I don’t feel anything for my husband
I am to a point that I do not feel anything for my husband. It is a horrible thing to say, but I can’t help it. I don’t know what is going on, because I used to love him, but now I don’t even want him to touch me, and I get no pleasure from sex.
I know God wants us to have a better marriage. I have contemplated leaving him so that he can find someone else that may truly want him the way he should be wanted.
Advice: I feel sad for and with you. I would suggest that you see a professional Christian counselor to help you work through your problem. There may be something in your past that is affecting the way you feel now.
At a Christian bookstore you can find books that deal with marriage problems. Here are some suggestions: When Love Dies
by Judy Bodner and Loving Your Marriage Enough to Protect It by Jerry Jenkins. You may also see some other books there that would meet your problem.
You could visit your church library or public library to check out some books on marital problems.
I’m praying for you. Please feel free to write again. I care!
Dr. Muriel
I know this feeling EXACTLY. We have been married for 16 years and got married out of obligation, we stay married because the Bible teaches against divorce. I was pregnant and he felt it was the right thing to do. Today, my eldest child is 23 and the younger two are 15 and 12. We have tried counseling, but when I am truly honest with myself, I just don’t feel anything for him, and I too have thought about leaving so he can be loved and appreciated the way he deserves and so that one day, if at all, I will have the same thing. God help me, I don’t know what to do.