In a World where Women Outnumber Men
I am a typical woman living in the modern 21st century. Though I admit being a woman is no easy task, I’m proud to be one, and thank God for giving me this opportunity.
Why do I say that being a woman is difficult? Whether single or married, all women face challenges. It can appear to be in a no-win situation. Single women can focus on their careers, make the big money and enjoy their freedom. Married women have the security of a life partner and are more likely to have children. However both groups of women have to make sacrifices for the life they choose.
For single women, age can become an issue. Once a single woman reaches 30 friends may start to be concerned and try to play matchmaker. Others may draw unfair conclusions about the woman’s character. Single women may feel lonely, become self-centered or avoid social activities. Singles often face the pressure of what someone else thinks their life should be like. “Why aren’t you married yet?” can become a frequently asked question.
Is getting married the answer? Is finding Mr. Right and getting married all it takes to have a happy life? It is only that simple in fairytales. In the real world, the journey has just begun. Marrid women struggle just as much as singles, it is just a different struggle. Marriage does not automatically translate into happiness. An excellent marriage is the result of persistent hard work and sacrifices on both sides. While single women have to fight loneliness and be patient, married women often sacrifice their freedom for their family. In some ways, it doesn’t sound very appealing either way.
Single’s Appeal
Single ladies can indeed live a fulfilling and joyful life, as long as they chose not to let society’s definition of marriage dictate their life. Singles can live confidently with high self-esteem, stand tall and firm regardless of the label society puts on them. They can get along with family and friends and find plenty of love to go around. This kind of single lady is very attractive. She can enjoy God’s magnificent work and all the people and things that came with it. Being single is a blessing, and it is not for everyone. So for the rest of us, being married is the only other alternative.
Why should I get married?
Every woman must ask themselves a critical question before getting married. That is, “Why am I getting married?” Regrettably, many women get married for the “wrong” reasons, and then get divorced for all the “right” reasons. Marriage is not a magic key to happiness. It will not instantly make a woman feel “complete”. Married women can get lonely too. It has often been said that being married to the wrong person is much worse than being single. Being married to the right person takes work, but is worth the effort.
Every woman needs to be loved. When a woman has God’s love inside of her heart, her life will be special indeed. God’s love is one thing that will never change, it is unconditional. If a woman does not know God’s love she may become frustrated trying to find unconditional love in another person, whether married or single. Humans are not perfect and so cannot love perfectly. Even the very best husband or wife will struggle at times. But God’s love does not change. He doesn’t love us because of who we are or what we do, he loves us because of who he is and what he has done for us.
You have the right to choose a joyful life
There was a Christian band that visited Phoenix from Taiwan a few years ago. They understood God’s unchanging love and it was clearly reflected in their beautiful voices and smiles. It was hard to believe that they were blind. I thought that their lives would be tragic because they could not see the beautiful things around them and had to struggle with simple things that I took for granted. I wondered how hard it would be to live in a world that was always dark.
After the concert, the church members invited them to visit the Grand Canyon. To be honest, I was skeptical about what they would get out of the trip, since they couldn’t see anything. Afterwards, I asked them about it. To my amazement, they clearly described their experience. They took notice of things I had never stopped to consider, even though I visited there many times with my “good” eyesight. Their experience of the Grand Canyon was different than mine but it was not a lesser experience simply because they could not see.
The Future is in your own hands
Every woman has the right to choose to live in wonderful life. It doesn’t matter if you are single or married, what some would consider beautiful or not. Nothing should get in the way of building your own dream and making it into reality. Avoid placing blame on others and accept the reality of where you are. God loves each and every one of us. Everyone can choose to live a fulfilling and significant life.
Regardless of whether or not you feel loved today the truth is that God does love you. He always has and he always will. There is a verse in the Bible that says that God has loved us with an everlasting love. One translation of the Bible puts it this way “God said: I’ve always loved you and I’ll never stop. Expect love, love and more love.” (Jeremiah 31:3). You can experience this type of love today. You don’t have to wait until you are married, or until you are happier with your situation, you can find this love today.
What would your life look like if you could start over with a clean slate? No one can be perfect, or have a perfect life. But every one of us has the opportunity to experience perfect grace and unconditional love through a personal relationship with God through His Son, Jesus Christ.
You can receive Christ right now by faith through prayer. Praying is simply talking to God. God knows your heart and is not so concerned with your words as He is with the attitude of your heart. Here’s a suggested prayer:
Lord Jesus, I want to know you personally. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. I open the door of my life to you and ask you to come in as my Savior and Lord. Take control of my life. Thank you for forgiving my sins and giving me eternal life. Make me the kind of person you want me to be.
Does this prayer express the desire of your heart? You can pray it right now, and Jesus Christ will come into your life, just as He promised.
Is this the life for you?
If you invited Christ into your life, thank God often that He is in your life, that He will never leave you and that you have eternal life. As you learn more about your relationship with God, and how much He loves you, you’ll experience life to the fullest.
