There is also repentance involved and that’s where your part comes in. Perhaps you and your boyfriend will have to agree not to be alone together so that you won’t be tempted. Plan to do things with others, and only when others are alone. No overnight visits for sure…..and definitely no time alone with no one else around.

It is your guilt that is causing you to question God’s forgiveness. God can and does forgive, and then we need to accept that forgiveness and change our behavior. It is only as the Holy Spirit fills us and we allow Him control that our actions will change. Ask Him to fill you up and take control of your life. Check out this article that explains more about this http://powertochange.com/experience/spiritual-growth/start/

Many may be quick to council you on the way to continue in some form of your
effort or a struggle to victory or even just know that you are always a
sinner and can continue to be saved by His grace because His mercy is huge.
This will find you in a place that justifies your sin and other sins will
pop up all over your life. You cannot in any way deal in any form of effort
to gain victory. If that was the case you would have no need of the work
done at Calvary.
This form of council is an insult to Christ our Lord and reduces the
salvation plan to a humanist understanding of our Gospel and there is no
other gospel than this !

what !

Your understanding of our Lord is what leaves you weak in your Christian
walk. My people perish from a lack of understanding/knowledge. You must have
the definition of knowledge first. Listen carefully because this first step
in faith will be too easy you may miss it/ —— KNOWLEDGE is the person of
Christ. Did you get that? The Jews were not confused in why they tried to
kill Jesus, in fact they were very clear. They were killing Jesus because He
was saying that He was ‘God’! Who do you know Him as? He said in many
statements “Before Abraham was, I AM” . If you have a clear knowledge of
this first bit of understanding that Christ is God then you are starting
well.

The woman caught in adultery was in the same situation as you are – what was
her response — Lord — He said go and sin no more.

How easy is it for you to fall into sin – Read James 1:12- 16. You must know
this that any person who has the Spirit can be lured out from His/Her
relationship by the lust of their flesh. If you remain walking in the Spirit
you will not Sin. So does Jesus mean more in your relationship than this
boy? If you hunger for Christ and remain in the vine you will not sin.
Abide in Him. Once you have asked first the Lord to forgive you then by
faith – not by feelings- By faith you will be forgiven. 10 out of 10 times
its just a confession before our holy Lord that you’ve grieved and 1 out of
10 you may need to confess before man. This out of 10 is representative of
importance to our Lord.

If you are in a right standing relationship with Christ you will taste the
victory over all sin and you will know it is Him who keeps you. If he
reveals through a temptation of your continuous failings (sin) then it only
needs for you to take these failings to where it already has been dealt
with – to the CROSS – all power of victory was wrought out their.

Please look at the history of these readings on this sight and you will see
the Truth in what the Lord has spoken and you will see the subtlety of
deception many come under by believing we will always be Sinners.

We are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses. The Lord has given you
victory – have faith in Christ and hunger to be filled more and He will.

Galatians 5:16-18 is used by many to prove they have two natures. They say
“the flesh” is the sin nature, and the Spirit is the new nature. But these
scriptures do not say this. The passage says only that these two, the flesh
and the Spirit, are in opposition to one another.
The flesh and the Spirit are only in opposition to one another when a person
is under the law. The law brings bondage, but the Spirit brings freedom.
Verse 24 tells us, “Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the
flesh with its passions and desires.” If the flesh is the old man or sin
nature, it has been crucified—and that means death. But the flesh is not the
sin nature; it is only the instrument that has been used by sin. Paul says
he was sold into bondage to sin. Man has only one nature—a human nature.
When he has faith that brings him into life, and is cleansed from all sin,
that which makes him sin is changed through the new birth. Man was a wrong
being, and now that he has been born again, he is brought back into proper
relationship and fellowship with God.

Man does not need a “sin nature” to be able to sin. Adam sinned and did not
have a sin nature. It is possible for Christians to sin without having a sin
nature. They can be drawn out of their abiding place in Christ. If their
relationship is as it should be, they are finding fulfillment in Christ, not
in their own desires. If we are properly related to the Lord, we will be
properly related to others and to things. But we can never let this mean
that our desires and imaginations, minds and wills are not set aside for God’s
use only. They must be disciplined by the Spirit as we are exercised to
discern good and evil. There must be a working out of what God has worked in
us.

Paul’s words in Romans 7 and Galatians 5 can never be taken to mean that we
have two natures. In Romans 8 and in Galatians 5:18 we read words to this
effect: “If you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.” When you
are under the law, you may not do the things you please. Romans 7 tells us
that Paul wanted to do good, but could not. But Romans 8:2 tells us, “The
law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has set us free from the law of
sin and of death.”

If Christians are going to rightly understand the seventh chapter of Romans,
God must reveal to them whether this was Paul’s experience as a Christian or
his past life’s experience under the law. This passage has been one of the
problem texts pertaining to the two nature theory. One reason for wrong
understanding is that man is trying to justify his experience, rather than
allowing the Word of God to change him. The attitude we see today should
cause us concern. Christians are trying to make room for sin in their lives,
rather than looking for a way to be free from sin and thus please God as
they walk in faith.

In this time we have too much natural thinking and man-made theology. We
need to get back to God’s way and His working. The reason there is so little
holiness today is that there is so little understanding of what God is doing
and how He is doing it in us. We will never understand God’s ways if we do
not have a personal relationship with Him. Out of this relationship comes
the power to be sons of God and live in His life. Faith brings us into a
vital experience of His life. We are not talking about the “eradification”
or “identification” theories. We are speaking about what happens at new
birth. That which is born out of the Spirit is spirit. We came into the
world at one time in a human body through natural birth. Now if we are going
to have eternal life, we must be born again—not born again in the flesh, but
born again of the Spirit. God’s plan is perfect. He knows what we need to be
made like Him. First we need to be made alive spiritually, and then we need
to live His life by faith—not our life, which is governed by selfishness or
our own passions and desires.

Paul’s desire for the believers was that “God sanctify you entirely. And may
your spirit and soul and body be preserved complete, without blame at the
coining of our Lord Jesus Christ” (I Thess. 5:23). Was this only wishful
thinking on Paul’s part? Paul understood God’s plan and His working, and if
we will seek the kingdom of God and His righteousness, Jesus will become our
wisdom and knowledge. Only when we create a salvation that is separate from
our relationship with Christ do we get into all these theories, which can
never transform us into His image or bring us into full growth in Christ.
God leaves no place for sin or a sin nature in His new creation.

I Peter 2:24 says, “He himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, that
we might die to sin and live to righteousness.” Those who hold to the two
nature theory must see there was nothing that God could do to cause the old
creation to fulfill His purpose. There had to be a new creation. Jesus said
that you cannot put new wine in old wineskins—or both will be lost. We are a
new creation in Christ Jesus. There is no place for any of the old in the
new. We just need to “sanctify Christ as Lord in our hearts” (I Peter 3:15).

A proper understanding of law and grace would throw light on this area of
our walk in Christ. Many say they are free, but they continue to battle,
flesh against Spirit, because they are under the law. But Romans 7 says we
died in Christ to the law, that we might be free to be joined to another.
The law was our tutor to lead us to Christ, that we now may be justified by
faith. Paul says we now are more than conquerors in Christ Jesus.

Paul tells us in Galatians 1:11 that the gospel he preaches is not according
to man. He goes further in II Corinthian 7:1, and tells us to cleanse
ourselves from all that can defile flesh or spirit, and in the fear of God
to complete our consecration. This would not be possible if we had two
natures. Paul further says in II Corinthians 6:16, “What agreement has the
temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God!” How can
this be possible in reality if what many say (that they still have a sin
nature) is true? What contradiction and belittling of this great salvation!

Our bodies are not our natures. Emotions, mind and will are not our natures.
When we were in sin we lived in the lusts of our flesh, indulging the
desires of the flesh and of the mind. We were, by nature, children of wrath,
but because of God’s mercy and love, when we were dead in our
transgressions, He made us alive together with Christ (Eph. 1:3-5). Paul
goes on to say in Ephesians 2:10, “We are His workmanship…”

The Scripture tells us to put off the old man, and put on the new man. If
the old man were the sin nature, we would not be able to put it off, nor
could we put on the new man if it were the new nature. The old, or sin
nature is only a theory , which seemingly allows the believer to live in a
condition other than utter dependence on Christ. Because ‘of this, he lives
with a battle going on continuously.

I John 1:7 does not teach the need of a continual cleansing from continual
sin: “If we continue to sin, we do not know Him.” Verses 8 and 10 are not
speaking to Christians, but to those who said they had no sin or had not
sinned, and had no need of forgiveness. John tells them, in the 9th verse,
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins
and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” The scripture tells us that He
will cleanse us from all unrighteousness, but many have been taught that
this doesn’t mean what it says.

Many sincere brothers who have been used by God have had little
understanding in the area of our personal holiness; thus they have gone off
to justify their natural thinking and have come up with many theories which
can never bring them to a place of faith. Faith must hear God. When man
creates one false theory he usually ends up having to back it up with many
other false theories. The truth sets us free to walk in the Spirit and do
His will.

II Peter 1 :3 tells us, “His divine power has granted to us everything
pertaining to life and godliness.” The following verses go on to reveal to
us the outworking of our life in God as we “apply all diligence… “ This is
not a struggle but a rest, a walk in relationship with Christ, as we allow
Christ to work in us and through us. It is from our relationship with Him
that all the manifestations of His divine nature are revealed in and through
us.

Paul said, “I have been crucified with Christ (that is the old Paul).” He
went on to say, “…the life which I now live in the flesh (this is the new
Paul) I live by faith in the Son of God…” Then he said, “I do not nullify
the grace of God; for if righteousness comes through the law, then Christ
died needlessly” (Gal. 2:21). We can see that most of the scriptures used to
support the two nature theory would put the Christian right back under the
law, if viewed in this way.

We need to seek God for understanding, that we might not nullify the grace
of God, but be spiritual. We need to stop allowing ourselves to be taught by
men with natural minds and natural understanding. This is not possible until
we can recognize the word of God flowing through spiritual brethren. “The
natural man received not the things of God. He cannot even know God’s ways
or His working…” (I Cor. 2:14 RSV).

The salvation that is being preached today allows for sin, but the gospel of
the New Testament gives no place for the Christian to practice sin. Man does
have a human body, but that is not a sin nature. If it were, we would have
to say that Christ had a sin nature because He had a body like ours. But
Christ did not have a sin nature. We must conclude that the “nature” is not
the body. Christ also had a mind, emotions, and a will, and they all were
set aside for the Father’s will to be done through. So we must also conclude
that the mind, emotions and will are not a sin nature, in Christ or in us.

Christ had a human nature, but this was not a sin nature. We also have a
human nature, and it is not a sin nature. The human nature has only been
used to express the sin which was in us because we were sinners. Our bodies
and souls controlled us when we were sinners, but if we are in Christ, we
are being controlled by the Spirit.

We pray that these truths will set you free from past theories and give you
new confidence in your Christian walk.

Loving regards, In Christ

A brother concerned for the deceived ones (who are in Christ but may be part
of the falling away)

2 Thes 2:1-9

We also have examples of New Testament saints who fell in sin. Paul tells of the time he had to rebuke Peter for being two faced, only eating with Gentiles when other Jews weren’t around. Paul himself had the argument with Barnabas over John Mark and his usefulness in ministry. Later we see that Paul repented of his critical spirit and found that John Mark was useful to his ministry (Acts 15:37-39; 2Timothy 4:11) Much of the letters in the New Testament include admonitions to followers of Jesus for the sin that they have in their lives.

Don’t get me wrong, no where will you find consolation for sin. Sin is wrong and followers of Jesus are always told to strive to live under the control of the Spirit so that they do not sin. Never do we read, “I know you sinned but don’t worry about it.” Instead we are told to confess our sins and repent. So I understand why you would also want to join that chorus and encourage followers of Jesus to walk in the Spirit to have victory over sin. But to say that our sinful nature no longer exists or no longer has influence on us is not accurate and not helpful. It is true that we are no longer controlled by our sinful nature but we are still prone to its influence. That will only be dealt with completely when we come face to face with God and in the blink of an eye we will be changed into our glorified, incorruptible self, to the glory of God.

Does that make sense to you? Have you accepted Jesus’ offer of forgiveness?

Lord God I pray for Jeanne as she goes through these dark days. I pray that Your light would shine into her life and rescue her from the thoughts of killing herself. I pray that You would help her to know how much You love her and that You have a perfect plan for her life. Give her strength and comfort right now Lord. Bring people into her life who will speak Your truth and love and help her to get a brighter perspective on life. In the power of Jesus name, amen.