Comments on: Beauty: To What Extreme?

By: Laura

Laura — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 20:17:10 +0000

Thank you for the article and the responses. I have had five children and now my breasts, which started small, but were very inflated when my milk came in, are completely flat. I have thought seriously about having surgery for the last ten years, but always concluded that if God wanted me to have a womanly chest he would have given me one. My husband doesn’t mind my completely flat deflated chest, but I have been wearing large pads in my bra to give the appearance of breasts. My husband and I prayed about it and the answer I got from God was twofold. God showed me If it was important to my husband that I have the surgery then His answer was no, definitely don’t have the surgery. But if my husband is in love with me for my inner beauty, then the surgery is fine for me to have. I believe that the surgery, for me, is as significant to my feeling good about myself as orthodontic braces to correct cosmetically crooked teeth. It’s been a difficult decision, but when I have the surgery I will definitely feel like a woman, even without clothes on.

By: Julie

Julie — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 01:55:59 +0000

Lake,
Since originally posting a response, I have had augmentation surgery and couldn’t be happier with my decision. I was worried that people would judge me, too, but now I realize that it’s just none of their business! It’s my decision to tell people or not, and I’ve found that the people that I have told have been very supportive (even the Christians). I also know that the people who do judge are not good acting like good Christians, and I don’t worry about them (I used to be someone who judged others about their decision to have breast augmentation). This is decision is between you and God; don’t let the fear of judgment from others persuade you either way. Best of luck!

By: Doris

Mon, 14 Nov 2011 19:00:06 +0000

Lake and Ann, thanks so much for taking the time to not only visit our site but also to write a comment. I know how much this does impact how you see yourself as a woman. It is sad but very true that the most difficult part of it is how we communicate it to Christians because of how judgemental they can be.

Ann. your advice was right on! To pray and ask for God’s wisdom and direction and He will let you know the direction to you. This isn’t a trite decision that you have made easily, but instead you have sought His face on it which always the best place to go!

By: Ann

Ann — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 12:42:38 +0000

Thank you for your writing…but I think unless you have lived a life with very small breast or none then one can not truly understand the desires of women who want breast implants. (at least one that is small breasted) I have three children and after nursing the last one and loosing all my baby weight I lost all my breast volume. I have always been very small, like a AA, and now I am flat. My husband is not bothered by it, but every day I am. I have prayed and sought God for comfort and direction. Yes I struggles with several versus, especially 1 John 2:15, but I also believe that God wants me to be confident and desires for me to be intimate with my husband and feel good about myself. I feel very beautiful inside but I don’t feel like a woman on the outside, as God intended.

So finally 3 kids in 6 years, I have found the Doctor that has given me confidence and peace about undergoing breast augmentation. I do have to admit I do see a lot of women doing the procedure that have breast. But I know exactly how every woman feels that is almost flat chested. You are limited in what you can wear, you feel like a little girl when you wear a bathing suit even if it is a one piecce, but most of all you don’t feel like a woman. I just want to feel like a beautiful confident woman. It’s not envy or jealousy of women that have breast it’s an inherent feeling of wanting to be beautiful inside and out.

For any women out there contemplating the procedure, I just advise you to pray and ask for God’s wisdom and direction. I know after 6 years I have his blessing now to do this, but I was ready not to. You will know in your heart.

By: Lake

Lake — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 18:23:35 +0000

What a fabulous article. Indeed, as both Christians and in society both, we make judgments about others’ choices, depending on our personal viewpoints or experience. I have been struggling with an option to have breast augmentation since finishing breastfeeding 2 1/2 years ago. I lost almost all of the small breasts I originally had and am disproportionate. My husband does not care but it bothers me every day as I dress and have had to replace shirts and bras continuously to hide it as they continue to shrink. I wish it didn’t bother me so I continue to pray. I know the Holy Spirit will give me peace about the right decision. If I choose to do it, I want to be sure I communicate in the best way possible to both Christians (who will judge me) and non-Christians, who may question my integrity. Thank you again for your article.

By: cfast

Mon, 13 Jun 2011 15:26:46 +0000

Prince, have you tried to talk to her about your feelings? She probably doesn’t know how you feel about her wearing makeup or even what you think about her not wearing any makeup. You should really speak to her about it before you get married.

By: Prince

Prince — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 12:04:59 +0000

The internet is really an amazing pool of opinions. One has to be guided by the Holyspirit in order to get a clear understanding. My quest for answers on this topic lead me reading through many blogs. I am about to be married to one I have come to admit is really attached to cosmetics and makeup and I am truly deeply worried for her. I am much more attracted to her physically when she has little or no makeup on. I remember seeing her once when she had just woken up from sleep and how beautifully different she looked from other times we had met after her makeup and all. I am also concerned that this attachment to cosmetics and makeup has cost her quite a lot. For example she is hardly punctual. She almost always shows up late at work, events, even church services sometimes. She would hardly go out without makeup and can even makeup on the road! Now that she is to be married to a man who does not appreciate excessive makeup, I wonder what still motivates her?
Prince, Ghana.

By: Doris

Thu, 26 May 2011 01:56:33 +0000

Sharon and Shelley, I have to agree that God’s makeover gives new meaning to the words, Extreme Makeover! :-) What a blessing to know that He loves us just the way we are and too much to leave us that way.

By: Shelley Anderson

Shelley Anderson — Fri, 20 May 2011 20:54:48 +0000

Yes! God is the best makeover in all of life. he continues to do makeover to the planet and the universe as well. I am happy in what God has made me to be in this life.

By: Sharon

Wed, 18 May 2011 21:11:40 +0000

while outward beauty is nice inner beauty is i think better, i agree with you shelley, God is also making over me too by continous healing of my issues.