Comments on: Preventing Marriage Meltdown

By: joseph ooi

joseph ooi — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 07:57:24 +0000

Dear Miserable,May I ask whether your husband is truly a born again christian but from what you say about him, I dont think he is, when we 1st accepted christ into our lifes, we are to follow him, walk in the newness of life in him, to change more like him, refer to Rom 12:1 & 2. On his health problem which we are also to pray to god on healing but at the same time, we are to change our habits of food,adopt good excecise, most of all, when christ died on the cross, all our sickness is taken away, so nail our health problem at the cross. You are a strong lady in the lord, keep it up, never give up knocking at his doors, he will hear you and will bless you in his time though we look bleak at our situation. Dont look upon man for your situation but look upon god, his word, constant prayer, have an intimate realtionship with him that you will find joy,comfort, as for fogiveness, when peter ask jesus how many times he has to forgive…up to 7 times, jesus answer.. but up to 70 times as refer to matt 18:21,22,23. so abide in his words.
Sis in christ, pls read 1 cor chapt 7 on principles of married life by paul, as for me, since my wife decide to file for divorce, I will still follow his words as refer to 1 cor 7:10,11 even until the end if the court grant the divorce.
also look for good christian books on marriages, the one I aspire is marraigeinspiration.com by jackie & ronnie calloway, God bless you, Shalom, Joseph Ooi

By: A miserable wife of 13 years.

A miserable wife of 13 years. — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 02:36:31 +0000

Hi, I’ve been married for 13 years and I love my husband but I’m tired of the marriage being a one way street, I even met him halfway of a one way street, more than I needed. I’m a Christian and include God in my life. It just seems the word “divorce” is in my face lately. No one is telling me to do it, just me and myself. He’s been dealing with health issues, PTSD and he is verbal abusive. He doesn’t believe his voice is abusive to me when he yells/scream more than he needs to. He is deaf and I have a slight hearing loss. He’s also cheated on me more than twice. He has anger issues and was getting the help before but he doesn’t commit to them. Right now he has no health insurance because he didn’t enroll at the enrollment period. He assumed they would re-enroll him itself. I tried to explain to him, but he thinks he knows it all. We have no children together, but do have a very loving pet. I just give it all to the Lord and just lead me on into the right direction but I’m falling. We’ve tried marriage counseling but he was just not committed. How many chances do I have to give to this man? This is like his 25th chance. I want to be happy, I don’t need a controlling husband. I hope you can share ways how I can get out of this “divorce feeling.” I hate divorce and said I wouldn’t ever wanted to get divorce.
May the words of my mouth be all to you Lord and not this marriage/divorce.

Thanks,

Miserable!

By: Brenda

Thu, 22 Dec 2011 23:34:38 +0000

Joseph, I am glad you have realized your need to put God first in your life. Continue seeking Him in His Word and praying for His will to be done in your life. It is important to understand that you will need to earn your wife’s trust again, and that can only happen as you give yourself fully to the Lord Jesus and, as you have stated, accept fully the consequences for your former behaviour. It is in desiring to make our will one with God’s that we can truly be transformed into His loving image and likeness, into the kind of people He desires us to be and the kind of people we want to be. And it is when we seek Him above all else that He gives promises us, “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you [Matthew 6:33, NKJV].”

By: joseph ooi

joseph ooi — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 20:16:29 +0000

I’m already being notify by my wife (sue) lawyer letter to seek a joint divorce petition, it all started when I had an close relationship with another church member whose hushband is a non christian (formerly is) and my wife knows about it and we have being counsel by pastor Ong to stop but I screctly contd the relationship until I had a quarrel with my wife & I told her that I dont love her anymore & proceed with a joint divorce petition but was told to stop by another church pastor Johsua where I’m attending. this was 2 years ago. She has left the home thereafter I stop the divorce proceedings. This 2 years I realised that God is not pleased with me from the word coupled with no job, no income, financial woes & finally I told that lady that I want god blessing & I had to stop this relationship (that was 4 months ago) The few months, I finally start to read his word, having prayers, seeking him earnestly and now I have to face the consequences, though god didn’t answer my prayer but I still have faith in him that this marriage can be safe. kindly advise me on compassionate grounds on how to go about. God bless