Comments on: Why Do Good Girls Date Bad Boys?

By: Jamie

Mon, 16 Apr 2012 17:33:33 +0000

Hi Sam, I agree that calling this ‘funny’ is a callous comment. It sounds like this issue has really touched a nerve for you. Why are you so passionate about it?

By: Sam

Sam — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 13:13:43 +0000

Why do men date crazy women?

News flash, everyone’s a jerk. The guy saying “Often times it is very funny to watch that but wish God could help them in such matters” is a nice comment? No, it’s not. [expletive removed]

If you think you’re nice, you’re a naive [expletive removed].

By: Hanu

Hanu — Tue, 28 Feb 2012 11:50:55 +0000

I had observed otherwise very good girls being end up with bad guys. It used to bother me a lot. Any person who uses common sense will never fall for such things, yet these girls do. And then I realized girls never really use their commonsense when necessary. Good looking girls reject good guys and end up with abusive guys. Often times it is very funny to watch that but wish God could help them in such matters.

By: Doris

Wed, 22 Feb 2012 19:12:42 +0000

Rachel as the mother of daughters my heart goes out to you. It’s so hard when your daughter is going against everything you believe in and hold dear. For now, the most important thing to remember is that in the end, the young man will probably be gone, but she will still be your daughter. Focus on your relationship with her, and pray like crazy. Along the way, we do have online mentors that will pray for you and walk alongside of you on this difficult journey. Just fill in the form on this page and someone will email you and walk with you. http://powertochange.com/discover/need-prayer/

Let me pray for you before I close:

Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you for Rachel and her heart for you. Right now that heart is so heavy for her daughter. Help her to cast her cares on You dear Lord because she cannot carry it on her own. Redeem this situation Lord. And in the meantime, I pray for Rachel that You would give her grace to know how to nurture her relationship with her daughter so that in the end they will have a good one. Give her grace for each day Lord as You have promised. Amen

By: Rachel

Rachel — Sun, 19 Feb 2012 11:29:37 +0000

My daughter has been seeing a young man who don’t believe in God
Parties, and is disrespectful. My daughter tells me I don’t know the
True person he is, and I need to just get to know him. Now my 16 year old
Daughter is pregnant and he says he is going to be there, but this
Kid has dropped out of school, can’t keep a job and parties every chance
He gets. I’m so worried about my daughter, I don’t know what to do
I’m afraid of losing her completely. She thinks this kid hung the moon
Prayers and advice appreciated.

By: Jamie

Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:48:49 +0000

am glad to hear that you have come to the decision that this is not the man for you. There is no reason for you to be subject to that kind of treatment. If you have reason to be concerned about his daughters’ safety than you have a legal responsibility to inform the authorities. You will need to have some specific allegations though and not just guesses.

As far as telling his ex-wife, I would only if you have a good relationship with her. Likely there is nothing that you reveal that she is not already aware of unless, as I said before, you have some specific allegations of the girls’ safety and well-being compromised.

Lord God, I pray for Patty as she tries to discern what course of action to take. I pray that You would help her to act wisely and in the best interest of the girls. I ask that you would protect her from this man and keep her from falling victim to his anger. And I pray for these two girls that You would guard them from being harmed by their father. Help him to be transformed so that he provides them with a godly influence. Amen.

By: Mika

Mika — Sun, 05 Feb 2012 22:20:12 +0000

Patty,

Im sorry for your discovery. If what your saying is correct then what you recieved was red flags. He does not appear to want you. Deal with the rejection and do not be spiteful about it. It hurts but.it takes your focus off of other possibilities.

By: Patty

Patty — Sun, 05 Feb 2012 18:54:32 +0000

I had a relationship with a man on and off for a year, who is a father of 2 young girls 10,13. He was very protective of his daughters so much that he never even let me meet them, saying he never let any woman he dated meet them. He is 5 years younger than me, Im 55. He always was very private with his life and we just never developed a close enough relationship, thanks to him, to allow it to progress. I admit all my life I have been attracted to the “bad boy” however when my husband from my marriage over 20 years ago, put a loaded gun to my head when I asked for a divorce I thought I was pretty much done with that kind of man. I must admit I do get bored with “average men” and need that excitment the bad boy brings and I doubt it will change now. However after 6 months of not having this man with the young daughters in my life physically, I still miss him even after trying to move on with other relationships. I text him often, he usually replies with hateful comments agreeing to see me once only to change his mind. He really had the ability to be kind and gentle often, never physically mean with me over that year and I kept thinking he’ll change. But now he is apparently heavily involved with porn, porn sites and multiple women. He was raised Catholic, daughters go to Catholic school and he states he has belonged, though doesn’t attend regularly to a Nondenomintional church. I would never be with him at this point, but I’m concerned about his daughters. Should I get the information I have to his ex-wife as he has his daughters with him almost daily?

By: Andrew

Tue, 17 Jan 2012 20:02:33 +0000

The article that was written was intended for woman who are being pursued by immature boys who hide their insecurities being so called bad boys. In my life it was reversed I pursued the bad girls who appeared to be sweet only they turned out to be mean, abusive, and destructive towards me. I did marry one of this nature who would have destroyed me if I allowed her too as I mistakenly believed that I would have the ability with my insights to change her. It was me who ended up making a choice either leave Christ and keep on the path I was going or choose to stay married. I decided to become free which was difficult but a blessing as well as I had biblical grounds for divorce.

For the woman who are contemplating getting married to a boy who does not demonstrate the true character of Christ’s love then one day you will wake up and discover what it really means to be alone. He will stray and find other woman who will most likely become pregnant by him as he will get tired of you and your feeble attempts to change him. The issue is often we don’t look to Christ to guide us as are thinking is polluted and warped due to what the world teaches us. How do we change the behavior? The answer is found in Romans 12: 2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

Getting involved with a bad boy/girl is like inserting your hand in a waterfall and thinking you have the strength to not go over the water falls due to your strong character. BAD boys/girls are this way because they are broken inside and they only know how to feel whole by destroying another via sexual abuse,physical abuse, mental abuse and working to destroy your spiritual life as they can never understand the love of Christ!

God Bless

By: Mark

Mark — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 13:58:21 +0000

It can be difficult being a young Christian boy or young man, being the “nice guy” when trying to compete for the attention of Christian girls. When I was a Christian teen, I knew Christian girls in my Sunday school class that preferred non-Christian boys. Their reason was that they complained that Christian boys/young men were too naïve, immature and insipid. These young women learned too late that the excitement ends sooner or later and that their worldly suitor is insensitive, irresponsible and egocentric.
Another reason why good girls and even bad girls are attracted to bad boys is for a feeling of security. A young girl may have many suitors at her beck and call but a tough “bad boy” will protect her from the bores and the nerds. As the couple gets older, when they are no longer in school or college, the need for protection somewhat wanes and the bad boy has outlived his usefulness. As a police officer, I have been to family disturbances where the man will tell officers that his wife is not the same woman from their younger days. “She used to like it when we would hot rod around in my pick-up, drink beer and she laughed at my Chewbacca imitation”. When the woman would speak to officers, she would say, “I’ve grown up, he hasn’t”.
My only advice for Christian girls/young women is to think ahead. Ask yourself “what would this man be as when we are thirty? Will he be a good provider? Will he be loyal? Does he have a relationship with Christ our Lord? Also, Christian girls/young women need to seek council from older Christian women who have been married and know what it is to have a good Christian husband and father to your children.