I am dating a non-Christian guy
I am 21 and currently dating a 22-year-old non-Christian guy. We’ve been going out for eight months now and I’m struggling with the decision of whether or not to continue this relationship. He is unwilling to accept Christianity and for that reason, I feel that I should stop seeing him. However, I also think that there might be a chance that God might change his heart in the future. Should I continue this relationship with him?
Advice: Since the Bible tells Christians that they are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, it’s probably not a good idea for you to be dating an unbeliever — for often dating leads to marriage. The Bible says, “What fellowship can light have with darkness? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?”
When a Christian woman marries a non-Christian man, she gives her future children a non-Christian father. Think about it!
Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.”
I’m praying for you. Look to Jesus! Dr. Muriel
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Thank you so much for weighing in Jackie! It’s so good to hear not only your personal experience but also your perspective now looking back on your experience. Thanks for sharing! I have to agree with you totally both from personal experience of growing up in a family where my mother believed in God and my father didn’t, but also just from years of watching others who have either dated or gone on to marry non-believers. Your personal relationship with God is the most important relationship in your life so dating a non-believer will always run against that.
Great suggestion, that it should always honestly be one of the first conversations you have with someone before you ever get involved.
As someone who has dated a non-believer for a significant amount of time, I can say truly that it’s not the best decision. Am I glad that I learned, absolutely. But it’s so hard to look at life the same way. Regardless of how much you care about them or even love them, they end up being bitter about your beliefs. This person was respectful of my beliefs initially, but it quickly changed if my actions were dictated by my belief in the Bible and how God has asked us to live, as Christians. I’m 24 and he was 25. I cannot tell you the amount of time and energy I spent praying for his salvation. In the end, I knew God had a bigger plan for me. We eventually ended it and he blamed my beliefs. Lesson learned, and it should honestly be one of the first conversations you have with someone, in my opinion. You don’t have to be blatant about it, just get to know them and their lifestyle. You will quickly find out by their actions and words whether or not they live a Christ-centered life.
Jonathan, is it your opinion that a person’s religious convictions are irrelevant to choosing them as a potential mate? If so, would you then be willing to date and marry someone who is a Christian and therefore (in your words) “schizophrenic” and believes “the greatest story [lie] ever sold”?
If you love him, regardless of beliefs, stay with him. To me it sounds utterly crazy for you to think ‘God’ will change him. May as well be schizophrenic. Trust in love, trust in yourself, no one else, especially don’t trust in the greatest story ever sold, its all a lie anyway