Comments on: Teaching Your Daughters to Value Modesty

By: Joel Pukalo

Sat, 12 May 2012 04:08:37 +0000

Praise God we need more young people like you Kiki! God will reward you for the righteous and pure life you are living!

God promises to you and others who live pure, “Blessed are the pure in heart for they will see God!”

Continue to offer your body as a living sacrifice holy and pleasing to God. God wants you to know how pleased he is with you. Your heavenly Father is so pleased with you for choosing to live this way, he is smiling down on you.

By: kiki

kiki — Fri, 11 May 2012 21:35:32 +0000

i love this, and totally agree with this article. I am a 14-year-old teenager myself. Being modest is very important to me. Thank you for having such high standards and vlaues and teaching your children to choose the right. We need more righteous people in the world like you to be good examples to others around them.

By: Doris

Sat, 17 Mar 2012 22:19:53 +0000

You are so right Joanne. As mothers and grandmothers we too need to model modesty and self respect in how we dress.

By: Joanne

Joanne — Thu, 15 Mar 2012 15:58:38 +0000

I am a grandmother agrees with the points made in this article. One thing I would like to point out, its not just the teenage girls and young women who dress with lack of concern for modesty
I see far too many mothers, both young mothers, and some not so young,who themselves set very poor examples by he way they dress.Slacks and jeans that are far too tight, extremely short shorts, and at the pool or beach, bathing suits that expose that which should not be uncovered in public. What are these women thinking? Have they no self-respect? Some not only look sluttish but downright ridiculous!
I may be oldfashioned- but I know if I had ever worn such things when I was a girl, and my mother had seen me, I would have not sat down on what I was showing off for some time! But now the mother may well be dressed as badly as her young daughters.

By: Jim

Jim — Tue, 06 Mar 2012 04:57:26 +0000

…Or… you could attack this from the other direction. There is a lot of good reading on the market about the harmony between Christianity and public nudity. There are a lot of “flesh friendly” countries around the world who have lower sex-crime rates than America, France and Germany to name two. It’s been a couple of decades since I’ve been to a nudist resort, but I was always impressed with the maturity of moms, dads and especially the children that I met in my unclothed travels. Nude isn’t lewd, as they say, but there are a lot of market forces that try to sell it that way. So many “godly” folks dismiss the “naturist” lifestyle out-of-hand as being evil, when in reality, it is one of the best possible antidotes to the hordes of sleaze merchants peddling their sordid wares. Everyone has a body. The person has never been born that has a “shameful” body. Clothes often have a practical value, but when temperatures are conducive to nudity, nudity should be an option. Whatever happened to the good old days where whole communities would go skinny-dippin’ on a hot Saturday afternoon? :) I suspect you’ll find the greatest number of convicted sex crime perpetrators will come from homes where nudity was shunned, not from homes where it was embraced.

By: Jamie

Tue, 20 Dec 2011 00:50:54 +0000

Mrs. P I don’t think anyone here is trying to throw moms away. Moms and dads have important roles in raising sons and daughters. To say that one role is more important than the other does no child any favours. From my perspective, North American society has seen a diminishing of the role of fathers in the family. I think it is valuable for us to recapture the understanding of the importance of a father’s role in raising sons and daughters in partnership with mothers.

By: Mrs. P

Mrs. P — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 22:08:49 +0000

Jamie, did you not read my article? I told you all what I think about dad’s role, that it’s a shared role, that dad is never more important than mom. Please don’t throw mom away!! The girl is like gender to her mom for a reason. Respect that. I had the best, most hard-working,most supportive, most loving dad, but my mom taught my sisters and me about males and how to be around them. My mom taught me about periods and childbirth. She was the like gender parent. My dad still was supportive. All my friends and relatives and the people we associate with seem to all agree with this way. Maybe it’s a culture thing and you are from another group of people.Go back and read my article again. Now, my next questions to all the male rights men who have started this crusade against moms are: Exactly who started this myth about the dad being the major factor in a daughter’s life? Why did you men have the need to start such a woman hating- campaign? Do you not have anything else better to do, like guiding your sons to find the path to being gentlemen? We have spread this myth so vast and wide that even the strongest minded-women like myself, have to hold on to their common sense and wits in order to keep from being brainwashed with this utter foolish, misogynistic, hogwash. Stop with this evil male need for dominance. By allowing these statements to be given in the media, we are slowly destroying the love of moms. And guess what? Many girls and many women are slowly buying into this myth, because they have heard it and read it so many times. Many girls are so weak and vulnerable now, that they think dad is higher than mom and they have begun to allow dad to tread into their private spaces where he does not belong.
Stop this madness now!! Respect and honor moms!!

By: Andrew

Wed, 14 Dec 2011 15:58:17 +0000

Jewels,

I don’t think anyone was suggesting that the reason a woman is raped it because of the type of clothes she is wearing. I am sure there are many reasons why men rape however I think ultimately rape occurs due to men allow extreme evil to take hold in his life. In WW2 both Germans & Russians raped woman in both countries even though they were dressed modesty. Yes a woman needs to be intelligent and not allow herself to get put in a situation that will put her in danger such as meeting someone who she does not know very well in private after a dinner as many woman think a man is nice until he is alone. I hear horror stories of woman dating men who they have just met and being lured into a room alone as this is more dangerous than the type of clothes she is wearing. I am in no way suggesting it is the woman’s fault for the type of clothes that she wears.

Today’s culture is such that you can be addicted to porn that turn woman become sex objects. It is more than just what clothes a woman wears but being aware of the culture of hyper sexual activity that is in today’s medium such as internet, TV, and dating sites. All parents can do is teach them Christs principals and pray that God will protect them. I abhor any type of violence such as rape or abuse against woman as it shows how low our society has gone however I believe we as Christians can take a stand against it by standing up to it with the help of Christ.

God Bless

By: Jewels

Jewels — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 05:46:01 +0000

First of all, I’d like to thank the author of this article. Very well written, with good suggestions and a focus on daughters developing inward qualities and learning to set their own outward standards with wisdom and a godly view of sexuality, not just being forced to conform to something they don’t understand. Now, I want to address those comments people have made concerning rape. The author never says it’s okay for men to molest women. Of course it’s not! This is not a question of blaming the victim. Nowhere does the article state that men can’t help themselves, or “boys will be boys.” This is a question of women taking one tool that they can use–modest clothing–to help protect themselves. If all women dressed modestly, would men stop raping women? No. Whenever a man rapes a woman, he should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. But think of this analogy. I leave my purse on the front seat of my car, with a couple of hundred dollar bills sticking out. If someone breaks into my car and steals my purse, they have just committed a crime and should be punished. However, it wasn’t a smart thing for me to do. For my own protection, I should do what my mom always told me and hide the purse when I can’t take it with me. Could someone still break in the car, find my purse, and steal it? Yes, but they are more likely to do it if they see the purse out in the open. Lock your doors at night. Don’t walk alone at night, especially in neighborhoods that have a lot of crime. Carry pepper spray. Why do we do these things? Protection. If someone attacks us or comes into our houses, it is a terrible thing and they should be punished. It’s not the victim’s fault when someone commits a crime. However, why not do what you can to keep yourself safe? Should strangers walk into your house? No; that’s terrible. But you could lock your doors and close the curtains so you don’t attract thieves. Why not cover your body so you don’t attract criminals or jerks? If you could decrease the chances of your being a victim, either or rape or of sexual harrassment, why not do it? And why not teach your daughters to respect their bodies and dress in a way that causes more people to respect them as well? Self defense. It’s wise and loving to teach it to your daughters.

By: Jamie

Mon, 14 Nov 2011 19:34:34 +0000

Mrs P you have said a lot about what fathers are not supposed to do in raising their daughters but you have not clarified what they are responsible for. I hope you don’t mind me pressuring but I am curious to know how you see a father adding to the development of their daughters. I am not sure how a father who is interested in seeing his daughter grow into a healthy, godly woman would overstep boundaries and have inappropriate things happen. I am not saying that there are not examples of fathers doing inappropriate things to their daughters but I don’t see the connection to their role of raising their daughters. When inappropriate things happen between a father and a daughter you can be sure that the father is not acting out of loving concern for the development of his child.

I hear you pushing for a reduced input from fathers into the raising of their daughters but I don’t hear you saying what their input level should be. It is my experience that the input of a father into his daughter’s life is hugely important (as is her mother’s input of course) and the absence of that input is detrimental to the way that a young girl will develop.

I do agree that fathers have a responsibility to train their sons how to treat women with respect and honour (as does a mother). There is value that both mothers and fathers have in both sexes of children. To diminish either is to rob our children of all they need for maturing into healthy, godly adults.

That is why I would like to hear further clarification from you about the role that fathers have in raising their daughters.