Why do people seem to lose their friends after marriage?

Written by Dr. Ginger Gabriel, Ph.D., M.F.T

losefriends-imgI want to get married, but I am afraid of losing my friends. I know of many people who have lost their friends after being married. Please explain to me why people, especially women, lose their friends after marriage?

Advice: All of us have just 24 hours a day. If we are also working, going to school, etc., we find that after spending time with our husband, cleaning, cooking etc. there just isn’t as much time to spend with our friends. Most of us just schedule a lunch per week with a best friend, one night a week to spend with an old friend or a Bible study/ prayer group and just make sure that we aren’t so overscheduled with other things that we don’t shortchange time with our spouse and a few best friends. It is a matter of prioritizing our life to the things that are really important. Of course, to plan one thing into our life, usually means that we won’t have time for other things. Make sure that the things on your schedule are really important for your life goals.

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55 Responses to “Why do people seem to lose their friends after marriage?”

  • Chris Chris Landwerlen says:

    nayeli….one thing we learn when we marry is that our spiritual marriage to christ is really the one that counts since earthly marriage is only for this, earthly life. use your time to seek a closer walk with the lord and help others to do so also. seek those out who dont know about the salvation of christ and be a soul winner for jesus if for now, your husband prefers to be a friend winner, you can be wiser. blessings!

  • Rashid says:

    I hope I am right in this because I like to be with my wife all the time and then after when we had children I go take them out or we go together. Cook special food together. I don’t it was wrong to stay together with wife think her as friend and partner. Following YOU Think It Was Wrong. Bless to all

  • Luis says:

    As long as he is home by a decent time let him go. Do you really need him in the house all the time. As long as he doing his part to i dont see a problem so as long as he comes home.

  • nayeli says:

    And i dont know what to do?? My husband prefers to be with his friends most of the time..

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    good article and good comments here I try to let my husband have his friends he went to school with. and also let him have his hobbies on the ones he likes I try not to squash his likes things he likes or people he likes.

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