Comments on: Out of My Horrible Pit http://powertochange.com Sun, 03 Jun 2012 16:56:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: <span class='mentorBadge' title='Andrew is an official Power to Change mentor.' >Andrew</span> http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/jeckles/comment-page-1/#comment-305144 Andrew Thu, 29 Sep 2011 01:01:34 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=9448#comment-305144 Lord Jesus, You understand the pain of rejection as you were abused and suffered for our sins. Lord I pray and ask that you will heal Mike, Tasha, Candy, and Kat as your word says in Isaiah 45: 7 I create the light and make the darkness. I send the good times and bad times. I, the Lord, am the one who does these things. Lord I pray that you will give them peace during these dark, bad times and help them to understand that their light and good times that will happen in their lives. Lord give each one peace, wisdom,insight, and reveal to them in a very clear way as to what they should do. In Jesus Name, Amen I suggest you request an online mentor to be walk along side with you during this difficult time. Lord Jesus,

You understand the pain of rejection as you were abused and suffered for our sins. Lord I pray and ask that you will heal Mike, Tasha, Candy, and Kat as your word says in Isaiah 45: 7 I create the light and make the darkness. I send the good times and bad times. I, the Lord, am the one who does these things. Lord I pray that you will give them peace during these dark, bad times and help them to understand that their light and good times that will happen in their lives. Lord give each one peace, wisdom,insight, and reveal to them in a very clear way as to what they should do.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

I suggest you request an online mentor to be walk along side with you during this difficult time.

]]> By: <span class='mentorBadge' title='Andrew is an official Power to Change mentor.' >Andrew</span> http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/jeckles/comment-page-1/#comment-305108 Andrew Thu, 29 Sep 2011 00:51:48 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=9448#comment-305108 This is in response to Mike, Kat, Tasha, and Cindy as their is always a common thread that occurs with a separation which many times can be the beginning of the end of a relationship. I understand the devastation that a divorce can cause as I mistaken believed that this was the end of my life as I knew it but how can it be the end when Christ wanted to free me from a Godless, abusiveness, loveless relationship? Each solution for each marriage is different and the restoration can occur if a person will agree to keep Christ in the center of a relationship then healing will occur. The reason healing occurs is that the Holy Spirit will heal the heart however if their is no repentance and commitment to living a Christ centered life then how can a marriage survive? If you can answer this question then you will know the answer as to whether your relationship is worth continuing. God wants us to be free to serve him first and divorce is always the very last option but in the case where a person is constantly leaving for someone else why torture yourself in mistakenly believing that Christ will heal them when they don't want to be healed? There is a point and time when a person needs to move forward in a relationship and stop the circle of abuse which occurs. A relationship is to build each other up and not destroy. God wishes for us to live in freedom with the power of the Holy Spirit. The prayer that I believe a person should pray is what is God's will for your life? God understands rejection because his people rejected him continually and worshiped other god's which is why in the Bible it does allow for divorce in situations where a man/woman leave for another as God understands the trust being broken. I have learned to not ask why is this happening to me but I found out the reason for this answer in Romans 5: 3-5 3. We can rejoice, too when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they will help us develop endurance.4 And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. 5 And hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love. This is in response to Mike, Kat, Tasha, and Cindy as their is always a common thread that occurs with a separation which many times can be the beginning of the end of a relationship. I understand the devastation that a divorce can cause as I mistaken believed that this was the end of my life as I knew it but how can it be the end when Christ wanted to free me from a Godless, abusiveness, loveless relationship? Each solution for each marriage is different and the restoration can occur if a person will agree to keep Christ in the center of a relationship then healing will occur. The reason healing occurs is that the Holy Spirit will heal the heart however if their is no repentance and commitment to living a Christ centered life then how can a marriage survive? If you can answer this question then you will know the answer as to whether your relationship is worth continuing. God wants us to be free to serve him first and divorce is always the very last option but in the case where a person is constantly leaving for someone else why torture yourself in mistakenly believing that Christ will heal them when they don’t want to be healed?

There is a point and time when a person needs to move forward in a relationship and stop the circle of abuse which occurs. A relationship is to build each other up and not destroy. God wishes for us to live in freedom with the power of the Holy Spirit. The prayer that I believe a person should pray is what is God’s will for your life? God understands rejection because his people rejected him continually and worshiped other god’s which is why in the Bible it does allow for divorce in situations where a man/woman leave for another as God understands the trust being broken. I have learned to not ask why is this happening to me but I found out the reason for this answer in Romans 5: 3-5

3. We can rejoice, too when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they will help us develop endurance.4 And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. 5 And hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.

]]> By: Mike http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/jeckles/comment-page-1/#comment-291400 Mike Fri, 23 Sep 2011 08:53:18 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=9448#comment-291400 My wife has been out for 1 yr 10days today leaving me with 2 kids of 7 & 8. I am shattered as I had always prayed for a good wife. God blessed us meterially but what does that count for if your mariage is just falling apart. She left when I found out an affair with a coworker that she knew and work with for about 20yrs. Why now when we are trying to create a home for our kids. She had previously left on 2 occassions, 2002 and 2005 for 8months at a time. Then I do not know what the reasons were. Health Professionals unofficiaaly diagnosed BPD. Why me oh God. She abandoned us for the 3rd time but I caanot get used to it or just divorce and get on with my life. I am hurting, getting to work is a mission almost impossible. I made mistakes like everybody else but why is she always leaving home without any guilt. My wife has been out for 1 yr 10days today leaving me with 2 kids of 7 & 8. I am shattered as I had always prayed for a good wife. God blessed us meterially but what does that count for if your mariage is just falling apart. She left when I found out an affair with a coworker that she knew and work with for about 20yrs. Why now when we are trying to create a home for our kids. She had previously left on 2 occassions, 2002 and 2005 for 8months at a time. Then I do not know what the reasons were. Health Professionals unofficiaaly diagnosed BPD. Why me oh God. She abandoned us for the 3rd time but I caanot get used to it or just divorce and get on with my life. I am hurting, getting to work is a mission almost impossible. I made mistakes like everybody else but why is she always leaving home without any guilt.

]]> By: kat http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/jeckles/comment-page-1/#comment-60230 kat Tue, 26 Jan 2010 09:08:32 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=9448#comment-60230 Strangely i wish my husbands ex-wife felt this towards him instead of the anger, hate and resentment. The spiritual ramifications of their "separation" have created a monster in him. He cannot have happiness, because he is looking to me for it - that isn't working. I feel trapped in a miserably failing marriage where it seems like how one feels in abuse. All of the things i do wrong, or don't do, how horrible i am are followed by "I love you" - which normally would be a wonderful safe thing. In this case it is his security because he can't be alone. Its a safety. That was a bit of a bunny trail, but I just wish there was even regret from the previous wife, anything. not just negative damage. Imagining the future is almost impossible. Strangely i wish my husbands ex-wife felt this towards him instead of the anger, hate and resentment. The spiritual ramifications of their “separation” have created a monster in him. He cannot have happiness, because he is looking to me for it – that isn’t working. I feel trapped in a miserably failing marriage where it seems like how one feels in abuse. All of the things i do wrong, or don’t do, how horrible i am are followed by “I love you” – which normally would be a wonderful safe thing. In this case it is his security because he can’t be alone. Its a safety. That was a bit of a bunny trail, but I just wish there was even regret from the previous wife, anything. not just negative damage. Imagining the future is almost impossible.

]]> By: Tasha http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/jeckles/comment-page-1/#comment-52421 Tasha Wed, 04 Nov 2009 17:17:33 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=9448#comment-52421 I understand as well. My husband and I have been seperated for two years and I pray all the time that God will retore my marriage and my family. But I get nothing, it is like I cannot let it go because I want it so bad. Why wont God give me some answers or make it happen because I know whw can. I understand as well. My husband and I have been seperated for two years and I pray all the time that God will retore my marriage and my family. But I get nothing, it is like I cannot let it go because I want it so bad. Why wont God give me some answers or make it happen because I know whw can.

]]> By: Candy http://powertochange.com/experience/sex-love/jeckles/comment-page-1/#comment-47194 Candy Sat, 13 Jun 2009 17:11:28 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=9448#comment-47194 This story could have been written by me... save for the happy ending. This morning my husband moved out before I awoke. I am shattered and afraid. I am struggling not to ask God to "make him come back." Please pray that I will receive the strength and wisdom to deal with this. This story could have been written by me… save for the happy ending. This morning my husband moved out before I awoke. I am shattered and afraid. I am struggling not to ask God to “make him come back.” Please pray that I will receive the strength and wisdom to deal with this.

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