Help My Husband Accept Jesus Christ

How do I help my husband believe and accept Jesus Christ? He has a stubborn heart and does not want to believe. He attended Bible studies for many years yet all he did was raise questions and criticize the Bible. He feels overwhelmed by a sense of emptiness and does not feel any purpose for life. He has been in such a state for the past four or five years. He is in agony. I know Christ can take him out of this state of void and give him purpose. I really want to help him.

Adivce (Angela Chiang): I feel your anxiety and worry about the salvation of your husband. I see that your ability falls short of your wish when you try to make your husband believe in Christ. I really care about you and hope I can cheer you up by encouraging you to see things from a different perspective. An anxious heart will not solve your situation. Worry is a stumbling block to trusting in the Lord. The following suggestions may be helpful to you. I hope to hear your improvement shortly and by God’s grace, may you experience the joy of interacting with your husband in spirit.

  1. First and foremost, you need to establish a good relationship with God.  Jia-zhan, God is real. He is the living God that rules the entire universe. He loves you. He also loves your husband whom you share your life with. The more you pray and read the Bible, the more God will provide you with wisdom and patience. Whenever you feel as if you are unable to bear the burden, God will reveal to you the truth through scripture, prayer, the church, people around you and things that happen to you.
  2. When you realize God loves your husband too, you will not feel lonely. You are not fighting the battle alone; instead, you are co-working with God in leading your husband to Him. We Christians consider it our great commission to lead people to God, including our spouse who shares in our life.  God is exceedingly willing to care about your husband along with you.
  3. Knowing that you are co-working with God, you need to rely on Him, and seek strength and wisdom from Him. Do not be anxious about anything, present your requests to God by prayer and petition.  You can pray to God: “O Lord, I know you have remarkably more concerns for the salvation of my husband than I do, for the grace of salvation is indeed for those who have not believed in you. I hereby present my husband in your gracious hand. May your Holy Spirit move him inside so that he may long to know you. I am unable to make him believe in you, yet only your Holy Spirit can lead him to you. I am willing to watch and pray for him. May you help me so that I shall not lose faith in you for I believe you will not forsake him.”
  4. Let me tell you the principle of being a wife. I want to share with you two scripture verses. 1st Peter 3:1-2 from the New Testament says, “Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.” I encourage you to care about your husband with a sincere heart, love him and make him experience the virtue of you so that he has an equally loving heart for you and aspires to share with you his problems, concerns, troubles and happiness. When he shares with you, you may affirm him, accept him, encourage him, forgive him and support him based on the principles of your faith. If he shares with you about the struggles in his work, you may seize this opportunity to invite him to pray together and ask for heavenly wisdom from God.
  5. I think it is a good thing that your husband wants to go to Bible studies. His doubt and critique of the Bible indicate that he takes faith seriously. They are merely hurdles he can not cross now. You can be assured that the Christian faith can withstand any rigorous examination. Be patient and try to understand his questions. Very likely, his doubt is something we have not thought about. You should rejoice that your husband is a man of thought. Do not engage in an argument with him. Do not turn on him instantly either but rather acknowledge his questions. You may say, “Why haven’t I come up with these questions? These questions fascinate me. Let’s do some research and see if we can find the answers in the Bible.” Then you need to carefully mull over the root of his questions. You can study the Bible with him.  It is fine that sometimes he gains the lead in the debate. Someday he will find the answers. You should lead him patiently, one step at a time. Surely, you shall continually pray for him in private, asking God to open his heart and soul so that the Holy Spirit will soften him and make him understand the truth.

I have several friends who helped their husbands understand the Bible in a similar way. The actual time it took varies individually. Some people accepted Christ quickly while others took longer. You fulfill what you can do and leave the rest to God. God’s timing is always perfect.

I pray that you may trust and obey His leadership wholeheartedly. I also pray that the Lord will bestow His extraordinary strength and wisdom upon you to love and care for your husband in your solo battle.


20 Responses to “Help My Husband Accept Jesus Christ”

  • Elkay Elkay says:

    JAT, I feel the urgency in your words and am so sorry about your desperation in so many situations. Sometimes it is very hard to understand why God is allowing things to be topsy turvy but goodness and love are two of His strongest attributes so hang in there.

    Praying, “O Lord, we know you have great concern for the salvation of JAT’s husband, for the grace of salvation is indeed for those who have not yet believed in You. Please take Jimmy into Your gracious hand and send Your Holy Spirit to break any demonic strongholds and indwell him so that he may come to know You, Your grace and Your glory. Please bring Jimmy back to JAT with a job and help JAT to not lose faith in You but to believe Your words that You will not forsake her nor Jimmy nor her family. And Lord, thank You for the miracle of new birth and watch carefully over JAT’s pregnancy. We ask this in Jesus’ Name. Amen.”

  • LYNN says:

    I am praying for each of you wanting your spouse to return and know God. I too, am going thru this and it very difficult but I know Gods got me just like he has all of you. Dont stop prayng. Dont give up.

  • JAT says:

    Please pray for my husband jimmy and his salvation. He is visiting his family out of the country and I am 7mths pregant with our child. This is both of our second marriage. I don’t know if he is even coming back. We haven’t spoken. He lost his job in January. Things weren’t right before his job loss and it absolutely turned topsy turvy after that. I feel that there is such a demonic hold on his life. It has to be broken and his eyes have to be opened to the truth of Jesus for us to make it through. He has a really difficult time accepting my daughter from the first marriage and constantly complains about her whenever he gets a chance. I’m in despair and really need prayer.

  • Elkay Elkay says:

    Lord Jesus, Angel’s husband has a great need to know and experience the reality of You as Lord, the reality of You as head of him and the reality of his responsibility for the spiritual well-being of his family and children. May he know Your promise that if two of Your followers agree on earth concerning what they ask, Your Father in heaven will do it for them (Matt 18:19). May this motivate him to pray alongside Angel as the spiritual leader of their home. Please also Lord, strengthen Angel’s faith and give her the persistence to pray without ceasing for her husband, her children and her marriage. Thank You for hearing her prayers and also this prayer that we bring to Your throne of grace to obtain mercy and find grace to help in this time of need. Amen.

  • Angel says:

    Please give me answers for a father and husband who is full of pride and will not pray with me EVER een when I ask him too. Our children need to him to be a leader in Christ and he just dismisses his responsibility all together.
    I married him thinking he would be a spiritual leader in our home and for the first 5 years he seemed to be going in that direction then porn, internet addiction got ahold of him.
    He is now going through the motions of being a good man through his own willpower not the Holy Spirit. I know he is going fall down again, he just wont surrender to Jesus and become the spiritual leader in our home. Our adult children are falling father back and when I pray for them I hear Jesus in my head say pray these things with your husband. But to no aail he makes it uncimfortable to pray with him. Its like he mocks me or doesnt think its really going to help. I will continue to pray for him but I need guideance before I completely just give up and let it all fall apart on us. I am praying for a SUDDENLY to happen in our marriage and his faith to be egnighted with truth and enthusiasm to lead us .

  • Lynne says:

    Elkay. Thank you so much. The words u said were
    Amazing. Thank u. Thank u.

  • Elkay Elkay says:

    Lynne, I am heavy hearted for what-all you are going through; it must seem overwhelming! We praise God and thank Him for your 20+ years of a wonderful marriage and we pray to Him that you be strengthened and encouraged in the spiritual and physical worlds.

    Isaiah 61:3 talks about Jesus giving a garment of praise to those who mourn in place of a heavy, burdened, and failing spirit. So we ask You, Lord Jesus, to supernaturally turn Lynne’s husband’s depression into a spirit of praise and have him realize that a miracle has occurred. Show him that his new praise comes about because of the wonderful years of marriage to Lynne and may this revelation draw him back to her.

    When he returns, we know that our evil Adversary has blinded his mind and he is unable to see the glorious light of the glory of Christ, who is Lord. We also know that Christ has defeated evil and disarmed evil’s principalities and powers and so we prayerfully ask Him to gracefully and mercifully make Lynne’s husband alive together with Himself to His honor and glory. Then, Lord, may the two of them be faithful witnesses of Your love and restorative power to a hurting world. Amen.

  • lynne says:

    Had a rough weekend. My husband came home long
    to get the rest of his stuff. I’m not EVER
    Coming back he said. For those of u who have
    followed my story knows this isn’t him. We have had 21 wonderful years. His MD said he has severe depression and he refuses to get help. He also is atheist and I can garantee this is a spiritual battle. Please pray and encourage me to continue to fight for my failing marriage. Love u

  • Kate says:

    Dear Stephanie,

    My heart goes out to you. I know what it feels like to be afraid for a loved one because they are straying far from God and finding plenty of reasons to justify their actions. I also know what it feels like to be that person, the one who makes lots of excuses. I think if we reflect honestly, we will all find that we have certain areas of our lives where we justify our own behaviour. We say “I would never do THAT” but, in fact, we do other things that we excuse and justify. We are all equally in need of God, we live in utter dependence on His grace day to day, regardless of how moral or immoral we may seem to be. Only thing is some of us recognize our dependence on God – and that is God’s miracle – and some of us deny it. We need to pray night and day that our own self-righteousness would not be a stumbling block to others. We need to confess that we are not righteous, that Christ alone is righteous, and must pray for His righteousness to be revealed in us, despite our sinful nature – and that is God’s miracle. Sin is not a mild sickness. We are dead in our sins. We need resurrection – and that is God’s miracle.

    It is because God has given us free will that we can align our will with His purpose – and that is God’s miracle.


  • Stephanie says:

    My husband, Sammy, left our marriage for another woman. He claims I was too boring/uptight because I do not drink and watch porn. He has changed so drastically. He is consumed by darkness, evil, and sin. He is surrounded by people telling him that what he is doing is right. We have almost no communication at all. He is bitter and hateful to me. He blames me for his actions. I have my flaws, but have remorsefully apologized for my mistakes and any pain I have caused him. He refuses to forgive me and holds everything I ever did as an excuse to justify his actions. I pray night and day for the evil to be removed from him, and for him to feel a desire to seek God. I’m starting to feel tired, defeated and hopeless. I know my God is an awesome God capable of miracles, but my husband has his free will. Even if our marriage can not be restored, I am so afraid for my husband and desperately want him to find God and return to being the man he once was or even better.

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Dear Raygan, may you know that God loves you and “deeply” cares about your unbelieving husband too. It is so touching to hear how wonderful of a man your husband is in respecting your faith and to allow you the freedom to raise your children up in your faith. You are very blessed to have a husband that is very open and willing to allow you to exercise your faith regardless of his unbelief at this time.

    Never give up praying for your husband’s salvation. The Word of God says, “Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.” (1 Peter 3:1-2)

    I do not think you are viewing your husband as an “idol” because you desire for him to be in heaven as well. Through your faith in Christ, you are being conformed into the very image of the Lord and it is His desire that no one perishes (see 2 Peter 3:9). You are resembling the same heart’s desire that God has towards all who do not yet acknowledge His Son…God’s word says, “This is good, and pleases God our Savior, who wants all men to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth.” (1 Timothy 2: 3-4)

    Carry on in seeking the Lord with all your heart, raise your beloved children as God would have you, and continue to believe that God will eventually open the eyes of your husband’s heart in believing in the Lord Jesus Christ as his personal Savior.

    At this time, I would like to pray for you and your beloved ones.

    Father God, I pray on behalf of Raygan, her unbelieving spouse, and her children as well. I ask that You would continue to bless Raygan in her faith and in raising her children as You would have her. I ask that in Your perfect timing You would open the eyes of her husband’s heart so that he may come to know you. I praise You for all the wonderful things that You are doing in Raygan’s heart and the beautiful things You are going to do within this family unit. May Raygan rest upon Your promises found with her Bible…that as she remains standing firm in her faith and being submissive to her husband…that he may be won over in believing in You because of her godly behavior. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen

  • raygan says:

    My husband claims not the believe in God but IS an extremly moral man. He has saved my life from ruin from many issues and I love him dearly . I want so badly to have him with me at church or in a prayer. He is not disrespectful at my prayers, and it was agreed I am responsible (without resistance) for our childrens spiritual beliefs. I just dont understand how there could be a heaven without him.Then I also feel I am somehow making him an idol by thinking this.

  • Brenda Miller says:

    Understandably, your words remind me of Proverbs 3:5-6:

    5 Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding.
    6 In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths [Amplified Bible].

    We cannot go wrong when we put our trust in God and rely on Him to guide us in all our decision-making, knowing He loves us and our loved ones more than we can possibly comprehend.

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  • Brenda Miller says:

    Hi Namakula,

    I am so sorry to hear about the pain in your relationship with your husband. The pain of adultery is so intense, and my heart goes out to you.

    Namakula, is your husband willing to go to counselling? Is he willing to see the wrong in his behaviour? If not, I encourage you to look at the following articles from Lynette Hoy and pray about what to do regarding how to proceed in your marriage. The first is called, “What To Do After An Affair,” and the second is called, “Dealing With Unhealthy Relationships”:

    Namakula, you deserve to be treated with love and respect by your husband, and that means living in a monogamous relationship, one in which he is loyal and faithful only to you. It is my prayer that you can find a pastor with whom to talk about the difficulties you are having, and if your husband will not go with you, then consider going alone for counsel for your own health and well-being.

    Lord Jesus, I thank You for Namakula, and for her forgiving heart of love. Please grant that her husband would see the wrong he is doing in committing adultery and that he would repent and turn to You, Lord Jesus. Thank You for Namakula’s faith in You, O Lord, and help her to walk in victory despite the circumstances in her marriage. May You be First in her life and the Husband to which she turns during this time of intense pain and always. O Lord, touch Namakula and heal the wounds within her that have been caused as a result of her husband’s unfaithfulness, and also touch her husband and heal the wounds within him that lead him to such hurtful behaviour. I pray these things in Your holy and precious name, Lord Jesus. Amen.

    Namakula, if you would like to speak to someone one-on-one about the pain in your marriage, I invite you to fill out the following form, and you will be matched with an online mentor who will respond to you privately and walk with you during this painful season of your life:

    I continue to pray for you, my sister in Jesus!

    With sincere care for you,


  • Namakula says:

    this also happens to me,my Husband doesn’t believe in jesus i kindly request you pray for me too,so that he can stop cheating with many different women,leaving consequences of kids behind each woman,i have just known this recently,i forgive him because i love him so much and want to bring him to our lovely God.some advise to me also please.

  • Andrew says:

    @ Doug often when we don’t try to be the Holy Spirit then God works in others and sometimes it takes a very long time! Lord Jesus I pray that you will be with Doug give him wisdom as he deals with his wife who does not really appear to be living the Christian life. Lord I pray that you will give Doug patience and wisdom as he lives his life and to let his life do the speaking instead of words and give him peace during this time. In Jesus Name, Amen. God Bless

  • Doug says:

    I have the same problem with my wife , she says she believes in god, but has never opened a bible, wont go to church, and wont listen to me telling her about my relationship with Christ. After praying on it for almost 5 years, Ive decided to not talk to her about God again until she comes to me and ask’s me to. I know that Gods works can be seen thru his people, so I hope that maybe gods works will show thru me enough that she finds herself wanting to know more about God.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Smit there are obviously some problems in your marriage. It will be very difficult to have a healthy marriage with no communication between the two of you about your feelings. I obviously don’t know all the issues that are going on but I can tell you that Jesus is able to transform your marriage. His Spirit will guide you how to interact with your husband. The more you focus your attention on knowing God and following Him the better equipped you will be for loving your husband.

    Heavenly Father, I pray for Smit. Help her to have the strength she will need to love her husband. I pray that You would work in his heart to put a desire to know everything about his wife. Build the love that they have for each other so that they will seek to serve one another. Amen.

    Smit, let me invite you to talk with one of our online mentors who can help you understand how Jesus can make a difference in your marriage. You will find a Mentor Request Form at

  • Smit says:

    I asked my husband if he wants me to tell him how I feel next time. He said no. How do I continue in a Christian why toward my husband without telling how I feel any more. How should I think about this in order to stay married and live with out telling him how I feel. He would rather not here if my feelings are hurt.

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