How Can I Have Faith After Losing My Son?

Written by Christie Hoos

faith_havefaithI have never been a big fan of the “paste a smile on and pretend it’s okay” club.

In my case it was months after my son, Noah’s, death that I began to feel angry. I had to return to work and the crushing unfairness of it all began to sink in. I used to think that people of true faith accepted everything quietly and calmly, but now I’m not so sure.

I wrestled with God for several months.

My husband was afraid that he would never get his wife back. If anyone saw me walking in the woods behind our house they must have thought I was crazy — I was muttering, crying, even shouting at God. I read books in the bible that dealt with people who were suffering — Job, Psalms, Ecclesiastes and Lamentations — and was reassured that some of God’s favorite people were angry and confused by Him. The best advice I got was that giving God the silent treatment would only punish me. God can take it, so tell Him what you are feeling.

How can I have faith you ask? I’ll try to answer you as best I can. My husband is a scholar and he finds reassurance in philisophical arguements about truth, the state of the world and nature of God. I’ll admit that these truths are convincing and I would be happy to share some with you if you like, but in crisis my faith was not bolstered by academic points so I won’t get into them now.

First I must explain my faith to you, so that you know what I am choosing to rely on.

I do believe with my whole heart that God is good and the world is not. The bible is clear that because of our choices to reject God we live in a fallen world full of sickness, natural disasters, pain and death. This is not God’s purpose for humanity – he wants us to live with Him where there is no pain, no sadness, no death. In order to make this happen He made the greatest sacrifice, He sent His own son to die, to pay the price for our wrong choices (it is hard to imagine that He loves us so much that he would allow his son to die – on purpose). When Jesus rose from the dead three days later He destroyed forever the power of death over the human soul. Still, we must choose to accept or reject this gift. That is the faith I have.

I trust in Jesus to pay for my wrongs and to save me from death.

Especially since Noah’s death, this hope is my foundation. I know that one day I will see not only Jesus but my son again. I would rather he was with me, but since he is not I am so glad that he is safe and loved. For this reason I hold onto my faith. I even wrote a website all about this – Noah’s Place.

Not only that, but my faith in Jesus is about relationship. Like I said, I have been angry with Him. I will never be happy that my son is away from me (even temporarily). I miss him terribly. There is a hole in our family and in my heart that aches. But God does know how we feel. He lost His son too. And He has made it so clear to me that He loves me more than I can comprehend. This comfort did not come quickly or easily. Slowly, in so many ways – through reading the bible, praying (even angry and despairing prayers), through nature, through others around me — God put His arms around me and helped my broken heart to heal. He was there all along I just had to open up to Him.

To live without faith seems to me a hopeless, comfortless and pointless existence.

So I hold on, even when I don’t feel like it. This is how I have faith, not a feeling or an experience, but a decision. As Job said “though He slay me, yet will I trust in Him.” I can’t imagine life without Jesus. Holding onto faith has been a struggle, but to live without it, is unthinkable.

You have a choice to make also. Faith is not something you lose, it’s something you choose or reject. I’m sorry to say that anyone who has lost a child has a very long and hard journey ahead of them. Grief is exhausting, messy, and misunderstood. Anger and confusion are normal and healthy (only if you get stuck there for an extended amount of time will you need to worry and seek medical help). If you have lost a child, be patient with yourself, you are in mourning. Do not rely on your feelings to decide what you believe. Look ahead – what kind of life do you want? Who do you want to be?

I would not trade my Noah for a child that lived.

I would not have chosen this path, it has been hard and painful, but it has changed me for the better. I am forever grateful to my son for that.

In Love,
Christie
Noah’s Mom

If you have lost a child, know that you are not alone. I can’t tell you why you’re child is gone, but I can tell you that there is a God who loves you and who loves your child. He knows what it means to lose a son.

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235 Responses to “How Can I Have Faith After Losing My Son?”

  • Aldo says:

    Patty,I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through for at least two reasons: 1) I am a male, and cannot fathom the love between a mother and her child. 2) I have not lost a beloved child.

    What I can do Patty, is direct you to what Tom says to Christy in the blog comment just before yours. I believe Tom to be a “man of God,” and an accomplished Bible expositor. If you have not done so yet, read his comments to Christy. I believe that they will minister to you. God bless you.

  • patty says:

    My son loved football so much, he passed away during the Superbowl last year. Today is a nightmare ,football eeverywhere. I’m really hating life right now .

  • Tom Tom says:

    Christy–
    What can one hope to say at a time like this? Only those who have been in a similar situation can possibly understand what you and your family are experiencing. My wife and I had no children, but we want to offer our sincere condolences, our prayers, and our love.

    As I read your post I was reminded of how much King David grieved over the death of his son Absalom, even though in his case Absalom was very evil. Still, the bonds between parents and children are a precious gift from God and are never-ending.

    I’d say your feelings of wanting to be with your son are typical of parenthood. The very moment that your son was conceived, he became an integral part of you. You cared for and nurtured him even before he was born, and I understand there is nothing stronger than a mother’s love for her children. So I’d say it’s only natural that you want to continue to be with your son and to care for him.

    King David grieved over the death of the child born of his relation with Bathsheba, and at his death he stated, “Can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me.” Because he loved the Lord, he knew he would one day be with his son again.

    I know there are many others who are grieving for you and with you. Surely the others in your family are feeling much pain. And while I’m not an expert in these matters, I would think that one way to at least deal with some of the agony would be to hold even more tightly to the love you have for your surviving family members. I’m sure they need your comfort now more than ever. Do you have a church family? If so, allow them to come alongside–sometimes you won’t want company, but they would want to help. You may be familiar with 2 Corinthians 1:3-5 which says, “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as we share abundantly in Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too.” You’ll notice that it says we will be comforted so that we can comfort others. And while that may be distant and difficult now, if you’ll let the Lord comfort you in his loving arms, the same God who intimately knows what it means to love a son in death, he will turn your mourning into gladness as you’re able to offer comfort and solace to others who have walked the path you’re on.

    So Christy, my ramblings may be of little help to you in your sorrow, but please know they are sincere. I’ll close with this quote from Psalm 23 as my prayer for you:

    The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.
    He makes me lie down in green pastures.
    He leads me beside still waters.
    He restores my soul.
    He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.
    Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
    I will fear no evil,for you are with me;
    your rod and your staff,they comfort me.
    You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;
    you anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.
    Surely goodness and mercy[e] shall follow me all the days of my life,
    and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever.

  • Christy says:

    Thanks to everyone for your insightful thoughts. While I welcome everyone’s freedom of speech, I don’t appreciate Philip’s comments. I just lost my 11 year old son, I need encouragement to just make it to the next hour. I don’t need discouraging words from anyone doubting God. I need help on what other parents have done and are doing to make it through. Me, my husband and my 15 year old son need help in this valley, how do we cope? I don’t care about atheists comments just help please. I want to know does any other parent longs to be with their deceased child?

  • Tom Tom says:

    Philip–
    As previously mentioned, I think it would be wise to move further comments to a more appropriate blog spot such as http://powertochange.com/blogposts/2012/05/23/debate-does-a-god-or-gods-exist/ while allowing those who have grief over their losses to freely use this site.

  • Philip Koen says:

    Tom: Answers in Genesis, care to try and search a bit more, there are so many failed prophecies,here are some (I just copy and paste this from another website as I’m too lazy to write it in my own words. by the way I formulate my questions with my brain and not my heart, I know you did not mean it literally but the notion that the heart is the centre of emotions etc also originated in the Bible, another fallacy.Let us stay with facts and use our brains. My heart is darkened, haha. “I’m trying to convince myself, taking things written in the Bible out of context”, don’t you have any more original arguments, these ones are as old as the hills? You say:”according to the Bible I should not answer a fool like a fool”, that is another funny, in Matthew 15:22 Jesus said:”… but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire” Are Jesus and Paul going to hell?

    Enjoy some of the so-called prophecies from the Bible.
    Isaiah 17:1 “An oracle concerning Damascus: See, Damascus will no longer be a city but will become a heap of ruins.”
    FAIL: Damascus is still inhabited today with well over a million people and there was never a time where it ceased to be a city. It is widely known as being the oldest continuously inhabited city in the world.

    Isaiah 19:4-5 “I will hand the Egyptians over to the power of a cruel master, and a fierce king will rule over them, declares the Lord, the LORD Almighty. The waters of the river will dry up, and the riverbed will be parched and dry.”
    FAIL: The river mentioned here is the Nile which never dried up and is still one of Egypt’s greatest natural resource.

    Isaiah 52:1 “Awake, awake, O Zion, clothe yourself with strength. Put on your garments of splendor, O Jerusalem, the holy city. The uncircumcised and defiled will not enter you again.”
    FAIL: There are still uncircumcised people living in Jerusalem even today.

    Ezekiel 30:10-11 “This is what the Sovereign LORD says: I will put an end to the hordes of Egypt by the hand of Nebuchadnezzar king of Babylon. He and his army – the most ruthless of nations – will be brought in to destroy the land. They will draw their swords against Egypt and fill the land with the slain.”
    FAIL: Ezekiel predicts that Nebuchadnezzar of Babylon will conquer Egypt utterly destroying it, slaying and scattering its people. In 568 BCE Nebuchadnezzar tried to conquer Egypt and Egypt survived with no apparent damage. Aahmes ruled for another generation over a prosperous Egypt and lived to see Nebuchadnezzar die. The Egyptians were not scattered or dispersed.

    Ezekiel 29:10-11 “therefore I am against you and against your streams, and I will make the land of Egypt a ruin and a desolate waste from Migdol to Aswan, as far as the border of Cush. The foot of neither man nor beast will pass through it; no one will live there for forty years.”
    FAIL: Never in its long history has Egypt been uninhabited for forty years.

    Matthew 16:28 “I tell you the truth, some who are standing here will not taste death before they see the Son of Man coming in his kingdom.” 23:36 “I tell you the truth, all this will come upon this generation.” 24:34 “I tell you the truth, this generation will certainly not pass away until all these things have happened.”
    FAIL: Jesus states in Matthew that all the signs marking the end of the world would be fulfilled before his generation ended, before the people that were standing infront of him “taste death.” Those people have been dead for over 2000 years and the world did not come to an end, neither have all those signs been fulfilled.

  • Tom Tom says:

    Philip–
    Some people have legitimate questions which deserve the time to answer. I believe your questions are only asked from a darkened and denying heart that really isn’t looking for the answers; a heart that is only interested in trying to convince itself that somehow it will give you pleasure to jab at others’ beliefs. Because of that, I not only do not have time to spar with you, but according to the Bible I should not answer a fool like a fool.

    You are typical of many atheists in that you are woefully ignorant of the Bible. You only look for talking points and arguing points while ignoring the truth that’s being stated. And whether you’ll admit it or not, writing of any kind can be taken out of context and the meaning skewed.

    However, because there may be some people reading these posts who have legitimate desire to know the truth, I will respond to your latest list of “concerns” about the scriptures . . . .

    Let’s use Matthew 24 rather than Mark 13 to get a more complete picture of what transpired. “As He was sitting on the Mount of Olives, the disciples came to Him privately, saying, “Tell us, when will these things happen, and what will be the sign of Your coming, and of the end of the age?” There are three separate questions asked here that require three separate answers. One is concerning the destruction of the temple—a prophecy Jesus was addressing in his response about people fleeing from the Romans when they came to destroy Jerusalem and the temple 70 years hence—an example of a fulfilled pr0phecy. The second and third questions, as states, have to do with Jesus’ second coming and events still to occur. So rather than an argument against fulfilled pr0phecy, this is actually an argument FOR fulfilled pr0phecy.

    Why did the Jewish leaders (not the Jews in general) disbelieve Jesus was the Messiah? One, because they were expecting a conquering hero Messiah who would overthrow the Roman empire and set the Jewish nation as world leaders. They failed to understand from scripture that Jesus would first come as the suffering servant. And two, the Jewish leaders weren’t really interested in having their own authority usurped and were so blinded by their sin they weren’t about to acknowledge Jesus as the Son of God. That’s the problem you have Philip. You are so in love with your sin that you don’t want to accept that there is a God who will hold you accountable for your actions. You think by denying Him, there won’t be any consequences.

    Actually, there is very little debate about Jesus except between believers and unbelievers. Jesus is the arguably the most researched and investigated person in all of history. I’ll not go into details because I don’t think you’re really interested in the facts. You can research it for yourself.

    Finally, your “concerns” about the description of the earth’s support are yet another example of not only biblical ignorance, but basic reading skills. Here again is where context is important and knowing what type of literature you are reading. (I ask you—would you read a book of poetry in the same way you’d read an auto repair manual?)

    Here’s the answer straight out of Answers In Genesis website:
    “For the pillars of the earth are the Lord’s, and He has set the world upon them.” (1 Samuel 2:8)
    “He stretches out the north over empty space; He hangs the earth on nothing.” (Job 26:7)
    The supposed contradiction quickly disappears when we examine the context of each passage and recognize it as figurative language. 1 Samuel 2:8 was spoken during a prayer by Hannah after she dedicated her son Samuel into the Lord’s service. Job spoke the other verse while talking with his friends about man’s weakness in light of God’s majestic power. This sort of poetic imagery (pillars, foundations, etc.) is commonly used in Scripture to describe how God upholds the world. For example, consider what the Lord said to Job:
    “Where were you when I laid the foundations of the earth? Tell Me, if you have understanding. Who determined its measurements? Surely you know! Or who stretched the line upon it? To what were its foundations fastened? Or who laid its cornerstone[?]” (Job 38:4–6)
    We know that the earth does not literally have foundations and a cornerstone like a building; instead, God uses this figurative language to create a mental picture for Job. In the same way, animals do not talk and laugh, yet God also tells Job that the horse “laughs at fear” and “when the trumpet sounds, he says ‘Aha!’” (Job 39:22, 25, ESV).
    This is something we are all familiar with in everyday speech. For example, if someone is not particularly sane, we might say he’s “got bats in the belfry,” “losing his marbles,” “coming unglued,” or “vacant upstairs.” All of these are obviously not literal statements but rather figures of speech that give a more interesting look at the concept being expressed.
    Critics of our ministry often ridicule Answers in Genesis because we endorse the historical-grammatical hermeneutic. They claim that we must take everything in the Bible in a wooden literal sense. However, the historical-grammatical hermeneutic recognizes figures of speech are used in everyday language, and we should interpret them as such. When we interpret Scripture, we strive to find the author’s intended meaning. Just as we use figurative language today, so also the writers of Scripture often used figures of speech, especially in passages written using poetic language like the examples above.
    So, God hangs the earth on nothing, but it’s not just dangling in space. He has firmly fixed an orbit for our planet and upholds it securely in its proper place in our solar system.

    I say the following in love and concern Philip–Jesus said, “Then you can know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” I suggest that in all fairness and respect to the original topic of this blog that you either find another avenue by which to ask endless questions while belittling what others believe, or that you take a course on How to Study the Bible. I care for you and your eternal soul. I pray God will not give up on you and that one day, as Jesus said, the truth will set you free.

  • Philip Koen says:

    Tom: Biblical prophesies? Really? Like Jesus promising that his father will be back before that generation expires, up until now his father did not come back yet, those generation must be quite old now. You can read this story in Mark 13. But the funniest part is this in Mark 13:18 “Pray ye that your flight be not in the winter” So he did not know that when it is winter in one part of the world it is summer in some other parts. Very divining. Just pray that the ending will not be in the winter, what a damn joke.

  • Philip Koen says:

    Jasmine: Historical event, so historical that the Jews do not even believe in Jesus’s birth, that while he was supposed to be born right there on their doorstep. Fascinating! Evidence of a Jesus? Why is there such a debate between historians, theologians and some Christian scholars about Jesus and his existence, his birth out of a virgin etc?

    The Bible tells of this historical event so it is true, just as it must be true that the Earth sits on pillars because the Bible says so. Who was Joseph’s father, was it Jacob or was it Heli, the Bible tells us it was both. Such precision, and that about the son of God. I will expect a little more accuracy on such a subject.

  • Jasmine says:

    Tom: once again I had enjoyed reading your answers. :)

  • Tom Tom says:

    Jasmine–
    Make that “breath” not “breathe”! LOL

  • Tom Tom says:

    Jasmine–
    Thanks for your posts. You are a breathe of fresh air!

  • Tom Tom says:

    Philip–
    Yes, I do grasp the concept of proof. For those who don’t, Webster defines “proof” thus:” the act or process of proving; a testing or trying of something; anything serving or tending to establish the truth of something; conclusive evidence.” Applying this definition to the Bible, the Bible has never been proven wrong by archeology, science, or history. In fact, the Bible has told of people, events, and scientific items, hundreds and sometimes thousands of years before these things were verified from sources outside the Bible. Hundreds of prophecies have been perfectly fulfilled; some even down to giving names and places hundreds of years before the events occurred. While many of the Bible’s prophecies have yet to be fulfilled (many having to do with the end times that are yet to come) NOT ONE SINGLE BIBLICAL PROPHECY HAS EVER BEEN PROVEN FALSE—NOT ONE! If, for example, we apply the same definition of “proof” to the Koran or the Book of Mormon, there are blatant historical and archeological discrepancies, and obvious contradictions which cannot be reconciled.

    I’ll ask you this Philip (although I don’t believe you’ve yet to responded to even one of my questions): just how much “proof” would you require to believe the Bible is a supernatural book and therefore could only have come from the mind of someone beyond humanity? Statistically it has been calculated that the odds against having the nearly 100 Old Testament prophecies about Jesus coming perfectly to fruition in the one person, Jesus Christ, is a number greater than all the atoms in the entire universe. To narrow that down a bit, the odds of having even 8 of those prophecies coming to fruition in Jesus Christ are 1 x 10 to the 58th power. Frankly, with those odds it’s not all that hard for me to have faith in the matter.

    As for the “faith” analogies I gave you, I wasn’t responding that faith never fails someone. The whole point of the argument was to show that people do things everyday that require a certain amount of faith. To answer your question, Yes, I do have enough faith to drive even though I might be killed in an auto accident. My aunt never gained enough faith to even get a driver’s license.

    Remember my writing that your statements contain lots of subjective, but no objective, evidence for your views? I’m giving you objective reasons for my belief. Can you do the same? For instance, you continue to ignore the perfectly reasonable question about why you’re concerned with so many moral issues when you have yet to articulate on what basis you found your beliefs regarding right and wrong, good or bad, and even the ability to “know” anything if there is not an absolutely moral, morals-giver.

  • Jasmine says:

    Names from stories and historical events are two different things. I have faith not only in God, but also in the way mankind would pass down history. Of course you would argue that Jesus was from story book too because you feel that the Bible is a story book.

    Someone had already answered you in details on how did the Bible come about and so I do not think it is a storybook.

  • Philip Koen says:

    Jasmine: So the calendar is your proof that God exists? Ok, you are right. Then I’m sure you also believe in the two faced Roman God of gates because that is where the name January comes from. You surely then also believe in the god of Mars as that is where the name March comes from, April comes from Aphrodite, a Greek goddess. And so it goes on, the same for the names of the days,Sunday, you believe in Ra, the Sun -god, Monday, Moon-god, not forgetting the mighty Thor, the god of thunder, that is where Thursday comes from. Is this proof that all these gods exists? If your answer is no, please explain why not, these names are used all over the world, to use your word, universally.

    The more explanations and proof the funnier it gets.

  • Philip Koen says:

    Tom: With all respect, are you really this dumb or are you trying to be funny? You keep quoting verses from the Bible to prove that God and the Bible is real,do you grasp the concept of proof?

    The Bible says: “The fool has said in his heart, “There is no God”. And because it is in the Bible it is true?

    I will ask you one more time again, why must we believe the Bible and not some other book, why not the Quran for instance? And please, please do not tell me that the Bible says so or quote a verse from the Bible.

    You say:” You drive at 55 MPH on a 2-lane road with only a painted yellow line separating you from oncoming traffic, having faith that other guy won’t encroach on your territory” This is what I mean by illogical arguments, nobody have faith that the other cars will not crash into them. I don’t have that faith and I know that it can happen at any time and that is why I wear a safety belt and drive a car with modern safety features like airbags and crumple zones etc. All this is not a guarantee against injuries or death but it lessens the risk. Don’t use this kind of argument, we are not in grade one. It just shows you how unrealistic faith can be,to believe that the uncoming car will not crash into you. Do you really have that faith? PLEASE ANSWER THIS,DO YOU HAVE THAT FAITH?

    I’m sure there are believers out there that are ashamed of such reasoning as what you are coming up with.

  • Jasmine says:

    Christ is the focal point of history.
    If you say that you are born in 1964, you are saying that you were born nineteen hundred and sixty four years after the birth of Christ. The focal point of time itself is centered on the birth of Christ and is the dividing point of time in world history. The year and abbreviation still originated in the birth of Jesus Christ and that will never change.

  • Jasmine says:

    Thanks Tom for pointing out about what AD really stands for.

  • Tom Tom says:

    Philip—
    It’s becoming obvious you are either not listening or are not really interested in reasonable, logical, legitimate answers to your questions and comments. I’ve already given you several reasons to believe that the Bible is true and is the word of God, but you have ignored them as foolishness.

    You write, “ramblings of humans with ** low standards and morals.” While you can write anything you may like, do you have any LOGICAL arguments or actual evidence why you believe these things? You have a lot of EMOTIONAL opinions, but I’m not finding any logical arguments within them.

    Interesting, isn’t it, that these “ramblings of humans with ** low standards and morals describes those like yourself who doubt, belittle, and ignore the evidence of God? To quote: Psalm 14:1, “The fool has said in his heart, “There is no God.” And another in 1 Corinthians 1:18, “For the word of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.” Romans 1:18ff tells us, “For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men who suppress the truth in unrighteousness, because that which is known about God is evident within them; for God made it evident to them. For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood through what has been made, so that they are without excuse. For even though they knew God, they did not honor Him as God or give thanks, but they became futile in their speculations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Professing to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the incorruptible God for an image in the form of corruptible man and of birds and four-footed animals and crawling creatures.”

    Every human being lives by faith to one degree or another. And typically what determines where a person places their faith is a result of trial and error, numerical odds, or just plain common sense. You make dozens of faith decisions every day Philip. You flip a switch having faith the light will illuminate. You turn a knob having faith water will flow from the spigot. You drive at 55 MPH on a 2-lane road with only a painted yellow line separating you from oncoming traffic, having faith that other guy won’t encroach on your territory. You get on an airplane, even though you know little or nothing about the mechanics of it, have never met the pilot, and don’t know for sure if there’s enough fuel to get you to your destination. The point is, when one OBJECTIVELY investigates the validity of the Bible, the facts speak for themselves. (Google Lee Strobel for example.)

    While I could spend days giving you reasons to trust the Bible (and if you believe what the Bible says is true, you obviously then trust in the God who inspired it and Jesus Christ whom it describes), I’m not sure you’d accept it anyway. Typically that’s because either a person believes God has let them down somehow (which if I’m hearing right is your case), or they CANNOT believe the Bible because that would mean they’d have to admit they are a sinner and that they’d be held accountable for their actions by a Holy, Righteous God.

    I also believe you’re insincere because you write such things as “The revealed word is so full of contradictions, mistakes and absurdities . . .” without giving anything but your subjective opinions.

    I also know you’re not sincere because while we are answering your questions, you are not answering any of ours. To wit—You continue to use words such as “ridiculous” and “low morals” without having any reason to KNOW what is ridiculous or of low morality. Please answer this question: If the God of the Bible does not exist, then where do the preconditions of intelligibility (logic, uniformity, and morality)—the ability to actually KNOW anything—come from?

  • Tom Tom says:

    Jasmine–
    Thanks for your kind words.

    A minor note–A.D. stands for Anno Domini, which is Latin for “The Year of Our Lord,” a reference to Jesus’ birth. I used to think it meant “after death” too until someone asked me “What about the 33 years between his birth and his death?” LOL

  • Jasmine says:

    Dear fellow Christians, just want to share a commentary on 1 Peter 2:8
    “Matthew Henry’s Concise Commentary

    2:1-10 Evil-speaking is a sign of malice and guile in the heart; and hinders our profiting by the word of God. A new life needs suitable food. Infants desire milk, and make the best endeavours for it which they are able to do; such must be a Christian’s desires after the word of God. Our Lord Jesus Christ is very merciful to us miserable sinners; and he has a fulness of grace. But even the best of God’s servants, in this life, have only a taste of the consolations of God. Christ is called a Stone, to teach his servants that he is their protection and security, the foundation on which they are built. He is precious in the excellence of his nature, the dignity of his office, and the glory of his services. All true believers are a holy priesthood; sacred to God, serviceable to others, endowed with heavenly gifts and graces. But the most spiritual sacrifices of the best in prayer and praise are not acceptable, except through Jesus Christ. Christ is the chief Corner-stone, that unites the whole number of believers into one everlasting temple, and bears the weight of the whole fabric. Elected, or chosen, for a foundation that is everlasting. Precious beyond compare, by all that can give worth. To be built on Christ means, to believe in him; but in this many deceive themselves, they consider not what it is, nor the necessity of it, to partake of the salvation he has wrought. Though the frame of the world were falling to pieces, that man who is built on this foundation may hear it without fear. He shall not be confounded. The believing soul makes haste to Christ, but it never finds cause to hasten from him. All true Christians are a chosen generation; they make one family, a people distinct from the world: of another spirit, principle, and practice; which they could never be, if they were not chosen in Christ to be such, and sanctified by his Spirit. Their first state is a state of gross darkness, but they are called out of darkness into a state of joy, pleasure, and prosperity; that they should show forth the praises of the Lord by their profession of his truth, and their good conduct. How vast their obligations to Him who has made them his people, and has shown mercy to them! To be without this mercy is a woful state, though a man have all worldly enjoyments. And there is nothing that so kindly works repentance, as right thoughts of the mercy and love of God. Let us not dare to abuse and affront the free grace of God, if we mean to be saved by it; but let all who would be found among those who obtain mercy, walk as his people.”

  • Philip Koen says:

    To Tom: Please, you say:”Only biblical Christianity is based on a person, Jesus Christ, and what he did for us, not the other way around” Your Bibles tells you that, WHY IS YOUR BIBLE TO BELIEVED? Is it so difficult to grasp the simple idea that to base your belief on the Bible is not proof that your belief is true.

    You again said:”The Bible is the revealed Word of God who created all things and desires for us to know of Him” Is the tale of Little red riding hood real? It must be real because there are thousands of books that tell that story.

    ” This is why you take verses out of context” Yes, of course, use the old refrain if the Bible does not make sense, it is out of context. The revealed word is so full of contradictions, mistakes and absurdities that it must be read in context. The manual of a cheap toy is written better.

  • Philip Koen says:

    To Jasmine: The universal calendar.You base your belief on the “universal calendar? Wow, that is a new one. Like I said before, the more explanations the more bizarre and the more illogical it gets. Do yourself a favour and do some research about calendars and how they started.

    All this explaining, clutching at straws even if it is laughable actually strengthens the idea that this is a fairytale. Anything so absolutely true would be easy to explain and proof with no need to to come up with laughable things.

    So to KNOW that you are right and the calendar are the two proofs so far. Islam uses their own calendar and they KNEW that 9/11 was the right thing to do, see the irony? Why are they wrong and you are right?

  • Philip Koen says:

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  • Jasmine says:

    TOM: thank you for your answer, I learned a lot from it .

  • Jasmine says:

    Just answer this simple question: How do you know that the Bible is the word of the true God and other holy scriptures of other gods are wrong?
    For me, one of the important answer would be the universal calendar was based on Jesus’s death. BC means before Christ and AD after death. That means that was a huge event that had happened before. That means Jesus existed before.

  • dream says:

    Tom. You gave such a good answer! God bless you brother!

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