What happens to the soul after suicide?

Written by Lynette Hoy NCC, LCPC

soulsuicideWhat happens to one’s soul/spirit after suicide?I recently had a close friend commit suicide and I am so worried that she will still not be at peace with herself. She had an anxiety disorder due to a troubled childhood and although she loved life, her friends, and her family, she just could not be independent as she could not relax.

We struggled together with this for so long. She was a creative and loving individual who had traveled much and lived away from us for a few years, so she had known independence. She feared for her sanity – she explained to me that she wanted to die because she actually did love herself and the constant thoughts going through her head would eventually turn into madness. I dearly love her and couldn’t bear to think that she will eternally go through this struggle. I am searching within myself to find meaning in my loss.

Advice: It’s obvious that you were and are a very close and loving friend. You have suffered with your friend right up to the end and beyond. You cared about her welfare, her emotional and spiritual state. But, now this tragedy has occurred and no matter what you or anyone tried to do – she has passed into eternity.

First of all, I want to tell you that your friend’s suicide and death was not anyone’s fault. Her suicide was the result of her choice and her psychological instability. Don’t let false guilt and self-blame take over. You and others tried to help. But, this woman is the one who made the choice despite all your pleadings and intervention.

Secondly, you need to grieve your friend’s death. You will go through several stages of loss: shock and denial, protest and dealing with the reality of her death, anger, confusion, depression and finally, reorganization. It’s normal to grieve. It’s important to care for yourself. You may need counseling. Go to your pastor for prayer and support. Read your Bible, especially the Psalms and the gospel of John. Jesus talks about God’s love for you and for the world, His plan to give you eternal life (John 3:16) and abundant life (John 10:10). Scripture will bring you comfort and hope for the future – hope for eternity.

The Bible does have stories about people who committed suicide but, it doesn’t talk about where their souls went – to heaven or to hell. But, Jesus promised: “I am the resurrection and the life – he who believes in me though he may die – yet shall he live.” John 11:25 If your friend trusted in Christ as her Lord and Savior – she is in heaven today. How do I know? Because Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life. No man comes to the Father but by me.” John 14:6

Jesus claimed to be God, to speak the truth and the words of God. He died on the cross for the sins of the whole world and then, rose from the dead on the their day. Over 500 witnesses saw the resurrected Christ!
Because of these facts – you can have great hope for the future! You can trust that Christ loved your friend greatly and will judge her justly.

Suicide is a devastating experience to those who loved its victim. Suicide happens because the person is so depressed and has not received the appropriate treatment – mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.

But, suicide, though a sin, can be forgiven – at the foot of the cross where all sin is wiped away when one believes in the Savior who sacrificed Himself to redeem the world.

You will never feel comfortable with what happened. A life was lost. But, you can trust that God can bring good out of this circumstance. God can become more personal to you in this time of suffering. God can give you courage and make you a person of character with strong values. God can demonstrate His love and comfort to you during your pain. God can give you more wisdom to help others who have suffered.

This world is a broken place – a place that is not our home. We are just passing through. Your friend could not stand the emotional and mental turmoil she experienced. But, you can. You and God can go on.

She ended her stay on earth and God allowed her to do it. He did not cause her to do it because He is not the author of evil. He does allow people to make choices which are against His will. But, you can find hope and courage to discover God’s will for your earthly life. You can leave a legacy that will give others hope for tomorrow and for eternity.

If you find you are depressed and anxious because of this – see a counselor. You can find a counselor. God bless you as you discover what He has in store for you even in the midst of this loss.

Take a look at your life. How would you describe it? Contented? Rushed? Exciting? Stressful? Moving forward? Holding back? For many of us it’s all of the above at times. There are things we dream of doing one day, there are things we wish we could forget. In the Bible, it says that Jesus came to make all things new.

What would your life look like if you could start over with a clean slate?

Living with hope

If you are looking for peace, there is a way to balance your life. No one can be perfect, or have a perfect life. But every one of us has the opportunity to experience perfect grace through a personal relationship with God through His Son, Jesus Christ.

You can receive Christ right now by faith through prayer. Praying is simply talking to God. God knows your heart and is not so concerned with your words as He is with the attitude of your heart. Here’s a suggested prayer:

Lord Jesus, I want to know you personally. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. I open the door of my life to you and ask you to come in as my Savior and Lord. Take control of my life. Thank you for forgiving my sins and giving me eternal life. Make me the kind of person you want me to be.

Does this prayer express the desire of your heart? You can pray it right now, and Jesus Christ will come into your life, just as He promised.

Is this the life for you?

If you invited Christ into your life, thank God often that He is in your life, that He will never leave you and that you have eternal life. As you learn more about your relationship with God, and how much He loves you, you’ll experience life to the fullest.

Read more about faith
Read more about depression, anxiety, and fear
Read about grieving
Read more about suicide

Lynette Hoy, NCC, LCPC

© copyright 2003 Lynette Hoy, NCC, LCPC



265 Responses to “What happens to the soul after suicide?”

  • Chris Chris Landwerlen says:

    vava….since the bible doesnt teach on suicide we should be careful not to either. jesus did say all sin was forgiveable so we wouldnt assume that suicide alone would condemn the person, however rejecting christ as savior and lord has no remedy. John 3.16. blessings!

  • Vava says:

    The soul goes somewhere like a hospital, on the other side, to allow aspects of it to reintegrate.

  • Chris Chris Landwerlen says:

    Tyler…we understand that counsels are made up of men but the Word of God is divinely inspired. both the Trinity and jesus divinity can be found in any number of old and new testament passages including isa 7.14 with 9.6 where the messiah is describes as being God with us and the father of eternity. micah 5.2 confirms that also. call his name jesus, for he will save his people from their sins, Matthew 1.21 to 23. only the divine Emmanuel can be trusted for the salvation of our souls. blessings!

  • halbcust says:

    To Tyler,

    In Ephesians chapter 3 (and other places) it says that it is a mystery. We are supposed to figure it out from what he thought, said and did. Now if a mystery says that there is a bird, it has webbed feet, it quacks, is colorful, swims allot and waddles when it walks. Does one have to be told that it’s a duck?

  • Rashid says:

    Through my little knowledge I can say Jesus is Holy spirit I don’t have courage to say He is God or not but He is part of love of God dream I am happy I know in my heart that life he has it is example for us. I hope I learn more and show him my love. One day my dream going to be full filled in Jesus name Amen

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    You are right Tyler that we do not have recorded Jesus saying the words, “I am God”, but the things He did say certainly let us know that is exactly what He was saying. Jesus said, “I and the Father are one.” (John 10:30) Those who heard Him knew what He was saying, “you, being a man, make yourself God.” (John 10:33) Another similar situation was when Jesus said, “Before Abraham was, I am.” Again the people who heard Him knew that He was referring to Himself as the One in Exodus 3:14 who said “I am who I am” which became the Name that God used for Himself “I am” or in Hebrew “YHWH”. Jesus claims the authority to forgive sins which only God can do (Mark 2:5-12) He tells His followers that to see Him is to see God the Father (John 14:9)

    First Century Christians also recognized Jesus as divine. Peter wrote, “by the righteousness of our God and Saviour Jesus Christ” (2Peter 1:1). Paul used a similar title in his letter to Titus (2:3) as did Jude in his letter (1:4). Luke recorded Paul’s statement to the leaders in the Ephesian church “care for the church of God, which he obtained with his own blood.” (Acts 20:28)

    If Jesus was not God then His death would not have been sufficient to pay the penalty for the sin of the whole world. Humanity’s rebellion against God brought on us infinite guilt, because our sin is against Him who is of infinite value. Because Jesus is God, His death has infinite effectiveness to cover all of our sin. Anyone who accepts His sacrifice on our behalf receives new life in Jesus.

    So do you have evidence that Jesus was not God? How do you interpret these passages that talk about Jesus as God?

  • Shelley Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord if lift up my friends to you at this time in there lives, that You will bless them beyond measure and under Your leadership and love to them in Jesus name Amen

  • Rashid says:

    Tyler It is seems you are well read which is very good I hope I was. I believe Jesus is Holy spirit.if you read the story of entire His family and His that alone make me believe on Him.He was just Born and people talk about His mother He spoke that His mother is pure.so that show He is not like us. Thank you please pray for me God bless me He knows what I want Amen

  • Tyler says:

    “Jesus claimed to be God..” he certainly DID NOT ! The trinity resulted from the Council of Nicea in 325 AD. First century Christians were Jews who believed in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. The concept of the trinity, Sunday worship and bunnies with eggs at Easter soiled Christian beliefs that were introduced by emperor Constantine and his blasphemous clergy. There is no Christological evidence to support your statement that Jesus claimed to be God.

  • Chris Chris Landwerlen says:

    rashid…i pray jesus leads you in your spiritual journey as he guides and directs you with his lordship and sovereignty, you cant lose. amen. blessings!

  • Rashid says:

    First of all is important to pray every not for God guidence. I believe you are very good heart person and you earn good living thanks to Mighty God. Most important thing is your child I know I have children how important is your support in every level his life.that will be only accomplish if you keep earning money for him until he go to start making good money that feeling alone will give you happiness.please love only work from two side one side love is not love that what I believe I went through similer situation about wife but now I teach my self I cannot control other to love the way I want but I can control my heart.pl. if wife don’t love you then let it go and you are good man you need person who equally love you there is plenty women out there will love you and make your life God way Pl start loving yourself and your child child love is unconditional no mater what your child pray to God every night and start looking your love from God

  • Balaji says:

    Im 33yrs old and earning good salary in india. But my prsonal life is full of confusion. I hav 3 yrs kid. But my wife wont love me and she lives alone. I cant forget her and my kid. Some times I plan to commit sucide.Pls help

  • Rashid says:

    Truth is marriage should be a happiness between two God loving people it should not be pain.like I went through pain I will not wish to no one. Doris if that was in my control I will never let it happen. And sad thing is children are the one hurts most that is even more pain full to think God pray to holy God to help me heel my pain.after three I am ready to find love with God permission.i pray God will bring pure love to all the good women and men thank you for your time to write me. God make me go on to the right path to meet all the good people

  • Doris Beck Doris Beck says:

    You are so right…just being married doesn’t make a person happy! And just because a couple looks happy on the outside doesn’t mean that they are happy on the inside. Good marriages take work, and every marriage goes through difficult times when we need to be reminded of the covenant that we have made with each other before God. As we work through those difficult times, we grow stronger.

  • Elder Trent Rogan says:

    I take that back because Jesus has the key and they may had a chance to repent.I hope and pray they did.

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