I cannot allow myself to venture into the territory you have opened up. I know in your mind you believe that it will help. But if its not from the mind and word of God, its surely to lead to death, destruction and heatache. I am no saint, I have been many places, seen many things and yes tried to please myself by all means. Only to fall in heart and mind and realize my sinfulness and how I need to wait and be obedient to God. I want a loving and gentle relationship with a man, not just any man but a man that will be my husband, a man that is my husband, when the time comes.

I do not want my mind ravaged by the worlds attempt at pleasure. As a Christian woman, I know that God has given me all the tools I need to enjoy a healthy and complete marriage. Love and passion sometimes have nothing to do with flesh. Flesh and sex are benefits of marriage but when they are warped, you get nothing out it. I”m 45 years old and been married once before and now a widow its been 10 years and I wait. Sometimes not easily but always returning to my Lord for comfort and now a better understanding of the fact that he is preparing me for himself and along the way, I believe a restoration and marriage to a good man. Thank you but no thank you for the website and your advice. I pray that you open your eyes and your mind to what God wants to say to you.

Have you ever considered that while you wait he is preparing you for marriage and preparing your mate for you. Yes, consider this, your waiting is not in vain but talk openly to the Lord and realize that even waiting means he’s up to something in your life. Be encouraged you are not alone in the waiting process and the desire for a spouse.

I don’t know what problems you’re talking about, but I have a feeling they’re not the same that I had. Thanks again for trying to help, but I have a feeling the help that you’re offering doesn’t apply to me.

Blessings to you, & may you find peace & contentment wherever you are in life, whether in a relationship or out. Until a woman’s truly at peace & content with who she is, with or without a man, & in a fulfilling relationship with God, then she’s just going to be running around trying to find that elsewhere. Please trust me on this – the ONLY place that true fulfilment is to be found is in a true relationship with God & in serving & loving Him – not in an earthly relationship.

I’m on with you on both points. As I said, I’m a committed sort of person. Part of being an adult, & just a responsible person in general, is doing something even if it’s unpleasant or won’t benefit me. Sometimes it’ll benefit someone else. I do agree with being independent & free & wanting to fit in – doesn’t everyone want to fit in? – but I don’t agree with the loneliness that was mentioned. I’m certainly not lonely as a rule. Sure, I have my lonely moments, but I’m not what’d be considered a lonely person. I do quite well on my own, & I have plenty of family & friends around so that I don’t get lonely.

About what else you said “I don’t think single only choice to do things when there is benefit…..” & so on, that’s the part I really don’t understand. Some of us aren’t single by choice. I never chose to remain single. I know, though, that God certainly hasn’t abandoned me (“I will never leave you nor forsake you, He says in His Word) & He isn’t punishing me, either. He never lets us go through something that isn’t for our good in some way, & that’s a great comfort.

Anyway, I just wanted to get some clarification on what you’re trying to say. :)