You are right Frank, I know people who have overcome some very difficult addictions without God in their life at all. But having God is more than just a bonus; you see the promise of God is that He not only helps you conquer the weak areas of life but He washes away the mess you have made from your past choices. You can stop getting off on porn but how do you are still weighed down by the fact that it has controlled you for so many years. Jesus invitation to you is, “Come to me all of you who are weary weighed down and I will give you rest.” He is not only promising freedom for today but freedom from all of your past. That’s a pretty good bonus, don’t you think?!

Your Good Shepherd has a path for you to walk and He will clearly direct you in those steps. Your job is not to try and figure out what that path is but only to focus your attention on the Good Shepherd’s direction and follow where He leads. He will speak to you through your reading of the Bible; He will speak to you through your time in prayer alone with Him; He will speak to you as you interact with Him all day long, looking to Him for direction in all your activities and contacts with people; He will speak to you through your conversations with other believers; His voice is speaking to you always. Your job is to listen and obey.

I have found this pattern an incredibly restful way to live. I know what I need to do; there is no more uncertainty or confusion. I focus my efforts on hearing the Good Shepherd speak to me. The more I get familiar with His voice the more I realize my life is full of Him speaking to me. If I ask for direction but don’t get any clarity on what that is, I wait; He will let me know what to do exactly at the right time. When I do act I have the confidence that no matter what the outcome, He was directing me so I don’t get caught up in second guessing or feeling guilty for making a situation worse. Sometimes He directs me to say hard things to people and they don’t respond well to the critique; but if I was following His direction rather than my own agenda I trust that He knows what is best and He will make that happen in His perfect timing.

It’s like a good football player–always listen to the coach and do what he says. The coach is getting information from all over and he has a specific game plan that he thinks will lead the team to victory. If every player has their own game plan the team will crumble into chaos. But when every player is focused on following the game plan of the coach with each carrying out the role they have been given amazing things start to happen. The great thing about our Coach is that His game plan is perfect. We don’t have to figure out our own game plan but just focus our efforts on hearing from the coach and carrying out His direction. You know the victory is guaranteed.

Lord God, I thank You that You are our Good Shepherd. I pray that Liz becomes more and more skilled at hearing Your voice and that Your Spirit would empower her to follow where You lead. She is at the end of her rope in this marriage and she needs to know what You want her to do to help her husband be set free from slavery to pornography and sexual infidelity. Speak clearly to her; bring godly counsel into her life and give her the confidence that she is walking in Your path that You planned long ago for her to walk in. And heal her husband. Restore this marriage to become a union that You intend and nurture their love so that they both thrive and experience the fullness of life that You have promised. Guard their child/children from the hurt of broken marriage and the destructive choices of their father. I pray all of this in the powerful name of Jesus, amen.

I hear your pain, it must be so hard. I don’t know if this means divorce, but if you would like someone to talk to about this problem we offer free and confidential mentoring. You would be matched with a mentor that has gone through what you are experiencing and will be able to give you wisdom to walk this journey. Just click the link if you want a mentor: http://powertochange.com/discover/talk-to-a-mentor/

Sincerely,

Leah

It may require tough love on your part as if you allow the use of porn to continue they will think they can get away with it. The hurt or problem has to be faced and if you sit back and hope change will occur as long as he is in love with his computer more than you nothing changes. If you pray earnestly about the situation and ask Christ through the holy spirit to show what you should do then he will reveal it to you. You will never change anyone only the holy spirit can and it is by his guidance that you will be able to know what to do. Many people say I don’t know what to do in this situation however the answer is in the Bible in John 8: 32 Then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free. Ask Christ to show you the truth and he will do so.

If the trust has been broken and you feel strongly that you can’t trust then daily pray and read the scriptures with him and ask directly if there has been porn involved. Give it to God as you as a person can not handle the stress as you will go crazy and become worn out. Satan wants to destroy a marriage and all marriages can be saved through Christ. I understand that trust has to be rebuilt however if there is no spiritual change for both spouses it is impossible. A person addicted to porn has three choices to rid themselves of this.
1. Ask Christ to forgive
2. Seek an accountable partner via mentor online with truth media
3. To continue the relationship they must attend sex addiction counseling which can be occur in a number of ways. Either physically attending to see a psychologist who is a christian on a one to one basis. Or contact a Church like Saddleback that lists a spiritual group that deals with addiction.

Pray earnestly and seek Chirsts guidance through the holy spirit that is the most important thing and wait for his answer.

God Bless