My Husband Doesn’t Share My Faith
I’ve rehearsed this scene in my mind 10,000 times: My husband, Barry, walks through the front door and says he has a surprise for me. He asks, “What’s the one thing you want most in the world?” At first I’m confused, but when I look into his eyes, I know. He doesn’t have to say it, but he does anyway: “I’ve given my life to Christ.”
But after years of praying, waiting, and hoping, so far that’s still a daydream.
Barry and I met and married 28 years ago. It was a spur-of-the-moment thing: He liked my then-red hair and green eyes; I liked his broad shoulders and sense of humor. Plus, he was easy to talk to. As unbelievers, neither of us had a clue what our future would be. We just thought a life together would be a kick. A relationship with Christ was the last thing on our minds!
Our first three years of marriage were filled with partying, softball, and the birth of our first daughter. Then, almost without warning, God drew me into a relationship with himself. After overhearing some Christians in the office where I worked talk about heaven, I began asking questions. Although I’d attended church as a child, I knew nothing about the Bible and salvation. Then one day after a long talk with Rita, one of my coworkers, I prayed a simple prayer: “Jesus save me!” That prayer forever changed my life—and my marriage as I knew it.
I wrote the handbook on how not to win your spouse to Christ
Unfortunately for Barry, right from the start I was one of those obnoxious “Jesus freaks.” I didn’t share my new faith with my husband; I pushed, forced, and shoved. Believe me, I wrote the handbook on how not to win your spouse to Christ. I didn’t speak, I preached. I didn’t live out my faith quietly; I trumpeted my every minute change. I’d say, “See what God’s done in my life? See how loving and humble I now am?” I prayed loudly in Barry’s presence and made sure he knew he was a sinner destined for hell. I even packed gospel tracts in his lunch and added a Bible verse at the end of all my love notes to him.
To Barry’s credit, he remained incredibly patient. (Maybe he was just tuning me out.) Most of the time he avoided my religious rampages by tinkering with our car. Sometimes, though, he’d get angry and yell, “Stop with all the Jesus stuff!” Barry told me he threw the gospel tracts away because they embarrassed him in front of his friends. Once in a while he’d get a pained look on his face and say he wanted his “old wife” back—Jesus-free.
Soon we were at odds with each other. I blamed any and all our marital problems on his unsaved status. After all, if we were both Christians, life would be “happy-ever-after.” Or so I imagined. I tried even harder: blasting my Christian music and scattering opened Bibles around the house; crying and pleading with him to go to church with me. Sometimes, Barry would go. But instead of enjoying him next to me in church, I’d sit there chewing nervously on the end of my pen, praying madly that this would be The Day. Afterwards, I’d quiz him in the car, “What did you think of the sermon? Did you like the music?”
“It was okay,” he’d say. “Do we have any turkey at home for a sandwich?”
The rest of the ride home, I’d sit and fight back either tears or angry words. Why couldn’t he see his need for Christ? I’d fume. Then Barry, sensing my disappointment, would pat my shoulder and say, “Look, I believe in God, but not in the same way you do.” That was not the answer I wanted to hear.
Intercessory prayer — the right way
Then something unexpected happened. I’d been reading a book about intercessory prayer when I had a sudden flash of insight. I told myself, That’s it! I’m going to pray for Barry for the next 80 years, if that’s what it takes. And I’m going to love him. Period.
That was 25 years ago—and I’m still praying and loving. But I’m no longer pining away in self-absorbed isolation waiting desperately for my husband’s salvation to bring marital fulfillment. Instead, I’ve decided that if it takes 80 years, then I want those years to be as enjoyable as possible for the both of us, despite our spiritual differences.
When I first came to faith in Christ and Barry hadn’t, I thought God had made a huge mistake. After all, two following God together made more sense than one. But I now know God never makes mistakes. Since I’d been an unbeliever when we married, I hadn’t willfully disobeyed God by marrying Barry. My situation is by God’s sovereign design. Reminding myself of that enables me to relax my spiritual chokehold on Barry.
The way I see it, God has a plan for each life. And no matter how hard I try, I cannot transform someone else’s heart. I can’t coerce, sweet-talk, or plead my husband into being a Christian. In fact, when I do try, it only drives him away—sometimes literally. If I start nagging him, he’ll get in his truck and drive for hours.
I decided long ago to accept that it’s God’s job to change hearts. That decision frees me to pursue my relationship with God without the added burden of having to bring my husband to faith. All I have to do is love and enjoy him. That’s God’s plan for me, and he gives me all the grace I need to accomplish it.
That doesn’t mean I’m not lonely at times or that I do everything right. The other day I grabbed Barry by the shirt and yelled, “Don’t you see Christ in me?” Struck by the irony of the question, he laughed—and to my surprise, said yes. It helps to remember that Barry’s not my enemy; he’s my husband. I’m just as much a sinner as he is—maybe more so because I have the power to say no to sin and often don’t.
When your loved one doesn’t love God
Here are a few things I’ve learned over these 20-plus years
- Live in the now. I don’t pine for a “happy-ever-after someday.” Instead, I accept things as they are, building on what’s good (such as enjoying each other’s company and planning for our future together), and praying about what’s not so good. Sometimes that means going into a bar with Barry and having a good time drinking a soda—and letting him know I love him just as he is. It’s what Jesus would do.
- Live honestly. In living out my faith, I let my husband see me stumble and struggle. He knows I struggle with fear, that I can’t pass a basket in a store without buying it, and that I sin regularly and often, yet desire not to. That way, he sees that a Christian’s life is one of grace alone, rather than living by a set of rigid rules. Any changes in me aren’t by my effort, but by Christ living in me.
- Honor your marriage. I’m careful not to talk negatively about Barry to anyone, and when he’s home, he’s my priority. This often means passing up social events I dearly want to attend. I seek opportunities to enjoy my husband and build him up, convinced he’s God’s gift to me.
- Pray, pray, pray. Prayer is my link to God’s presence, power, wisdom, and comfort. My favorite Scripture to pray is Ezekiel 36:26, that God will take Barry’s heart of stone and replace it with a heart of flesh. Another favorite is Isaiah 30:21: “Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.’” Although it’s hard to pinpoint specific answers to prayer for Barry, I’ve seen his attitude toward spiritual things change drastically over the years. We often talk openly and freely about God.
- Find a support system. Surround yourself with other women who’ll pray with and for you. Also, study the Bible with a friend or small group. Attend church as often as you are able.
- Never give up hope. God offers everyone the same gift of salvation and eternal life. Some choose to accept it, and others don’t. But all who accept the gift do so in God’s timing, not ours. God knows what he’s doing.
I don’t understand why God does what he does. We have two daughters who don’t have the role model of a Christian husband and father. I used to worry about that. As it’s turned out, each daughter gave her life to Christ as a preschooler. Alison, now married, lives out her faith with a believing husband, while Laura’s going through a time of teenage rebellion—but even that’s in God’s hands. As evidenced throughout the Bible, God is in the habit of saving families. That gives me great hope.
Trusting God while you wait
Even so, sometimes I get discouraged. Sometimes I sit in my brown armchair and question whether God even hears my prayers. Or I sit in church and count the couples and ache because few know what my husband even looks like. Or I’ll hear yet another testimony about someone else’s husband coming to faith, and wonder why mine still seems oblivious to his need. But then there are times when Barry exhibits greater faith than I do. In fact, that’s a joke we share. I’m the one who says I have faith, while he’s the one who seems to live it.
He’s always telling me, “Why do you worry about things? God always takes care of us.” Barry almost always knows the right thing to do when it comes to leading our family. I believe that because God sees us as one flesh, my husband shares in my blessings. Because God’s promised to lead me, he leads my husband as well. I don’t have to fret. God’s in control.
The truth is, I might not ever see Barry walk a church aisle, but that’s okay. I have hope that I’ll see him walk through heaven. In the meantime, I live my life as a gift—one I never would have chosen, but one I’ve come to accept with gratitude. I know it comes from the hand of a loving God who only gives his children the best.
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I am so glad that you found this article and have been encouraged by the posts Dee! It’s always good to hear about the experiences of others and how God has been at work in their lives and relationships.
Keep praying for your husband. Only God knows the true condition of his heart and what his struggles are that no one else knows about.
Lord I ask for your Holy Spirit to be at work in Dee’s husband’s life. Soften his heart to the things of You and help him to take the next step, whatever that is, in his relationship with you. Father encourage Dee today too, that she might not lose heart. Thank you that Your grace is always sufficient. Amen
It is so encouraging to read these posts. My husband has gone to church all his life. He says was saved at nine years old. Problem is, he doesn’t seem like a Christian. Others have said it too. He says all the right words but there is a coldness that is hard to explain. He would never miss a service, but he is like a naughty child, reading or looking off and not paying attention. I am lonely in my faith and yet I don’t have the satisfaction of praying for a non-believer, since he supposedly is saved. The worst part is that I married him, sensing a difference -that I couldn’t sense God in him. I was a brand new Christian. I don’t understand why I did it. Regardless, we have been married 26 years. I am trying to live by faith and show unconditional love. It is encouraging to read other women like myself are hurting yet trusting God. Everyones situation is a little different but God will work it out for our good as we surrender to him. Even if we sinned, in our marriage decision.
Hi Bonnie, having expectations of how we think God should work on our behalf and then not seeing things work out like that can be a real faith shaking experience. I have a cousin who has had stuff like that happen and it really sent him for a loop. It was impossible to talk with him because he had just shut his mind to God completely. I think what has made the difference for him has been those close to him continuing to live in relationship with God themselves. When you see someone else with an authentic connection with God it is hard to ignore. The last while I have been inspired by Jesus’ testimony that everything He did was directed by God. If Jesus needed that kind of moment-by-moment instruction from God, how much more do I? Jesus even went on to say that every word He spoke was directed by God the Father, even the way that He would say it. I have tried to be much more intentional in stopping and asking for His guidance before I speak or act. Every moment has eternal potential and I don’t want to waste any one of them. It is really helping me to be aware of Jesus’ presence with me always and to follow His lead.
Lord God I pray for Bonnie’s walk with You. Heighten her sensitivity to Your presence, voice and direction in her life. Let her be consciously aware of actually following her Shepherd in every situation of life. And as You deepen her relationship with You let her husband see that and break down his hostility to You. Unite them again together in faith for Your glory and purposes, Amen.
Hi Marie,
I wrote a long long one here last night about my own case however missed reading your story. Just now I finally read it and I feel that I must tell u something which I hope will bring you hope and confidence back,
Many people come to marriage expecting a happy thereafter kind of life. But in reality, especially in Christian marriages, the contrary is true. Jesus didn’t promise us a pain free life. He promised us that He will walk with us and help us and deliver us in times of pain and hardship. The purpose of a God destined marriage is two different people come together, each carries a God’s calling mission to help the other partner’s faith to grow, to bring him/her back to God. That is the difference between a marriage relationship and a pure friendship. From my experience God has now given u a big mission and challenge. It’s obvious that He wants to use u to bring His list fallen son back. You are an important role in this matter. Should u choose to give up or persevere with a right heart, God is testing your faith.
Imagine the joy both you and your husband would have when they day he is saved comes. Wouldn’t that be more exciting and grateful than you two now already share the same faith and live happily together everyday without knowing what pain is?
I’d like you to think about the wedding feast in Cana. If there had been enough wine in the first place I believe everyone would be happy right? But then where did Jesus fit? His presence in the wedding would have become meaningless. Besides, after the wedding day no it would be just another ordinary day and a week later no one would even remember anything about that wedding. But the host ran out of wine. People were upset and the host was worried. In those days, if u didn’t have enough wine to serve your guests in a wedding feast it’s considered a shame and humiliation. But the situation gave Jesus a chance to reveal His power. The miracle He performed that day became the best wedding gift to the newly wedded becuz even 2000 years later, today we are still talking about their wedding !
U must understand that none of us is perfect Marie. But God has given us a spouse whom He can use as a tool to do a work in us. When God made Eve, He promised Adam she would be his helpmate. I believe if God made Eve first He would have promised her the same.
Why a helpmate? Becuz the devil hates true love and marriage and he would do anything to destroy it. That’s the time we need our God given helpmate to give us the kind of love and support and light so we can finally overcome the darkness. So I want u to know that Marie, u r not alone and in fact, u r in your situation only becuz God wants a chance to show u a miracle, a big one.
May I give u a little tips on how to pray? I understand when we women get frustrated about our husbands we pray to God and ask Him to change our husbands. But have u thought about your true intention when u pray this way? Are u just hoping for something you yourself want? U want your husband to come to church with u so u can have the kind of marriage u think is ideal, and u can be happy when u attend Sunday mass each week? If all these are true then u probably haven’t prayed with the right heart. Try tell God this: even if this man wasn’t your husband u still want him to be a good man and u believe that only if he chooses to love God he can become a good man. There’s no other option. This is unconditional love Marie. No wonder many people have to pray for decades for their loved ones to return to church but nothing happened still and they think God is not answering their prayers. God wants to answer every prayer believe me, but He’s been waiting for us to pray with the right heart and intention first before He releases His answer which has already been prepared even before we told Him what we want.
Marie, buy this book and read – The Power of a Praying Wife.
The book saved a lot of marriages and relationships as the author teaches how to pray with a clean and right heart. I read it. I am seeing changes in myself first, knowing how to pray. I no longer pray for what I want, I pray for what’s good for my fiancé. Btw when I wrote my other long message here last night my fiancé was still trying to avoid me cuz lately I kept telling him things about God and faith and even he’s a catholic, a fallen one, he found me and my topics annoying and he felt the pressure. So he hadn’t talked to me in a week. But last night I told God even if this man will never marry me I still love him and wish He will bring him back to His arms. And guess what, after a week of complete silence ( he’s probably struggling ), last night he told me he loves me! The ice is broken! So Marie, prayers work! U just need to know HOW to pray. I know it’s hard and painful but it’s worth it. It’s hard to tell God “God even if u must take this man back from me I will still let You have him back becuz I trust that only You can do a work in him that can last.” things like that… But God is good. When He takes away your fake pearl necklace He only wants to give u a new real one! There’s no need to be frustrated thinking that u must do something to change your husband. God needs only your faith. His power is sufficient enough to make anything possible.
Dear Marie
Your story really struck me with thoughts of how maybe just to marry you your husband really did not believe then either? Yes it might be very deceitful but must be a part of him still is wrestling about it and he knows somewhere on deeper level that he should do what he is doing, and has been called got this purpose? He is fighting it … i think? Prayer is the strongest power there is. I prayed 20 years and then my husband came along and goes to church with me and believes in our Lord. Not exactly as I do, but we share just the same. You see not everyone will believe the same. But Jesus knows and will send the Holy Spirit given time in one way or another. It is not easy to wait though or be patient often and I cried many times by myself.
The hardest part for you is to be seeing your husband living a lie, as he is pretending to have faith in the very God he does not really love as he should. The only thing you can do is know that our Lord knows what he is doing, and he will some how make your husband come forward with his true beliefs or He will fill him with the Holy Spirit in spite of his fighting it all.
Sounds like he is struggling in his soul over this right now. This has happened to some of the most blessed preachers of all times! He is wavering back and forth or else he would have just thrown his hands up. Have faith God is wrestling with him just like he wrestled with Isaac. Or God’s angel did, anyway.
When preaching, the Holy Spirit has to work in him, so what is said he hears and it will sink in given time!As long as he does not say the wrong things on the pulpit concerning our Lord ,then it means He is working inside of him yet!
jaime,
It was the lay off I guess. Well that’s not true. He told me later that it started at Christmas time because we went to a mormon friends church service. He said he knew where that religion came from and if they all think they are right and we know they aren’t then why is Christianity right? Then we moved to OK from AZ right after the lay off. My parents had land there they offered to each kid and we had planned to go there knowing we were getting laid off. He wanted to try something different. Well we were there 15 months and he couldn’t find work. He worked about a week at a temp thing and that’s it. My parents also decided they weren’t selling us any land and claimed they never told us we could go there. So the whole situation kind of fell through. He said that since we believed God wanted us to move and it didn’t work out, plus his doubts about religion in general, he was done. He was raised in a Christian home by very religious parents. I think that has contributed to this because he can see how his parents go to church so often and then know the Bible (as does he, better than me) and then he can see how they gossip and how they have treated me badly.
Either way, he needs the relationship.
Hi my name is Lily. My fiancé and I are highschool sweethearts, altho we weren’t dating yet back then and we met each other again after two decades and fell in love and knew instantly that we’re the one for each other.
We’re both Catholics. Our highschool is a catholic school. His family is catholic too and so is mine.
I did not realize that the fact that we’re both Catholics is indeed a blessing from God until 3 years ago I was saved. I am saying this becuz altho I got baptized at age 10, I was never a “good” catholic. Except a quick bedtime prayer I never treated Jesus as the focus in my life. And what’s worse, I was very much into witchcraft activities and other kinds of fortune telling stuff. Even my bedtime prayers were made as a habit all those years only becuz I wanted God to bring some of my wishes to pass.
But after jacky came back to my life, things slowly started to change. I started attending Sunday mass every week and I was actually quite enjoying everything in the mass. That means I wasn’t going only out of mere responsibility as a Christian. I listened carefully to each word the priest said and sometimes it moved my heart that I had to secretly sob.
But that didnt mean I was saved, yet. I still saw fortune tellers and witches and in fact I became more obsessed with it. I was contradicting my faith. I began to love and believe in God more but at the same time I also became more active in witchcraft. I consulted this witch who claimed she’s bigger than God so frequently and I even worshipped and prayed to her.
But then one day this happened – I had a session with this witch again and she told me all most terrible things that would happen in my and my fiance’s life. It was when she’s speaking I felt the holy spirit speaking to me at the same time “none of what she’s saying is true and go make a confession at the church right away.” and so I went to church eagerly right after my session and made a confession with a priest. I cried like a baby and since that day fortune tellings and witchcrafts never came across my mind again. I was saved that day.
But this isn’t it. Things didn’t turn better since I got saved. Problem is with jacky. He is a film director and these years he has become more famous and successful and I could feel that his success is clouding his conscience more day after day. He loves me very much. But apparently he’s begun to love himself and his success more than me. He still wants to marry me and he talks about having children occasionally. But it’s just that he chooses to put his work and fame on higher priority than our future.
I have no doubt he believes in God. And he’s a good person. But I’m also sure I now see a man so blinded by Satan’s temporal pleasures. Last Xmas I read The Power Of A Praying Wife and started praying for him. Nothing changed in him. However, as promised in the book, I changed. At first I was just following the prayers provided by the author and prayed for jacky the way the author suggested. My heart wasn’t very pure although my mouth was praying for jacky. I was still praying with the intention that jacky will change and put me first before his work. So I must say after four months of praying “for” jacky nothing has changed. But I still obeyed God and kept praying for jacky. Guess what, finally for the first time, two weeks ago I suddenly felt so eagerly that I truly want jacky to come back to church with me. I suddenly realized that his selfishness of only wanting things for himself, and his indifference, his negligent, are only Satan’s work. That’s not the real jacky. The jacky I see now is only someone offered a mask by Satan, and he doesn’t know what he’s doing. I now see him the way how Jesus sees him, a lost sheep. But Jesus is a good shepherd and he knows the name of each sheep. I now put all my hope and confidence in my Lord to be so well able to fetch my beloved fiancé back to God’s loving arms.
So I started inviting him to church and showed him bible verses and devotional readings. At first he seemed moved by my motive by a bit but after a couple weeks he now seems getting annoyed. I’ve never been pushy. I only “preach” subtly by sharing with him those devotionals and scripture verses. I suggested him maybe he can start filming something like Fireproof and Courageous and told him how popular those movies are. But the more I do what I think is right for me to do to help him come back to church the more annoyed it seems he gets. Now for a week he hasn’t talked to me.
Yesterday I was still feeling very disappointed and discouraged. Cuz just when I thought his heart seemed to want to come back to church, he now suddenly switched to choose to avoid me about it. But today I suddenly felt encouraged again. I know and have read a lot from Joyce Meyer and Joel Osteen that when God is working on a person’s heart, that person becomes more rebellious becuz his flesh does not want to be controlled. So he strives to get his own control back instead of turning his pride over to God.
Im not discouraged and upset anymore now. I know that God is still on His throne controlling all. Jacky is a catholic and is God’s beloved son too so God is not going to give him up just like that. He’s not going to just let him go astray and not do anything about it. I once had a dream that God said to me “I’m now using you as a tool to help him.” Assuming the “him” is jacky, now I’ve known the purpose of my life and why God put me and jacky together in the first place. He wants to use us to help bring each other back to Him. Joyce Meyer wrote “no one loves anybody unless God gives the love to him/her for another person.” She also wrote “A relationship/marriage is in God’s will only when the coming together of the two partners has brought each back to God.” jacky has done his part, i went back to church in the first place becuz of him, altho it wasn’t him who asked me to, his love for me inspired me to, and now I’m saved. I believe it’s time for my turn now. Its my mission to help him return to church. I won’t give up no matter how hard it is. I know it in my bones that if God has asked me to do something, He will help me to finish it. Today was the first day I started saying it loud to God asking Him to accept my prayers for jacky, and telling Him how much jacky needs Him, and that I trust He will bring this lost sheep back to the flock. I started thanking Him instead of complaining how frustrated I feel. I am confident that jacky will soon be saved too. It doesn’t matter how more rebellious he goes now, God is faithful and sovereign. Nothing can change what He has planned. If He chose jacky to be a Christian in the first place He would sure keep him no matter what’s happened.
So sisters snd brothers, please have your hopes up and lets pray together for each other. It’s just a matter of time. Allow me to speak on behalf of Joel Osteen and Joyce Meyer that it takes some of you so long for your loved ones to return to church becuz you are probably not praying with a right heart, unknowingly. But if u pray with complete selflessness, and total humility before God and your loved ones and BELIEVE that Jesus can do anything, your prayers will be answered in no time.
Lily
Hi Marie,
Your story made me cry. But you know what, my first urge was to tell you not to be scared of his recent change of heart. The fact that he is now an atheist does not mean that he won’t one day be Christian again. Instead, as his Christian wife, be an example for him to follow by being understanding, loving, prayerful. The seed has already been planted in him.
It was dishonest for him not to tell you this before you married. Perhaps he was scared of judgement from you and also those around him. Sometimes with a welcoming attitude or reaction, we can inspire others to see God in us and in themselves. The bible says in Luke 18, 27: “what is impossible with men is possible with God”. Don’t be scared about your husband. God is surely with you in this moment. Show him God in you, because God lives in you and your faith is alive. I feel like if he wanted to be a pastor once, that means his heart is open! Maybe the opening is narrow, but it’s there and I pray and and hope God will come in. However, only you know in your heart what is right.
Blessings to you and your husband.
Marie,
I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I can only imagine how hard it must be. One thing I would suggest is to talk to someone about it. You mentioned you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone in your church. Here at Power to Change, we have a free mentoring program. I’m wondering if you would be interested in speaking to someone privately and confidentially? Our mentors are Christians and would love to speak and pray with you. If you are interested, you can write a mentor today. I will also keep you and your husband in my prayers.
Marie, you have a responsiblity to tell a leader of your church who knows how to keep discretion. But I would confront your husband first with respect. I know it’s hard to honour at all times, just like I’m sure it’s hard for a Christian man to so love his wife as Christ loves the church all the time. When you confront your husband, do it with respect and don’t tell anyone else because God is able to bring him around if he wants and unfortunatly, churches or Christians are not always sympathetic. You need peace about this.
I hope you get all the help and support you need which may be hard if you don’t tell anyone, and you have to be careful, very careful who you tell. Some minister in the church that is able to help you is a good option.
God bless you and I wish you all the best
My husband and I got married four months ago. We were both believers when we dated and got engaged, and then shortly before we got married, my husband told me hold me he was doubting a lot of doctrines our church taught, like predestination and inerrancy of the Bible. I wasn’t really that concerned at the time, because he told me he still believed in the major points of Christianity and he still believed that Jesus rose from the dead to save him from his sins. After a month of marriage, I found a fake Facebook account on his computer where he posted all kinds of anti-Christian comments and would argue with believers, telling them they were idiots to believe in God. I was devestated when I found it, I couldn’t believe that he was secretly saying these things. He has since told me that he is an atheist and has been since about 8 months ago. The worst part of this is that he is still working as an intern in our church, lying to his boss and all of our friends. I feel so alone, I can’t talk to any ladies from our church about this. I feel betrayed and confused, and sometimes just so sad. I think back to the days before we got married and he planned on being a pastor and going to seminary. I am having a really rough day, feeling depressed (Sundays are the worst for me) and I’m so glad I found this article. I know that God has a plan for me. I know that He wants me to love and honor my husband, sometimes it’s just so hard. Thank you for this article, it was both encouraging and convicting. It makes me feel better to know that marriages can be long and happy, even between a unbelieving husband and a believing wife.
Hi Bonnie, what was the change for your husband? What happened that led to his turning away from his Christian faith?
I am so happy for you Maria, congratualtions. God even more, this is beautiful news man. I will pray that all continues to go well with you both. You are so blessed and so loved and as Christ is, so are you in this world.
Thank you for sharing that.
God bless you all and your family x x x
Hello all, I wrote a while back saying that I was the Barry in my relationship. I needed to let you all know how much things have changed. I accompanied my husband to his baptism and was baptized myself. I have since accepted Jesus in my heart and have been changed. I am going to the very church I said I’d never attend. God works miracles. It may be sudden, or work a little at a time, but his presence cannot be denied. To those who are still struggling with spouses who are not in the faith, be patient and have faith. Pray and believe. My husband saved a seat for my daughter and me every Sunday. We are now in those seats. God bless you all. :D
I went searching today and came upon this article. I think it is just what I needed to read. I can’t keep stressing out over my husband. This is very helpful and what I have been doing for the most part, around little freak out sessions. I don’t really push him, our situation is a little different. We were both Christian and he decided a couple years ago that God doesn’t answer his prayers and he doesn’t believe any longer. We had a really hard patch when he got laid off in 2008. He also says that all religions believe they are right so why are we right. Either way i can’t help him or show him. He was raised in a Christian household and knows all the words. It’s hard because I did marry someone of the same faith as me and it didn’t matter. I know I have to just pray and let God handle it though.
Thank you so much to all of the ladies, and to you, Jamie. I receive that in Jesus name! May you continue to be an intercessor for the Kingdom. God bless you!
Lord God I pray for the husbands of Steph, Sara and Shannon. I ask that their eyes would be opened to the Truth of Jesus and the offer of new life that He brings to them. Give them the courage to surrender their lives completely to You and allow You to transform them into the men that You intend them to be. I also pray for their wives. Give them wisdom to know what to say and when to say it. Refine their character so that they reflect Your Son’s character more and more. Help them to live every moment dependent on Your direction so that everything they do, every word they say and even the way they say it is in line with Your plan for them. In the unequaled name of Jesus Christ, amen.
Thank-You & God Bless,
you have made me look at things from, a different prospective…
Thank you for this article,its good to know other women feel this way. It feels like an eternity, but i haveto trust that God will not forsake my hubby!!!!
Thank you so much ladies for visiting our site and taking the time to post your comments! What a blessing it has been to read them.
Shannon and Lisa, I’m so glad you found us. We have wonderful online prayer mentors that would love to pray for you and encourage you in your journey. Just fill in the form on this page and one of them will email you. http://powertochange.com/discover/need-prayer/
I actually just found this site today after doing a search for “prayers for my husband’s salvation.” I have been so blessed by the comments that I had to post. NANCY, firstly, I have so much Godly respect for you. Reading your article truly touched and convicted me, and I thank God for that. May God continue to strengthen and keep you – I truly believe He is pleased with you, and how you continue to honor your husband. I too am saved and married to an unbeliever. The thing is that, we were high school sweethearts and fell for each other mainly because we had sin in common. We spent many years, as others have said, in “marital bliss” – partying, drinking and doing drugs (marijuana). There was even infidelity on both our parts that we forgave. But then…I got saved. And everything about me changed. He gave his life to Christ years ago as well but is now backslidden to the point that he does not acknowledge Jesus as the Savior. He believes in God but not believe Jesus as the Messiah. Over the years since he’s been backslidden, he’s been researching a lot online…reading a lot into philosophies, theories and other religions. He believes that Christianity is simply another doctrine. We’ve argued, yelled – gotten into some VERY heated discussions about what we believe. I too could write a book on what NOT to do to as the wife of an unsaved husband. I’ve cried, fasted, rebuked, prayed, put scriptures on the wall, and begged him to attend church, the works. I’ve done it all. You would think that I would have gotten the hint that maybe I was going about things wrong. I thought that everything wrong in our lives, household, family, marriage was due to him not being saved. HE was the open door to the enemy in our lives…and I told him so. Even as I type the words now, I can’t believe myself. We are to be the light of the world…letting our light shine so that men may see and glorify God. I was being anything but a light to my husband. I have since gotten my act together…a bit. No more nagging. No more bible beating. I still invite him to church but no pressure. It is amazing to see that I’m not alone in many of the things I went through though – I resented my husband for letting me be the married woman who was always alone at church. I’m dealing with it better now though. It’s hard though. I won’t lie. I went through a time where I just didn’t want to pray for him anymore. I was like, UGH! Why, God? I never thought this would be my journey. Especially since we both got saved and things were just awesome for a little while. Praying and fasting together. Attending church together. And now it’s just like, why is this my life? I feel that way sometimes but I am so thankful to God that I have maintained my love and respect for my husband. I certainly do not always display it as I should…but my husband will say things like, “Thank you for always showing me love. For respecting me. For never making me to feel like less than a man. For still being an awesome wife.” He has also been out of work for 2 years which is a totally different show. You can imagine how the enemy uses that to cause strife and division…but God is good! Please just be in prayer for my family. My husband is still bound by his past in many ways. Spending time with the same ungodly friends who he curses, drinks and smokes marijuana with. To some extent, he is living two lives. Even in all that, I am thankful to God because he does show me love, show our children love…he is trying. Just please pray for us. I thank you in advance and I will be interceding for you all as well :)
Maria, you are welcome. I hope all is better and I hope your husband gives you the space to make up your own mind.
Have a wonderful day my love xxxx
God bless
Lisa Grant, your story moved me. First of all, God bless you for standing for truth as Jesus is truth. What you loose, you will gain in multiples in this life and in the life to come said the Lord and no weapon that is formed against you shall prosper said the Lord.
So sorry about your loss nonetheless, it is a great loss but you will regain greater. Leave your husband up to Jesus and pray for him, no matter how you feel. He is in pain and shock. My kids dad, who I left, three years after, married some one else many years ago and produced a child and at the age of 4, she developed cancer and by the age of 6, she died. He then turned from faith to religion and took all his anger out on me. It was very intense and I could not beleive how evil he became to me. Pain touches people in different ways. I pray for him but at first, I use to cuss him out but that’s not God’s way. He just needed prayer. Your parents sounds religious and parents often gets it wrong but you had to move away cuz if Jesus is not glorified in a child’s life, if the beauty and love of Jesusu is not revealed, it will promote contention. Many parents make that sad mistake and don’t realise it. I am actually proud of how you turned out, Jesus even more. You are in my prayers Queen, cuz you are a royal priest hood, a chosen generation. You are refreshing and many of us can learn from your experience.
God bless you for ever and ever. Have a great week
Much love xxxxxxxx
Dear Lisa, Your post really touched my heart. You have been through so much. What calls out to me is that the hardships in our life don’t stop when we accept God but He can give us the ability to bear them without bitterness or complete collapse, IF we continue to seek Him. Sadly, your husband chose to blame God when your precious son died and you are now paying the price for that again because God has called you back. I am so grateful He has. Like your husband, I had accepted Jesus at the age of 12 and for various reasons felt He had let me down and I turned my back on Him for over 30 years. I am so grateful He called me back 11 years ago and my life is just getting better and better, although there are still challenges. My husband has turned His back on God, although thankfully He doesn’t try to interfere with my faith (I’m the one who is struggling not to interfere with his decision). All I want to say is stay firm, Lisa, call out to God to keep your feet on the rock this time and don’t allow anyone or anything to break that relationship again. These verses have brought me through some times I thought I would never survive:
“For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:38-9
God bless you, Lisa, I’m praying for you.
Thank you Alfred and Fifi. You cannot imagine how important your words have been for me. Things are much better. I wrote an entire post, relating how things had changed in my life but the post was erased when I clicked submit comment. I just wanted you to know that true love finds respect and appreciation. My husband and I are embarked on a spiritual journey. His and mine are different but we are walking hand in hand with God’s presence in our home. Thank you again. :D
I have been reading some of your stories and some ring true to mine,I was 16 when I gave my life to Jesus and my life changed dramatically for the better,but it was for family reasons I left the faith.My mum and stepdad were christians and it was them who introduced me to Jesus,however they took upon the role as christians too far for my liking, they were too strict telling me to be in for 8 clock every night and making me the person to do the house work and I was told by them that it was MY responsibility to look after my brother and sister. This to me was not right and I knew that God would not want me to be this way and be miserable ,so I left home,but not without a fight as my mum and stepdad tried to ruin everything for me, he went as far as stalking me in his car and I had to get a restraining orderon him. I met and married my husband when I was 18 yrs old and within that 12 months we had our first son.Anyway cut it a bit shorter lol,years went by and I felt a calling back to God which I did I went back for a while and eventually my husband gave his life too and he never felt so happy and complete. It all changed when we lost our second son at the age of 3 in 1998,he totally denies God and hates him that he took our son and will not have anything to do with him. My point to this is I reconnected with God on Friday night and because I have changed drastically over night he is calling me weired and making comments to my son oh look she’s talking to herself, and the other reason is that he is in a bike club and all he keeps saying is that now Im back with God doesnt mean he’s leaving it, I have not said a word to him or preached anything to him at all, all I have said is a few words “I have reconnected with God” and now all of a sudden he is rude to me,saying aweful things to me and I feel now he hates me,He wont talk to me much at all apart from picking faults. I told him last night that if it’s going to cause conflicts then I will move out as I am keeping my faith this time and there is no going back for me, and his answer is it’s up to you what you do.Please pray for me to get the strengh to go through each day. I do not expect him any moment to walk with God as it is not with me he has surrender to but he is using everything he has and taking it out on me.
Satan knows there is Jesus here and he is using him so that I will give in, but you know what people he’s got a fight on his hands, I have lost 2 kids so I have been through hell and he is not gonna stop me loving the Lord, NO WAY! My husband said last night that it was a mistake he made giving his life to Jesus, but it is the best thing that has happened because now I can actually see the evil forces in my home and me and Jesus can defeat him.
I use to want my husband to be Christian. I still do, but he is so respectful of my religion and goes to church with me along with Bible studies. We are helping with a potluck for tonights Bible STudy. He was born Hindu and that is not just his religion, but his culture. When I get together with his family or friends, there are aspects of his religion that are beautiful. For example, when a couple moves into a new home, they have a whole ceremony where they call the priest and have a prayer service to ask God’s blessings on the family and for prosperity. In my husband country they are very tolerate of all religions. I am so grateful that even though at this time he doesn’t want to convert, he supports me in my beliefs. I guess as you get older, some things don’t matter as much. I love my husband very much, at least for today. Good luck all of you and I think Christianity is a journey. Some of us are further along then others.
I posted a comment on this website a couple years ago. I believe in God’s word and all His promises to those who believe in His name. It took a couple years of walking in the wilderness for me to understand who I am in Christ. I’m not defined by my mistakes or my past…I am the righteousness of Christ. My husband still doesn’t go to church nor does he inquire about what we learn but I’m ok with that. I shifted my focus on Christ alone and not my husband’s lack of interest. Basically, I don’t pester him about it like I used to do. I decided that Jesus was my only answer and I chose to walk in His ways regardless of anything. I love my husband but God is number one in my life. For all those ladies who are sad and discouraged, I have a message for you. Give your life to Jesus despite the pain. Don’t look back at your mistakes since the enemy wants to keep using your past against you. In Romans 8, the bible says that their is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ. :) If we just focus and live righteous before Him, choosing to serve Him always, He will be faithful and just to take care of the rest.
Deborah, are you listed as one that is decieved too?
Wow!!! Nancy thank you for your testimony about your marriage. I have the same tesitmony with a teensy weensy little bit of a twist. I married my husband at the young and dumb age of 18 (we ran away and eloped). Marital bliss (partying, drinking, drugs, the works!!!) lasted a ripe year and a half but his emotional issues, drug addiction and alcoholism coupled with my inability to understand them left me with one option… disappear and never come back…
God had interesting plans though. I went on to live my life. Fell deeper into sin, depression and utter darkness.
It was a visit to my mother and a chance encounter with God Himself at some “dumb church thing” that allowed me the opportunity to hear from Him. I accepted Christ into my heart.
Here’s the twist — 12 YEARS AFTER MY HUSBAND AND I SPLIT UP GOD TOLD ME TO RETURN!!! I repeat, told me to return!!!! Well… after I told God to take a hike, completely derailing my walk with Christ — 3 years later, after realizing the stupidity of living life without Christ, GOD REPEATED THE SAME INSTRUCTIONS TO ME!!! Go figure. Soooo this time I returned to my husband. He said “he’d been waiting for me the whole time.” Crazy right?
That’s where your testimony picks up Nancy and every word that you wrote is my testimony…
It really can be rough at times. When I returned he was still an alcoholic and addicted to marijuana. After 5 years of some really hard times, massive amounts of prayer, fasting, and frustrations, he has stopped drinking and no longer smokes cigarrettes (can’t speak for the marijuana because he hides it). He doesn’t have any desire to be a Christian but I know that God is working just by the transformations that are taking place in his life… I praise God for all that he has done, is going to do, and the power He has to make all the difference. My prayers are going out to you Nancy and all of those with unbelieving spouses. God be with you…
You would do well to heed this while practicing some self introspection.
“Whenever a man (or woman) believes that he has the exact truth from God, there is in that man no spirit of compromise. He has not the modesty born of the imperfections of human nature; he has the arrogance of theological certainty and the tyranny born of ignorant assurance.” ~ Robert Ingersoll
Good for you, ORita, to have chosen to remain faithful to your husband! As far as Jesus is concerned, I feel led to mention Him as I have heard it preached only once in my life-time: “God created one man, Adam, and from him came the whole human race. We all have sinned and deserve the punishment which is Spiritual death (a separation of the soul from God). It was God’s plan that one man, Jesus, should die for one man, Adam (and all his descendants), so that we all can go free. This is a gift that some people accept an some do not. If Jesus had sinned even once He’d have His own sin to deal with, but because He was pure, He could step into our place and take our punishment! What a deal! Who can refuse the work that Jesus, the Son of God, a member of the Trinity, did for us?”
I don’t know if that helps any. In any case, my prayers are that we lift up your husband to God, believing that He will find a way to draw him back to true Christianity.
Thank you for sharing, Maria; that is what this blog is for. You say “I sometimes feel that by expecting me to someday be at church, I am not being respected, accepted as a whole person.” I think your feelings are justified, for you need to have the freedom to come just when you are ready. God will always meet our need. So, when you begin to feel a need for salvation, you will have a longing to find Jesus. I pray that your husband will be able to give you that freedom. No one likes to be pushed or pulled, but true Christianity needs to be lived in such a way as to attract those who know and love us. We are not talking about the rules of religion but about the love that comes from God. Blessings to both of you.
Hello,
I would like to say I really appreciate your website. It truly helped me in my situation. My husband grew up Full Gospel and has begun to not believe in Jesus as his Lord and Savior. He believes in God, but not in Jesus. He is a great father and husband. Loyal, caring and loving. But this broke my heart, being that we both were, and I still am, strong believers in the Trinity. I have very seriously been contemplating divorce because I can not imagine being with someone that I cannot ask to pray for me or with me, In the Name of Jesus. But after reading your testimony and thinking about things a very dear Minister as spoken to me, I believe it is confirmation that I am to continue to love my husband and intercede on his behalf as I would anyone else. Thank you and God bless you and your family.
No worries Maria, glad you did share. Your husband has found true life and the only best way for living it out is in and through Jesus Christ so he must be feeling so much joy,he believes God that you will be joining him one day. It will make him a better husband and God will expand his heart towards himself and towards you. It’s all beautiful when you are born again, but to the one who is not, it can be frustrating.
Don’t worry love, if he’s brand new to the faith of the gospel of grace, (unmerited, underserved favour, he will learn in time how not to take the place of the Holy Spirit and to let you be and hope for the best. Right now, the power of God that is in him is making him very verbally optimistic, oh bless, he don’t mean to go on im sure. I will pray for you both and hope you have the stamina to cope. It’s all good thou dear.
Have a blessed day.
I am the Barry of our relationship. My husband has recently joined the Christian faith. This is all very recent. I have supported him, listened to him, accepted him. He has hopes that one day I will be sitting by his side at church. I sometimes feel that by expecting me to someday be at church, I am not being respected, accepted as a whole person , with the beauty God has put in all of us. It pains me to feel this way. Just needed to share.
my husband does share my faith but i have many friends who their spoused doesn’t for that i am praying and my heart goes out to all who do don’t have believing spouses
I was looking for some information on this topic and came across this article. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience! That’s my struggle too
i’m not a christian, but i enjoyed the article. you sound like a beautiful person, and you have such a beautiful marriage! i’m not sure i could be as selfless as you and your husband have both been with each other.
Kimi pt 2 lolo, (hope this does not turn out to be a novel)
This may be hard but continue to allow your fiancé to drive in the direction he wants for now, he is alright, cuz he is fleeing religion. That is a good thing cuz Christ never died for religion.
He needs to hear the full unadulterated gospel of grace. When he talks to you next time, just listen to what he has to say and make him know that he is entitled to feel how he wants and that he is entitled to his own views. Don’t scold him for his views even if they are wrong. Make him know thou that you have your own views. Drop a word of encouragement, (the word of God) and allow the Holy Spirit to move on that word in him. We sometimes take the job of the Holy Spirit, which unable him to work. I’ve done it lots of time but did not realise it cuz I was so zealous for a guy to get saved then I can marry him but I blew it lol. Actually it’s not funny but I could not understand why he can not see the beauty in Christ like I can. I was doing the work of the Holy Sprit, who can handle it. All God wants for us to do is be a witness, not a convicta.
There are a number of preachers that are preaching the gospel of pure grace, Andrew Wommack, and Joseph Prince. You can google them or watch them on Sky, on God channel. They would blow your mind, it is awesome. They show the full love of God, I feel so alive and learning much much much and I feel on top of the world. It’s amazing. If you can go on there website and listen to them or order their materials, I tell you, you would be so so much more happier cuz they got it and they are persecuted badly like Paul in the NT was for preaching radical grace. That is what we need to hear more and that is what the world need to hear, but instead, we are hearing religion, which stinks.
You Kimi, determine the direction you want to go once and for all and get some good radical grace teachings and let him know this is the direction you are heading in and be devoted, don’t tell him, he has to too, cuz it will transform you in many ways over time and he will see it, the joy, the peace, the love, the energy and that will attract him. Don’t let him feel like you are forcing him in anyway but if he says something negative about you – condemn those words by using Christ words, eg, he may say something about your walk with Christ that it is not perfect, you can reply, those are your words and you are entitled to them but I know who I am, I am the righteousness of God through Christ Jesus and has he is, so am I in this world. WHY MUST YOU SAY THIS? Cuz, words that are negative, if not challenged straight away, can affect our belief in Christ. Bad words are damaging. That is why Jesus challenged satan with , it is written it is written etc. You know, we put limitations on God – the religious world does and we follow and so your partner would have disapproved of that too and thinking like I thought once, there has got to be more and there is, better. God never said, we might know the truth and the truth shall set us free but we shall know the truth…….
Go to God with that and stand on that scripture and say Lord, I need to know more about what is happening, about you and pour out your heart to him and pray for your partner and leave it there, trusting that God will help you in that. Thank God every day for the answer and while you are praying, believe before you end the prayer that God has the answer as Andrew Wommack stated, Christ has anticipated everything, (problem you will faced before you were born). He has an answer for everything. Then get in his word to suit your circumstances and if you can listen to those two teachers, even better also and ask the Holy Ghost to lead you in this IN FAITH that he will. Then live your life and thank God for the answer every day and draw what you need from Jesus every day and even if you have to change church, be led by that and know that what ever happens, more arguments, that Christ is the beginning and the end. He is the beginning of your circumstances and he shall be the end. So whatever anyone says, Christ will have the finale say. We must trust in his love and that no weapon formed against us shall prosper. Satan can not win Kimi. Cuz your first importance is your relationship and what you know about Christ, make that first, seek his Kingdom and his Righteousness and all things will be added on to you. Christ wants you in peace and joy constantly and let that radiate through to your fiancé. Things may take time to manifest, but rejoice always, cuz you have the victory. Is all this easy, probably not but that is where we have to battle to enter his rest.
I wish you all the best and thanks for your post.
God bless you both
Kimi, thank you for your post, very touching. I will write this in two parts cuz I have a lot to say. I will be bold to say that I know the problem, he detest false gospel. True Gospel means good news and you have preachers compromising on that – a lot of preacher, and they are in to performance based self righteousness, which is like filthy rags to God.
Preachers rarely talk about the cross, what Christ has given up for us, what is ours, unless they want an offering, who we are, what we own, what we are entitled too, how special and loved we are and how much we are just like Christ and that God loves us unconditionally weather we do good or bad.
Instead, they preach, we must be perfect and do well and give to God always our love, time, energy and love our neighbours and do good and then God will favour us, then we will be righteous, then we will be holy, then God will love us more and he will bless us and hear us when we pray. This paragraph spills out the wrong gospel. When people, especially young people leave church, it is not because they are bad. They are leaving church or finding fault with a message at church and then blaming God and the preacher because they just heard religion. If we sin and are suffering, we are suffering cuz we sinned. Every other religion does this. Being Born Again is different. Because no 1. We are righteous by faith, Romans 1:17 (Jesus righteousness and not our own) and there are other scriptures to back this up. We are seated in heavenly places, Ephesians 2:6 – yet preachers make us feel like we are below and not above cuz we are not perfect in our conduct. And in many scriptures, it talks about how much God loves us: Psalms 91:14 – Romans 5:5 Romans 5:8 -Proverbs 3:12 – Ephesians 2:4 – Solomon 2:4 – Hosea 2:23 – Romans 8:25 and a whole lot more.
This is important because they way things are going, many people think God loves them conditionally thanks to wrong teachings and it overwhelms people but Jesus came to be used and to draw constantly from him. Then we will be able to give unto him back and to others but our vessels need to be filled with him daily first. Look at the woman at the well, she came out in the afternoon to draw water cuz she felt ashamed to draw water with the other women in the morning cuz of her sinful lifestyle. Jesus knew she needed him and he was tired and his disciples went to get food. When they saw him, he obviously looked more radiant cuz they said, who gave him something to eat and they were surprised he was left alone with a woman. This is cuz the woman drew from him and it refreshes him when we treat him like God, cuz that is what and that is what he is; so we need to depend on him for strength, then we are able to give back to others and to him cuz we are filled. Mary and Marther, Mary did what was needful, she drew from the Lord and he commended her for that. She ended up anointing Jesus and John who says his one whom Jesus loves; you can only find that in the book of John lol. He drew from the Lord and knew how much Christ loves him and was able to be there when Jesus needed him the most – at the cross and he was instructed to take care of Mary, (Jesus mother).
So when we draw from the Lord constantly, we are able to be at the right place at the right time in service. Jesus came to be used of us. Say that in a church today, they will call it blasphemy. Too much religion and religious people are the most hateful, spiteful, and uncaring of the Christian group. Cuz they are the enemies of the cross of Christ and they make the word of God of non effect. So I commend your fiancé, cuz it is the Holy Ghost that is making him know that there is something wrong if he is being taught religion. Jesus never died for religion; in fact they were the ones that were trying to kill him, not the prostitutes or the tax collectors. God wants us to have a relationship with him and to use him. His God, he can handle it but I was taught in the past, don’t bother God, leave him alone, you keep asking him to help you to bless you to help you overcome things. Don’t you think God is tired of it. You are like parasites to him. Yea Kimi, you have preachers that are cursing God’s people. Some do it out of ignorance but Christ said, without me, you can not do a thing. It is imperative to draw from him every day and our past present and future sins are all not covered, but destroyed, at the cross. God has already provided everything through grace. We are not taught to rest in the Lord, but rather, if we pay our tithes and offerings, if we obey God every word, if we are kind to neighbours etc etc etc, then we are worthy to rest in the Lord. But GOD SAID TO LABOUR TO ENTER HIS REST. We will have peace in our lives instead of stress. Your partner probably sees people getting worked up over other Christians that are not dressed the standard of the church, they may wear too much make up, they are not conservative enough, there are all these steps to take before you can get close to God but Jesus done it for us so that we can get close to God, as close as Jesus is too God. Religious people would hate this post of mines cuz it takes away their confidence in themselves as Paul showed the Galatians church in Galatians 5: 11. Your partner is rebelling against the false gospel praise God. Galatians 5:3 is a fundamental statement that Paul said, but it needed to be said.
Many religions observe the days, what to eat, what to wear, how to sit, especially for women, how to conduct themselves in their personalities but Christ gave us all our unique personalities and so if he has observed these things, he is not rebelling against God, he is rebelling against religion that would make the cross of Christ of non-effect in his life. He is smart Kimi.
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