19 Ways to Encourage Others

Written by Stacy Wiebe

Living as Forgiven People_290x220Feel the most encouraging love of all.

1. Encouragement goes straight to the heart.In fact, the word itself comes from a combination of the prefix “en” which means “to put into” and the Latin word “cor” which means heart.
Knowing what a big difference encouragement makes in your own life, what can you do to help others “to take heart” when the going gets tough and way feels long?

2. Become aware of what encourages you, and do those same things for others.

3. Learn individuals’ “love language”-the special way in which they feel most valued. In his book, The Five Languages of Love, Gary Chapman explains that not everyone’s emotional needs are met in the same way, and that it’s important to learn to speak others’ love language. The five love languages are: words of affirmation, spending quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch.

4. If an encouraging thought comes to mind, share it! It may not have the same effect if you wait. Don’t let shyness hold you back. Instead, form a new habit: “Encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today…” (Hebrews 3:13).

5. When you introduce someone, add a few words of praise for the person’s abilities, accomplishments, about how they’ve helped you or about the nature of your relationship. It’s encouraging to be praised in front of others.*

6. When someone is discouraged or hurting, offer specific, practical help. If you ask, “How can I help?” the person might be at a loss to answer. It’s better to ask, “Would it help if I…(specific action) or say, “I would like to…(specific action)?*

7. Remind fellow Christians of the specific promises of God and characteristics of God. We may know something with our mind, but need to be reminded in our heart. The Apostle Peter wrote, “I will always remind you of these things, even though you know them and are firmly established in the truth you now have” (2 Peter 1:12).

8. Write someone a note to tell them that you’re praying for them. Tell them what you’re praying. You can pray specific Scriptures for individuals such as Romans 15:13, “[I pray that] the God of hope [will] fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

9. Make celebration a more regular part of your relationships. Celebrate others’ victories, large and small-with a note, with coffee together, with a special meal, a congratulatory phone call or just a high-five!

10. Be specific when you offer words of praise; it makes your encouragement more credible and concrete “You did a great job at…” “I really appreciate that you…” “I was really impressed that you…”

11. Encourage other believers with a reminder of Christ’s coming. It redirects our thinking to an eternal perspective and ultimate deliverance from the sin and death. “We who are still alive and are left will be caught up in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. Therefore encourage each other with these words” (1 Thessalonians 5:17b-18).

12. Realize the power of presence. Just being there is encouraging! When you’re with others, you’re telling them that they’re important. The Apostle Paul closed his letter to the church at Colosse promising to send his friend Tychius “that he may encourage your hearts” (Colossians 4:8b).

13. If you’re part of a church, Bible study or fellowship, be committed to showing up. Your simple presence encourages others that they are part of a community of faith and that they are not alone. That’s why the writer of Hebrews says, “Let us not give up the habit of meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another-and all the more as we see the Day approaching” (Hebrews 10:25).

14. If someone you know is working on a large project, send her a single flower to encourage her at the beginning of the project, and a full bouquet when it’s done.*

15. Use encouragement as an outreach. If anyone should be known for being an encourager, it should be the Christian. Write a letter of appreciation to people at work, your apartment manager, your child’s teacher or your doctor. Often when we interact with these people, we are asking for their services. Take time just to say thank you!*

16. If you really want to encourage someone who gives you excellent service, write a letter of commendation to the person’s boss.*

17. We could learn something from the way team athletes freely pat, touch and high-five each other in competition. Touch is a powerful encouragement. Be sure to be sensitive in this area, though. Ask someone if you can hug her first. And be careful to be above reproach with persons of the opposite sex.

18. When you see someone making positive changes in their lives, affirm them. “You seem to have a really great attitude about…” “It may be that I’m just starting to take notice, but I see that you’re…” “Do you think that you are becoming more…?”

19. Tell people how they’ve encouraged you!

Learn to feel the most encouraging love of all.

* Asterisked tips adapted from the book, 52 Simple Ways to Encourage Others, by C.E. Rollins, Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville, TN, 1995.

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39 Responses to “19 Ways to Encourage Others”

  • Hazelle Schenk Hazelle Schenk says:

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  • Fabrice says:

    Where is the prayer??

  • Shelley Shelley says:

    Amen Werner and may the Lord our God bless you.

  • werner says:

    i need these encouragement best 19 tips

  • Aldo Aldo says:

    AMEN!, Adebayo.

  • Adebayo emmanuel says:

    Thank you for the wonderful strategies

  • Elkay Elkay says:

    As you seek to strengthen your spirit of encouragement, it may be helpful to meditate on these words from Paul to the Philippians, “If you find any comfort from being in Christ, if His love brings you some encouragement, if you experience true companionship with the Spirit, if His tenderness and mercy fill your heart; then, brothers and sisters, here is one thing that would complete my joy—come together as one in mind and spirit and purpose, sharing in the same love. Don’t let selfishness and prideful agendas take over. Embrace true humility, and lift your heads to extend love to others. Get beyond yourselves and protecting your own interests; be sincere, and secure your neighbors’ interests first.” Thank You Lord, for Your Word, for it’s life-changing wisdom. May we be faithful to apply it to all aspects of our life.

  • belinda says:

    Thank you for this amazing article. I have recently been saved. In my past I feel into a pattern of discouraging others. It’s now a strong hold I’m working to break down. This has been a great help. Thank you

  • Efyo mfwaya says:

    nice encouragent mwe

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  • Kaylee says:

    Love this! I’ve already tried to keep a lot of these in mind and it’s good to have them written in one place with some I didn’t think of as well. Loving on others with the love of Christ is so much fun when you start looking at practical ways of doing it. :D

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Belinda, It is so nice to hear that this article was of help to you.

    At this time, I would love to pray for you and the ministry that you and the other women are birthing on behalf of serving our beloved Lord and others.

    Father God, I pray that you will bless the works of Belinda and the other women’s hands as they reach out to help, encourage, and comfort others. I pray that Your Spirit will shine through each one of them as they reach out to bless others. I ask that You bestow Belinda’s newly form ministry with Your abundant love, favor and influence. Whatever name Belinda decides on “Women of Courage” or “Women of Encouragers” may Your name be above all that they seek to do bring honor and glory to Your name. I ask that You place a hedge of protection around this ministry so that nothing can harm it in its early infancy. May You align Belinda up with all resources needed to advance this ministry and bring forth more and more workers to tend to the great harvest of needs as such arises. Thank You Father God for choosing and placing this wonderful desire to serve You in Belinda’s heart. I pray that others will see how wonderful you are to bless those that seek to serve You and others with all of their heart, mind and spirit. It is all about serving You Lord and Your kingdom. Let Your perfect will be done in Belinda and the other women’s lives as they step out in service to the members within their church and to those throughout their community and wherever else You will send them to. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen

  • Belinda says:

    This has helped me so much. I just started a ministry and it’s called “Women of Courage” but I may change it to “WOMEN who ENCOURAGES”.

  • Jer Jer says:

    Jaime,

    Let me know if you have any questions! Have a great day!

    Jer

  • Jamie says:

    Cool but im not christian

  • Lisa Vaughn says:

    This is such a great list! Encouraging and lifting up others is what being a Christian is all about. Showing the love of Jesus…being the salt to the world….And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works Heb.10:24 Thanks!

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    good artilce and good comments coming from this article thank you

  • Ed. says:

    Grazie for posting this!

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Thanks for the link to “The Gift of Encouragement/Enough Light” There are some good thoughts there.

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  • Doris Beck Doris says:

    Glad you found us Rachel! One of my favorite verses in the Bible says that we are to ‘consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds..that is what encouragement is all about! Go for it!

  • Rachel says:

    Thank you. Several new ideas that I am looking foward to trying!

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  • Sharon Sharon says:

    good article,than you for posting it

  • sharon says:

    Thank you! I needed this. I have been wanting to be an encouragement to my christian friends and this helps me to know how.

  • Joslyn says:

    Thanks for sharing and this is so true!!

    We should always keep encouraging each other. We
    Are allways the only ones who can.

    Follow me on ttwiitterr for inspirational, motivating,
    spiritual ENCOURAGEMENTS en quotes.

    Be blessed.

    JoslynnJ is me twitter account. Tnxx

  • Tom Petersen says:

    Just think – if each of us took time every day to encourage someone else we would never be bored, we’d have deeper friendships and it would not occur to us to feel sorry for ourselves. Not to mention that others would be encouraged!

  • Tom Petersen says:

    Thanks for an encouraging list! Encouragement is a gift that we often overlook. But it is one of the most important and powerful gifts God has given us. We can make a huge difference in someone’s life with just a little encouragement. And the more we encourage others, the more encouragement we receive. All of the truly great Christians I have known have been encouraging people. Lets develop a habit of encouraging others.

  • Vicky says:

    I Love encouraging,making new friends,being a listening ear, and praying over people so if any of you need me :) call or tex me at [ed: it is our policy not to publish personal contact information] God Bless You All! :)

  • shay says:

    i needed to hear that! I love encouraging others and for some reason I’ve been so selfish with things. I do what to help others and I think this will open the door, now I just have to walk thru. Thanks for writing this! its great!

  • Doris Beck Doris says:

    This really is an awesome list! I agree Rick that it is very valuable. What a great idea to use it for your Small Group Ministry at church. All of us need to focus more on encouraging one another and it is always helpful to have specific things that we can do.

  • Rick Hesterberg says:

    I started a Small Group Ministry in my church on the Power of Words and using them to Encourage people inside and outside of the church. This list is very valuable and I thank you for posting them.

  • Shelley Shelley says:

    Yes! I love to encouirage others, that is why I am on the Blog.

  • Andrew Andrew says:

    I have found that when I say and do things for others even the small things people will know they are appreciated. This shows others that I am Christ like.

  • carol says:

    I’m teaching on Sunday school about how to overcome discouragement and I searched in the internet and found this information regarding how to encourage other. This topic is so helpful especially us as Christian, we should always be prepared to encourage others and also to let others encourage us. Thank you.

  • Winni says:

    I printed this out as well, I have the gift of Exhortation. Part of my devotional in the mornings entails me asking God who can I encourage/help. Thanks for publishing this information. Be Blessed!

  • Trisha says:

    i’ve printed this out b/c i really need to memorize some of these suggestions. i’ve been only saying silly things like,”Good job” or “wow i like your hair”, now i have something more to consider. i guess i’ve had trouble encouraging others b/c then it wouldn’t make me look as good as them. How selfish huh? Thank you for writing this about encouragement. i didn’t realize how much i didn’t know about it.

  • Martina says:

    I have a friend who i know needs encouragement but i wasnt sure how to give that and this just let me know ways that i could show appreciation and love to that person. Very helpful

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