Should I confront my mother abour her hurtful words?
Lately, my mom has been asking why she and I aren’t close like we used to be. I am a Christian and she is still testing the waters of Christianity. Last night I had a difficult time falling asleep. I was remembering the different times in my life when my mom has called me a “female dog.” Some of those times were in a joking manner, while others were very painful. I don’t want to live in the past or hurt my mom. Should I confront her, or just give it to the Lord?
Advice: Since your mother keeps asking you why you aren’t close as you used to be, obviously that is troubling her. Since you couldn’t sleep for remembering about how cruelly your mother spoke to you at times, I suspect that you need some unburdening of your own of the painful feelings
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So it might clear the air a bit on both sides if you follow Jesus’ advice. He said, “If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over” (Matthew 18:15). And Luke 3:3 says, “And if he repents, forgive him.”
We can pray that this will result in the healing of the breach, as well as the inner healing of yourself. When we rid ourselves of “junk,” we realize true peace!
May the Lord be with you in this.
Dr. Muriel
i feel for you sami, my mom picks favorites too, i find it hard to confront her whens she drives me nuts, my mom is getting older and i find it hard to really love her, it hasn’t been a good life with her as my mom, i am a middle child of a family of seven, she had to pretty well raise us since my dad was home physically but not emotionally because of that she is a controller and she still is, is hard becaue i got raised to not talk back to parents
Its the same thing about my situation. I just finished 8 th grade, now im on summer vacation. Being at home all the time means i see my mom more. She expects me and my sisters to be absolutely perfect. She constantly yells and screams about everything. She targets me specifically. If i dont do something perfect she yells at me and calls me lazy, stupid, fool, idiot. She says that i dont do anything. She says im useless. She picks favorites but she denies doing so but it is the plain truth. She wants me to be everything ky sisters are and i am not. I know that im not as good or as smart as them. But she consistently makes me feel like im not worth anything. There is never a time i walk away after a conversation with her feeling good about myself. She doesnt realize how horrible she makes me feel. Ive felt so bad that i even contemplated suicide multiple times. I dont know if im just being sensitive. I want to say something to her. She’s been hurting me for such a long time and im tired of it. Im tired if having someone who is supposed to love me unconditionally, hurt me in so many ways. I want to tell her that if my life is such a burden on hers then shw should please give me up for adoption because her bad treatment towards me has caused my sisters to thinks its ok to treat me bad too.