Comments on: Unthinkable Loss: Miscarriage and Stillbirth http://powertochange.com Sun, 12 Feb 2012 06:28:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: <span class='mentorBadge' title='Jamie is an official Power to Change mentor.' >Jamie</span> http://powertochange.com/discover/faith/miscarriage/comment-page-1/#comment-639596 Jamie Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:57:03 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=7122#comment-639596 Hi Beth, grief is different for each person and for each loss. When someone says 'should' around grief they really don't know what they are talking about. You probably have had an extended grieving period because you have found few places to talk through the loss and pain you have felt. We never really 'get over' the loss of a loved one. We learn to deal with the pain and find ways to function but the loss of that person is never filled. The goal of grieving is not to 'get over' the loss but to be able to fully express our loss and sorrow. The more you are able to examine your hurt with people you respect and trust, the better able you will be to find ways of living with that loss. One of the things that has helped our family through the loss of a child in miscarriage was having the comfort of God in our lives. Knowing that He has a plan even in the middle of very painful circumstances has given us confidence to face life and experience joy and hope. There have been a lot of times that we have been able to support others who have also lost a child so early in their life and we have been able to comfort them with the comfort that we have received from our Father in Heaven. It is helpful to be able to cry together with others who can relate to the experience that you have had. Let me encourage you to find a GriefShare group near to you. GriefShare is a 13 week program that draws together people who are trying to cope with the loss of a loved one. They use great teaching from experts in the field of grief and combine it with the value of a support group sharing personal experiences together. I know you will find it to be very helpful. You should be able to find a group meeting near you by going to their website http://www.griefshare.org/findagroup. Let me also invite you to connect with one of our online mentors. We have people who are great listeners and have very good ideas of ways to move through your grieving process. You will find a Mentor Request Form at http://powertochange.com/experience/talk-to-a-mentor. Lord God I pray for Beth as she mourns the loss of her two daughters. I pray that You would bring comfort into her life and help her walk a path through the grief. I ask that You would bring people in her life that can listen to her hurt and provide words of comfort and guidance for her. Guard her from the hurtful words and expectations of others who are trying to be helpful. Amen. Lord Go I pray Hi Beth, grief is different for each person and for each loss. When someone says ‘should’ around grief they really don’t know what they are talking about. You probably have had an extended grieving period because you have found few places to talk through the loss and pain you have felt.

We never really ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one. We learn to deal with the pain and find ways to function but the loss of that person is never filled. The goal of grieving is not to ‘get over’ the loss but to be able to fully express our loss and sorrow. The more you are able to examine your hurt with people you respect and trust, the better able you will be to find ways of living with that loss.

One of the things that has helped our family through the loss of a child in miscarriage was having the comfort of God in our lives. Knowing that He has a plan even in the middle of very painful circumstances has given us confidence to face life and experience joy and hope. There have been a lot of times that we have been able to support others who have also lost a child so early in their life and we have been able to comfort them with the comfort that we have received from our Father in Heaven. It is helpful to be able to cry together with others who can relate to the experience that you have had.

Let me encourage you to find a GriefShare group near to you. GriefShare is a 13 week program that draws together people who are trying to cope with the loss of a loved one. They use great teaching from experts in the field of grief and combine it with the value of a support group sharing personal experiences together. I know you will find it to be very helpful. You should be able to find a group meeting near you by going to their website http://www.griefshare.org/findagroup. Let me also invite you to connect with one of our online mentors. We have people who are great listeners and have very good ideas of ways to move through your grieving process. You will find a Mentor Request Form at http://powertochange.com/experience/talk-to-a-mentor.

Lord God I pray for Beth as she mourns the loss of her two daughters. I pray that You would bring comfort into her life and help her walk a path through the grief. I ask that You would bring people in her life that can listen to her hurt and provide words of comfort and guidance for her. Guard her from the hurtful words and expectations of others who are trying to be helpful. Amen.

Lord Go I pray

]]> By: beth http://powertochange.com/discover/faith/miscarriage/comment-page-1/#comment-626340 beth Wed, 25 Jan 2012 10:06:47 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=7122#comment-626340 Thank-You for sharing. We lost to daughters to stillbirth Arielle would be 14 and Eden would be 5 I still miss them they were both full-term ,9 month babies. No one understands how i can miss them so much when they never came home.They were still part of me. Why can't people understand? people say i should be over it by now.. should I? no one wants to speak about them when i do... Thank-you again for sharing Thank-You for sharing. We lost to daughters to stillbirth Arielle would be 14 and Eden would be 5 I still miss them they were both full-term ,9 month babies. No one understands how i can miss them so much when they never came home.They were still part of me. Why can’t people understand? people say i should be over it by now.. should I? no one wants to speak about them when i do… Thank-you again for sharing

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