I am bored with my life
I am 40 years old and have five children and a grandson whose ages range from 2 to 21. My husband is seven years younger than me. This is his first marriage, but my third marriage. I have been a Christian for four years. I feel like I am in a rut. I don’t know what comes next in life. I feel as if all I do is work, cook and sleep. Basically, that’s all I do for lack of time (or so it seems). I don’t have hobbies, don’t know what I’d like to do and have no girlfriends. We don’t have any Christian couple friends either. I just don’t know what to do with my life right now. I’m bored and busy at the same time. I don’t know who I am anymore and I don’t know how to find out. Any suggestions?
Advice: You’ve got to get out of yourself and the grind you are in.
Are you serving the Lord in your church in some way? I suggest that you join the choir and the women’s Sunday school class and start getting acquainted with other women.
When you find someone you like, perhaps someone with children the age of yours, suggest that you go out for a picnic at a park where there’s a playground. Having social times together is a good way for people to get acquainted and make friends.
I also suggest that you rededicate your life to the Lord so that He can guide you into His wonderful way of life. Personally I have found that serving the Lord is an absolutely wonderful way of life!
In His love, Dr. Muriel
i am goin 2 commit suicide help me plox!
Ok, I think I am going to smack some sense into you. First off, do NOT resubmit yourself to the Lord, or Allah, or Buddha, or any other deity. Religion is a huge scape goat full of disingenuous happiness. And if you have been a Christian for 4 years and you are feeling this way, then you are living proof that my statement is true. It sounds like you need to do two things. First, see your doctor or psychotherapist in regards to depression. Second, find something to do , that when you are doing it you lose all track of time. If there is nothing, FIND IT. Do something about it. Research, experiment, make time for yourself to try out different activities. Its going to be extremely difficult since you chose to have so many children. Frankly, you shot yourself in the foot with having kids….many of them. There are too many people on this God Damn planet to begin with, and you have made it more difficult. So do yourself a favor, DON’T shoot yourself in the foot again. Make time for YOU. Its like going into MCDonalds and ordering the same frig’n Big Mac every time, then wondering why your bored with the same meal. Christ, there’s other stuff on the menu! Make it a point to go into that McDonalds a.k.a. make time for yourself, and try a different meal every time a.k.a. try sewing, try art, try hang gliding, try porn, try industrial design, try welding, try emergency service, try music, try babysitting a one eyed albino frog……anything….it doesn’t matter, as long as you are happy. Religion makes SOME people happy, and i think that some is very small and its for people who are very simplistic in their mental structure. Know what I mean? Just find something that works for you WITH OUT the restrictions of having a “Godly approval”. God does nto change your life, you change your life……free will….. right?
youre a lunatic – its obvious since you lurch from man to man looking for a bigger better deal breeding with anyone horny enough to mount you or just because you need a change.. perhaps you should try prostitution as you seem to have the skills though at your age your probably getting long in the tooth?
Maybe you can start a Blowjob School and teach other sluts to suck like you do?
Obviously you guys would not qualify as sympathetic and helpful counselors. When someone is feeling down, you don’t jump on the person with two feet and stomp on her/him! Neither will you give the person advice to get into further trouble.
And David, when I point to Jesus Christ as the answer to people’s problems, I’m not talking about religion. I’m talking to them about a personal relationship they can have with God through receiving Jesus Christ as their Savior.
I challenge you to read the first three chapters in the Gospel of John in the Bible with an open mind. Dr. Muriel
Wow what rude people they really don’t know do they Muriel. God will not be mocked, fear God and keep his commandments.
Smoke herb. keep it simple. Live one day at a time. Take it in small steps and it will eventually grow. Find something nice like beading or watching your kids play a sport and play a game with them. Do something fun and exciting with your husband like go to an exotic place to eat or something. Spice your life up. Ignore the so called “stresses” and live your life. Don’t give a fuck what other people think. It may take a while but eventually you’ll see you need to do things for yourself and everything else will fall into place.
spongebob hemp pants says: “Don’t give a f___ what other people think.”
Great advice! I’ll start by not caring what you think. ;)
thats not cool chill
I feel like I’ve accomplished everything in life that I’ve had to – done well at school and now have a professional career, always did well at sports, had great friends growing up. Now what? What is there for me to do next besides coming to work everyday and doing the same thing for the next 35 years??? Please help. And help fast!
Hi, Daryl–Well, how about making your life count for God and other people who need help and encouragement? That’s what I do with my talent and training. I became affiliated with this mission nine years ago, and ever since, as “Dr. Muriel” I have had the rewarding privilege of counseling troubled hurting people all over the world for these Truth Media e-zines.
(This is a mission, so I do this for free.) And for years I have written helpful articles for publication in print and on the net. I can tell you that there is nothing more rewarding than serving God and others! And the Lord leads me in everything I do. You don’t know what to do? Well, get a relationship with God, and He will open the door for you as He did for me.
This website can help you have a wonderful relationship with God: http://powertochange.com/discover/faith/discoverpurpose/
Peace, purpose, and joy in the Lord!
How do you know what to do with your life when you’ve never had aspirations. There was never anything I wanted to grow up to be. When I was 11 both of my siblings left for college and my parents divorced. Since then I have spent all my time trying to keep my family together despite the distance and hate. I am now 33 and the family is what it is, we are all grown up now. Both of my siblings have gone on to get married and have kids. I feel as thought I grew up fast and at some point I stopped. I feel like I lived a better life when I was in my 20′s then I am now. I guess that is to say I feel like I’m going backwards. I know the answer is find what you love to do and do it, but how do you figure out what that thing is? I just feel so hopeless sometimes. Are there any exercises I can do to shake off the feeling sorry for my self’s?
we always heard about some one who creates Accomplishment from something other people did not give it # Attention
may this your moment to do it
N.B . always be the Judge because this your live you are the one who win or lose
http://www.beconvinced.com/archive/en/main.php
Alot of things can be at play in our life to make us feel that we’re in a rut – not taking care of ourselves physically, lack of support, our emotions can be out of wack. God promises to give us a fulfilling life and to give us the desires of our hearts, but if we’re not daily feeding ourselves spiritually from His word, then we are going to be malnurished spiritually – make sense? So, and I’m preaching to myself here, the best place to start is by reading your Bible daily and seeking Him in all you’re doing and asking Him for direction. I would suggest that you start to take baby steps in exploring those things that appeal to you. I wouldn’t make big changes until you are in a better place emotionally, just start off small. It could be, too, that all you need is a simple vacation. Emotions are contagious and if you’re not in a good place, that will affect the relationships around you. Now the tempatation is to read this and then go back to the same rut again, but you must start TODAY!! Just start making a list of micro goals and then work up to macro goals you want to accomplish. I admire your dedication to your family and they are blessed to have you as a mother.