Comments on: Life After Divorce: Now What?

By: Jamie

Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:52:36 +0000

Lord God, I pray for Lydia as she finds herself in this terrible circumstance. I pray that you would protect her and her children from her ex-husband’s violence and destructive personality. I pray that You would provide a way out for her that will supply her family’s needs. I ask that You would break down her ex-husband’s destructive patterns and transform his heart through the saving work of Jesus Christ. Amen.

Lydia, I don’t know if you have people who can help you make decisions to find safety but if not, please do connect with one of our online mentors. They will point you in the direction of places where you can get help, they can encourage you and pray for you and your family. You will find a Mentor Request Form at http://powertochange.com/discover/talk-to-a-mentor.

By: Lydia

Lydia — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 07:13:52 +0000

I divorced in 2008 but still stayed with my ex as he asked for a second chance and promised to change. He is an alcoholic and abusive. We later moved to another city with children. He never stopped drinking but later last year his old behaviours started to surface again. I am so sick of this situation and i am not doing justice to my kids. The man that drinks from Monday to Monday. Before i met him i had a house with everything and he was leaving with his family had nothing not even a suitcase.NOw he wants me to leave him with nothing . I am current unemployed and he is working. For the sake of my kids i really want out. I pray to God every day to give me strenght and a job so that i can start my new life.I know He will guide and lead me and restore my soul .I am prepare to leave with just my clothes and start all over again.

By: Chris

Chris — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 06:09:12 +0000

I read my comments from May 10 2009, and also the comment from Robbin from Jan 26 2012, and I can happily say that, like her, my life is now back on track. I have a wonderful man in my life and I am the happiest I’ve ever been. God did not let me down, I thank Him every day for helping me through such a difficult time in my life and leading me to where I am today. Keep faith, and hope, and one day you will get through this and it will make you a stronger person.

By: Robbin

Robbin — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 21:12:23 +0000

I have been officially divorced since April, 2011. I have been out of my ex-house since January of 2011. I thank God above for watching over me and guiding me, allowing me to be stupid at times so that I could fall on my face and see what I needed to in order to learn more about myself. I was married for 25yrs but with my ex for a total of 28yrs. We basically grew up together. We fell in love the only way that we knew to fall in love at a very young age, made many many mistakes, hurt each other deeply in various ways but ultimately grew apart as time went by. Our children are 25 and 22 but just because they were older when we divorced does not mean that they did not hurt or were not confused as a younger child would. Our family has gone through heaven and hell over the past 25 years. I just want to say that I know now that God has something truly amazing in store for all of us and it is in his time not our time. God has worked in my life and revealed many areas to me that I needed to work on in order to be the wife that someday I pray to be. I do feel that after a year God has sent someone into my life that has that true love for me and I him. I can not fathom my life without him nor can I fathom a different way of life. For the 1st time in my life I have someone that prays aloud with me, for me, in honor of me, Thanking God for me, and I truly feel it within the depths of my soul. I in turn can not fathom not feeling and doing these things for him as well. We never expected to find this type of love and never knew it existed, but it does.. In God’s time, God’s way, and only God can show us the way. Thank You God for my precious gift. A new beginning.

By: clayvessel

Tue, 20 Dec 2011 17:38:46 +0000

Hi cb, what you went through and is going through is very painful and traumatic. The fact that you decided not to want to live that way, is brave and I am sure it took a lot of courage to leave 30 years behind you.
Yes, you can be sure, that God will deliver you, and heal your heart and mind from the emotional pain and grief you are experiencing, He is our Comforter, our Healer, our Hope and our Deliverer. He is your Shepherd, in Psalm 23, David says about God “He restores my soul” (the memories, the trauma, the thoughts), and leads me in the path of righteousness for His Name sake” Psalm 23:3.
You are not alone, His presence is with you wherever you go, and He promises the goodness and mercy will follow you all the days of your life Psalm 23:6.

I would like to pray for you:”Heavenly Father, our Shepherd, thank You for your love, mercy and compassion on cb’s life, I pray that You would heal her heart, heal her soul, fill her with Your love,which is perfect, and comfort her soul.
I pray that You would mend her fragile heart with your hands of compassion and grace. That You would protect her, and lead her in the way that she should go. Thank you Lord that cb is in Your Mighty hands. In Jesus Name, Amen
cb, if you would like to speak to a mentor, please do, http://powertochange.com/experience/talk-to-a-mentor/ there are caring, God fearing women to stand by you, walk beside you, and listen to you in this time of need.
God bless you.

By: cb

cb — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 23:41:49 +0000

how do I deal with a husband of more than 30 years who had me move to a third world country to share an apartment with him and his new love – half his age, who is a transgender girl. I did not stay there, I could not bear it, I am moving on, do not want him back, however the pain of rejection and the memories left behind do hurt at times. I pray God will deliver me of the grief I experience and hope to start a new life with new people in it.

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By: Roland

Roland — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 23:01:16 +0000

Your words Kate are a real inspiration. We try ourselves to help ourselves, but often get it wrong!! Perhaps i am best in not doing anything, in trying to heal my heart. My world has been rocked and shattered, beyond to how it was, and this new way of life for me has been very strange, forcibly put onto me by my ex and her “relationship” with her bondage master. The day to day process that i know i have to got through, has been tortuous, but very steadily, not as fast as i wish, my heart is coming round, albeit very slowly. God i know, will provide the answer,not only for me, but for the other poor souls on here as well….

By: Kate

Kate — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 22:04:49 +0000

I hope you don’t need this reminder, but know that your tears are precious to the Lord, that is why He promises He will wipe away every tear from our eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things will have passed away. The best I believe we can do with our tears is plant them at the cross, meaning pour them out to Jesus, remembering His sacrifice is the greatest of all. The reason I say pour your tears out at the cross is because God promises that with Him pain is never in vain, the pain of the cross you’re bearing today WILL be followed by a resurrection! Believe Him for this, have faith for this because He is who He says He is, and He can do what He says He can do! God didn’t say we would be free from pain or sorrow, but that He would always be with us, even down into the pit, and He will work ALL things for our good. So yes, we endure pain, as did Jesus our Saviour, but we have a promise and hope, no matter what. He promises to turn our mourning into joy and to give gladness for sorrow, and while we are citizens of heaven and this is not our home, the promises are true in this life; by faith we claim them, believing in our heavenly Father’s purpose for us on this earth. What’s more, He sets us free from self-pity and over-analysis by reminding us that His ways are better than ours, His thoughts are higher than ours and we are not to lean on our own understanding, but on Him!

David, God is dealing with your wife. Praise Him for it! Though you can’t see it, you know that He is fighting for you! Our battles are not against flesh and blood but against powers and principalities. Praise God for never resting on your behalf! He never tires or wearies of hearing you call on His name, putting your full faith and trust in Him. Take your eyes off the storm, and fix your eyes firmly on Him. Praise Him for being the awesome God of reconciliation! Praise Him that He is breathing life into the dry bones of your marriage! Praise Him that He is using His incomparable power to transform your marriage from desolate into the Garden of Eden so that ALL who see will fear the Lord and call you a couple that is blessed by God! Praise Him that He has given you the authority, by the blood and name of our Lord Jesus, to call into existence the things that do not exist. Then exercise your believer’s authority by speaking life over your wife, by declaring your faith in the good things God is doing in your marriage! Declare Jesus’ blood over your marriage, ask Him to cleanse both your wounds and heal you both, and to seal the door to divorce with His blood. The enemy will have to bow or flee, according to God’s will and timing.

God has a plan that is being worked out, He promises you victory in this life, and the victory comes by faith! Meditate on this: ‘…it depends on faith, in order that the promise may rest on grace and be guaranteed…’ (Romans 4:15). God is in control, no matter how things look. He has everything worked out, He just wants you to believe Him for it so that it can be made manifest!!! Let nothing rock your faith, because no matter how big your faith is, no matter how ‘impossible’ your situation is, GOD IS BIGGER AND STRONGER AND MORE CAPABLE than we can ever imagine.

By: David

David — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 01:22:56 +0000

Kate: I cry out to the Lord every day. Many others are praying too. The pain still lingers and I have cried an ocean full of tears. People just don’t comprehend how they can have an adulterous heart without committing the physical act.