My sex drive has increased but my husband is annoyed
I am in my mid-40′s and starting about two months ago, my sex drive has suddenly increased. My husband and I have always enjoyed a satisfying physical relationship, but with this change, I could make love more than once a day. At first my husband was thrilled but now he seems “annoyed”. We have openly talked about why this change could have happened. I have also spoken with my OBGYN doctor. No one seems overly concerned but since my husband’s response is no longer positive, I am starting to feel rejected. My daily conversations with God are helping me to try and keep this all in perspective, but my very human side is caught somewhere in the world of confusion.
Advice: I think you yourself give the key to the answer of your dilemma: “My daily conversations with God are helping me to try and keep this all in perspective.”
Your gynecologist doesn’t seem to have a medical answer; therefore seek your cure from the Lord. The Bible says that there is no temptation that has taken us except that which is common to man, but God is faithful and will make a way to escape so that we may be able to bear it (1 Corinthians 10:13). And obviously, in order not to drive your husband away from you, you are going to have to do something about your sex drive. Here are some suggestions:
- Spend more time with the Lord, talking with Him and reading His Word and singing praise choruses. Center your heart on Him.
- Refrain from watching anything of a sexual nature on TV and at movies. (I guess that narrows your viewing down to movies and TV shows that were made before the 70′s.) Avoid reading sexy novels, or popular women’s magazines, or anything that touts sex. Temptation comes from thinking about something. If we resist the first thought and turn our thoughts to other things or the Lord, that can help.
- Sublimate your sex drive, as the Apostle Paul did. Get busy serving the Lord and helping other people. Get involved in your church.
- Take a cold shower–it works for guys–why not for gals?
- Are you taking any medications? If you just started taking one several months ago, it may be the culprit.
I know you are religious–but have you ever received Jesus Christ as your personal Savior? If you are not sure, please log on to Journey of Joy.
If you do know Christ, you can have victory over your fleshly self. Read Romans 7 and 8. In Romans 7, Paul despairs because he can’t seem to rise above his fleshly self; the whole chapter is filled with “I’s.”
The chapter ends with “Who will rescue me from this body of death? Thanks be to God–through Jesus Christ our Lord!” Thus he heads into Romans 8 where he lives in the spirit with victory–and where the “I’s” disappear.
I’ll pray for you. In Christ’s love, Dr. Muriel
