understand all that He allows happen, but we know that He sees things more completely than anyone else, and He will always deal with us in His perfect love.

    These are the things I have to remind myself with when I get pulled down into depression and pain. I remember verses like, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7) It helps me to change my thoughts and focus on the goodness of God and trusting Him. I look for things to be thankful for while I am honestly bringing my hurt and pain to Him. I won’t pretend that it is always easy, or that I do it right all the time. But I know God loves me and is always leading me back into a place of trusting Him.

    Lord Jesus, I pray that You would help Yogibear to recognize Your trustworthiness. Help him/her to find things to be thankful for even while she/he is being honest with You about the pain of loss. Meet with Yogibear in a special way, just as You did with Job. Amen.

    I am often encouraged by other people’s stories. I saw this one and wanted to share it with you http://www.iamsecond.com/seconds/ethan-hallmark/. Its about a young man dealing with cancer and how Christ helped bring courage to him and his family in their suffering. Let me know what you think.

    I will pray for you because I know that God acts through our prayers. Not always the way that I expect, but I know He always will do what is best.

  • Yogibear says:

    Hi Jamie, I just finished watching the video and just cried as my son went through so much , he needed a liver and lung so so many things transpired in his body and he had to endure so much . Beyond anyone’s dreams of double pneumonia, c-diff, excessive bleeding, 50 pounds of fluid, dialysis tube pushed into the muscle of his neck and could not be sedated much as his liver was shot, procedure after procedure to fix things. Tube put in to get a camera pill in to find the bleeding to just have him gagging and spewing blood but they continued . Intubated several times to where he could not eat. 7 weeks of no eating and could no longer stand. He went from a avid soccer player to bed ridden. Nurses and Doctor just seeing him as a number. They Treated horribly . Unreal and undeserving to a child who never asked to be sick his entire life. He lived with a force and wanted to live so badly but instead dealt with torture. Trust God ? Isn’t he suppose to love and protect? Pull you from this kind of thing happening? I don’t know. I myself have prayed for things for myself with nothing, before I had children and after. I still am struggling in my life even without my losses. So sorry Jamie I know everyone is trying to help. I appreciate the prayers but what does that do really? Everything still happened even with praying. ??

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Yogibear, I understand your frustration. It seems like it would be so much more satisfying to get an answer, “The reason this has happened is…(some great cosmic purpose that is accomplished)” I don’t know if that kind of an answer will come to us this side of Heaven. Part of the reason for that, I think, is because with our limited persepctive, I don’t know that the answer we receive would be very satisfying. I have some friends whose son took his life over a year ago, and we talk about what would be good reasons that they would accept for why God did not intervene in his suicide, we are never able to come up with anything that would take away the pain of that loss. I am certain that you would feel the same. I know I would be if I was in their or your situation.

    As I wrote to you before, it all boils down to the question, “Are you willing to trust God to do what is right in all situations?” With my head I can say, “Yes!” to that, but I have to admit that often my heart does not agree. That’s why I then try to remind myself of who God is. I don’t know if you have ever read about Job from the Bible but even if you have, let me encourage you to have a look at this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQwnH8th_fs It is a very effective summarization of the story of Job and his struggle with this question. I would be very interested in hearing your perspective on the video’s theme. They suggest that Job is not an answer to why bad things happen to people, but an invitation to trust God, because He alone is trustworthy. I look forward to hearing back from you.

    In the meantime, I will continue to pray for you. Let me do that now: Lord Jesus, I ask that You would help Yogibear to understand why he/she can trust You. I pray that You would bring comfort in the midst of all her/his loss. Continue to bring people around to support Yogibear during this time of grief. Amen.

  • YOGIBEAR says:

    Thanks Tom, I did have a mentor contact me but still did not help me in the way I needed. Thanks again and still will try and find my way. Hoping

  • Tom Tom says:

    Your sadness has been shared for people since the death of Adam and Eve’s son Abel. Death from our view is so final. However, we know from scripture that death is not final from a spiritual standpoint.

    May I suggest you click on “Talk to a Mentor” at the top of this page, so that you can be connected with an individual mentor who can walk with you through your doubts and grief?

    I know that the prayers of many here are with you.

  • YOGIBEAR says:

    Winn, I kinda feel the way you do, needing to see before believing. Very hard to explain. I want so bad to believe as my mom died and then 6 months later lost my 20 yr old son. I feel lost and if I do not open my belief, I don’t know what will happen. I am struggling and have been about other things too and do not feel I am being guided by angels or God. Where was my miracle, where was my help? I don’t know. Thanks for the insight Tom. So confusing.

  • Tom Tom says:

    Thank you for your post and your honesty regarding your concerns about God and the Bible. These are the most important questions anyone could ever ask. Unfortunately, you are not alone in your concerns, due in no small part because the church has failed in its responsibility to not only teach the word of God but to give reason and explanation as to why we can believe it. I was very much in the same place you are, looking for answers and not realizing there actually are very good answers and reasons for the Christian faith.

    Your questions and concerns actually cover a pretty broad spectrum of things: the Bible and its validity, God, creation, science, etc., and so while I’ll give you a few quick responses, we’ll really have to take one subject at a time. So I hope you’ll respond here and that we can have a dialogue as you seek for answers and I try to give you to the answers you need.

    The Bible—The Bible is not just one book. The Bible is a compilation of 66 books, written by 40 different authors from all walks of life, from three different continents, over a 1600 year period, in three different languages. Yet when put together, they reveal one seamless story from creation to the end of times as we know them. This is also why we can use one book of the Bible to verify or corroborate other books of the Bible. The Bible has never been proven inaccurate scientifically, archeologically, or historically—evidence for its trustworthiness. It’s the only book that describes God creative actions, and it’s the only book that specifically states that it is the revealed word of God. The many pr0phecies in the Bible which have been perfectly fulfilled, sometimes centuries later, reveal it’s supernatural origin.

    Science—When we speak of science, we typically mean what is referred to as “observational science.” The scientist “observes” something and desires to determine how it works or how it came to be. So the steps are,
    • Observation of something
    • Do background research
    • Construct a hypothesis
    • Test your hypothesis by doing repeatable experiments
    • Analyze your data and draw a conclusion
    • Communicate your results to include ways the information could be
    falsified (proven wrong)
    Consider that observations have to be made and then replicated. Therefore, the alternative to divine creation, evolution (one kind slowly changing into another kind), cannot be proven by observational science because it cannot be observed and it cannot be replicated. Therefore, evolution on the macro-scale is NOT scientific. At the same time, what we DO observe in the world around us gives more evidence of being created specifically with intelligent intent, AND over a relatively short period of time (thousands, not millions of years.)

    So Winn, I’ve found that the answers to the questions you ask are available, and they are solid answers. Please ask whatever you like, but let’s look at one or two things at a time for space sake, OK? You might also want to visit a couple of web sites that go into great deal about these things: Answers in Genesis and Creation Ministries International.

  • Winn says:

    My entire life I haven’t really believed in god. I remember growing up as a little kid not really believing and thinking to myself how could anyone believe something we read from a book that gives no actual fact of proof. I would say to myself “Well it must be so people can feel good and not be scared or think that after you die your actual life/soul/memory just stops. I was a kid when I was thinking about this and now I’m 24 and still do. I’ve just always believed in the science part of why and how we exist. I have tried to believe in God and believe me I do want to. But when it’s said that God created the WHOLE UNIVERSE, we as people sound selfish. It makes me not want to believe. I could agree to it if it was only the EARTH but to say the whole universe, I mean come on!!! What gives us the right to say the whole universe? Anyways like I said I do want to believe in God but it makes it hard with things like that. If their is anyone who can help me I would greatly appreciate it.

  • Aldo says:

    JesusLover, thank you for your testimony. I am happy to hear that you are a Jesus Lover, but would like to know if and when you received Him as your personal Lord and Savior. Many people claim to believe in Christ, but have never made a “profession of faith.” In sincerely doing so, that person undergoes the “born again” experience which Jesus talks about in the gospel of John, 3rd chapter, verses 1-8.

    I pray that the Lord touch your heart with His Holy Spirit, and draw you into a “born again” experience with God.

  • JesusLover says:

    I love God and I have a hard time believing sometimes too but I have seen my own guardian angel and my mom was in a wreck with me And she prayed God would let her live to raise me and he did

  • Aldo says:

    Mikael, there is only one true way to be “born again,” and that is by accepting and receiving Jesus Christ, God’s “only begotten son” as your Savior and Lord. His blood, which He shed on Calvary’s cross atoned for your sins, my sins, and the sins of all mankind.

    Anybody can do that at anytime, anywhere. Here is a suggested prayer. Remember, God is not so concerned with your words as He is with your intent.

    “Dear God, I admit I am a sinner and need Your forgiveness; I believe that Jesus Christ, Your Son, died in my place, paying the penalty for my sins on Calvary‘s cross. I am willing right now to turn from disbelief, and accept Him as my personal Savior and Lord. I commit myself to You, and ask You to send the Holy Spirit into my life, to fill me and guide me, and to help me become the kind of person You want me to be. Thank You Father for loving me, forgiving my sins, and for giving me everlasting life, in Jesus name, Amen.”

  • mikael says:

    Prayers are about been unconditional, and outwardly, to be unselfish and hope for the better to others, spreading love.
    Do that, as an oposit force to negative narratives, as selfishness and greed.
    Good thing do happend to good people, but to reatch this “arena” you must be truthfull in you actions and thinking, the reality you persive and how you interpite that reality is the alpha and omega.

    To make it simple, pray for your freinds lottery ticket and not yours.

    Well, when some use narratives as submission to god/allah, I wounder what people Do think this means, a Gandalifian figure sitting on your shoulder ready to wipp you at any given moment for whatever you do, aka sinns.
    Thats paranioa not religion.

    We have al sinned, I have done the full mounty, killed unocent creatures, willfully to, hated, scorned, envied, lied to, stoed from, aka been an a..h…
    When we grow older one realises how mutch this is ruining our daily life, taking away our own energy, mentaly barricades whom collors our future.
    It took me years, its not easy, and the hard truth is, that it dont gett any better, the evils we persive becomes more and more horrific.
    What Im telling you is this, and the reason for Jesus/muhammad to speak about, forgiving and loving life.
    Forgiving the past, or do the things nescessery to make up with it, and then forgett it as case closed, and then the reality you live in will never be the same again, you will be born again.
    You dont need water or a church/mosce, its all in you.
    There is no midle man, forgett that.

    In the end, judgment, is about scaling, on what you have done.
    To me now, everything is an manifestation of an eternly force, our creatore.
    And now everything I do is weighted upon that background.
    You call it selfishness, may be, but but when you are reborn, you know the difference, to take care of your self, and then the people around you, and everything else, this comes naturly, as the love of life and everything in it, our very own Paradise, our mother earth.
    I have images stil in me I know I have to pay for, but now I do the opositt, and tryes to live by it, and make it to be an natural part of you.
    Love life, and speak to the world and the world speaks back.

    Bot dont fear God, thats was never the intention of our creatore, but the utelysing of our own divine force, our free will, the energetic entety to will live on after we have died.
    Love is the only force that makes it grow.

    In the end, our creatore is an beneficare and merciful, understands the harship we all have to fight, in a world where nobody told us anything, expet for writen criptures and interpitations.
    Expirience is everything.


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