How do you feel about the holidays? Are they difficult ones for you as a single? Or do you look forward to them with excited anticipation?
Whichever emotion is attached to the holidays for you, or something on the spectrum in between, I’d like to offer an encouragement to focus on something and someone beyond those feelings.
Jeremiah, one of the single men in the Bible, had to do this to get beyond his despairing thoughts and feelings. Perhaps you can identify with some of them which were recorded in the third chapter of Lamentations in the Bible:
I became the laughingstock of all my people; they mock me in song all day long.
Many singles know what it’s like to be the brunt of relatives’ and friends’ thoughtless comments and jokes during holiday get-togethers. Perhaps this wasn’t what made Jeremiah a “laughingstock”, but his feelings must have been similar.
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I have been deprived of peace . . . My splendor is gone and all that I had hoped from the Lord.
How many present-day singles feel this way, too! A painful breakup or divorce may have robbed you of some of your “splendor” this year. Perhaps it was the death of a spouse that deprived you of your peace. It may be that you had hoped and prayed that this would be the year that the “right one” came along.
But listen to what else Jeremiah had to say:
Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for him.” The Lord is good to those whose hope is in him.
It is with this same confidence that we can face the holidays with joy, not focusing on what we don’t have, but on what we do have. We receive many gifts in life–our talents and abilities, health, friends, family. How many gifts are you grateful for this year?
Singleness may not be your ideal, but the holidays can still be a time for celebration. Remember the gifts you have been given. And remember that you can have as your Companion one whose compassions never fail and whose faithfulness is great.
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I know all those verses and they are my hope, my only hope, but oh, Christmas is soooo hard along; I’m so tired of not having a partner to hold, to cook for, to talk to… I’m a “people person”. I will make it through all this again, I have for many years, and I know it God’s grace. But…right now….it’s a sad time…
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