Rebuilding Trust
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One of my clients once asked me what it means to trust another human being. She wanted to know how she should react when a spouse or significant other is dishonest, inconsiderate or having an affair. She wondered if it is possible to rebuild trust in someone who disappoints us greatly.
What does trusting someone signify?
Trust, in a practical sense, means that you place confidence in someone to be honest with you, faithful to you, keep promises, vows and confidences and not abandon you. Here are some factors to consider about trust. Trusting another person requires a realistic perspective about people and an expectation of failure. Trust needs to be combined with a willingness to forgive and grows best in an environment of acceptance and love.
There’s no magic machine, you don’t put in a quarter and out drops a can of trust — trust grows over time. People are complex, broken beings therefore, previous hurts, fears or losses can impede their determination to trust and/or be truthful in a relationship. But, people have the capacity and the ability to change and to grow in trust and truthfulness. You can rebuild trust in broken relationships when you make a choice to do so with the supernatural help of God.
Adjust your expectations
A Conversation about Love & God
Has love betrayed you? Is it preventing you from believing that you are a human being who is loved by God? You are intelligent, beautiful, loved, and not alone.
People are human, frail, and sinful. Therefore, you need a realistic type of trust when you choose to trust someone. Trusting grows in relationships over time because as you spend time together with someone you build knowledge, understanding and authenticity. You gain insight into another person’s character, needs, motivations and fears.
Unconditional love develops trust because as you express this kind of love towards someone — generally he or she will sense your acceptance and feel comfortable to be vulnerable and honest about their feelings. Unconditional love actually builds self-esteem in others and alleviates their fears of rejection. People learn that they can be authentic with you about their feelings, opinions, and failures. The result is a growing trust in the other person. Not because that person is perfect but because that person is growing in honesty.
Unconditional love is patient and kind
It is not self-seeking. It does not keep a record of wrongs. When love is not patient or enduring; when love is unforgiving and always disappointed or looking for something to go wrong, it generates fear and looks for imperfections in the other person. Fear-based love is conditional creating an atmosphere of distrust, dishonesty and instability.
You can have a limited trust in people as you grow to know them and they see you really care about them but the fact is that people will let us down. That is reality. Obviously, when someone has broken their vows and been unfaithful, has lied or been dishonest in the relationship, they need to change. You can make some requests for change and take the risk of starting over again. Get counseling and pastoral guidance. You can find a counselor or go to the nearest mental health center. If you are suicidal please contact 911 (in the USA & Canada) or go to a hospital emergency room.
If that person is not sincere about changing and continues to lie or betray you, then, you need to consider whether to end the relationship.
Take a look at yourself as well
You will never be perfect and therefore, you will probably disappoint your loved one as well. You can promise to never say something hurtful or never tell a lie or never exaggerate or always keep your promises or (you name it) but since you are human you will also make mistakes and disappoint that person. The only thing you or your loved one can promise is to grow, to seek God and ask Him for strength to change. Then you and your loved one will become more trustworthy in your relationships, though you will never be perfect.
Every human relationship will suffer hurt. Thus, we all need to become better forgivers and confessors. That ability to reconcile and spirit of humbleness will prove the depth of your love and commitment.
The components of love, forgiveness and commitment are as necessary to trust in a relationship as is honesty. Forgiveness gives you the chance to start over and trust another fallible human being again. Love helps to nourish trust. Commitment and honesty provide accountability to one another.
The ability to forgive is rooted in being forgiven ourselves. In the Bible it says that God loves the world so much that he sent his only son so that we could be forgiven. As people we all make mistakes, not one of us can live up to the standard God set on our own. But God promises that if we accept what Jesus did for us, we can be forgiven. The slate can be wiped clean no matter what has happened in the past. God promises us strength for today and bright hope for the future. Whatever happened in your yesterdays God can take care of all of your tomorrows.
You can receive Christ right now by faith through prayer. Praying is simply talking to God. God knows your heart and is not so concerned with your words as He is with the attitude of your heart. Here’s a suggested prayer:
Lord Jesus, I want to know you personally. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. I open the door of my life to you and ask you to come in as my Saviour and Lord. Take control of my life. Thank you for forgiving my sins and giving me eternal life. Make me the kind of woman you want me to be.
If this prayer expresses the desire of your heart, pray it right now and Christ will come into your life as He promised. If you invited Jesus Christ into your life, thank God often that He is in your life, that He will never leave you and that you have eternal life. As you learn more about your relationship with God, and how much He loves you, you’ll experience life to the fullest.
Hi Sherry, don’t worry I am not feeling sorry for myself. Thank you for the prayers.
Hi Claire, yeh the stats say that but there has never been a sample study of simple the volume of posts from men versus women on the internet complaining about their other having cheated on them.
It seems to be a far higher volume of men complaining about women.
Those stats are just stats. I am looking at the pure volume of it and seeing different stats inferred from that.
This is academic.
I was hoping to find true love while I was still hopelessly poor. But now I am going to focus on money, and when I have money I simply won’t trust anything any woman ever says to me. Like water off a ducks back, I won’t trust like that again, just won’t be in my character.
I also forgot to mention Jake, you are in my prayers and I pray for God to heal your broken heart, so you can love again. I don’t know everything you have been through with women, but I am truly sorry for what you have been through with females.
God told me once; “To be healed we must be broken, than put back togther!” It does make sense. If your leg isn’t broken, you don’t need it set so it can heal properly. It’s the same with the hurt and heartbreak we feel. It has to be broken to actually allow and feel God’s healing to take place. I hope that made sense, Jake, my friend! You are never alone in what you feel and you are to be commended to share you hurts and at least express them, rather than locking them up inside. It is a part of a healing process.
God Bless Jake;
Your Sister in Christ our Lord;
Sherry
I really sympathize with you Jake! I have been having the same struggle of hoping to find a loving, godly man who will love me and we will grow in God’s love together. My ex cheated on me with two other women while he was with me, but also had Npd and other mental health issues. It was actually my fault for not being his narcissitic supply anymore and succumbing to one of his narcissistic rages was scary, but the Lord brought alot of good out of it. It was a learning experience for me and I am greatful and so thankful to Jesus to helping me to get through those times that was more than I was able to bear. God certainly turned it into a learning experience for me.
Jake, there is a woman out there for you that is God-fearing and who will love and devote herself to you. If it is God’s will for me, He will have that God-fearing man I will devote myself to and have a loving life together. There is nothing too hard for God. With God all things are possible. In the meantime, I just keep in prayer and devotion to His Word and what God expects of me as a woman.
I want to really thank Power to Change from the bottom of my heart, a safe place to share my faith and express my ups and my downs with Christians here. It’s kinda like being at church everyday, when I’m not at church on Sunday’s. God has truly blessed this ministry to help other Christians to grow Spiritually, emotionally and physically. A safe place where we can learn God’s Word together and grow in God’s Word and Love!
Jake, If you feel that cheating is primarily a female issue, the stats don’t back that up. All of the stats that I could find show infidelity to an issue for both sexes, almost equally, with some studies show that men cheat a little more, but not much. (One source is here.)
It sounds like this is a very personal issue for you. Have you considered talking to one of our mentors? Mentoring is a free and private service. You can use this form to request a mentor.
…. Ecclesiastes 7:23-29
That woman was lamenting how she cheated on her boyfriend and lied to her friends saying that he was psychologically abusing her and now she regrets it all and she really loves him and doesn’t think he will ever forgive her………
I was just explaining that there is nothing to forgive – Its all broken.
I don’t know if anyone has noticed, but if you look over the internet we are seeing 10 times more anguished posts from men hurt by the fact their girlfriend/wife cheated on them. I read a book called Women’s Infidelity -Michelle Langley. I am puzzling it now. The only reason that pre-1950s, men were more unfaithful than women is because women did not have the opportunity nor could afford the risk for infidelity. But now that they have equal freedom due to a modern society protecting them from being raped and abused and enslaved without a man to protect them – Well now that they have it, WOW, aren’t we seeing the truth of it all.
I also noticed on ALL the forums, 1000s of original posts about their girlfriend/wife cheating on them, that the guy always says things like, “My girlfriend cheated on me 3 times (or 2 times) (or first time). And I read through all the replies of all these forums – because I am looking for something and I don’t know what it is – and guess what I found? Not one, NOT ONE reply said, “Hey man, she cheated on your 2 times that you KNOW ABOUT.”
Women, the modern woman, is all out there ON SALE. They know how powerful their enchantment can have on men and they are trying to pawn it. (Not porn it, PAWN it). And they are still looking even when in a relationship.
*Of course I am not speaking for all women. I am talking about the statistics of this. I know there must be good women out there and I am really sad I didn’t find one…
Now listen to me, this is the amazing thing. Believe it or not, this is written about in the Bible –
Ecclesiastes 7: 23
Thanks Jake and Sherry for your willingness to be censored :) It isn’t an easy decision to interrupt the conversations that take place here and that is why we have guidelines available to all participants so that everybody knows what the boundaries are. I appreciate your understanding and your participation here. You have both made great contributions.
Hi Jake;
I don’t know what you said, but, it was like when I attacked you and said hurtful things to you…the moderators had every right to delete my post because I was hurtful and abusive. I was very ignorant at the time of what I said and how mean it was. I also tried to explain away and defend my ignorant behavior for being mean! I did appreciate them doing that and it also teaches me that I at times need to watch what I say and how I say it and I want to thank whoever deleted my post for doing that!
They would never delete a post that wasn’t a violation of their policy or terms of service. Following those rules allows users to feel safe and keeps things under control.
Censurer, I totally understand and am not disgruntled in any way by your decision to maintain the objective of your website. We could talk about anything here, about electronics or how the Iphone 4s compares to the 3GS, and that too would be deleted the same.
Kgothatso, I think that the first question you need to answer is why. Why did you cheat on him and then lie to him and why did you tell your friends that he was abusing you? That is a pretty serious accusation to make. What lead to that decision? You said that you want to spend the rest of your life with him, but neither of these things are things that would help your relationship. They are both things that have hurt it very badly.
I do not know if your relationship can be saved or not, but if it can you’re going to need to be very honest and you’re going to need to apologize. Tell him that you lied. Tell him that you cheated. Tell him what you told your friends and then go to each of your friends and tell them that the accusation was a lie. It’s not a very pleasant thing to do but you cannot have a healthy relationship that is built on lies.
It may be possible to rebuild the trust between you but it’s going to be slow and you’re going to have to move at his pace. He’s probably going to need some time. Finally, if this is going to work you’re going to need to seriously alter your behaviour. If you want to build a life with him it has to be only him, no cheating. You’re going to need to look at the circumstances that lead to you cheating. Is there an old friend that is not safe for you to be around? Is there a group of friends that are a bad influence on you? Was it a party that got out of hand? Were you drinking? Were you sad or lonely? None of these are excuses, but if you can identify some of the causes it can help you to avoid them in the future.
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I lied to my boyfriend when he found out that i was cheating on him,i even told my friends that he is abusing me emotionally.i love this guy with all my heart and i want to rebuild trust in our relationship.I want to be with him for the rest of my life,please help.
Hi Jamie.
“Once you were slaves of sin, but now you have obeyed with all your heart the new teaching God has given you. Now you are free from sin, your old master, and you have become slaves to your new master, righteousness.” (Romans 6:15-18)
Yeh, it all makes sense.
And now Damascus is to fall. Isaiah 17
I am glad you are coming to some resolution on all of this Jake. I know it has been a real tough time.
You had mentioned earlier that you see God’s laws as guidance that He gives but you seemed to suggest that He doesn’t expect that we will stick to them. Let me challenge you to read through Psalm 119 to get a different perspective on the laws of God. There you will read verse after verse that speaks about the perfect value of God’s laws and our responsibility to follow them. Verses like, “Happy are people of integrity, who follow the law of the LORD. Happy are those who obey his decrees and search for him with all their hearts. They do not compromise with evil, and they walk only in his paths. You have charged us to keep your commandments carefully. Oh, that my actions would consistently reflect your principles! Then I will not be disgraced when I compare my life with your commands. When I learn your righteous laws, I will thank you by living as I should! I will obey your principles. Please don’t give up on me! How can a young person stay pure? By obeying your word and following its rules.”
Now I know that living that out is impossible. That is why we need Jesus in our lives to first of all make us right with God (forgive our sins) but also to empower us to live pure. The forgiveness of God does not nullify His commands but rather His grace makes it possible to live it out. “So since God’s grace has set us free from the law, does this mean we can go on sinning? Of course not! Don’t you realize that whatever you choose to obey becomes your master? You can choose sin, which leads to death, or you can choose to obey God and receive his approval. Thank God! Once you were slaves of sin, but now you have obeyed with all your heart the new teaching God has given you. Now you are free from sin, your old master, and you have become slaves to your new master, righteousness.” (Romans 6:15-18)
Does that make sense?
Hi Damon, Wow! A note written with roses would be a pretty impressive thing. I have never been creative like that so I don’t think I could suggest anything better. But let me caution you, making a big show of your apology can never take the place of true remorse for the wrong you have done and the absolute commitment not to do it again. Whatever you decide on doing make sure you also give yourself plenty of time to think through how you can guard against any such breach of trust again.
I know in my life, the only way that I can make that kind of commitment is by asking God to help me. He promises to transform my heart so that the wrong things that I am prone to doing become a thing of the past because He cleans away my selfish motivations. If you want to find out more about how God can change your heart have a look at http://powertochange.com/discover/faith/discoverpurpose.
building trust us not easy because we humans will always fail and disappoint. but I keep saying it that we all need to give trust sometime to grow and mature. trust really have to mature, it is not something that comes instantly and lovers have to readjust their relationship expectations.I think, one factor which hinders the growth of trust in relationship is emotional selfishness. this is a very big problem and only few people in relationships can do without emotional selfishness. you have to also put your self in your partner’s shoes and sincerely ask yourself what you could have done if you were in your partner’s situation. this will help you understand why your partner failed in the promise he/she made earlier. as you rightly said in your post, it is only when your partner continues to dwell in the act of betray and distrust that you should consider ending the relationship. In my own case, I will not tell you to start considering when you find out that your partner is always cheating on you but to tell you to call it a quit!!!!! but first, you have to understand that sometimes, certain factors will definitely make us fail in our promises and you have to learn to forgive and forget. I know it is kind of hard to forgive someone you trust but my dear, you have to do so for the sake of your relationship. these links will also be very helpful as related to this topic [links removed]
I’m so sorry, Jake. I think that the TRUTH is is that what this woman WANTS is you…but she doesn’t DESERVE you…she may NEVER deserve you. You have your answer, now go in peace. God Bless.
I have come to the conclusion of this terrible affair. Thanks everyone here for your kind contributions. What happened is that she contacted me after not seeing her two months, and through conversations she sought to assure me that she had not been with anyone else. She spoke of marriage, and children, and sought to convince me of her heart being true. And I asked her, in a very serious discussion, to tell me if it was true she had not been with others because if it is true then I don’t want to be with this kind of problem in my life, I don’t want this and I will go. I told her that I don’t judge her life, that its normal in this society, but that I do not want to be involved in it. I asked her with all my open heart to be honest with me now because I have already spent 1 and a half years involved with her.
She convinced me she was true.
Well there was her blackberry sitting there while she was sleeping and, well, I know how to hack it. I considered, “Why blindly trust her again? Why not see for yourself?”. So I did. And what I discovered was that these ex-boyfriends that she had convinced me long ago were now just friends, well they are
“friends + bonuses” when she is feeling lonely. In the past when I had studied her blackberry I could never find anything 100%. But this time I did, two of her ex’s she was sleeping with casually during that time. So she lied to me. Just like that. And I believed her because I chose to.
So this is good news for me. I have learnt my lesson and this has brought me closer to God because he warned me and now I can see.
And I am not nervous anymore about whether I will ever find a girl who I adore so much that I wish she was faithful to me. Just as I will not wait for the day I die, I will not wait for a true love to enter my life again – I know that if she arrives it will be because God has sent us together, and that this will happen when I am ready. And that if it does not happen then it is because God had something else he wanted me for.
Of all the beauty in the world I have to enjoy during all my days alive and how well He has given to me, and just as He has given those things so shall He give me everything I need to be happy under His lessons.
And I will not hold resentment in my heart for her. And I will not hold it against all women I see from this day. When I am weak I will put my troubles on Him, I will ask Him to give me strength, to guide me, and to forgive me.
Matthew 6:33-34
Damon, just leave her alone for a week and then she will miss you and not be angry when thinking of you and then she will call you and feel sorry and want you to come over and make it all better.
I need help , I lied to my love regarding an issue and now she has blocked me on Facebook and has asked me not to contact as she doesn’t even wants to see my face at all but I apologized to by sending her a message sweet enough .. she replied that even if she talks to me now she won’t be able to do it in a way she use to earlier so what’s the point? this is what she replied and then I replied to her that now I only will talk to you when I’ll make myself capable of your trust and may be this is what I’ll gift you on your birthday a loyal , a loving and a caring person , these distances will pain a lot but this is my punishment. Guys, I replied this to her but I’m not able to stay away .. and am not able to take control over my emotions .. how to do so ? and after months when I’ll go back to her how shall I apologize I thought of a way in which I will write a sorry note with roses and will leave it on her a way so as when she walks though the spot she sees it .. can someone help me in figuring out other ways ? and also how to take control over my emotions in order to stay away?
Yeh Jamies the guy is ‘still around’, as in she knows his friends she met during the 6 weeks she was with him, and he passed her a couple of weeks ago when her and me were not talking again and she told me about it and that she admitted she had him come to the house of her friend so that he could cut their hair….and just things that for example I would be far happier to have heard that he has moved to another state. And her counter defenses were like, “I have ex boyfriends who are still friends today” and mine is, “Yeh but this is different”.
But her manner with this is consistently that she doesn’t like him as a lover and that he was entered between us for that exact reason – To be between us, to destroy us.
And so I say to her, “Oh, so in that moment the reason you started with him was to destroy us? Well maybe that is what you did then, maybe this can’t be soughted out then. Good work!”
And then there is SOME protest from me, “I don’t want you to mention that guy again and I don’t want you seeing him again”.
Its all in limbo. But love is amazing thing, it rises above all this. And if we survive this then imagine in 5 years from now this will be as significant as spilt milk.
Regarding God, I think he writes laws as a guidance. “Do not jump off cliffs” – But jumping off cliffs is alot of fun. Why did your mother tell you not to jump off cliffs?
Just as in the civil Law that we have constructed around us to govern civility – These are written to water-gate bad behaviour. But humans are humans.
Regarding her I have God’s acceptance because I never look at any other girl, I behave in my mind and body entirely as though she was already my wife, and I want to marry her and she knows I want to marry her. And if we don’t work out then I probably won’t sleep with anyone else again until I know again I have met someone I want to marry. “Until”.
Hope that answers your question.
Hi Jake, I have to be honest and admit that I am not always sure if you are writing poetry or prose so I need to clarify your last post: you and your ex-girlfriend got back together? Yet you still talk about the one who has stolen your love. Is the other guy still in the picture? How do you see that helping your heart heal from the hurt that she (and he) have caused you? How does that all fit with your relationship with Jehovah?
Addendum: The reference I make below to “thou shall not murder” and God’s marriage exemption-clause comes from reveries of this song by Leonard Cohen – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Famous_Blue_Raincoat
I slept with her again last night. Its not a fact that I think she is the most beautiful woman in the world – all women with her courage and audacity are beautiful. But I can’t fall in love again. I am in love with her and I won’t look for another to replace that. God is perfect in all his instructions to us. He never said that you MUST break with your wife if she commits infidelity – he only said that you CAN break with her for that, and for that alone. Why did he grant that permission to break your oath and that permission alone? Well anyone who has been betrayed in this way knows why – because it hurts so much that if there was not this way out then you would be tempted to break the other law – “Thou shall not murder” (not Her the one you love, but him the one who stole your love).
Ed, I totally understand and am not disgruntled in any way by your decision to maintain the objective of your website. We could talk about anything here, about electronics or how the Iphone 4s compares to the 3GS, and that too would be deleted the same.
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Jake, I can, and will remove all references to this topic, not just yours. This is not a site about history, or politics and when a discussion like this opens up it very quickly derails what we are trying to do here. I understand that this is an issue very close to your heart. There are many places on line where you can have this conversation but it does not fit here. -Ed
I am open to seeing the film you have suggested…although I am concerned for the survivors because of the trauma they suffered. I can’t deny history and because it is taught in school and the films they had shown us in history class (which were actual documentaries) I have to see it as fact. My cousin believes the same as you do but I am able to agree to disagree!
Anyway guys, I am extremely excited as it is my 37th birthday tomorrow. Looking forward to a lovely day.
Each and every Christian is a warrior for Christ! We are not at war with man we are at war against all satanic forces. Satan roams around like a roaring lion seeking whom he can devour. Satan is not someone we submit to. Jesus gave us the authority to command Satan in Jesus’ powerful name to leave. Yes, it is true that he is prince of this world but we are soldiers in Christ’s army. Just like in our world when dictators (tyrants, like Hitler for example) tried to dictate our world and fill it with deadly poison on his ideas of his disrespect and dispregard for human life, countries bound together and war against him and his evil workers. (Nazi Empire) Christ is the commandor of the army we are in and I am very proud to be a part of His army to help fight the on-going battle we are under with the Satanic forces.
Yes it’s true it is hard to have to face that person, but, catching that person would save another family to go through what we have. Someone who has psychopathic behavior have a lack of disregard for others and are numb to their emotions and pain.
Sherry,
How can you punish Satan when God gave him rule over the world? Satan’s day will come.
Sherry, the person who murdered your cousin – How do you think he/she feels when they look into a beautiful flower, or when they are surrounded by beauty? They feel unwelcome. Even the flower looks back at him, “You are unwelcome here in paradise”.
Now, what greater a punishment can mankind put on a man like that?
Sherry, I have thought about this before alot and I don’t know if this helps but I never cared to catch the one who killed my best friend. Maybe it was me? You know? If I looked too hard then maybe I would discover that it was me? You see, finding the person who did this will not bring the person who was killed back. So what value is there in it? Justice for wrongs done against you? And then what? Yuk, to be honest I would hate to find the person who murdered my family member – It would probably make the whole trauma worse; courts, time, media, questions…
The person who did this did not want to do this in their spirit. Where do you think all the lonely people come from? Self imposed punishment?
Catching the person who killed your cousin will not make you feel any better. In fact, it will make you feel worse. It matters only for their own soul what they did. But it doesnt matter for anyone else. Your cousin could have just as easily walked across the road at the wrong time and ended up under a bus.
What do you think?
Sherry, thanks for apologizing to Jake. It is our desire to make sure that this is a safe place for people to share thier stories.
Being single is a wonderful time to grow spiritually and grow and being nourished in His word. The one thing I appreciate as Jesus being our Friend and Spouse is He understands our weaknesses, our suffering and He will never let us down. When my cousin Leeanne was murdered in September it was a very difficult time for the whole family, especially since the person who did this to her has not been caught. But I have comfort to know that God id in control and that great things has came out of this situation. That’s the most amazing thing about God, He can turn tragic circumstances into growing experiences and understanding to help others who have gone through simular circumstances.
Sherry, I won’t be waiting around for Jehovah to give me a new woman to love. :) I am fine alone for now, even if that is ten years, or twenty years. I am not worried about a woman and children and these responsibilities. I have/had better things to do anyway. But oh it was wonderful when I had it, just wonderful.
Hi Jake;
Yes, you are right that how I said what I did was cruel but I still have a responsibility to apologize to someone I have said something horrible to.
Our world is a very cruel place and cold. Our world and it’s system will pass away. Satan is responsible for the cruelty in our world today. My best friend explained to me that Man in not our enemy, Satan is our enemy.
Time is the key to help you to heal but also continuing to rely on Jesus as your strength. There is nothing more comforting than the healing power of Jesus Christ and the comfort we have Jesus’ arms. I like the goals you have to strive for. Being thankful for what God gives us is wonderful Jake and keeping in His word I commend you for that.
God bless you Jake! My prayers continue with you!
“I am sincerly sorry for being cruel and hurtful towards you. I a made a judgement about you that was wrong and the way I said it was not very tactful. I also ask God to forgive me for sinning against you and Him.”
Hi Sherry, I don’t think what you said is wrong, just the way you said it makes you look cruel – So it didn’t hurt me, only yourself. But no worries, I understand and that is nothing compared to what I have said to people on the internet in other forums, “flame wars” with intel agency rats. But what you said is true, that if I continue being only eyes for her then I won’t see any others. I just need time then. There are other things in the life to work on – like preparing myself to be ready for a new partner, focusing on good work, on Jehovah and his messages, and being grateful for what I have had in life.
We are all amongst the living.
The world could be so beautiful today but for great crimes against God and his people being perpetrated by an insidious group. Did you know that on Youtube there is an interview with the President of Haiti and he is asked how the recovery efforts are going and you know what he said? He said that everything is going well but that the IDF are here and they are harvesting organs and that also there are a great many children being kidnapped and exported for child sex slavery.
What kind of people are behind these black operations? Who do they work for?
Well this is how I discovered that the words in the Bible are the true words of this life, and my soul is at stake here. The only person I should worship and become captured by is the Lord Jesus Christ, son of Jehovah.
The Bible has given me strength. It is the only thing in this world that could convince me to bother guarding my health.
Everything else in this world is ruled by Satan.
Hi Jake;
Alot website ministries (which is what this website is) can give the individual a choice to donate to their ministry. Before donating to a ministry I believe that we should ask God to give direction before going ahead and donating. I hope this is what you meant on your post.
Power to Change does offer some great articles for our daily Christian walk with the Lord and answers to everyday difficulties we face in our lives and our relationships.
Jake;
I am sincerly sorry for being cruel and hurtful towards you. I a made a judgement about you that was wrong and the way I said it was not very tactful. I also ask God to forgive me for sinning against you and Him.
Father God;
Forgive me for sinning against Jake and You. The prayer I ask You is to think like you would like me to think and feel like You would like me to feel. I ask the Holy Spirit to speak when I should speak and be silent when I need to be silent. I rebuke Satan in Jesus’ precious name for his influence. I ask Father that You help Jake in his pain and heal His broken heart.You know Jake better than anyone and YOu know what You are doing in His life. I know Father that You have a person out there meant for Jake and connect them together. Without you Jesus we are nothing and nothing is too impossible for You Father. With Your direction we have a great and promising future. In Jesus’ precious name I pray. Amen
I write a post with an instance of the phrase, “Frequented lies” but you have deleted it and I just linked this site to people to see the first use of that phrase in context. So now I feel like Sherry. You can do whatever you want, and you can keep doing that. But you just removed a unique phrase from the Google Search engine, a phrase of it used in context.
You have deleted all the comments that happened. I don’t understand why you think you can control mamkind. But you have deleted everything back to a date a few days ago. Ok, maybe the only rationale I can think of is that this website for you is a hopeful INCOME that you need. Well then you need to put that up on the top of the page – Tell everyone who you are, and ask them to help you make this website enough to pay your bread. But if you ever imagine that it will pay anything more than your bread then you are in the wrong place?
And if it is about what I wrote about the jews? Well Christ had no fear either. The only time he ever got physically violent was it not in the Synagogue of Satan he called it?
And your fear like this leaves others in fear, like me. I go fear now.
Ok, I understand why you deleted it- and if I was Admin I would have done that as well because she could have said it in so many different ways without ‘sounding’ cruel. But that is ok.
Well Sherry it is true that I will never get another woman as long as I remain in love with her. End of story.
I would like to see the comment from Sherry which was deleted by Admin.
The Admin can do whatever they want (Sherry is wrong in her complaint about that aspect), but she is obviously upset because she wanted me to see this comment. I also would like to see it.
I am impervious to insult having been a front-line 9/11 Truth activist from 2006-2010 I was not only called everything mental under the sun but even had the state trying to get to me with such defamation and incarceration of character. There were organised groups on the net called GIYUS and JIDF who lobbied against and attacked the best of us to stop us because we were making so much ground. I assure you it is impossible to insult me with words – will never hurt me.
Oh Claire, I am afraid you are correct.
Sherry, I don’t know what you said to me that was deleted by admin but I am sure it would not have injured me. :)
Jake, What I’m saying is that I don’t think it is physically possible to fall in love with a broken heart. You have to mend a heart first so it has the strength to fall again.
Hi Claire, thanks for your contributions. I think you see what I was saying other than I meant it – You see, “falling in love again” would actually mean. “BEING IN LOVE”, not “Pretending to be in love”, or, “Fooling yourself and family into thinking that you are in love”. I mean, falling in love.
Kate, when I read the Bible or think of Jehovah (as I know him), I think about him in exactly the same way you then described how you think about Him.
If someone has published over 5 million words on the internet would you say they were a Writer? If someone spent all their days soldering metals together would you say that they were a Solderer? Or would you need to know if they make money directly from this prolific activity of theirs to determine whether a title should follow them?
I am a Writer. I like expressing my feelings in writing to the world. Why? Because all of my solace I also found in written words, from people who wrote down their feelings. It takes time to organise and convey a picture of your feelings to word yes? You have to think about what you are writing before it is written. You have to think about when you will end writing that paragraph, why, and where it is going, and what was its purpose? Well the purpose is to let others know (who find these pages through “key word” searches on Google) that they are not alone.
And is not that the gift of Jehovah? Yeh, though I walk through the valley of death, He is with me. His rod and His staff comfort me….
I have heard those words in my head before, on several occasions in moments where I thought that this was probably going to be the end of my life but it did not turn out that way.
I did not prey to Jehovah to ask him to spare my life. I simply thought about Him and remembered where I really was in the galaxy and then had no fear that I was about to die.
I didn’t die.
Sherry, I deleted your comment because you attacked another commenter. The terms of service under the section “prohibited behaviour” you’ll see “Discussing other users in any negative or unkind way” as one of the items that is specifically condemned. It was not the reference to needing to seek professional help that tipped the balance on your comment, it was the final sentence where you made a direct and negative comment about the character of another commenter.
What I did was completely within the bounds of the law. Freedom of speech refers to the right to speak freely in the public space and the right to speak your mind without being shot or put in prison. It does not mean that there are never consequences for what you say. All websites, not just this one, have terms of service that allow us to set the rules for participation. This is done to keep order and to make the site a safe place. In requiring you to adhere to the terms of service I have followed the law, not broken it.
The post that you had deleted was subsequently deleted because a violation of terms of service. After reviewing your terms of service I had not committed any such violation. What was done to me was a violation of my right of free speech which was not threatening nor was it harmful. I would in the future advice my friends and other people I know not to use your site because what you did was against the law. If you want to help people you need to adice people to professional help and not someone that has no professional training. If you wish to delete this message it is no concern of mine.