Are There Any Secrets to Becoming a Happy Person?
Happiness is in your own hands
People like to use the future tense when talking about happiness. Often is it part of a or contingency phrase. How many times have you heard people say: “If I could find a man sometime who really loves me, how happy would I be!” or “If my husband was nicer to me, how happy would that make me!” Maybe you have heard someone say, “If the stock market goes up today, I certainly would be very happy!” But happiness does not come from any external source.
Happiness is a sense of satisfaction you have toward your self, your surroundings, and your work. It does not require other people’s approval or permission. There are many things in this world we cannot control, but happiness is among the few which we can control. So why so many people unhappy?
A woman’s greatest charm is her ability to bring happiness to people
Someone once said: “A woman’s greatest charm lies in her ability to use her gentle strength to bring more happiness to people.” A happy woman is never boastful but strong enough to face life’s trials. She also retains her youthful curiosity. Think how much nicer the world would be if every one were like that! However, women by and large carry a heavy burden of worry. We tend to be preoccupied with small and trivial matters in life, and forget how to properly care for ourselves. This inability to let go makes it difficult for us to experience the taste of happiness.
Are there secrets to becoming a happy woman?
In an online poll for “Ten Outstanding and Happy New Women in Taiwan” sponsored by AVON on May 14, 2007, the largest number of votes went to Sun Cuifeng who by conventional wisdom should not have been considered a happy woman. Why? Her husband had an affair with her sister which resulted in a child. But Sun was able to walk out from the shadow of that scandal with dignity and became, in the eyes of women in Taiwan, the “happiest new woman.” Huang Yunling, ranked no. 9 in the voting, was divorced from her husband, but regardless of her failed marriage, she was able to face her personal problems with an optimistic and positive attitude. Happy are those who are undefeated by life’s difficulties.
There was a woman in the Bible named Hannah. She was childless. Her husband had another wife Peninnah who did bear children. When Peninnah realized Hannah was infertile, she became Hannah’s rival and provoked her in order to irritate her. By ordinary standards Hannah should have been a very unhappy woman, but she had a secret to making herself happy. Bible tells us that Hannah prayed to God, saying: “My heart rejoices in the Lord; in the Lord my horn is lifted high. My mouth boasts over my enemies, for I delight in your deliverance.” (1 Samuel 2:1-4) What was Hannah’s secret to happiness while facing adversity? We know from her prayer that God was in her heart and she had a firm trust in Him. Because of that she was able to transcend the restraint and pressure imposed on her by her surroundings and became a person of genuine peace and happiness.
Are you a happy person?
When you don’t like yourself, the world becomes a terrible place. Many horrible but real questions arise such as: Who am I? Why am I unhappy? There are many indicators of happiness, including the nine listed below. Take a look at them. If your answer is negative to more than one half of the nine, then you must do something about it!
Do you:
- Have a close inter-personal support network? The best people for a woman to have a heart-to-heart talk with are her husband, siblings or friends.
- Know how to use your time?
- Have a smile for everyone? For women to keep smiling, the best way is looking into the mirror every morning to look for a smiling face.
- Incline to look at problems from a positive perspective? Make up your mind to be a happy woman.
- Value what you have at the present? Contentment brings happiness.
- Keep an exercise routine? It has been reported that “exercise can help relieve pressure in life. It enables the body to release more dopamine, the hormone that induces a state of happiness.” Remember: there are only lazy women and there are no ugly women.
- Get enough sleep and rest?
- Spend too much time in front of the TV? In order to be happy, women need to grow spiritually and in wisdom. To accomplish this, go to classes or read books. Participate in a chorus group, or attend a community college as a way to enrich your life.
- Have a firm religious belief?
Dear friends, if you wish to spend the next half of your life in happiness, now is the time for you to come to terms with yourself. Only you can help yourself to begin this journey. I’ve discovered that my personal relationship with God gives me daily strength and peace. God cares about each item of my day and wants to guide me through it. The inner calmness that I am able to experience us something that is available to each of us through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I encourage you to give your life over to Christ and allow him to be your inner strength.
You can receive Christ right now by faith through prayer. Praying is simply talking to God. God knows your heart and is not so concerned with your words as He is with the attitude of your heart. Here’s a suggested prayer:
Lord Jesus, I want to know you personally. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. I open the door of my life to you and ask you to come in as my Saviour and Lord. Take control of my life. Thank you for forgiving my sins and giving me eternal life. Make me the kind of woman you want me to be.
If this prayer expresses the desire of your heart, pray it right now and Christ will come into your life as He promised.
