I’m overweight and self-conscious
I’ve been with the same man for about eight years now. He was my first boyfriend and now we’re married. I’m overweight and I feel like I’m a nobody. Our love life has gone downhill. I feel like I can never satisfy him and when we do have intercourse it has to be very dark. Sometimes I don’t want him touching me because I’m fat. He says that it doesn’t bother him that I’m fat but he’s always looking at skinny women and watching porn.
Advice: It sounds as though you are the one having a problem with your weight, so it has to be you to decide what to do about it. Either way, you should take counseling, to find out why you eat things you know aren’t good for you, or just to get help learning about food and which foods you should be eating. What other interesting things do you have in your life? Many women work hard to make their bodies look trim and any of us looking at that body is not sin. If it’s a compulsion and he doesn’t want to spend time with you, then yes that would be something to look into. Do you attend a woman’s group? You can get a lot of support from a group of loving church women.
