Comments on: I am dating a non-Christian guy http://powertochange.com Sun, 03 Jun 2012 03:58:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: <span class='mentorBadge' title='Doris is an official Power to Change mentor.' >Doris</span> http://powertochange.com/experience/life/differentbeliefs/comment-page-1/#comment-836069 Doris Wed, 21 Mar 2012 18:59:31 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=7987#comment-836069 Thank you so much for weighing in Jackie! It's so good to hear not only your personal experience but also your perspective now looking back on your experience. Thanks for sharing! I have to agree with you totally both from personal experience of growing up in a family where my mother believed in God and my father didn't, but also just from years of watching others who have either dated or gone on to marry non-believers. Your personal relationship with God is the most important relationship in your life so dating a non-believer will always run against that. Great suggestion, that it should always honestly be one of the first conversations you have with someone before you ever get involved. Thank you so much for weighing in Jackie! It’s so good to hear not only your personal experience but also your perspective now looking back on your experience. Thanks for sharing! I have to agree with you totally both from personal experience of growing up in a family where my mother believed in God and my father didn’t, but also just from years of watching others who have either dated or gone on to marry non-believers. Your personal relationship with God is the most important relationship in your life so dating a non-believer will always run against that.

Great suggestion, that it should always honestly be one of the first conversations you have with someone before you ever get involved.

]]> By: Jackie http://powertochange.com/experience/life/differentbeliefs/comment-page-1/#comment-822637 Jackie Tue, 20 Mar 2012 00:07:10 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=7987#comment-822637 As someone who has dated a non-believer for a significant amount of time, I can say truly that it's not the best decision. Am I glad that I learned, absolutely. But it's so hard to look at life the same way. Regardless of how much you care about them or even love them, they end up being bitter about your beliefs. This person was respectful of my beliefs initially, but it quickly changed if my actions were dictated by my belief in the Bible and how God has asked us to live, as Christians. I'm 24 and he was 25. I cannot tell you the amount of time and energy I spent praying for his salvation. In the end, I knew God had a bigger plan for me. We eventually ended it and he blamed my beliefs. Lesson learned, and it should honestly be one of the first conversations you have with someone, in my opinion. You don't have to be blatant about it, just get to know them and their lifestyle. You will quickly find out by their actions and words whether or not they live a Christ-centered life. As someone who has dated a non-believer for a significant amount of time, I can say truly that it’s not the best decision. Am I glad that I learned, absolutely. But it’s so hard to look at life the same way. Regardless of how much you care about them or even love them, they end up being bitter about your beliefs. This person was respectful of my beliefs initially, but it quickly changed if my actions were dictated by my belief in the Bible and how God has asked us to live, as Christians. I’m 24 and he was 25. I cannot tell you the amount of time and energy I spent praying for his salvation. In the end, I knew God had a bigger plan for me. We eventually ended it and he blamed my beliefs. Lesson learned, and it should honestly be one of the first conversations you have with someone, in my opinion. You don’t have to be blatant about it, just get to know them and their lifestyle. You will quickly find out by their actions and words whether or not they live a Christ-centered life.

]]> By: <span class='mentorBadge' title='Darren Hewer is an official Power to Change mentor.' >Darren Hewer</span> http://powertochange.com/experience/life/differentbeliefs/comment-page-1/#comment-118866 Darren Hewer Fri, 20 May 2011 01:57:36 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=7987#comment-118866 Jonathan, is it your opinion that a person's religious convictions are irrelevant to choosing them as a potential mate? If so, would you then be willing to date and marry someone who is a Christian and therefore (in your words) "schizophrenic" and believes "the greatest story [lie] ever sold"? Jonathan, is it your opinion that a person’s religious convictions are irrelevant to choosing them as a potential mate? If so, would you then be willing to date and marry someone who is a Christian and therefore (in your words) “schizophrenic” and believes “the greatest story [lie] ever sold”?

]]> By: Jonathan http://powertochange.com/experience/life/differentbeliefs/comment-page-1/#comment-118855 Jonathan Fri, 20 May 2011 01:08:24 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=7987#comment-118855 If you love him, regardless of beliefs, stay with him. To me it sounds utterly crazy for you to think 'God' will change him. May as well be schizophrenic. Trust in love, trust in yourself, no one else, especially don't trust in the greatest story ever sold, its all a lie anyway If you love him, regardless of beliefs, stay with him. To me it sounds utterly crazy for you to think ‘God’ will change him. May as well be schizophrenic. Trust in love, trust in yourself, no one else, especially don’t trust in the greatest story ever sold, its all a lie anyway

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