The Power of a Praying Wife

Written by Stormie Omartian

PowerofaPrayingWife_290x220When I asked my husband to share with me his deepest fears, one of the things he mentioned was the fear of not being a good father. “I believe it’s something men in general tend to fear,” he said. “We get so caught up in doing what we do in our work that we’re afraid we haven’t done enough with our children. Or we’re afraid we haven’t done it well enough, or we’re missing something.”

Have you ever had someone pray for you when you couldn’t think straight, and after they prayed you had complete clarity and vision? I’ve experienced that countless times. I believe this is what can happen for our husbands when we pray about their parenting. If they are tortured with doubt and burdened by a sense of responsibility, we can minimize these feelings with our prayers. Prayer can help them gain a clear perspective of what it means to be a good father, and open the door for Holy Spirit guidance on how to handle the parenting challenges that arise.

The following is a suggested prayer to guide you in praying for your husband’s role as a father.

Lord, teach (husband’s name) to be a good father. Where it was not modeled to him according to Your ways, heal those areas and help him to forgive his dad. Give him revelation of You and a hunger in his heart to know You as his heavenly Father. Draw him close to spend time in your presence so he can become more like You, and fully understand Your Father’s heart of compassion and love toward him. Grow that same heart for his children.

Help him to balance mercy, judgment and instruction the way you do. Though you require obedience, You are quick to acknowledge a repentant heart. Make him that way, too. Show him when to discipline and how. Help him to see that he who loves his child disciplines him promptly (Proverbs 13:24). May he never provoke his “children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord,” (Ephesians 6:4).

I pray that we will be united in the rules we set for our children and be in full agreement as to how they are raised. I pray that there will be no strife or argument over how to handle them and the issues that surround their lives.

Give him skills of communication with his children. I pray he will not be stern, hard, cruel, cold, abusive, noncommunicative, passive, critical, weak, uninterested, neglectful, undependable or uninvolved. Help him instead to be kind, loving, soft-hearted, warm, interested, affirming, affectionate, involved, strong, consistent, dependable, verbally communicative, understanding and patient. May he require and inspire his children to honor him as their father so that their lives will be long and blessed.

Lord, I know that we pass a spiritual inheritance to our children. Let the heritage he passes on be rich in the fullness of Your Holy Spirit. Enable him to model clearly a walk of submission to Your laws. May he delight in his children and long to grow them up Your way. Being a good father is something he wants very much. I pray that you will give him the desire of his heart.


81 Responses to “The Power of a Praying Wife”

  • Elkay says:

    Heavenly Father, thank You that we can pray foremost that Your will be done in our lives, knowing that every good and perfect gift comes down from You the Father who knows our present and future lives. Lord, You created marriage as a sacred institution for the welfare and happiness of mankind in which man and woman bind together, become one in Your eyes, reflect Your image and worship You.

    Please help Kyra and her husband know that marriage is a decision to be committed to one another no matter what, and from that commitment, unselfish love can again flow between them as they receive Your love for them.. And Lord, give them a great spiritual purpose in life so that they seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness and honor You forever.
    And Lord, April’s marriage needs Your presence, Your protection and Your restorative touch. We come to Your throne of grace to find help and mercy for her and her husband as she prays and fasts. Please respond to her pleas for her husband’s spiritual walk with You.

    Lord, in both marriages we know that nothing is impossible for You and so we bring these prayers to You in the powerful name of Jesus and ask that You be glorified in Your actions and in all of their responses. Amen.

  • April says:

    My husband and I have been married a little over a year but together for about 5 years. We had a baby girl who is almost one. During the last part of pregnancy I started to notice a change. No more affection, no more communication… God revealed some things to me. Its bigger than the affairs, bigger than the emotional neglect….he’s allowed the enemy to take control and deceive him. He now believes that he has to end this marriage and start fresh with his life and possible remarry me. Nowhere in the Word does God validate this decision. The devil is a liar I know my husband! I have been praying and fasting with authority and I am believing that everything the enemy stole God will restore!And once I got myself together from the crying and anxiety I could see God’s hand in the situation. God is using me as a ministry tool. And my husband will be the man of God and walk in his purpose. Every spirit that has come in contact with him shall be removed! Pray with me please as I stand!

  • Kyra says:

    My husband and I have been divorced for one year however we decided to try to work things out in January of this year. I believe marriage is supposed to be for a lifetime and have prayed for forgiveness for the divorce. My spouse is now saying that he only wAnts to be friends. Please pray for Gods will in this situation. And for my husband and I to fall into love. Also pray for my husbands a spiritual walk with The Lord.

  • Sharon says:

    to Susan– prayer– father God I do pray for Susan and this marriage I pray strength for them both during this time bless Susan and I do pray for this marriage I pray for both I pray all of this in JESUS name amen I am praying for you both/God loves you both– sharon

  • Kathryn Kathryn says:

    Amen to that Sharon, Susan,It is only through God’s mercy that I am married after so many years. I too have been very remiss in our relationship and even uncaring at times. I think that the only way we can navigate the difficult relationships of modern day life is humbling ourselves before our mighty, loving God and being ready to listen and obey His voice. That way we can know peace and joy in spite of the turmoil which may threaten to overwhelm us. I am reminded of Proverbs 3:5,6 5Trust in the LORD with all your heart
    And do not lean on your own understanding.
    In all your ways acknowledge Him,
    And He will make your paths straight
    Blessings to you.

  • susan says:

    13 years ago, a friend gave me a copy of The Praying Wife. I was just about to throw in the towel after 27 years of marriage. When my friend gave me this book, there was a sparkle of hope. Maybe it was about prayer. I continued to pray for my husband. My life was stressful with working, four teenagers, and a husband that had what I will call “issues”. When I felt the book wasn’t working and I was starting to loose faith, I found myself coming home from work and for some reason, went into my bedroom and “literally” fell to my knees and found myself in “praying wife” hands position. I began to pray with all my heart and soul for God to heal my husband. I came in prayer for a miracle. I even began “claiming” this miracle in Jesus’s name. (never done that before) Deep in prayer, I came to a stop and simply said…”Your not listening God. Your not listening.” I was still. It was at that time, I received a message….If you do the same thing the same way you get the same results…and it repeated. I thought…think…think…how can I do this different. I cried out CHANGE ME GOD!! and I snuck in these words…so I can live with this man. (this turned out to be part of God’s plan. By staying with this man for a total of 40 years and not fleeing the marriage, God used the storms to slowly strengthen me. The miracle I received that day was not the miracle I was praying for. My God said…I will heal you first. It took 13 years from that day. Subtly(?) I was healed over this time. By healing me first, this took the power my husband had over me away. Would you believe we are getting a divorce and I am very ok with this. When I was telling my husband about what my doctor said and all of these health concerns, he looked at me and said…well let me tell you what I am really thinking about..I am thinking about leaving you….I said…I want you to. I know I am not going to get what I want with you being my husband, but maybe one of us can be happy. You go and find someone and be happy. (I was serious. God had showed me the ROOT of our problem the night before and set me free.) God is working like crazy overtime in our marriage. I don’t know what is going to happen, but God is giving me strength and courage during this time. Just when you think you know what is going to happen next, a spin is put into your life. God is an awesome God and I can see a healing taking place. I may or may not be in this marriage…God’s plan is revealed all in God’s time. I am so thankful for this book being placed in my hands. I had settled years ago in this marriage. With my new strength, I no longer wish to settle. I hope and continue to pray for my husband. My God says to me….”I’ve got this” It may not turn out the way I would like to see it turn out, but I have faith that it will turn out how it should be in God’s plans. Pray for me and my husband to get through this.

  • Sharon says:

    thank you God for my husband we have been married for 29 and I dated him for three continue to be with us and continue let us grow in each other and you God thank you God for everything and that he pus up with me in all of my moods we love you God and continue to provide for us and bless us in your name JESUS amen-

  • alejandrina says:

    My husband and I we been together for 14 years married for 13 years we have 4 kids together for years I been trying hard trying with him to be more responsible but I realise that is not me he’s going to change him is going to be god I am sorry my lord I leave all in your hands dear god I need help praying for my husband he needs to get a job to be more responsible we it for him to stop drinking pills and leave those friends that destroying he’s marriage in relationships with kids and family give to are family peace, joy and love

  • Aldo says:

    Patricia, I will certainly pray for you. I know that God hates divorce- Malachi 2:16. I also know that He answers prayer said in agreement with His Word. So, let’s pray:

    Heavenly Father, You know and have heard the cry of Patricia’s heart for her husband and her marriage. Lord, we know that there is nothing impossible for You, so we ask that You would put a “hedge of protection” around Patricia’s husband. Lord, let him lose sexual interest in all other women but his wife, Patricia. Give him a love for her stronger that he has ever had. Draw him closer to You and to the Savior, Jesus Christ, in whose Name we pray and agree, amen.

    Patricia, you have taken the best step in asking for prayer. Continue to seek out those who you know who will pray and agree with you. God does answer prayer.

  • Patricia says:

    I would like prayer for my marriage. We have been together for 34 years, married for 25 years. My husband had been in an affair for the past 14 months. It came to light when, the other woman texted him and ended the relationship, because he would not tell me about them or leave me for her. She returned his money, and completely ended the affair after she apologized for hurting me and speaking to her a few days later. He now blames me for her ending the affair, yet he accuses me of cheating on him with everyone from family to friends. I have left him in God’s hands. He tells me he does not love me and that he loves her. I am not giving up yet, even though I feel overwhelmed. He can be especially verbally cruel when he has been drinking or having a bad day. He wanted to keep things the way they were going, until she broke it off. Please pray for me as I focus on the Lord and for my marriage.

  • Chris says:

    dawn…I regret to hear of your situation. we are truly living in troublesome times where faithfulness in marriage is becoming almost a rarity. 1 corinthians 7 in the new testament foresaw our days where paul talks about the Christian mate being abandoned and gives some comforting instructions about it. of course, there is always hope that the wayward mate will change but the chapter is there so you dont have to fret about what your husband does or doesnt do, but simply live Gods will in your life regardless of anything else. my pray is that your husband does repent, change and come back to you. meantime you can be drawing closer to jesus to have the confort of his holy spirit upon you and your children knowing of his promise that he will never leave us. hebrews 13.5 i pray the comfort of the scriptures according to romans 15.4, be always yours in your life amen

  • Dawn says:

    I have your book. I have been praying for my husband and my marriage for a while. I need help in praying! He wants to leave me. My girls and I love him dearly!!! He had an affair and I have for have him but he tells me has to work on things himself. I sometimes feel it’s a lie we have only been married for 3 years but been together for 2. I feel he didn’t love me to begin with or he loves me still and can’t for give himself. I want my marriage. He tells me he doesn’t want to get a divorce but we both have a lawyer! ? how do I pray for God to help us? Plus can I get help praying for our marriage? I know Gods will is it ok to ask God what is his will? Thank you God bless you!!!

  • Chris says:

    Stephanie…i stand with you in the power and faith of our lord jesus christ, that by his mercy and faithfulness he would lead your family out of indebtedness into the glorious liberty of being debt free economically, spiritually and in every way in jesus name amen! deuteronomy 28, deuteronomy 8.18

  • stephanie says:

    Today at 10:33 AM

    God we need your help, My Husband make a very big mistake ,now we have accumulated too much debt ,and now we cannot imagine to overcome it.We really in big debt , without your help , We really don’t what to do, Lord I beg you to intercede our name.Please help us, Please forgive our sins,Please forgive my husband sin.

    God Please walk with us, help us make decision.Please guide my husband,hope he wont make any mistakes anymore,your are his most powerfull ally, and his best partner.Please Join him so that he may succeed in his career ,as for our family and his customer service. Good judgment of the powers granted to him, so guide him doing the right .All of us in your Heavenly name. We really need your help .Please help us remove our debts.Amen

  • Kate says:

    Ngozi thank you for sharing. How do you live this out in your life?

  • Ngozi says:

    Remember a wife that family that prays togather lives togather,

  • Chris says:

    lynne…sorry to hear of your struggles…1 peter 3 is a great chapter to help godly wives with their difficult husbands. couple that with 1 cor 7.14 and acts 16.31 and you can enter into your rest of faith. hebrews 4. jesus bless you as you do with his peace!!

  • lynne says:

    Im going through a rough time with my husband as we seem to fight about everything all the time…i need to learn to pray for wisdom and guidance in these marriage to be able to communicate betterl..i hv stopped praying as well and always angry…how can i go back to being a prayerful wife and change my life to a loving wife…

  • Chris says:

    sherry…we pray for you in jesus name that you would come up and into all that the lord has planned for your spiritual life, your calling in him and your effectiveness in prayer and intercession. may the holy spirit fill you today to do his good pleasure amen!!

  • sherry says:

    i want to be a prayerful wife

  • Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord I lift up my sister Wendy to you at this time that you will heal her husband of drinking that that you will bring them together as One under Your grace in Jesus name Amen

  • Wendy says:


    I also have power if a praying wife in which I absolutely love..great tool…except he gets angry that I read it..takes it as a threat.

  • Wendy says:

    Needing prayer for my husband. He has gone back to his alcoholic habits in which he left behind 15 yrs before we had met. He accuses me if cheating on him and insults me regularly. He is saved but fights demons within himself. He currently is not working and spends our money on large bottles of hard liquor almost daily. I am working four 10’s and my days off except Sundays. By the time I get home I am exhausted and just want to sleep. He has fits because he wants to be intimate and I will try however he prefers us to be intimate in pornful ways like the ways they do in the porn he has chosen to wait ch. Hus favorite is “Nina”, in which he claims he only watches he because she looks like me. (So upsetting)
    I need prayer for my strength and for his addictions. This is upsetting the children because he constantly says he’s leaving me(to get what he wants) He also won’t allow me to visit friends or do activities with other women without accusations. Please pray for our us.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Abigail, you should be able to find a local Christian bookstore that would be able to get that for you. You can also find the book on Amazon or other online bookstores. We do also carry it in our online bookstore ( but the delivery charges would likely be pretty high.

  • I would like to buy this book ‘The Power of a Praying wife’.

    I am inquiring from Zambia.

  • Emy Sarit says:

    am in a similar situation as Meryke. My husband and I decided to separate a month before we both discovered i am pregnant. he went back to live w/his ex live in partner. We are legally married and planning to get an annulment (we don’t have divorce in the Philippines. I still love my husband and I don’t want to let him go but he said he does not love me anymore.

  • Candy says:

    I’m looking forward to read more about this book

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Hi Nataly,

    It is so nice to hear that you and your husband have decided to fight for your marriage with God’s help. With the two of you coming in agreement to correct whatever issues have been causing strife in your marriage is a beautiful thing in God’s eyes. In Ecclesiastes 4:12 the Bible says, “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” I pray that has your husband and you take a firm stance in preserving your marriage…you will both allow God to be the third strand that binds your marriage together. When the storms of life try to pull you both apart, His mighty love cord wrapped around your hearts, mind, and soul will help the two of you to make it through any difficult challenge that may present itself. May God’s blessings of peace, love, and joy continuously fill your marriage vows to one another.

    In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen

  • Nataly says:

    Dear Meryke. Please don’t give up on your marriage. First years of marriage are hard for most couples. I have been married for 1 year and 6 months and also find it very hard. Divorse never should be an option. I am not saying that this thought never crossed my mind or my husband and I didn’t consider it… sadly enough we did. Nevertheless we are choosing to fight for our marriage with God’s help. I hope you will be doing same. Best regards.

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:

    Hi Meryke,

    First of all, congratulations on the upcoming birth of your son! You said that you are considering ending your marriage – have you been to see a marriage counsellor? Ask your husband if he will go with you and if he won’t go and see the counsellor on your own. You’re only one year in and I understand that it has been a really hard year, but I believe that there is a lot of hope for you. You’ve been under a lot of stress and when we’re stressed it’s harder to see things clearly. Also, you’re pregnant which as you know puts quite a strain on your body and with all the hormones coursing through your veins can also make your emotions sway significantly.

    You said that your husband has received three promotions in the last year. That’s wonderful, but I wonder if it also means that he has been working very long hours? Is that contributing to the way that you feel? Are you both incredibly tired? How do you know that you are not good enough for him. Is it the things that he says? Things that he does not say? Do you feel like he doesn’t see you? Have you had a chance to talk to him about it?

    Some of what you’re feeling might be simple fear. Having a baby is a big change, and you just had a big change getting married. It’s very easy for it to become overwhelming. That’s where counselling can really, really help. If you’re not in any physical danger, put divorce out of your mind at least until you’ve seen a counsellor. A professional can help – whether it’s in finding a schedule that works better of the two of you, resetting expectations, developing better communication skills, dealing with financial stress or even just finding ways to relate to each other. There is a lot of help available. Try it all.

    Sometimes during pregnancy husbands start to pull away because they feel like the baby has taken over as first priority. It’s additionally stressful that the physical relationship you were probably expecting to have – all that newly wed sex people talk about – got sidetracked. Sometimes wives get so focussed on the hard work of pregnancy – it’s no small thing to grow a whole entire person! – that they don’t realize that they’ve stopped paying attention to their husband. Altogether this can cause a lot of hurt, hurt feelings, loneliness and despair. It’s all things that you can work though with the right support. I know that you don’t want your son to grow up in a negative atmosphere but you don’t want him to grow up without his father either. Not if you can help it.

    So here’s what you can start with:

    1. Get some sleep. You’re probably exhausted and it’s harder to work through things when you’re so tired. Sleep first. Rearrange your schedule if need be so you can nap.
    2. Talk to your husband. Don’t start with “I don’t know if I can stay” try something like, “I miss you.”
    3. Ask if he will come to a counsellor with you. Tell him that you want your marriage to be as strong as possible and you could use some help. Be careful not to lay blame, there’s two of you in this marriage and more often than not both partners bring strengths and weaknesses to the relationship.
    4. Write out a list of all the reasons you love your husband. He asked you to marry him. He choose you and you said yes. What do you love about him? Write it all down. Consider giving the list to your husband.
    5. Ask your husband how he’s feeling. Some men really feel the weight of responsibility when there’s a new baby. (Maybe that’s why he’s been working so hard and getting those promotions, he wants to be a good provider?) Pregnant women get sympathy all the time, expectant fathers don’t. It’s not the same, a man’s body does not go through what a woman’s does, but he’s probably nervous and stressed and excited and terrified about becoming a Dad. Talk to him about it. Be a safe place for him and you may find that’s all he needs to be there for you too.

    I know that you are already praying. Keep praying. God is FOR your marriage. That voice that says, “Maybe it’s time to go” that’s not God. That’s the enemy. Refuse to listen to that voice. I know that you’re tired and you’re sad and this doesn’t look the way you thought it would. All of those feelings are real and valid feelings. But that voice of doubt, that’s Satan digging his knife into your most vulnerable, most painful spot. It’s lies. And he is brutal. He takes our worst fears – maybe he doesn’t really love me, what if this was a huge mistake – and he whispers them in our ears over and over and over again. But he has already been defeated. He has no power. God has the victory. So when Satan comes whispering, whisper back. Yell back. “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Mark 10:9)

    In church this past Sunday we were talking about three “therefores” – three things that are true of us as Christians because of what Jesus did for us at the cross.

    1. You’re FREE “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” (John 8:36)
    2. You’re ABLE “I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” (Phil 4:13)
    3. You’re CONNECTED “Consequently, you are no longer foreigners and strangers, but fellow citizens with God’s people and also members of his household, 20 built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, with Christ Jesus himself as the chief cornerstone.” (Eph 2:19-20)

    You are not alone. If you’d like to talk to someone privately, we have email mentors available. Mentoring is a free and private service. You can use this form to request a mentor.

    Can I pray for you?

    God in Heaven, I’m here to pray for Meryke today, for her, for her husband and for their baby son. Father you see Maryke and you know how heavy her heart is. You see her pain and her weariness you hear her loneliness and her sorrow. You know her questions and her heartache and the way she longs for her marriage to be a happy, positive place to bring her son home too. I pray for relief for her, even today. I pray that you would bind the lies of the devil that whisper to her that it’s too hard and she should walk away. It IS hard, but God you tell us that she is more than a conquerer and we know that with you ALL THINGS are possible. So I ask you to be her strength and I ask for a miracle. I pray that she would really be able to connect with her husband. I ask that they would be able to have a honest, loving, supporting conversation where they can share their hopes and fears their love and their heartache and together plan a way forward for this family. Whatever it is that they need Father, I pray that you would provide it. May they look back on this day, years from now, and laugh at how far they’ve come, how much better they knew each other and how well practiced they are at loving each other. This is not easy, but you are the God of the impossible and I pray your hand of protection on this young family. Make them mighty in you God. Make them a beacon of your love, your grace and your mercy in their community. Bind up their wounds and restore them to strength. You have brought them together, may no one be able to tear them apart, not even by their own hands. Help Meryke’s husband to really see her and help Meryke to know what her husband needs too. I pray that you would wrap them up in your love, so tightly that Satan can’t get anywhere near them. They are a family and I pray that they would stay that way. Thank you for bringing Meryke here to this site so we can stand with her. Remind her how much you love her I pray, In the strong and mighty name of Jesus, Amen.

  • meryke says:

    My husband and I have been married for just over a year now. I’m 38 weeks pregnant with our son. The past year has been terrible emotionaly, altough we bought our fisrt house, got a new car and husband got 3 promotions. Yet that isn’t enough for him. I’m not good enough for him- never. It really feels likeal togther there has been 1 happy month in our marriage. I’ve been praying- and at this stage I feel in my heart that it will be beter if I leave. I know I made a promise before God and my family. I don’t know what to pray for anymore. Emotionaly I’m run down and don’t know how much more I can take. I don’t want my son to be in a negative atmosphere. I m yearing for my husband to notice me. To show me he loves me. Please please please pray with me!!!! Please

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