What happens to the soul after suicide?

Written by Lynette Hoy NCC, LCPC

soulsuicideWhat happens to one’s soul/spirit after suicide?I recently had a close friend commit suicide and I am so worried that she will still not be at peace with herself. She had an anxiety disorder due to a troubled childhood and although she loved life, her friends, and her family, she just could not be independent as she could not relax.

We struggled together with this for so long. She was a creative and loving individual who had traveled much and lived away from us for a few years, so she had known independence. She feared for her sanity – she explained to me that she wanted to die because she actually did love herself and the constant thoughts going through her head would eventually turn into madness. I dearly love her and couldn’t bear to think that she will eternally go through this struggle. I am searching within myself to find meaning in my loss.

Advice: It’s obvious that you were and are a very close and loving friend. You have suffered with your friend right up to the end and beyond. You cared about her welfare, her emotional and spiritual state. But, now this tragedy has occurred and no matter what you or anyone tried to do – she has passed into eternity.

First of all, I want to tell you that your friend’s suicide and death was not anyone’s fault. Her suicide was the result of her choice and her psychological instability. Don’t let false guilt and self-blame take over. You and others tried to help. But, this woman is the one who made the choice despite all your pleadings and intervention.

Secondly, you need to grieve your friend’s death. You will go through several stages of loss: shock and denial, protest and dealing with the reality of her death, anger, confusion, depression and finally, reorganization. It’s normal to grieve. It’s important to care for yourself. You may need counseling. Go to your pastor for prayer and support. Read your Bible, especially the Psalms and the gospel of John. Jesus talks about God’s love for you and for the world, His plan to give you eternal life (John 3:16) and abundant life (John 10:10). Scripture will bring you comfort and hope for the future – hope for eternity.

The Bible does have stories about people who committed suicide but, it doesn’t talk about where their souls went – to heaven or to hell. But, Jesus promised: “I am the resurrection and the life – he who believes in me though he may die – yet shall he live.” John 11:25 If your friend trusted in Christ as her Lord and Savior – she is in heaven today. How do I know? Because Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life. No man comes to the Father but by me.” John 14:6

Jesus claimed to be God, to speak the truth and the words of God. He died on the cross for the sins of the whole world and then, rose from the dead on the their day. Over 500 witnesses saw the resurrected Christ!
Because of these facts – you can have great hope for the future! You can trust that Christ loved your friend greatly and will judge her justly.

Suicide is a devastating experience to those who loved its victim. Suicide happens because the person is so depressed and has not received the appropriate treatment – mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.

But, suicide, though a sin, can be forgiven – at the foot of the cross where all sin is wiped away when one believes in the Savior who sacrificed Himself to redeem the world.

You will never feel comfortable with what happened. A life was lost. But, you can trust that God can bring good out of this circumstance. God can become more personal to you in this time of suffering. God can give you courage and make you a person of character with strong values. God can demonstrate His love and comfort to you during your pain. God can give you more wisdom to help others who have suffered.

This world is a broken place – a place that is not our home. We are just passing through. Your friend could not stand the emotional and mental turmoil she experienced. But, you can. You and God can go on.

She ended her stay on earth and God allowed her to do it. He did not cause her to do it because He is not the author of evil. He does allow people to make choices which are against His will. But, you can find hope and courage to discover God’s will for your earthly life. You can leave a legacy that will give others hope for tomorrow and for eternity.

If you find you are depressed and anxious because of this – see a counselor. You can find a counselor. God bless you as you discover what He has in store for you even in the midst of this loss.

Take a look at your life. How would you describe it? Contented? Rushed? Exciting? Stressful? Moving forward? Holding back? For many of us it’s all of the above at times. There are things we dream of doing one day, there are things we wish we could forget. In the Bible, it says that Jesus came to make all things new.

What would your life look like if you could start over with a clean slate?

Living with hope

If you are looking for peace, there is a way to balance your life. No one can be perfect, or have a perfect life. But every one of us has the opportunity to experience perfect grace through a personal relationship with God through His Son, Jesus Christ.

You can receive Christ right now by faith through prayer. Praying is simply talking to God. God knows your heart and is not so concerned with your words as He is with the attitude of your heart. Here’s a suggested prayer:

Lord Jesus, I want to know you personally. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. I open the door of my life to you and ask you to come in as my Savior and Lord. Take control of my life. Thank you for forgiving my sins and giving me eternal life. Make me the kind of person you want me to be.

Does this prayer express the desire of your heart? You can pray it right now, and Jesus Christ will come into your life, just as He promised.

Is this the life for you?

If you invited Christ into your life, thank God often that He is in your life, that He will never leave you and that you have eternal life. As you learn more about your relationship with God, and how much He loves you, you’ll experience life to the fullest.

Read more about faith
Read more about depression, anxiety, and fear
Read about grieving
Read more about suicide

Lynette Hoy, NCC, LCPC

© copyright 2003 Lynette Hoy, NCC, LCPC



412 Responses to “What happens to the soul after suicide?”

  • dream says:

    Linda Walker… It seems like you are under evil attack. The spirit if suicide and depression is attacking you. I know that women are more sensitive and feeling sad more but being under constant sadness, depression and suicidal thoughts is showing that there is a demon activity. Evil wants to destroy you. Resist him in the name of Jesus and command him to go away. Allow your pastor and other Christian pray over you, try to fast and read the Bible. Ask Holy Spirit go fill you. God is good and he wants to help you. Worship and praise him.

  • Linda Walker says:

    I am a Christian and I love and trust Jesus. I’ve been gping through bouts of depression and suicidal thoughts/attempts all of my life. My last suicide attempt was 25 years ago. It has been very hard living while constantly battling self-degrading thoughts. I managed to live this long by trusting Jesus, but I have been out of work on disability for 7 years because of mental and physical problems. My children are grown and live out of state. I don’t feel that I am fulfilling a purpose. I feel unloved as I always have. I’m lonely and I feel like I deserve every bit of this. I am really tired. My mother committed suicide also.

  • whoknows says:

    where was god or christ when this person obviously needed him most. its disgusting. i don’t want to live. i didn’t ask for any of this, i would love to commit suicide.i pray to die above anything else many times everyday for over a year. i don’t want my family to suffer hardship from a suicide. i would appreciate any ideas to make it look like an accident.. i tried hitting a ditch crossing doing 55 no seat belt. i walked away with just a sore neck and a bad concussion from my totaled vehicle. :-( . i just can’t think of another good way, and i don’t want to destroy another usable family vehicle.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Kenny, have you talked to anyone about your fears of schizophrenia? How old are you?

    I want you to know that no one deserves to go to Heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross; as God, His death paid the penalty for our sin. By trusting in His sacrifice on our behalf we will be welcomed into Heaven because of what He has done.

  • Chris says:

    yakai….sorry to hear you struggling in life….this world can be a scary place, especially without the help of the one who created us, God himself. with God on our side and living within us, we can exerience his love and courage to overcome anything that might come our way. if you would like to know how to have a personal relationship with the One who made you, log onto knowingjesuspersonally.com or click talk to a mentor above. i am praying now that jesus christ would come into your heart as you open it to him and give you his peace that you so greatly need. bless you!

  • Kenny Tang says:

    I don’t want my life anymore. I’ve been suffering from non-stop evilness thoughts in my mind since September 2014. Alao, I have a nonstop mind for 3 years already. I’m pretty sure that I have schizophrenia, so basically my life has gone terrible forever. The thing that I’m worried about committing suicide is that I will go to hell apparently because I have unforgiveness. I also think of killing people that I hate because I get bullied by them everytime. For the bad stuff I’ve done, I don’t think I deserve to go to heaven. I’ve swore more than 1,000 times. I just choose not to forgive my enemies. Please help.

  • Praying for Yakai says:

    Yakai I was going through this website watching videos and I came across your comment. I don’t know where you are in the world or what exactly you’re struggling with (or how long you’ve been struggling with it) but I knew immediately I wanted to pray for you.

    God, I pray that you would help Yakai. I pray that you would replace their fear with a feeling of peace and that you would give them something to hold on to. A hope for the future. Strength to face another day. A person in their day to day life to come beside them and envelop them in love. Yakai is fearfully and wonderfully made and I pray that they would realize this and have faith that you are not finished with them yet in this world. Love, encourage and lift up Yakai, Lord. Amen.

    Yakai – Elkay posted some numbers you can call just to talk or seek out hope. I pray you take the chance and reach out.

  • Yakai says:

    I am afraid of the living, I want to end it all but I am afraid of the dead… I don’t know what to do anymore I have nothing to hold on to please help me suffice myself or stop this struggle.. please

  • Sharon says:

    to p joseph– I am sorry you want to end this life and your struggle in life depression is a sad thing to have I had it years ago but God healed me from it. have you considered phoning 1 800 suicide in Canada and the US I don’t know where you are at and talk to a person about ending life I am praying for you may God be with you at this time– I am praying for Christians to come along your path to encourage you– sharon

  • P Joseph says:

    Ive been suffing my whole life with depression and poverty. Got anxiety so bad I dont even leave my room unless its for food or restroom. Now that Im certain Christ will be there for me I am ready to finally leave my suffering behind. I have no hope, no goals, no friends, and a family that doesnt understand depression. Life sucks here on earth. Cant wait to see Jesus :) Thanks for this article.

  • Elkay says:

    Afraid, it sounds like you are really feeling upset about something. Is it more than your family or being tired. How long has this been going on, or is it recent?

    Did you read this article? Will you now consider taking a step towards life? A step towards rebuilding your life? A step to reach out for help? Refuse to believe the lies you have been telling yourself. Lies that life is hopeless, you are worthless and you have no future.

    I’m here to tell you that your life has a future and a hope. I have seen so many people get help and go on to enjoy a better life! Everyone is created for the purpose of partnering with God to, in some way, shape or form, cultivate a flourishing human society. He God planned good works for every one of us before we were even born . . . search that out . . . live richly!

    Jamie earlier listed these emergency phone lines that might help right away:
    Dial 911 in Canada and USA
    1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) USA & Canada
    1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) USA-National
    Hearing impaired call 1-800-799-4TTY (1-800-799-4889) USA
    Centerstone (Suicide Crisis Call Center) 1-800-273-TALK (8255) USA

    I hope that I have been able to talk you out of harming yourself. Please contact someone for help. Call the numbers above or a pastor, see a counselor, a friend, your doctor. We have mentors who are freely available to help and they will get back to you if you hit the Talk to a Mentor button at the top right and briefly described your situation. Take a step towards life and hope now.

  • Afraid says:

    Help help, for some reason today fella like the day. I’m so tired I know my family would be okay without me.

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