Comments on: A Bruised Reed He Will Not Break http://powertochange.com Sun, 03 Jun 2012 16:56:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Eve http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/bruisedreed/comment-page-1/#comment-93149 Eve Fri, 31 Dec 2010 12:50:47 +0000 http://powertochange.com/?page_id=17732#comment-93149 It's really hard to take it when someone violates you in such a way. I was raped at the age of seven and phyically and psychologically abused in my childhood. To add onto this all the three men I've dated wanted nothing but sex from me and feeling as unworthy as I felt at the time, I gave in. i regret for the mistakes I've made coz of looking at myself from the viewpoint of a victim who nobody would want to be in a relationship with rather than through the eyes of our loving saviour Jesus christ. I normally wonder will I ever get a man that will love me beyond my past. Is there anyone with the same experience who has a wonderful God fearing husband that I can get encouragement from? It’s really hard to take it when someone violates you in such a way. I was raped at the age of seven and phyically and psychologically abused in my childhood. To add onto this all the three men I’ve dated wanted nothing but sex from me and feeling as unworthy as I felt at the time, I gave in. i regret for the mistakes I’ve made coz of looking at myself from the viewpoint of a victim who nobody would want to be in a relationship with rather than through the eyes of our loving saviour Jesus christ. I normally wonder will I ever get a man that will love me beyond my past. Is there anyone with the same experience who has a wonderful God fearing husband that I can get encouragement from?

]]> By: bugs http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/bruisedreed/comment-page-1/#comment-83981 bugs Mon, 01 Nov 2010 02:30:38 +0000 http://powertochange.com/?page_id=17732#comment-83981 Praise be to God. We serve an awesome God, who loves and cares for us. Just want to encourage all my brothers and sisters in Christ to continue trusting Jesus, and you'll see that he gives freedom and peace and joy that is beyond what this world can give. Praise be to God. We serve an awesome God, who loves and cares for us. Just want to encourage all my brothers and sisters in Christ to continue trusting Jesus, and you’ll see that he gives freedom and peace and joy that is beyond what this world can give.

]]> By: Anonymous http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/bruisedreed/comment-page-1/#comment-81627 Anonymous Mon, 18 Oct 2010 14:04:01 +0000 http://powertochange.com/?page_id=17732#comment-81627 Thank you for your words on this subject! I was molested continually throughout my childhood and raped at 13 and 15...because it was from when I was very young, I started to think of it as normal. The male cousins who did those things to me were also physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive to me. To this day, only one of them has apologized to me and they others still treat me like dirt. It has been a constant struggle for me. I battled with depressive and self mutilation. I had a boyfriend who just wanted physical things when I was 16, but I didn't want that. Actually, it was hard for me to have intimate moments with anyone. Any display of affection repulsed me. I found Jesus when I was 18 and I am now 20 and in a relationship with a good Christian guy. He is the only one that knows about my past, and I felt so relieved after I told him. However, I still have a few problems with self-esteem and relationships with people. I am going to seek some Christian counseling. Anyway, I just wanted to share my story so that people know there IS hope through Jesus! I may have committed suicide by now if it wasn't for Him! Thank you again for your words on this subject!! Thank you for your words on this subject! I was molested continually throughout my childhood and raped at 13 and 15…because it was from when I was very young, I started to think of it as normal. The male cousins who did those things to me were also physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive to me. To this day, only one of them has apologized to me and they others still treat me like dirt.

It has been a constant struggle for me. I battled with depressive and self mutilation. I had a boyfriend who just wanted physical things when I was 16, but I didn’t want that. Actually, it was hard for me to have intimate moments with anyone. Any display of affection repulsed me.

I found Jesus when I was 18 and I am now 20 and in a relationship with a good Christian guy. He is the only one that knows about my past, and I felt so relieved after I told him. However, I still have a few problems with self-esteem and relationships with people. I am going to seek some Christian counseling.

Anyway, I just wanted to share my story so that people know there IS hope through Jesus! I may have committed suicide by now if it wasn’t for Him! Thank you again for your words on this subject!!

]]> By: Natasha http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/bruisedreed/comment-page-1/#comment-74367 Natasha Fri, 16 Jul 2010 22:26:28 +0000 http://powertochange.com/?page_id=17732#comment-74367 I can identify with this article. Like myself I know that there are so many women that are hurting today and sometimes maybe they feel as though there is no one to help. However, the Lord is good and He is a healer. I am still waiting on my healing from a broken marriage. I can identify with this article. Like myself I know that there are so many women that are hurting today and sometimes maybe they feel as though there is no one to help. However, the Lord is good and He is a healer. I am still waiting on my healing from a broken marriage.

]]> By: Allen http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/bruisedreed/comment-page-1/#comment-71012 Allen Fri, 21 May 2010 09:28:35 +0000 http://powertochange.com/?page_id=17732#comment-71012 Glory be to God, I have just come across this website. I believe this is the beginning of my break throughs and blessings. Amen Glory be to God, I have just come across this website. I believe this is the beginning of my break throughs and blessings. Amen

]]> By: anon http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/bruisedreed/comment-page-1/#comment-70990 anon Thu, 20 May 2010 22:32:23 +0000 http://powertochange.com/?page_id=17732#comment-70990 what a blessing to find this website. I grew up in a house with a mother who was always talking about sex, I was molested when I was 5, and 16, and I lost my virginity to a "lets call him a man" when I was 20. I used to sleep around and I considered homosexuality at one point in my life, but now I am born again and married with two beautiful children. For the past 4 years God has been taking me thru the healing process. It is very painful and truthfully, I run from the healing alot rathen than go there again, but it's so worth it to not be a victim and come out of something that would certainly have destroyed me. I am so grateful to have firsthand knowledge of something that is most definitely going to be of use to countless other women who have gone thru the same thing. It makes the ridiculous pain worth it....(There is a song that goes 'it hurts so good, come on baby yeah it hurts so good! sometimes love don't feel like it should but hey...it hurts so good) I've dedicated that song to this season of my life. what a blessing to find this website. I grew up in a house with a mother who was always talking about sex, I was molested when I was 5, and 16, and I lost my virginity to a “lets call him a man” when I was 20. I used to sleep around and I considered homosexuality at one point in my life, but now I am born again and married with two beautiful children. For the past 4 years God has been taking me thru the healing process. It is very painful and truthfully, I run from the healing alot rathen than go there again, but it’s so worth it to not be a victim and come out of something that would certainly have destroyed me. I am so grateful to have firsthand knowledge of something that is most definitely going to be of use to countless other women who have gone thru the same thing. It makes the ridiculous pain worth it….(There is a song that goes ‘it hurts so good, come on baby yeah it hurts so good! sometimes love don’t feel like it should but hey…it hurts so good) I’ve dedicated that song to this season of my life.

]]> By: octavia http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/bruisedreed/comment-page-1/#comment-70180 octavia Fri, 07 May 2010 12:22:08 +0000 http://powertochange.com/?page_id=17732#comment-70180 It's not an easy path, but God is true to His promises. I've learned that alot of it depends on myself, on how willing I am to surrender to God. I was sexually abused at the age of 4/5, became a born again christian at 27 and backslided after about 6 years. Now I'm wanting to come back to God, but it's so difficult, and all the issues that I thought was dealt with is back. At times I just want to run away, but I know that it's not what God has planned for me. I'm 35 and feel like I've been robbed of a carefree childhood, a normal adolescence and emotional and spiritual maturing. I've always been fearful of a relationship and now I want it so much, I'm scared that life is passing me by. The emotional and relational consequences of sexual abuse is far reaching. But I will hold on, because ultimately, even though it doesn't seem so now, I know deep down inside that God is good. And He only wants good things for me. But right now... It’s not an easy path, but God is true to His promises. I’ve learned that alot of it depends on myself, on how willing I am to surrender to God. I was sexually abused at the age of 4/5, became a born again christian at 27 and backslided after about 6 years. Now I’m wanting to come back to God, but it’s so difficult, and all the issues that I thought was dealt with is back. At times I just want to run away, but I know that it’s not what God has planned for me. I’m 35 and feel like I’ve been robbed of a carefree childhood, a normal adolescence and emotional and spiritual maturing. I’ve always been fearful of a relationship and now I want it so much, I’m scared that life is passing me by. The emotional and relational consequences of sexual abuse is far reaching. But I will hold on, because ultimately, even though it doesn’t seem so now, I know deep down inside that God is good. And He only wants good things for me. But right now…

]]> By: Patrice http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/bruisedreed/comment-page-1/#comment-56235 Patrice Thu, 24 Dec 2009 00:16:02 +0000 http://powertochange.com/?page_id=17732#comment-56235 This article really opened my eyes to a better meaning of God's love of how he handles abuse victims. I'm a survivor of it and it wasn't easy to tell my boyfriend but he encouraged me to seek counseling and it helped a little but I had to seek soem personal healing of my own. It takes time and trust someone you care about. But I enjoyed this article alot:) Sex is fulfilling when you have someone who values your self-worth & beauty instead feeling being taken advantage of. This article really opened my eyes to a better meaning of God’s love of how he handles abuse victims. I’m a survivor of it and it wasn’t easy to tell my boyfriend but he encouraged me to seek counseling and it helped a little but I had to seek soem personal healing of my own. It takes time and trust someone you care about. But I enjoyed this article alot:) Sex is fulfilling when you have someone who values your self-worth & beauty instead feeling being taken advantage of.

]]> By: Catherine Rausch http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/bruisedreed/comment-page-1/#comment-54769 Catherine Rausch Sat, 05 Dec 2009 22:17:18 +0000 http://powertochange.com/?page_id=17732#comment-54769 Good to see your article. I too was molested by an uncle when 8 yrs old. I hid the shame cause our family wasn't open to talk about things like that. It would have been my fault or denied by my parents. Because I survived I thought I was OK. I married a wonderful man but didn't realize my lack of interest in sex was because of the abuse until I was married 20 plus years. After becoming a believer I was still afraid of opening up to someone and didn't understand the need to. My husband was the first I told. When I came out of hiding God took me on a long healing journey. The process has not been easy but it has been wonderful. I love being free. I told God I wanted my husband and I to fall in love all over again and we have. God's love has restored both our hearts and healed the pain and brokenness through repentance and forgiveness. We have a new sexual relationship. I'm not inhibited any longer. Sex has become fulfilling instead of a duty. Praise to The Lord Good to see your article. I too was molested by an uncle when 8 yrs old. I hid the shame cause our family wasn’t open to talk about things like that. It would have been my fault or denied by my parents. Because I survived I thought I was OK. I married a wonderful man but didn’t realize my lack of interest in sex was because of the abuse until I was married 20 plus years. After becoming a believer I was still afraid of opening up to someone and didn’t understand the need to. My husband was the first I told.

When I came out of hiding God took me on a long healing journey. The process has not been easy but it has been wonderful. I love being free. I told God I wanted my husband and I to fall in love all over again and we have. God’s love has restored both our hearts and healed the pain and brokenness through repentance and forgiveness. We have a new sexual relationship. I’m not inhibited any longer. Sex has become fulfilling instead of a duty. Praise to The Lord

]]> By: Christine http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/bruisedreed/comment-page-1/#comment-53287 Christine Tue, 17 Nov 2009 13:44:01 +0000 http://powertochange.com/?page_id=17732#comment-53287 Mary Beth your response and honesty are inspiring. Thank you. Mary Beth your response and honesty are inspiring. Thank you.

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