The Spark is Gone
My husband and I have been married for four years. Our marriage has lost that spark. I recently finished college and I am now working 6 days a week. I use to do all the house chores plus the chores outside. Now I feel overloaded. I’ve tried to get my husband to help but we usually end up not talking to each other. We have had a great marriage before. We hardly ever fought. I feel like we have grown apart from each other. We both realize we lost something but we don’t know what to do.
Advice: Some people get along fine until they have to actually figure out how to resolve a conflict. If you are both working, then I imagine that you could pay for someone else to do the chores he won’t do and you are tired of doing. I realized that it might mean that you couldn’t go on as nice a vacation or give as nice gifts to each other, but you would still have a relationship. Just because you have chosen to work 6 days a week doesn’t necessarily mean that now he should be doing house-hold chores that he didn’t do before. I have a lady come to my house four hours every other week. She is great. I get to have a life, she makes a little income and my husband doesn’t get nagged at. Let me know what you think about that idea.
Dr. Ginger
