I want to believe in God but I don’t know how.

Sometimes the idea of God makes a lot of sense but all of the ramifications of believing in God are hard to swallow. If you find yourself wishing you could believe, you’re not alone. Consider praying a prayer like this:

God, I don’t know if you’re out there. I’m not sure how I feel about you if you are. But if you do exist I’d like to know more about you. Reveal yourself to me. Help me to find you.

It says very clearly in the Bible that those who seek God will find him. Ask God to reveal himself to you. Be honest about your reservations. God is not offended by questions or doubts.

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416 Responses to “I want to believe in God but I don’t know how.”

  • Chris says:

    kristy…so glad you have been encouraged to know that Gods love for you knows no beginning and will never have an end either! let me know your city and state. i can check on some possible church options for you. blessings!!

  • kristy says:

    Chris thank you so very much for taking the time to write me back,it truly means alot to me and i appreciate it, also i will read those scriptures tonight, i felt like god spoke to me on a few occasions, one being the day i took my mom to the hospital to get help for her drinking, i finally got through to her 4 years ago and told her if she didnt get help for her drinking i would never see her again nor would my daughter who was 3 at the time, it was the most embarrassing situation i have delt with taking a drunk ti the emergency room and begging on my hands and knees for someone to help me get help for my mother and they took her in and gave her a week to treatment to stop the alcohol withdrawals, as im sitting in the ER a nurse comes out of no where puts her arm on my shoulder and says your going to heaven and walked away and i never seen her again, she said no more or no less then that.. i was shocked and felt that was a sign from god, i have veeb discouraged in my life but i think that is my own fault, my parents never got me baptized and i dont know how to go about doing that or what church to go to pr what religion to choose, i meed to open my heart to the lord amd i think asking u for advice was my first step into doing so, so i like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to write back

  • Chris says:

    kristy…thank you so much for writing….your story brought tears to my eyes because i know how much jesus loves and cares for you and how he longs to communicate that to you. since so many people dont know God themselves, its rare we can see someone communicate his kind character and loving nature to us. thank God we have the bible to show us the reality of just who God is for us, a loving father who always has his arms open to us to receive us, never condemn us….exodus 34, micah 7.19, isaiah 43.25, 1 corinthians 13, 1 John 4, hosea 11 to 14, John 3, John 12.47, ephesians 1 to 3, jeremiah 31. i encourage you to read those scriptures and bask in Gods love for you. dont believe your thoughts. dont believe what others say. only believe the written and marvelous promesas of christ to you. for more information on knowing your loving lord and savior jesus christ, log onto knowingjesuspersonally.com or click talk to a mentor above. if you need me to look for a church for you just let me know also. praying now that jesus and jesus love be revealed to you so that these negative and untrue thoughts can be removed from your mind and life forever. blessings!

  • kristy says:

    Dear Chris
    I’ve lived through a terrible childhood, both of my parents were alcoholics and they put my brothers and me through many many difficult obstacles that we have faced through the years. I grew up so lost and confused, i believed in god when i was younger because i was hoping he can help me through my difficult times, but as time passed and i went through worse situations i started to loose faith in god, i didnt know why he chose for me to live such a messed up life. I ended up getting pregnant at 16 because i was seaeching for love and i needed someone in this world to love me and appreciate me for who i was, the father or my child left me while i was pregnant so i faced that journey alone and scared, (no one knew i was pregnant until i was 6 months along) i gave birth to my beautiful daughter and i changed my life around.. i always thanked god for her but still trying to convince myself that there was actually a god, Still lost and confused i made many choices that i regret.. I think i distance myself from god because i fear that he will HATE me and send me to hell for my mistakes i have made, i think i have a very hard time forgiving myself for my wrong doings so i closed my heart to god for his forgiveness, its gotten to the point that i fear god or i try to tell myself he is not real to escape from my fear i have towards him. Since then i started having very bad anxiety and im always afraid im going to die and go to hell, im scared that he will take me away from my daughter.. i try to control my anxiety by myself, my r keeps trying to give me medicine that i refuse to take because anxiety medicine can be very addicting.. i want to believe in god without fearing him, i wamt him to forgive me but dont know how to ask him,please give me advice im so lost and i dont want to live in fear, i dont want my daughter to be affected by my fear either if you have any advice please help, im sorry i dont know where to turn im so scared of being judged because everyone looks at me as such a strong positive person who works hard to provide for my daughter all by myself.. im strong on the outside but so broken inside and i cant talk to anyone about this..

  • Tom Tom says:

    Hi Scott–

    Isn’t it interesting that so many people are looking for God even though He has revealed Himself in creation and in the Bible!

    I think the best place for you to start to “find” him is to read the gospel of John in the New Testament. (It’s the 4th book of the New Testament–Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John.) John specifically says in chapter 20 verse 31, “But these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name.” Tell God that you want to know Him and His Son Jesus Christ. He will lead to you to understand.

  • Scott says:

    Hi. I want to find god. I dont know where to look. I want to believe but i struggle. The power of me wanting to believe almost makes me feel like i do.

  • Tom Tom says:

    Hi Matilde. Nice to have you join the discussion.

    Your last statement is very near the truth of the matter. Since God made man in His own image (basically a spiritual being with the desire to love) and has given man knowledge of Himself through the God-given conscience (the word “conscience” means “with knowledge”) and throughout His entire creation, we do have the basic desire to believe in the One who created everything including us. The real issue is, in Whom should we believe?

    Consider that the Almighty Creator God who has given us life would want us to know Him. Therefore it makes sense that along with a conscience and the creation, He would give us specific knowledge of Himself. That’s exactly what the Bible is: God’s revelation of Himself from the beginning of creation to man’s ultimate destiny. This is why you don’t have to “blindly” follow some religion. The Bible is a complete guidebook for living life and a growing relationship with the God who made you.

    All of man’s attempts to understand their idea of god or their attempts to attain some sort of nirvana or heaven are just that: man-made attempts. All the world’s religions (except biblical Christianity) are man’s attempts at being “good enough.” God through the Bible has told us that all of our attempts to reach Him are worthless because they are based on what man can do. What’s more, all of the world’s religions (except biblical Christianity) are based on the teachings of man, either one such as Buddha or Mohammed or Joseph Smith, or of several men such as the Popes or Jehovah’s Witnesses’ Watchtower Association. ONLY biblical Christianity is based on the historical facts of Jesus Christ’s life, miracles, death, and resurrection. God through the Bible has told us that HE made the ONLY way to be right with Him; that is by turning from sin and trusting/believing in His Son Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. Jesus himself said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father but by me.”

  • Chris says:

    Matilde….beliving on jesus christ is the most rational, obvious, truthful thing a person can do. jesus is the most historical person who has ever lived. his life, death and resurrection have and are being lived out in billions of people who know him as savior and lord. you can too. log onto knowingjesuspersonally.com or click talk to a mentor above for more information on how to know jesus personally in your own life. he is knocking on the door now, wont you invite him in?

  • matilde says:


    I have been studying religions and spirituality for now almost 20 years… still, I haven’t chosen one (or haven’t been chosen…). I seem to constantly fluctuating between various ones, believing and then drifting away. And you know what? I envy somewhat the people who have a strong belief in something/someone… while I don’t. At the same time, people who blindly follow a religion scare me. I am wondering if my ‘desire/need’ to believe is simply a need to belong and accepted and loved… it’s all very confusing.
    Do we need to believe? Aren’t dogmatic religions simply expedient means to reach something spiritually higher which is inside of us and all around us?

  • Kathryn Kathryn says:

    Hi Tamar, Good news, You came to the right place. There are lots of ways you can find out more about God. At the top of this page, on the right hand side there is a box and there it says you can click on for a personal tutor to help you get started. Also there is a button that takes you right to a chat room where lots of people join in on different subjects. You can join in, ask questions or just read what others say until you have the confidence to say something. Also I can give you a link to some stuff that will help you. OK? http://powertochange.com/discover/know-jesus-personally_ll/ There are lots more but see what this one says to you. I have been a Christian for many years but I am still learning more about our God and I really get so excited about it. I hope you will too. Blessings,

  • tamar says:

    My name is Tamar and I want to learn more about my God. Please help me

  • Kate says:

    i dont care if your black white purple or red. As long as you have your head connected to your body and have flesh and bones nobody should treat you any different from anyone. Thats how i think.

  • Hummm says:

    Total nonsense: “racism is natural to all races?” ADVICE: Follow the thread to the first people that decided white / light skin was scientifically and spiritually superior to Black / dark skin, and taught this idea even to some Black people. THEN, you will realize racism has been “natural” to white races, only. Fear of truth will keep us all frustrated.

  • Kate says:

    Oh okay ill try those too. Thank you! God’s blessings!

  • Chris says:

    kate… online churches might help also…lifechurch.tv, glorystone.tv. blessings!

  • Kate says:

    Thanks! Ill try visiting those websites! And i wish i could go to those churches but i have to ask my dad. And he’s very picky and says “dont believe those other churches thinking their religion is right” he doesnt understand God like me and my mom do. Thats why we are praying he will understand and be saved too. Since he is catholic and doesnt have a personal relationship with God. I mean… i go to a catholic school but its just that catholics pray to idols and statues and turn to Mary instead of Jesus is what i think is wrong.
    One more thing- YOU FORGOT TO CAPITALIZE “Jesus”!!!He deserves to have his name capitalized.

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