Preparing for Menopause

Written by Lynette Hoy NCC, LCPC

Women fear growing old. The prospect of wrinkles, body aches, fatigue and menopause adds to negative feelings about aging.

Whether you are 20, 35 or 47, you can better prepare for the aging process by reading this article. It will help you understand what to expect and how to cope successfully with this normal stage in life every woman will enter called “menopause.”

“I feel on edge. I can’t sleep or think clearly. My husband is tired of my forgetfulness. Sometimes I just fly off the handle for no reason. I am having trouble with sex. I don’t know what is happening to me? Could this be menopause?”

Nancy, age 52, sat limply in my office looking frustrated, worn-out and depressed. I have counseled many women with complaints like hers. Women complain of overwhelming symptoms of peri-menopause and menopause which impairs their emotional, physical, mental and spiritual health.

Surprisingly, in a recent BBC news article “Women are Happier after Menopause” it quoted a Jublilee Report where 76% of post-menopausal women said their health was better, 75% said they had more fun, and 93% said they had more independence and more choice in everything from work to leisure pursuits.

Most likely, you are feeling more like Nancy and are looking for answers to help you cope with the uncertain territory of peri-menopause and menopause. I want to provide you with information about what to expect when you begin experiencing menopausal symptoms and how you can more effectively handle this new stage of life.

What is menopause?

Menopause begins a new phase in a woman’s life, when in her 50′s, she stops having periods. Menopause is a natural biological event in which the menses stops when the function of the ovaries begins to cease. The process of menopause does not occur overnight, but rather it is gradual. This so-called peri-menopausal transition period is a unique experience for each woman and can begin when women are in their 40′s. A woman is in menopause when she has had no menstrual periods (menses) for 12 months and has no other medical reason for her menses to stop.

The early symptoms of menopause include abnormal vaginal bleeding, hot flashes and mood changes. Late symptoms consist of vaginal dryness, urinary problems, muscle and joint aches.

How to cope

I encourage women to take better care of themselves in every aspect of life: physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

  • Physical Wellness:
    Because hormone levels are decreasing, there will be fluctuations in the symptoms women experience. Vaginal bleeding and hot flashes will come and go. There is no set time when these symptoms will stop. Some will experience symptoms for over a decade of their lives.Hormone or estrogen replacement therapy taken orally or applied topically may be prescribed by a doctor which can help alleviate symptoms of hot flashes and vaginal dryness. But, it is important to manage your own treatment and research the best kinds of medical or natural interventions. Recently, a research project discouraged the use of the combined hormone replacement therapy: estrogen and progesterone.Lifestyle changes should include quitting cigarette smoking, curtailing alcohol intake, exercising regularly, and consuming a balanced diet with adequate calcium and vitamin D. Such changes are beneficial for increasing physical wellness and preventing complications such as osteoporosis and heart disease.
  • Emotional and Mental Wellness:
    When you are experiencing the symptoms of hormone loss, you will feel blue. This increases emotional fragility and a sense of low self-esteem. Deficiency in hormones and lack of sleep cause irritability, confusion and sadness, angry outbursts, tears and relational problems.

    While estrogen therapy may be recommended to help elevate mood, women should also incorporate natural methods of elevating mood such as lowering stress and increasing recreational and exercise programs. I encourage women to consider a new venture, career or learning a useful pursuit such as photography, writing or computer technology. I knew someone who finished her MSW when she was 55! Start participating in meaningful recreational and social activities. Begin hiking, biking, bird-watching, participating in a book club, or enjoying Christian ministry or new hobby.

  • Spiritual Wellness:
    This will bring the greatest stability when women enter this new stage of life. As a Christian. you can be certain that the Lord cares about you and understands your suffering. He will be your companion through this valley. Take more time to read Scripture, the Psalms and pray. This will help alleviate depression and anxiety caused by menopause. Memorizing Scripture can change your attitude about life.

    When the writer of Psalm 42:5 felt depressed, he talked to himself and told himself biblical truth about life, the future and God: “Why are you downcast o my soul? Why so disturbed within me? For I will yet praise Him, my Savior and my Lord.”Challenge your thinking and renew your mind according to the truth of Scripture in order to get God’s perspective on your life and experience a greater sense of wellness all-around.

Why not write out some goals to help you better manage the peri-menopausal/menopausal symptoms you are dealing with and consult with your physician about medical interventions? Determine to take better care of yourself and move forward in this new phase of life. You, too, may find that this stage is a happier experience for you as others have reported.

Finally, trust in the promises of God. Isaiah 58:11 says, “The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.”

©2004 by Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC


51 Responses to “Preparing for Menopause”

  • Doris Beck D. Beck says:

    Ronda, I’m glad you found this site and this particular article! Going through menopause is not an easy time for a woman, but it always helps to know that you are not alone in what you are experiencing. With all the changes that you have been through in the last year, I can see that this must feel like the last straw.

    Have you been to see a doctor? I would strongly suggest that you start with that. There are many different ways to help manage perimenopausal symptoms, starting with creams of different sorts. Start there and see what can be done. A good friend struggled because she didn’t want to go on any kind of HRT but in the end just a very low dosage made a world of difference. For myself I also went on HRT for several years until my body was ready to make the adjustment!

    Also, I would love to pray for you!

    Dear Heavenly Father,
    Thank you for Ronda and the changes that You have brought about in her life. And thank you that she found this site. Lord, would You remind her today that You are not unaware of all she is going through? Help her to remember that although her life is changing, You aren’t! Guide and direct her in the steps that she needs to take as she goes through this change of life in her body. Give her wisdom and discernment as she looks at next steps and through it all, help her to depend on you and allow You to be at work in and through her. Amen

    Ronda, if you would rather have a personal online mentor to correspond with, we do have a great team of volunteers. Just fill out the form on this page,, and someone will email you back.

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